Not another Gay thread... version 2.0.5

[eboNicS]

wow yer pretty.

very pretty :)

Holy eff! You are very attractive...

Thank you the trio of you <3

[eboNicS]

Anyone going to any of the protests for Prop 8 this week? :o

[Æther]

Welcome to SRK. Yeah, most of us are in teh ghey gategory but you'll find a mix of the rest here. This sums up this thread pretty nicely. Even the speedos. (http://www.joystiq.com/2009/05/15/behold-and-believe-namcos-muscle-march-in-motion/)

[eboNicS]

That looks like something that Hard Gay would play. LOL

[Azagtoth]

Even the speedos. (http://www.joystiq.com/2009/05/15/behold-and-believe-namcos-muscle-march-in-motion/)

Especially the speedos.

[iwst99]

Welcome ebonics. Nice pics.

Gay male here. ;D

[sh1fty]

Thank you the trio of you <3


I'd totally do you if you were a furry stocky guy D:

[BlodiaVulcan5]

Welcome to SRK. Yeah, most of us are in teh ghey gategory but you'll find a mix of the rest here.

For a min there, i thought Zangief was posting.

[severin]

So who else has dirty porn videos of themselves on the internets? :O

There's a few "artistic" nude shots of my ex and I on deviantart (pm if you want the links I guess).




Ooh, very pretty. Welcome. (Bi Transish person here)

Anyone going to any of the protests for Prop 8 this week? :o

I might go to one or two in LA, or just show up to take photos.

[Lobelia Prime]

I think at this point I might be the only lesbian left. I wish I'd gotten some pictures of Jimmy the Hand, though. She sounded hot.

[ramberk]

Anyone going to any of the protests for Prop 8 this week? :o

No :( My bf and I are going to sit this one out unfortunately.

[Turbovec]

In other news, I hate peer pressure ;-;

[eboNicS]

In other news, I hate peer pressure ;-;

What's wrong with some nice "democracy"?

[iwst99]

There's a new male enhancer review up on my site (written). www.iwst99.com

Also, my BF and I finished two video reviews of products which I will be posting up on both xtube and youtube tomorrow. There's nothing pornographic about it (although we're both sitting in a bathtub), but I figure I'd reach a broader audience that way. :D

Oh and a new Nacho review too, not that anyone here cares.

[Mechanica]

I think at this point I might be the only lesbian left. I wish I'd gotten some pictures of Jimmy the Hand, though. She sounded hot.

:rofl:

I may have asked this before, but what exactly is the Q doing in our acronym? How are you "queer" without being gay or lesbian or bi or anything? Is that like the "bi-curious" excuse? I don't quite understand. Oh I'm kinda gay but can't really accept it and want to still be a part of the heterosexual community... P'shaw, gtfo my acronym, thx

when a government body (CA supreme court - 7 out of 8 justices judged upheld prop 8) fails to act upon what's best for the people themselves

well didn't the people decide for themselves with their votes? Forgive me as I'm very VERY out of the loop with anything politics (I just don't bother) but if a vote passes can they really just go against what the majority wanted and completely flip the outcome around? and from a political view wouldn't that destroy any support they had from the majority? as a politician it wouldn't sound like they'd have anything to gain. but I thought on propositions and things like this it was totally up to the majority vote.

on a personal level, I don't really see how people can expect the majority of people to go for something like that. it's not a happy thought, but honestly there is a large chunk of the population that are just coming to terms with the fact homosexuals exist, much less us getting any rights. like you said, we gotta be patient. I personally think it's ridiculous when people get super upset that things like this don't pass on the first or second go. let's be reasonable here, y'know? it just isn't likely.

[Lobelia Prime]

I always thought it was LGBT...I never heard a Q.

[The Green Trench Coat]

I wish I'd gotten some pictures of Jimmy the Hand, though. She sounded hot.

I lol'd

In other news, I hate peer pressure ;-;

your vid was good. you've got a pretty hot cub body. nice balls too.

if you ever try again just take the collar off.

[angryliberal]

Is that like the "bi-curious" excuse? I don't quite understand. Oh I'm kinda gay but can't really accept it and want to still be a part of the heterosexual community... P'shaw, gtfo my acronym, thx

EXCUSE?! WTF? Seriously, how is being bi-curious an excuse? I'm bi-curious. You know why? Because I've never fucked a dude, but I'm very curious. Unfortunately, I'm also very married to a woman, so it seems it will stay in the curious catagory. I don't know how this is an "excuse". That's like saying you have to fulfill certain requirements to be a member of a community. Does the fact that I'm mostly straight and married to a woman mean I can't also engage myself in the homosexual, or bisexual community? I don't understand your narrow-minded thinking.

well didn't the people decide for themselves with their votes?

Yes, lets allow the majority to dictate how laws should be applied to a minority group...that really works toward ensuring total freedom and equality for all individuals of a society.

on a personal level, I don't really see how people can expect the majority of people to go for something like that. it's not a happy thought, but honestly there is a large chunk of the population that are just coming to terms with the fact homosexuals exist, much less us getting any rights. like you said, we gotta be patient. I personally think it's ridiculous when people get super upset that things like this don't pass on the first or second go. let's be reasonable here, y'know? it just isn't likely.

You don;t undertsand how people could be upset that the law has just placed them in the "second-class citizen" catagory because it was the "first go around"? Should they just sit on their hands and say "maybe next time..." - because that sort of mentality really works for a progression of a society.

[sh1fty]

Dude, turbo's vid was hot. I liked it perfect just how it is :D

[The Green Trench Coat]

Dude, turbo's vid was hot. I liked it perfect just how it is :D
I definitely got off to it.. love his balls.

[Turbovec]

of the love of god, why are we talking about it in the public forum? x.x

[DaDesiCanadian]

Angrylib, aren't you ever worried your wife might one day go through your post history and say... "wat"? :rofl:

[BeaTs*]

of the love of god, why are we talking about it in the public forum? x.x:rofl:

now I can't wait to get home to see your collar and balls

[JustB]

So Turbo... I hear you've got some amazing balls. See you Friday? :wgrin:

[angryliberal]

Angrylib, aren't you ever worried your wife might one day go through your post history and say... "wat"? :rofl:

Not at all. First off, she never gets on my computer. Secondly, she could care less about checking my SRK history...as far as she's concerned, all I do on SRK is make very perverted posts about my sister and argue politics...

[DaDesiCanadian]

of the love of god, why are we talking about it in the public forum? x.x

Guys... he wants to take this further in PM's. :wink:

Not at all. First off, she never gets on my computer. Secondly, she could care less about checking my SRK history...as far as she's concerned, all I do on SRK is make very perverted posts about my sister and argue politics...

Fair enough. Incest > bi-curious tendencies!

[The Green Trench Coat]

:rofl:

now I can't wait to get home to see your collar and balls

they really are amazing magical balls :D

and he spoke about the collar himself in the first post.

[iwst99]

Secondly, she could care less

she COULDN'T care less.

/grammar nazi

[ramberk]

well didn't the people decide for themselves with their votes?

Yes but the pro same-sex marriage side was making the argument that the proposition was such a big change to the state constitution that it required a 3/4ths majority vote to pass (it only passed by 52%). The California supreme court said that the proposition was not a big change to the state constitution and that they did not want to go against the will of the people, so they upheld the ban on gay marriage. Even though they upheld the ban the court chose not to invalidate the 18,000 gay marriages that occurred during the time when gay marriage was legal.

The pro gay marriage side was hoping this would not happen but they were expecting it. I'm pretty sure the pro gay marriage side will put a proposition in a future ballot that will reverse the ban. Its a losing battle for the anti-gay marriage folks.

I can understand older folks being intolerant of bigoted but what troubles me is when I see young people take up old, ignorant ideas.

[Turbovec]

*hides*

[JustB]

*hides*

Don't do that. They'll think it's a game :lol:

[iwst99]

Ok, so my BF and I posted up two video reviews of those male enhancement products.

www.iwst99.com Who knew that taking sex pills and having tons of sex and reviewing it could be such fun.

[iwst99]

Also, how long does it take for xtube to finish converting videos? I uploaded one but it's taking forever.

[BeaTs*]

Also, how long does it take for xtube to finish converting videos? I uploaded one but it's taking forever.xtube has been overall jank for a while now

may take 3 days. may take 1 day....but then will be gone a day after. it may say you have 35 comments, then say you have 28, then say you have 16, then constantly switch between the 3...though you only see 8 on the vid.

I don't remember it being this jank when I first started using it.

my rant aside (tldr): who knows.

[iwst99]

Fuck. Damn, ok. :(

[DrumlinerJoe]

Random badass Janet shit.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-P2U7pTVpg

[ramberk]

Random badass Janet shit.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-P2U7pTVpg

I think I'll pass on that single. What I want to know is where did all the legendary R&B/dance music go? Where the hell is Faith Evans!? Mary J?!? I'm looking at the Billboard R&B/Hip Hop Chart (http://www.billboard.com/bbcom/charts/chart_display.jsp?g=Singles&f=Hot+R%26B/Hip-Hop+Airplay) and there are a few things that I like a little but there's really nothing that's exciting me. :sad:

[sh1fty]

Janet is such a bad ass.

[DrumlinerJoe]

I think I'll pass on that single. What I want to know is where did all the legendary R&B/dance music go? Where the hell is Faith Evans!? Mary J?!? I'm looking at the Billboard R&B/Hip Hop Chart (http://www.billboard.com/bbcom/charts/chart_display.jsp?g=Singles&f=Hot+R%26B/Hip-Hop+Airplay) and there are a few things that I like a little but there's really nothing that's exciting me. :sad:

Call it the "Clear Channelization" of music. You'll find fair/good stuff in the mainstream from time to time, but you gotta REALLY look to find anything genuinely good for any given genre.

[eboNicS]

Anyone watch football (soccer)?

Barcelona just won! Thierry Henry wins his Champions League trophy!

I'm sure some of you like Cristiano Ronaldo for more than his footballing skills rite? Haha.

[Bastion]

I just left the bar but missed the end of the game. but im glad barcelona won. Ronaldo can lick my balls after i wipe back to front. realy, the guy is shit. he spends more time posing for the camera and styling his hair. he's just another faggot with a dinged up ferrari. /end ronaldo hate.

[sh1fty]

Anyone watch football (soccer)?

Barcelona just won! Thierry Henry wins his Champions League trophy!

I'm sure some of you like Cristiano Ronaldo for more than his footballing skills rite? Haha.



Soccer players are too skinny, imo ;o

[eboNicS]

I just left the bar but missed the end of the game. but im glad barcelona won. Ronaldo can lick my balls after i wipe back to front. realy, the guy is shit. he spends more time posing for the camera and styling his hair. he's just another faggot with a dinged up ferrari. /end ronaldo hate.

I hate Ronaldo too, think he's a douchebag. But that might have more of the fact that I'm an Arsenal fan! :]

Soccer players are too skinny, imo ;o

Really? Some of them are really chiseled! :o

[Bastion]

Soccer players are too skinny, imo ;o

fuck man, your the kind of guy that digs guys like me, but, how come i can never find you guys except online? lol.

[DrumlinerJoe]

Soccer players can be hot, but baseball and football players are usually where it's at for me.

[Bastion]

Soccer players can be hot, but baseball and football players are usually where it's at for me.

UFC for me. I watched the fight last weekend with my buddy and we were talking about how much fun it is to watch. I had to explain that i liked it for all the same reasons as him but that it was almost like watching gay porn but better. two "actually" straight guys rolling around missionary position.

[sh1fty]

Football linemen for meee :D!

[DrumlinerJoe]

I agree with you on the UFC boys Bastion. Though I don't agree with being entertained by them, lol.

I think it's already been said by a lot of dudes in here, including me. But Shifty is supa fine.

[BeaTs*]

mmm football players, mmm UFC dudes, mmm sh1fty lol

[eboNicS]

UFC for me. I watched the fight last weekend with my buddy and we were talking about how much fun it is to watch. I had to explain that i liked it for all the same reasons as him but that it was almost like watching gay porn but better. two "actually" straight guys rolling around missionary position.

WAR GSP! Actually I just like combat sports in general since I did boxing in college! But not that GSP isn't easy on the eyes, lol.

[JustB]

War GSP is some kind of MMA stuff? I tried to google it, but just a bunch of t-shirts >_>

[eboNicS]

War GSP is some kind of MMA stuff? I tried to google it, but just a bunch of t-shirts >_>

WAR is like a chant, like "yea" or "let's go"! GSP is Georges St. Pierre.

GSP: http://img.thesun.co.uk/multimedia/archive/00413/GSP_682x400_413551a.jpg

[DrumlinerJoe]

BTW, did anyone ever post this?

http://www.adidas.com/campaigns/campaigns_nz/content/index.asp

[sh1fty]

BTW, did anyone ever post this?

http://www.adidas.com/campaigns/campaigns_nz/content/index.asp

WTF. They need this for some bearish guys in the NFL ;o

Edit: OMG Especially with the slo-mo replay..

[DrumlinerJoe]

Yes it's nice to see folks finally pandering to the gay audience. More! More I say!

[Bastion]

http://www.chuckliddell.azplayers.com

[Azagtoth]

fuck man, your the kind of guy that digs guys like me, but, how come i can never find you guys except online? lol.

PICS

Really? Some of them are really chiseled! :o

If he's anything like me, that's not exactly a good thing heh.

So apparently Nick Frost has long hair now. -swoon-

Turbovec: I still haven't watched it yet. Heading home today though. =)

[sh1fty]

If he's anything like me, that's not exactly a good thing heh.

So apparently Nick Frost has long hair now. -swoon-

Turbovec: I still haven't watched it yet. Heading home today though. =)


Exactly. Chiseled does nuffin for me. Wow he does? I'm not a huge fan of long hair, but I still think nick frost is pretty good looking :D.

Turbo's vid is Awesome.

[Bastion]

PICS


dumb pic from the other night. ill take another later. but i have to sober up first. like i said. i was watching football this afternoon. lol

http://img37.imageshack.us/img37/7506/65471565.jpg

[DrumlinerJoe]

Whoa Bastion. Nice.

[ramberk]

BTW, did anyone ever post this?

http://www.adidas.com/campaigns/campaigns_nz/content/index.asp

I'm pretty sure it has been posted. Today was the first time I bothered visiting the site and trying it out. I started laughing. That was pure gay pandering. (Not that its bad.) It just means that companies recognize the gay dolla and are trying to win it.

I once told my friends that the community should unite and only vacation on pro-gay marriage states and avoid those that pass bans. That will really hit them where it hurts. California businesses that contributed to the gay marriage ban proposition where freaking out when it came time for their contributions to be revealed to the public. There was immediate backlash and those fools lost customers because of it. Its funny how folks love to push intolerance and hate but they hate it when their bottom line gets smaller.

[DrumlinerJoe]

That idea has been tossed around before Ramberk, the only problem that in this economy it's next to impossible. Though I do ignore companys such as Auto Zone and Domino's who either don't offer same sex coverage to employees or who contribute to anti gay legislation.

[Azagtoth]

Exactly. Chiseled does nuffin for me. Wow he does? I'm not a huge fan of long hair, but I still think nick frost is pretty good looking :D.

I think it's a really good look on him IMO.

dumb pic from the other night. ill take another later. but i have to sober up first. like i said. i was watching football this afternoon. lol

http://img37.imageshack.us/img37/7506/65471565.jpg

You have a really handsome face, man.

[Lobelia Prime]

dumb pic from the other night. ill take another later. but i have to sober up first. like i said. i was watching football this afternoon. lol

http://img37.imageshack.us/img37/7506/65471565.jpg

Holy shit, that is bear-tastic. I'm not into bears, but you sir are a grade-A bear.

[BeaTs*]

hmmm, vely nice turbovec! magical balls indeed

[DrumlinerJoe]

In an effort to bring more pics to the table, here's something I took earlier.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/32766693@N04/3571235244/

[BlodiaVulcan5]

dumb pic from the other night. ill take another later. but i have to sober up first. like i said. i was watching football this afternoon. lol

http://img37.imageshack.us/img37/7506/65471565.jpg

um, yeah... and why haven't you been posting your pics before? That's not cool for holding out on us like that.

translation: From one cub to another... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! You're my new hot, cubtastic internet best e-friend. *paws your face*

[eboNicS]

Pictures!

Look what came in for me just now!

http://web1.twitpic.com/img/10218126-033be1f152442c16b2bdd8f7396900ee.4a1dcdf9-scaled.jpg

[BeaTs*]

In an effort to bring more pics to the table, here's something I took earlier.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/32766693@N04/3571235244/mmm lower just a bit? or a lot :wgrin:

[iwst99]

BTW, did anyone ever post this?

http://www.adidas.com/campaigns/campaigns_nz/content/index.asp

Yeah dude, YOU posted it before. :looney:

[JustB]

Pictures!

Look what came in for me just now!

http://web1.twitpic.com/img/10218126-033be1f152442c16b2bdd8f7396900ee.4a1dcdf9-scaled.jpg

a picture of something white?

[BeaTs*]

Yeah dude, YOU posted it before. :looney:haha I thought so too

[eboNicS]

a picture of something white?

Yikes, Twitpic doesn't let you hotlink, okay of this! http://twitpic.com/630cu

[JustB]

Yikes, Twitpic doesn't let you hotlink, okay of this! http://twitpic.com/630cu

oh hey, grats and stuff :tup:

Post edit**

Welcome to the boards. Watch yourself though. Yellow fever runs high 'round these parts :sweat:

[iwst99]

I posted eobnic's pics in the premium forum. All the dudes are all over you. Even though I sad you're a dude going to be a chick. Yellow fever is TOO strong.

[eboNicS]

I posted eobnic's pics in the premium forum. All the dudes are all over you. Even though I sad you're a dude going to be a chick. Yellow fever is TOO strong.

Uhh... why'd you go post my pic somewhere else without asking :/ not cool :[

And who said it was okay for you to out me, as it is?

[JustB]

I posted eobnic's pics in the premium forum. All the dudes are all over you. Even though I sad you're a dude going to be a chick. Yellow fever is TOO strong.

Yeah. Totally not fair >_>

Uhh... why'd you go post my pic somewhere else without asking :/ not cool :[

Same general forum, different section. They could have seen your pics anyway. I agree that it's not Iwst99's place to bring attention to you in places you're not aware of though.

[iwst99]

BTW, did anyone ever post this?

http://www.adidas.com/campaigns/campaigns_nz/content/index.asp

Uhh... why'd you go post my pic somewhere else without asking :/ not cool :[

And who said it was okay for you to out me, as it is?

Sorry. The premium forums are part of SRK, I didn't post outside of here. I actually put a link to this thread. It's still part of SRK just another thread. I can remove it if you want.

[DrumlinerJoe]

lol, I wasn't sure if I had posted that link before or not.

The Premium pic thread is funny. I think I started a whole scandal just by saying 2 guys in there are fine.

[JustB]

And who said it was okay for you to out me, as it is?

You also outed yourself already, hun. This thread isn't a safe haven that magically keeps non-LGBT<alphabet soup> persons out (although that would be nice sometimes :sweat:)Word travels fast on srk and these guys will figure stuff out.

[iwst99]

Please? I rather participate in a discussion where I can participate rather than have people be talking regarding me in a forum which I have no access to.
Ok! Sorry ma'am. :)

And wha JustB said ^^

[iwst99]

lol, I wasn't sure if I had posted that link before or not.

The Premium pic thread is funny. I think I started a whole scandal just by saying 2 guys in there are fine.


Haha, i'm in there right now. Shit's hilarious. :D

[DrumlinerJoe]

Yes! Wednesday night and Ghosthunters is on. Steve Gonsalves totally deseves a topping by me.

http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e176/babydee0702/steve-gonsalves-6.jpg

http://www.poptower.com/images/db/4616/450/500/ghost-hunters.jpg

http://idealeventmanage.com/Images/steve_gonsalves.gif

[iwst99]

I know, but if I want to state something on another thread, I can always do that. There's no need for intentional linking to other threads. It just seem like the post was linked, just for the pleasure of some to laugh at the fact that forum members would find a MtF attractive, and for the sheer sake of amusement and entertainment. I don't exactly like being seen as a circus act, ya'know?

That's not the reason I did it. There was a homophobic prick in the other thread and he kept talking about we needed to keep that "f@g" shit down. I told him I agreed with him and to come hang out where all the fine people were at, and I put a link to the gay thread. He got all weirded out and eventually realized that we were all cool and was no longer all homophobe'd out because we were saying he was hot.

We went through a lot back in the day to get GLBTs to be seen in a different light on here so new members can feel welcome and not have to hide who they are.

http://forums.shoryuken.com/showthread.php?t=125935

That thread didn't start everything, as there were gays like GTC that were the first gay avengers on here, but as time has gone by it has become easier to be a GLBT on here. You won't make it easier on yourself with the attitude that everyone is here to laugh at you and have amusement at your expense, since it's not the case. You're a hot chick and on SRK that's welcomed. ;D

[JustB]

I know, but if I want to state something on another thread, I can always do that. There's no need for intentional linking to other threads. It just seem like the post was linked, just for the pleasure of some to laugh at the fact that forum members would find a MtF attractive, and for the sheer sake of amusement and entertainment. I don't exactly like being seen as a circus act, ya'know?

I don't know how to respond to this without crushing the ideal situation you want entirely, hun :sweat: These boards aren't exactly "kind," but they grow on you. What you're asking for is a respect that just isn't here.... stay out of the rest of the threads in General Discussion... for your own sake... at least for a while :lol:.

You're not the only MtF on this site, but you will get attention (of all kinds) whether it's wanted or not.

[iwst99]

Yeah, its okay, I know what you mean. Was the same, back in the Counter-Strike community, still is to some extent but it's become less fashionable to be really homophobic now. I just didn't like that comment, "they can't help it, yellow fever is too strong" it just made it seem like... well... it was wrong or something.

All just a misunderstanding, not mad or anything tho.

No, I was just making fun of what JustB said. If you're an asian chick on SRK (WHICH IS RARE) you're going to be queen of the forums. :wgrin:

[Luciano Leone]

I know, but if I want to state something on another thread, I can always do that. There's no need for intentional linking to other threads. It just seem like the post was linked, just for the pleasure of some to laugh at the fact that forum members would find a MtF attractive, and for the sheer sake of amusement and entertainment. I don't exactly like being seen as a circus act, ya'know?

It definitely wasn't in that sort of "circus" vein. Not at all. It's definitely a pic that a mouth-breather like that asshole would drool at on sight.

The dude that was talking shit just needed to be set straight. Personally I thought it was a good move to delve into his insecurity. You just don't judge people like that and expect no backlash.

[DrumlinerJoe]

Well, things have been kind of calming down on that thread anyhow. I wanted to address the dude who thought I was out of line telling those guys to get over a man thinking they were hot, but eh, why derail a thread for some guy who doesn't really know what he's talking about.

[eboNicS]

No, I was just making fun of what JustB said. If you're an asian chick on SRK (WHICH IS RARE) you're going to be queen of the forums. :wgrin:

Yikes. No... no more attention. I'm low-key! Who wants to GGPO? XD

[JustB]

Yikes. No... no more attention. I'm low-key! Who wants to GGPO? XD

I would totally ggpo if i could figure out why I can't connect. I think my isp blocked the ports :sad:

[eboNicS]

I would totally ggpo if i could figure out why I can't connect. I think my isp blocked the ports :sad:

Really? I've never heard of a ISP blocking GGPO :wonder:

[severin]

If I can ever figure out how to get GGPO running under VMWare, I'd be all up for it. Nobody wants to help in that regard though :(

[JustB]

Really? I've never heard of a ISP blocking GGPO :wonder:

neither have I, but even placing my comp in DMZ, I can't get it to connect :sad: It just happened one night. The night before I was playing and the next night I couldn't connect to anyone anymore.

[eboNicS]

If I can ever figure out how to get GGPO running under VMWare, I'd be all up for it. Nobody wants to help in that regard though :(

I know nothing about virtualization. So I really can't help you :[

[The Damned]

I'm a bit late, like always, especially since I haven't turned on the TV with any regularity in at least the past year and I've been sleeping most of the day on top of not being at home most of yesterday, but I have to comment a bit on the whole Prop 8 thing.

I really would have liked for "justice" to mean something for once (despite it not existing), which is why I guess of course it yet again didn't since this week seems like it's just full of horrible things (for me). Hell, apparently this Supreme Court decision happened this week (http://mightygodking.com/index.php/2009/05/26/while-everybody-else-was-abuzz-over-sonia-sotomayor/#comments) and that's WAY worse--if the Supreme Court is anyone near the same when/if this issue gets there, then I expect them to just uphold it at the very least.

(I wonder if they could get it federally banned since, really, most states are just going to end up doing it anyway. In a really morose way, a federal ban would at least shore up some of the incredibly stupid devisiveness in this moronic country through its "united" states, if only because of "force".)

I think what really annoys me, outside of my still blaming San Francisco for Prop. 8 passing (because I of course needed more reasons to dislike that city as a whole), is that they seemed to think that letting the marriages to stay intact was a fair compromise.

How the hell does that even work? I mean, marriage is primarily a legal thing (despite popularity of the idea that it's "for love"), and if this "certain type" ( :rolleyes: ) of marriage is essentially illegal, then what the hell is the point of upholding them? It just seems all unnecessarily confusing, especially where taxation is involved (which is pretty much THE reason to get married outside of those stupidly exclusive hospital rights).

It just seems akin to banning miscegnation and then letting all "different race" couples that are married stayed together: It makes no sense on multiple levels.

I don't know. I just think that taking it to the Supreme Court (for what little occasional good they do) is just asking to get fucked over even harder than by retarded masses since at least some of the latter don't vote. I can completely understand the pro-equality group being all reluctant about it and thinking that this is the wrong way to go.

How do you guys deal with this (even though I know some of you probably don't want to get married anyway)?

[Bastion]

thanks for the kind comments on the picture i posted. i got to be honest that it makes me blush a little, im not used to hearing shit like that. lol. anyway, i sobered up and took off my shit for a mandatory chest hair pic. yeah whatever i know. lol.

http://img37.imageshack.us/gal.php?g=90096484.gif

[BlodiaVulcan5]

Bastion: Looking at those new pics..... please tell me you're coming to Evo. I'd like to make you blush in another way. Strawberry blonde beardly cub.... Grrrr.

Seriously, i'd play you Strip Street Fighter at Evo.

To everyone else: back off! I got this.

[BeaTs*]

thanks for the kind comments on the picture i posted. i got to be honest that it makes me blush a little, im not used to hearing shit like that. lol. anyway, i sobered up and took off my shit for a mandatory chest hair pic. yeah whatever i know. lol.

http://img37.imageshack.us/gal.php?g=90096484.gif:lovin: hot

[ramberk]

I can completely understand the pro-equality group being all reluctant about it and thinking that this is the wrong way to go.

How do you guys deal with this (even though I know some of you probably don't want to get married anyway)?

Why the hate on Frisco!??! Why do you blame the town on Prop 8 getting passed?

If the gay marriage ban went all the way to the Supreme Court, I could see them saying one of two things. They could say, this is a state's rights issue and the SC can't overturn what was voted in by the people of the state and the ban stays in place. Or they could say, this goes against the US constitution and the ban gets smashed. I'm not a lawyer or a legal scholar so who knows. I don't even know if the equal rights folks want to do this.

Obama is against making a federal law legalizing gay marriage and says its up to each state to make it legal. So far we've seen a whole series of states legalizing it this year. I predict it will be a while before all 50 states legalize it but it'll happen eventually. Parts of the GOP no longer even care about gay marriage (and are even for it because it makes them look more moderate).

That was a hell of a stupid Supreme Court decision. Thanks for the link. I was completely surprised by that. I am really curious what idiotic reasoning they had for allowing that BS to pass.

In regards to gay marriage in California, what I am optimistic about is that the equal rights groups here are more mobilized and ready then they were before-- so they are ready to fight and I feel like the LGBT community here is ready to take it to the streets also. Furthermore, I think the marriage ban organizations are going to have a harder time getting support and mobilization because businesses and individuals who donated money and resources to the Yes on 8 campaign got backlash for doing so.

Its frustrating to see such blatant discrimination but its a losing battle.

[eboNicS]

Bastion: Looking at those new pics..... please tell me you're coming to Evo. I'd like to make you blush in another way. Strawberry blonde beardly cub.... Grrrr.

Seriously, i'd play you Strip Street Fighter at Evo.

To everyone else: back off! I got this.

Just how do you play Strip Street Fighter?

[Bastion]

Bastion: Looking at those new pics..... please tell me you're coming to Evo. I'd like to make you blush in another way. Strawberry blonde beardly cub.... Grrrr.

Seriously, i'd play you Strip Street Fighter at Evo.

To everyone else: back off! I got this.

I can be convinced to goto evo. i wouldnt go for the gaming. But I like to meet people and ive never been to vegas. and i really like to party. Strip Street Fighter lol. so for every round you lose you take off a piece of cloth? i might as well come naked... ive given up on gaming. I bought a ps3 for sf4 and a month later i gave it to my buddy's kids.

[The Damned]

Why the hate on Frisco!??! Why do you blame the town on Prop 8 getting passed?

I used to live in San Francisco for the first 12 years of my life. As such, I just don't get why people think it's so damned wonderful, especially the tourists. It's a crowded hellhole that's constantly bustling with stupid tourists, blatant illegals (and I'm not just talking about Mexicans--*refuses to set foot in Chinatown*), completely reckless drivers, crazy homeless and everything is completely overpriced even before the now 9+% sales taxes comes into effect.

And that's just the "beautiful" downtown area and not the (way) worse places like the Tenderloin or Hunter's Point or whatever.

The only actually nice places are near the water, like the Wharf or going towards Ocean Beach (even though the actual beach is really dirty and the water is freezing cold most of the time from what I little I remember of it).

As for why I blame SF for it getting passed, I want to first say that while it's not solely "their" (read: the people in the Castro's) fault, SF's support was lackluster at best and downright anti-equality at best.

I mean, between Gavin Newsom being the blatantly idiotic jackass he apparently is with the whole "hey, let's just try and shove this down people's throats and tell them there's nothing they can do about it; that can't possibly ever backfire" commerical that end up being used a piece of anti-marriage propaganda (and rightly so, unfortunately; it's not like Newsom had anything really sake, so of course he wouldn't have to reign in his comments) and like, what, only 20% of people in SF (or was it just the Castro, I forget) voting on the issue at all (or was in support of it, I forget), SF is basically why the proposition won by a slim margin instead of potentially losing (like it should have) by an even slimmer margin.

I will admit, it's hypocritcal of me to say anything considering I didn't vote even though I'm of age (and have apparently registered, if the constant requests for jury duty are to be believed), but I guess that should be expected. I mean, I'm black and I live in Oakland (for now). We vote hypocritcally to oppress other minorities because we've never ever experienced anything like that and most certainly never bring it up almost whenever possible. [/not bitter or greatly annoyed or anything like that]

P.S. I guess it's just because, even if I hadn't gotten emotionally obliterated earlier today, I'm not nearly as sure as you that California or most states will do the "right thing".

[sh1fty]

thanks for the kind comments on the picture i posted. i got to be honest that it makes me blush a little, im not used to hearing shit like that. lol. anyway, i sobered up and took off my shit for a mandatory chest hair pic. yeah whatever i know. lol.

http://img37.imageshack.us/gal.php?g=90096484.gif
WOW.

Hey so uh....

....
..
can i haz?

You can't claim him Blodia! Not until I've given him a test run anyway :P

[BeaTs*]

strip fighter between sh1fty and bastion? everyone's a winner there.

[JustB]

Just how do you play Strip Street Fighter?

I'll show you sometime :wgrin:

[BlodiaVulcan5]

Just how do you play Strip Street Fighter?

For every round you lose, you lose a garment of clothing. Pretty simple.

I can be convinced to goto evo. i wouldnt go for the gaming. But I like to meet people and ive never been to vegas. and i really like to party. Strip Street Fighter lol. so for every round you lose you take off a piece of cloth? i might as well come naked... ive given up on gaming. I bought a ps3 for sf4 and a month later i gave it to my buddy's kids.

I'm pretty much in a similar boat. I'm going because i've never been to Evo. Get my ass handed to me by some top tier whores, then just wander around for awhile until it's over. As far as partying, too bad the "coolest guy" in the universe (great cow lord) isn't going, since his life consists of 88% partying. There are a couple of people here that are going, if i recall.

It would be cool if we could organize some kind of "Vegas Gay Action Squad (VGAS)" and chill. Kind of like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RnZ3hy7Pk4A

Haha, that's no attitude, buddy. I'd like to know at least I won valiantly mashing HP.

You can't claim him Blodia! Not until I've given him a test run anyway :P

Hold on a minute there! Whose the one with the husbear here? That's right. Uh huh, I thought so.

[BeaTs*]

Hold on a minute there! Whose the one with the husbear here? That's right. Uh huh, I thought so.
uh oh, blodia's got a point there!

but I also do not have a "husbear"

how about blodia and I play a 2/3 marvel match to see who gets to play strip fighter (actually I'd prefer mvstrip2) with bastion heh.

[Mechanica]

How do you guys deal with this (even though I know some of you probably don't want to get married anyway)?

I have a very, VERY cynical outlook on the possibility of us as gays getting any new rights. Basically I don't expect anything good like that to happen during my lifetime... and if it does, well what a pleasant surprise! I just don't see the point in getting my panties in a twist over it. I think people who are expecting us to already have all these marriage rights/have all these things pass the voting public are just kidding themselves.

THE STORM IS COMING

[BlodiaVulcan5]

You're on, sucka! Bring it. I got that Mango Sentinel/Doom/Storm right here. *grabs crotch... a bit too long*

[Mechanica]

That picture thread is frustrating. What is overly entitled about sharing your fucking opinion? Anyone on this entire forum can share their opinion on anything, what the hell does it have to do with being entitled? Niggas is gay.
Really, that thread is like the #2 gayest thread on the forum - a bunch of guys showing off pics of each other? "Showing off for the ladies" don't make me laugh. :rofl: People are so hilarious about guys hitting on them. I know I sure get offended when a female thinks I'm attractive. I oughta kick the next one in the chest. Grr! Don't tread on my testosterone!

[eboNicS]

That picture thread is frustrating. What is overly entitled about sharing your fucking opinion? Anyone on this entire forum can share their opinion on anything, what the hell does it have to do with being entitled? Niggas is gay.
Really, that thread is like the #2 gayest thread on the forum - a bunch of guys showing off pics of each other? "Showing off for the ladies" don't make me laugh. :rofl: People are so hilarious about guys hitting on them. I know I sure get offended when a female thinks I'm attractive. I oughta kick the next one in the chest. Grr! Don't tread on my testosterone!

You're hot! *PLEASE DON'T KICK ME IN THE CHEST!*

lol

[severin]

how about blodia and I play a 2/3 marvel match to see who gets to play strip fighter (actually I'd prefer mvstrip2) with bastion heh.

If that's how this goes, SF4 for the right to play Strip Fighter against JustB anyone?

[sh1fty]

Hold on a minute there! Whose the one with the husbear here? That's right. Uh huh, I thought so.

HEY. My bf lets me have a few playtoys :P Plus theres always having a 3rd... I"LL FIGHT YOU TO THE DEATH! :rofl:

[Azagtoth]

HEY. My bf lets me have a few playtoys :P Plus theres always having a 3rd... I"LL FIGHT YOU TO THE DEATH! :rofl:

Haha thats whats up. =P

[sh1fty]

Haha thats whats up. =P


Az knows the games we bear/chub hunters play ;)



BTW, Az, I like your avatar a lot :)

[BlodiaVulcan5]

HEY. My bf lets me have a few playtoys :P Plus theres always having a 3rd... I"LL FIGHT YOU TO THE DEATH! :rofl:

Eh, i'm not down for sharezies. I'm greedy. I'll disable all of your penises with my karate chop of death. Unless you're into that sort of thing...

See Bastion? you've got, what, 4 people that want to jump your bones. Possibly together. If you come to EVO, i'll get first dibs. woot.

[Azagtoth]

Az knows the games we bear/chub hunters play ;)

BTW, Az, I like your avatar a lot :)

Sharing is caring. I've been DYING for another 3-way. :(

And thanks. Mech made it for me.

[Æther]

*lends sh1fty a stick* You're gonna need it.

ebonics: I get on GGPO under the SN ScuubaSteefe if you wanna play. I mainly get on SF2T. That also goes for everyone else. :)

[Lobelia Prime]

If that's how this goes, SF4 for the right to play Strip Fighter against JustB anyone?

I'll slaughter you.

[The Green Trench Coat]

dumb pic from the other night. ill take another later. but i have to sober up first. like i said. i was watching football this afternoon. lol

http://img37.imageshack.us/img37/7506/65471565.jpg

nice beard dude.

thanks for the kind comments on the picture i posted. i got to be honest that it makes me blush a little, im not used to hearing shit like that. lol. anyway, i sobered up and took off my shit for a mandatory chest hair pic. yeah whatever i know. lol.

http://img37.imageshack.us/gal.php?g=90096484.gif

nice bod too

Bastion: Looking at those new pics..... please tell me you're coming to Evo. I'd like to make you blush in another way. Strawberry blonde beardly cub.... Grrrr.

Seriously, i'd play you Strip Street Fighter at Evo.

To everyone else: back off! I got this.
hehe i get front row watching this porno



Roll call Who's still going to evo at this point.

i'm on the fence.. i have the time off and the money but not sure if my bf is coming with and so on. he's got to look at his time off situation closer to the date.

[Lobelia Prime]

I'll be at EVO.

[DrumlinerJoe]

That picture thread is frustrating. What is overly entitled about sharing your fucking opinion? Anyone on this entire forum can share their opinion on anything, what the hell does it have to do with being entitled? Niggas is gay.
Really, that thread is like the #2 gayest thread on the forum - a bunch of guys showing off pics of each other? "Showing off for the ladies" don't make me laugh. :rofl: People are so hilarious about guys hitting on them. I know I sure get offended when a female thinks I'm attractive. I oughta kick the next one in the chest. Grr! Don't tread on my testosterone!


Thing is I never hit on anybody, I just said they were fine. If I'd have been lewd or inappropriate then yeah I'd understand. Hell I don't like it when guys are inapproriate with me and I'm gay myself.

I think BV5 and that other dude REALLY missed the point of my posts, but I didn't see the need to follow up cause it's derailing the thread and it's not a big deal to me. The first post I made saying "Get over it" was more like an eyeroll reaction anyhow.

But yeah Bastion, mega cute.

[iwst99]

I love seeing so much action in this thread. :D

[Æther]

What's with the av anyways? Remy found out he's not in SF4? :lmao:

[DrumlinerJoe]

lol yeah I noticed that too Iwist. This thread hasn't been that active in who knows how long.

[great cow lord]

I highly doubt that I'll be going to Evo.

A friend told me (he lives in Vegas) that if I come,he'll get me into parties and all sorts of trouble. I love trouble.

it's my middle name

[iwst99]

What's with the av anyways? Remy found out he's not in SF4? :lmao:

It's from the SF collab video that came out last week. It's a bunch of SF flash animations put together by different artists. It's on newgrounds.com, but if you want to watch a quicker, crappier version of the remy thing, just watch the first 2 minutes of this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ii1lQ-rNKIk

[sh1fty]

I probably can't go to EVO :( So I guess I'll just have to get bastion some other way :D

And don't give me a stick.. because I'm pretty good with them :D

[JustB]

I probably can't go to EVO :( So I guess I'll just have to get bastion some other way :D

And don't give me a stick.. because I'm pretty good with them :D

*rim shot*

[angryliberal]

*rim job*

Now you're speaking my language...

Sorry, I can't help myself...I'm childish...

[JustB]

Now you're speaking my language...

Sorry, I can't help myself...I'm childish...

is ok, we know :lol:

[DrumlinerJoe]

Here's another pic.

http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l301/joetx/100E0477.jpg

[Azagtoth]

I love seeing so much action in this thread. :D

Definitely. It's almost nostalgic. <3

[eboNicS]

Here's another pic.

http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l301/joetx/100E0477.jpg

Wow, so many bears play SF4 o.O

I had nooo idea. LOL

[DrumlinerJoe]

I'm more of a Marvel Player, actually.

[iwst99]

SF3 4 life bitches.

[Duncaaaaan]

My friend is bisexual, so he enjoys the best of both worlds xD

Hes very funny as well. What's also funny is that like some people when they admit to being homo/bi/whatever people are like "WTF OMG NO WAI MAN" then with my my friend people are like "meh, tbh it doesn't surprise me" or "cool" lmao.

[DrumlinerJoe]

It's so weird. I know from certain people I can just see it. I LOVE the ones who front so hard about being straight when you know they're just a bit ol' bottom.

[Duncaaaaan]

The great thing about gay people it seems though is that they seem to open up their emotions and feelings more. I know, it's stereotypical and cliched but it really does show...

I guess the only problem with homosexual people is that if everyone in the world became homosexual then we as a human race would cease to exist.

[BeaTs*]

actually that wouldn't happen :)

[Duncaaaaan]

what the everyone becoming homo or the ceasing to exist?

[eboNicS]

If homosexuals ruled the world everything would be color coordinated! YAY!

[DrumlinerJoe]

My Marvel team was always color coordinated. :P

[iwst99]

The great thing about gay people it seems though is that they seem to open up their emotions and feelings more. I know, it's stereotypical and cliched but it really does show...

I guess the only problem with homosexual people is that if everyone in the world became homosexual then we as a human race would cease to exist.

Umm, if everyone was gay and lesbian, then the gay men can do artificial insemination into the women, as well as just putting sperm in a turkey baster and shooting it in the woman. It happens quite often.

[Bastion]

nice comments

One day I'll bring my camera to the jobsite and get a buddy o mine to take a picture of me in my hard hat and work boots. I work in bricklaying building homes so, yeah, im a stereotype. :wgrin: . I'm going to look up flights and hotels now. If i can do this for a grand i will. canadian dollar is .90 so its a good time to buy a ticket.

[BlodiaVulcan5]

Roll call Who's still going to evo at this point.

i'm on the fence.. i have the time off and the money but not sure if my bf is coming with and so on. he's got to look at his time off situation closer to the date.

Awwww, whose going to be my bear guide at Evo?! I want you to come (pun intended).

The great thing about gay people it seems though is that they seem to open up their emotions and feelings more. I know, it's stereotypical and cliched but it really does show...

Well, it kinda helps that we won't hide our true emotions and feelings anymore by being stuck in the closet. Stripping the macho, male gender role exterior for the soft, gooey interior. And boy is it gooey. I like saying gooey.

gooey.

One day I'll bring my camera to the jobsite and get a buddy o mine to take a picture of me in my hard hat and work boots. I work in bricklaying building homes so, yeah, im a stereotype. :wgrin: . I'm going to look up flights and hotels now. If i can do this for a grand i will. canadian dollar is .90 so its a good time to buy a ticket.

OR! or... we can bring our cameras and and take pictures of you out of your hard hat and work boots. haha. Who wants wallet sizes?

And nice, man. It's all good even if you didn't come to Evo. I didn't know you're a Canadian bear? Puts a new spin on how delicious maple syrup is.

[Bastion]

whoa, i can get a return flight to vegas from arriving july 16 afternoon departing monday 20 morning for 400 can$ so, whats happening with hotel rooms with the people here that are going? more cost effective to share. im considering this now.

[iwst99]

More review:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tuT6x1Zvu1A

On "Cockstar" right now and we're going out today to find some new products.

[Lobelia Prime]

Now you're speaking my language...

Sorry, I can't help myself...I'm childish...

I was hoping Hannah had actually said something about a rim job. I would have been like "what? Rim job? Hannah? Yes please!"

[The Green Trench Coat]

what the everyone becoming homo or the ceasing to exist?

Umm, if everyone was gay and lesbian, then the gay men can do artificial insemination into the women, as well as just putting sperm in a turkey baster and shooting it in the woman. It happens quite often.

procreation would still be possible even if everyone in the world were gay.

I asked this question once before but: How would the world be a better place if there were no more gays?

The religious zealots would continue to bicker but now they'd bicker about baptist being closer to gods will than protestants or whatever? Marriage would not be saved because people would continue to cheat and divorce would still happen. Teen pregnancy would still be on the rise in the us. STD's wouldn't magically disappear.. and if regulations on sexuality are imposed on the population what's next "anal sex banned" "oral sex banned"

sexually suggestive materials banned.. it would never stop. I know that's a slippery slope but it is possible.

[BeaTs*]

yup others said what I was implying. insemination is still entirely possible, duh

[JustB]

I was hoping Hannah had actually said something about a rim job. I would have been like "what? Rim job? Hannah? Yes please!"

I'm still much too virginal to be comfortable with the idea of giving or receiving a rim job... well, except for a few people.... maybe.

[sh1fty]

Well since I can't go to Evo.. I guess I must remove myself from the competition for Bastion's hot bod.. you had to say that part about the work boots too..ugh..

[DaDesiCanadian]

Here's another pic.

http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l301/joetx/100E0477.jpg

:rofl:

So hot, he has the "heat wave" lines emanating from him.

[sh1fty]

More pics! :D

http://img43.imageshack.us/my.php?image=n523922011564042474.jpg

http://img43.imageshack.us/my.php?image=n5239220115640387169a.jpg

(note: I don't go to that University anymore ;p)

[DrumlinerJoe]

:rofl:

So hot, he has the "heat wave" lines emanating from him.

lol, aw you hush man.

Cute pics again Shifty.

[iwst99]

A lot of you guys are cute as hell but too cubby. Get older y'all. :(

[sh1fty]

lol, aw you hush man.

Cute pics again Shifty.


Thanks again pal :D

[BlodiaVulcan5]

iwst: The people who play street fighter are capped at 35. sorry, man.

[ramberk]

I though you were more likely to find older players then younger players in SF. I'm constantly surprised by the influx of new players. I do wonder if folks will keep playing SF when they hit their 40s and 50s.

[iwst99]

iwst: The people who play street fighter are capped at 35. sorry, man.

35 is aight. Where are all the hot 35yo SF playas at?

[eboNicS]

I though you were more likely to find older players then younger players in SF. I'm constantly surprised by the influx of new players. I do wonder if folks will keep playing SF when they hit their 40s and 50s.

By that time they will have kids playing "SF8: The New Progeny of the Next Generation". Flowchart Ken will start having arthritis after too many repeated shoryukens, Ryu with a mid-life crisis and unable to Hadoken, E. Honda receives a gastric bypass surgery and is now diabetic, Chun-Li's breasts will start to sag, Sagat will be blind in both eyes and wrapped in a lower body cast, and Balrog will have a face tattoo with an Ultra combo where he bites off both ears of an opponent.

But most of all, we find out Zangief is just really a big, ol' gay bear.

[DrumlinerJoe]

Thanks again pal :D

Anytime buddyboy.

I though you were more likely to find older players then younger players in SF. I'm constantly surprised by the influx of new players. I do wonder if folks will keep playing SF when they hit their 40s and 50s.

You know I'll be doing it. Been playing since I was 12 and haven't stopped. It's still my favorite genre.

[eboNicS]

Some fun bit of news from the LA Times


Fairfax High's prom queen is a guy

Sergio Garcia, an 18-year-old senior, said he “felt invincible” after beating out the female candidates. And one of his peers said Garcia's win “just shows how open-minded our class is."

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-prom-queen28-2009may28,0,2700821.story

[Mechanica]

I sure wish I could escape the whole paradigm that I have a large age gap in my relationship, thus, I

have daddy issues
have had trauma at some point in my life
am being used
am delusional if I think I am in love

etc ad nauseum. I just got psychologically dissected by this guy who deduces all these things because he has the wisdom and personal experience (later ask him to find out he's 22 and has never personally dated someone older) to say so. I fit a few stereotypes and thus I must fit all the other ones for younger/older gay relationships and I am just being kept around because I am youthful, he wants company and a good fuck, but does not care about me. I mean I subjected myself to it, I was interested in why he was so sure about these things, but after a while it just got annoying. I am naive when it comes to love life, I'll be the first to admit that, but you can't just shut down everything I say because "I am 20, and will never see outside my viewpoint" or some shit like that. Everyone in the world with an opinion on anything EVER is going to have a skewed viewpoint, that's how being a human works. This guy is too much. After hours of 'debating' or whatever the hell we just did, he more or less finally is on my side and thinks I may have a real relationship. :cool: And I thought I'd never win.

I stopped taking him seriously at
10:59:11 PM) the second issue, even if he's serious, your relationship has no future, a 20 year old and a 50 year old have nothing in common, you just can't, it's not feasible, you have life experiences so different and you're just in 100% different stages in your life.
Seriously? Yes it is 100% UNFEASIBLE for people not born in the same time to have common interests. Alrighty then.

11:03:50 PM) old guys don't want to cruise anymore, they just want a steady source of blowjobs and barebacking
(11:04:11 PM) do you bareback?

(11:04:16 PM) orangesharpies: *sigh* yes

(11:04:20 PM) wow it's like I'm psychic

(11:09:04 PM) It's just that your situation is so stereotypical
(11:09:17 PM) the other stereotypes are that much more likely to be true.

(11:10:07 PM) orangesharpies: what is stereotypical about it?
(11:10:11 PM) orangesharpies: the age gap and barebacking and?
(11:10:31 PM) orangesharpies: and try not to say 'everything'

(11:11:10 PM) Well if you had more life experience prior to this relationship, you would have known the potential dangers

(11:11:36 PM) orangesharpies: no, I knew the dangers and it was a hurdle for me to move it from a hookup to a 'relationship'
(11:11:43 PM) orangesharpies: but I felt that it was worth it I guess
(11:11:53 PM) orangesharpies: even if it ends up being a sham
(11:11:58 PM) orangesharpies: I have learend a lot along the way
(11:12:02 PM) orangesharpies: so I don't feel like it's a waste of my time/life

(11:12:14 PM) No but it's gonna end in tears.
(11:12:18 PM) for you

and then the dude turns out to be twenty fucking two. After saying all this shit like "well that's what you think, but you're 20." :looney:

anyway, I just wanted to rant about this guy, he was just... too much. Self-entitled freud nuthuggers are way too deep for me to talk to on aim. And for some extra lols:

(12:45:41 AM) What do you study?
(12:45:47 AM) what do you know a lot about?

(12:45:54 AM) orangesharpies: heh, nothing
(12:45:57 AM) orangesharpies: aspire to study language though
(12:46:03 AM) orangesharpies: I want to be a polyglot

(12:46:06 AM) There's nothing you know well?

(12:46:10 AM) orangesharpies: nope
(12:46:11 AM) orangesharpies: I am useless
(12:46:14 AM) orangesharpies: :D
(12:46:27 AM) orangesharpies: maybe when I get back into school

(12:46:28 AM) Alright, well if you can't be serious this conversation can't continue.

(12:46:38 AM) orangesharpies: o_o
(12:46:49 AM) orangesharpies: there's really nothing I'm intellectually specialized in
(12:46:58 AM) nothing at all?

(12:47:19 AM) orangesharpies: I got my high school diploma and then smoked a shitload of pot for a while
(12:47:28 AM) orangesharpies: language is my thing
(12:47:31 AM) orangesharpies: if I had to answer
(12:47:36 AM) orangesharpies: but I wouldn't say I know a lot yet
(12:47:38 AM) orangesharpies: y'know?

(12:47:52 AM) I'm only two years older than you and I know an enormous amount lolllll I just didn't even know what to say after that. I told him I was socially awkward and he diagnosed me with aspergers. Just like that, he was like "aspergers." and I was like ? and he was like "you have it."

What a fucking character. :rofl:

I talked to this guy for hours, and I don't know why. It was like a car wreck you can't look away from.

~~

but really like, I feel like everywhere I go, if I admit I like significantly older guys, it's disgusting, morally wrong, I'm being used, and/or I have issues. I understand the fear of the unknown and things that are different, people are pretty xenophobic by nature. but like, so many people cannot accept the fact that I can have a regular, healthy relationship with someone much older. I just don't get along with people my age, why is that so hard to believe? No, I don't fucking call him daddy. :rofl:

[The Green Trench Coat]

More pics! :D

http://img43.imageshack.us/my.php?image=n523922011564042474.jpg

http://img43.imageshack.us/my.php?image=n5239220115640387169a.jpg

(note: I don't go to that University anymore ;p)

well blow me down. You ARE cute.

iwst: The people who play street fighter are capped at 35. sorry, man.

Watch it!

I though you were more likely to find older players then younger players in SF. I'm constantly surprised by the influx of new players. I do wonder if folks will keep playing SF when they hit their 40s and 50s.


heck yeah ..

Some fun bit of news from the LA Times


Fairfax High's prom queen is a guy

Sergio Garcia, an 18-year-old senior, said he “felt invincible” after beating out the female candidates. And one of his peers said Garcia's win “just shows how open-minded our class is."

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-prom-queen28-2009may28,0,2700821.story

which is why i don't freak so much about prop 8 and the like. Eventually this generation will become the voting class and all anti gay legislation will be moot.

....
tell that twatgoblin to stfu.

I have daddy issues.. infact dangerously so. A hot daddy can pretty much get me to do anything ANYTHING with very little resistance. Add to that i'm addicted to touch.. but thats a whole other story.

before the information age he might have been right there might have been absolutely nothing that a 50 year old and a 20 year old would have in common. But these days.. I'm not so sure that's true anymore. Personally I'd still consider situations like yours and Iwst's Exceptions, not the rule. But the fact that it works for you shows that there are viable exceptions to the cliche' that the age gap makes the relationship impossible.


What's more is attraction is what it is. You like what you like. And the fact that this guy is trying to "understand" or "breakdown" your attraction is super lame. He doesn't understand it.. but why does he have to understand it. It Just is.

[BlodiaVulcan5]

Watch it!

You barely made it, so quit complaining. haha.

[sh1fty]

well blow me down. You ARE cute.

I have daddy issues.. infact dangerously so. A hot daddy can pretty much get me to do anything ANYTHING with very little resistance.

Heh, thanks!

And I'm the same way with the daddy thing, lol. Daaaddddddy bear!

[BeaTs*]

More pics! :D

http://img43.imageshack.us/my.php?image=n523922011564042474.jpg

http://img43.imageshack.us/my.php?image=n5239220115640387169a.jpg

(note: I don't go to that University anymore ;p)yay! :wgrin: so cute/handsome/adorabllllle/etc.

[Azagtoth]

What a fucking character. :rofl:

Armchair psychologists lol.

I've once had my attraction to big dudes likened to being attracted to sickness haha.

[iwst99]

BLeh
Fuck that dude. At first I thought it was weird because you told me your BF was with some other dude, but that been over for a long time and I don't see anything wrong with your relationship. Just because that dipshit doesn't understand it it doesn't mean shit. I've been in relationships in the same age difference as you and more, and I've always been the one to do the dumping, never really ended in tears. It can go both ways. If your man didn't want to be with someone like you he probably would have let you go by now, or only see you on weekends to fuck.

Live your life, Bro!

[eddymasta]

More pics! :D

http://img43.imageshack.us/my.php?image=n523922011564042474.jpg

http://img43.imageshack.us/my.php?image=n5239220115640387169a.jpg

(note: I don't go to that University anymore ;p)

Cute :lovin:

[Mechanica]

What's more is attraction is what it is. You like what you like. And the fact that this guy is trying to "understand" or "breakdown" your attraction is super lame. He doesn't understand it.. but why does he have to understand it. It Just is.
He's not even trying to understand it, on a personal level he just thinks it's gross and doesn't care to understand anything about it. Dude thinks any body hair is gross, and waxes like his entire body. :rofl: And I'm gross? Alrighty then mister ken doll. :wasted: I'm just surprised I managed to surpass his superiority complex/armchair psychologist (thanks for that term az, couldn't think of what it was!) issues and actually got him to believe me somewhat. I'd bet money that my relationship is more functional than he and his 19 year old. *shrug*

Fuck that dude. At first I thought it was weird because you told me your BF was with some other dude, but that been over for a long time and I don't see anything wrong with your relationship. Just because that dipshit doesn't understand it it doesn't mean shit. I've been in relationships in the same age difference as you and more, and I've always been the one to do the dumping, never really ended in tears. It can go both ways. If your man didn't want to be with someone like you he probably would have let you go by now, or only see you on weekends to fuck.

Live your life, Bro!
Word, and that was before we were really in a relationship. I didn't bother mentioning that to him because it would just be cannon fodder for his side. :lol: It's so hilarious to me that this fucking 22 year old thinks he has leaps and bounds above me in the wisdom department and tons of personal experience. Dude, you're 22 and you're dating a 19 year old. Where the fuck is the personal experience? He wouldn't answer the question, he "just knows" how (all) older guys work. Hilarious. I love it. As if you hit a certain age and your entire fucking character and personality just goes down the shitter because you are X age. How do people even think that? It will be hilarious when he turns 30 or 40 or whatever age he thinks people just 'snap' into this predator mode. I have to keep talking to him next time I get a chance, it's unbelievable. I'll try to save more ridiculous quotes.

[iwst99]

He's not even trying to understand it, on a personal level he just thinks it's gross and doesn't care to understand anything about it. Dude thinks any body hair is gross, and waxes like his entire body. :rofl: And I'm gross? Alrighty then mister ken doll. :wasted: I'm just surprised I managed to surpass his superiority complex/armchair psychologist (thanks for that term az, couldn't think of what it was!) issues and actually got him to believe me somewhat. I'd bet money that my relationship is more functional than he and his 19 year old. *shrug*


Word, and that was before we were really in a relationship. I didn't bother mentioning that to him because it would just be cannon fodder for his side. :lol: It's so hilarious to me that this fucking 22 year old thinks he has leaps and bounds above me in the wisdom department and tons of personal experience. Dude, you're 22 and you're dating a 19 year old. Where the fuck is the personal experience? He wouldn't answer the question, he "just knows" how (all) older guys work. Hilarious. I love it. As if you hit a certain age and your entire fucking character and personality just goes down the shitter because you are X age. How do people even think that? It will be hilarious when he turns 30 or 40 or whatever age he thinks people just 'snap' into this predator mode. I have to keep talking to him next time I get a chance, it's unbelievable. I'll try to save more ridiculous quotes.

You'll grow so much emotionally and intellectually just by being with someone way older than you and like your man. What the hell can that dude learn from a 19yo? It helps that your man sounds really smart, working for Boeing and all. That's one of the reasons I like being with older men, it's not always the case, but I usually learn new things about life and myself. They obviously have more life experience then you or I, and although a lot of them are still really childish even for their age, you can still learn a thing or two.

[ramberk]

Mech, is what this guy saying really bothering you? He doesn't sound like a friend.

[JustB]

Ok, guys. I've been invited to a boat party with a bunch of intellectual/spiritual elites (elitists?) and I don't know what to wear. I haven't been to a "social function" before, but it's going to be during the day and since it's an RSVP event with a cover charge, I'm assuming it's a boat bigger than just a few people. I won't know many of these people either.

Texas heat, lake water I don't even want to think about falling in to, and a need to keep my lower body free from tanning. What can I do? I was thinking a light blue, ankle length, feather weight skirt and sandals and a bikini top covered by a really thin white button up shirt. What do you think?

Specifically this. (http://i201.photobucket.com/albums/aa139/kindannokinomi/boatparty1.jpg)

edit again

more like this though (http://i201.photobucket.com/albums/aa139/kindannokinomi/boatsun.jpg):lol:

Mech, is what this guy saying really bothering you? He doesn't sound like a friend.

I don't consider people my friends unless they're willing to confront me if they think I'm doing something that is unhealthy for me. Of course my friends are awesome enough that we can have civil discourse about such things.

[The Green Trench Coat]

Ok, guys. I've been invited to a boat party with a bunch of intellectual/spiritual elites (elitists?) and I don't know what to wear. I haven't been to a "social function" before, but it's going to be during the day and since it's an RSVP event with a cover charge, I'm assuming it's a boat bigger than just a few people. I won't know many of these people either.



hmm.. what would jesus wear?

[rush down]

intellectual/spiritual elites

No such thing.

[JustB]

hmm.. what would jesus wear?

well, if the movies are any indicator, either a robe and sandals or a loin cloth crown... think i'd rather go with Joseph's style (at least he had a fabulous robe).

No such thing.

...why do you keep coming in here? >_>

[great cow lord]

honestly i like the second choice.

we all know how Texas weather can be. I would wear the shades.

[eboNicS]

snip

Go with the second one. It's the one that you like!

[Æther]

JustB: I'd go with the first one. It's probably just me since I don't like chunky, goggle like shades. You're probably gonna need a hat too. I like outfit though. :)

- I'm going out in a few with my BF to some expensive restaurant then watch Terminator: Salvation. Romantic and yet macho. :lovin:

[Azagtoth]

I'd go with the first. I think it's more aesthetically pleasing than the second.

[JustB]

:lol:

Thanks guys, but the pics are of the same outfit. I just have sunglasses on in the second one. :sweat: If it looks good, it looks good though. I should just stop stressing out over it.

[iwst99]

The second outfit sucks, go with the first one.

[Zulu]

*Waves to the fellow homofags*

I haven't been here in ages. Did Scoot ever come back?

[The Green Trench Coat]

*Waves to the fellow homofags*

I haven't been here in ages. Did Scoot ever come back?



I lol'd.

[severin]

eboNicS!

Sources tell me that you were at Denjin sometime last night. I totally need to meet you at some point.

[eboNicS]

eboNicS!

Sources tell me that you were at Denjin sometime last night. I totally need to meet you at some point.

Hey, how did you know that? OMG, you have a network of spy birds!

Yea, I do photo, podcast, Counter-Strike work for GetYourTournament.com

I'll be at Denjin next week for the SBO qualifiers.

Here's some photos I took today at Denjin: http://www.flickr.com/photos/karaface/sets/72157619034347428/

[Mechanica]

That's one of the reasons I like being with older men, it's not always the case, but I usually learn new things about life and myself.
Yeah, it's really awesome like that. People born in different times have awesome and interesting vocabularies. I learn new words all the time! And I'm all about the vocab. I think that even if I am capable of being attracted to someone my age enough to be in a relationship, I think that I would be extremely bored in one because I just wouldn't learn nearly as much cool shit. :tup: Sometimes I feel lame and useless because the only things I teach him are like what gangster slang words are, and things about drugs or video games. I'm like damn, I don't know anything cool! But at the same time it's inspiring and motivates me to get back in school, so it's all good.

Mech, is what this guy saying really bothering you? He doesn't sound like a friend.
It did at first, but then I just realized how ridiculous he was and it became very amusing. He's not a friend, you're right. Just some guy I chatted with on aim from a forum.

Anyway, old news now, haven't talked to him in a while.

~~

Went to a tourney in portland yesterday. 4th in HD Remix (out of 16 :/ this game is dead) SIM SIM SALABIM, and 9th in SF4. Well you tie for 9th but it sounds cooler saying I got 9th. I believe there was 28 people in SF4. I've ditched abel as my alt/potential main and am going Fuerte 'til I die. Sure I feel like throwing my stick when I lose because of his vitality and this game's game-ruining GUTS system, but it's still more fun than working too hard (in a non-fun way) with Abel. I really wish my matches were recorded because they were as clutch as a fighting game match can get. They were so epic that the claps and cheers of my victories were more than enough to balance out my sad losses. I love El Fuerte. I don't think I could play this game if it weren't for him, he makes it feel less slow than the game is.

I really need to level up. Next saturday is the first of two round robins to help decide who our northwest team for the Evo 5v5 is for! But gatherings are nowhere to be found and online is gross. :sad: Hrm.

[sh1fty]

Off topic but.. my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me today. I'm sad. :(

[eboNicS]

Off topic but.. my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me today. I'm sad. :(

Sorry to hear that :[

[great cow lord]

Off topic but.. my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me today. I'm sad. :(

dude, sorry to hear that. getting cheated on sucks period.
so what happen,sorry if I'm being nosy, you dumped his ass?


off topic as well : GTC, good games! I was nice enough to let you get a couple of rounds off me.You're welcome~

[Azagtoth]

Off topic but.. my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me today. I'm sad. :(

Really? I was under the impression you guys were open.

[great cow lord]

^ Even in an open relationship, shouldn't you tell the person you're banging (insert random person name here) ?

[sh1fty]

Well here's the whole story:

My BF lives in Oklahoma City and I live in Tulsa. We are about 2 hours apart. I live with my homophobic overly religious parents still, so seeing him is a bit of a challenge.

So about 2 weeks ago we decided that we could each choose ONE person to help relieve our physical needs since we hardly got to see each other until I was out of my parents house and in college -- then we'd go back to being monogamous. The stipulation was we had to play safe and TELL one another when we were going to see that 'special friend'.

Well, I drove down to see him over the weekend and he admitted to me that a month ago (before our little pact) when he was in Tennessee on business he invited a guy to his hotel room to hang out and they had sex..

Well, after sitting at one of his company parties (he works for Dell) for 6 hours the night before I was just a -little- pissed.

I mean, at least he was honest about it right? He could have just never told me and I would have never found out ... so he gets some points back there...

I love him to death.. I mean I'd die for the man.. but damn this hurts

EDIT: And to answer Cow's question, no, I haven't dumped him... I love him too much. Am I a fool?

[BlodiaVulcan5]

How long have you been dating the guy?

[sh1fty]

4 Months... but it's been the best 4 months of my life!... Till now..

[BlodiaVulcan5]

Get checked, man.

[Mechanica]

Is there any way you can close the distance between you two? Are you too young to move out? Long distance relationships just don't work. This would be one good reason... but hey, it is good that he told you, I'd say. Shows some character, yeah? :razz:

[sh1fty]

Get checked, man.


We did last week. We both came back neg.

[BlodiaVulcan5]

If this is the first offense, then I say let it go. Be realistic about the 2 hour gap; a guys got needs.

I'm not saying what he did was right or wrong. That's up to you to decide.

[sh1fty]

If this is the first offense, then I say let it go. Be realistic about the 2 hour gap; a guys got needs.

I'm not saying what he did was right or wrong. That's up to you to decide.

That's what I'm saying. He beats himself up more than me! I didn't even get angry when he told me. He punishes himself more than I ever could.

[The Green Trench Coat]

Get checked, man.

:rolleyes: he should be doing that anyway.



EDIT: And to answer Cow's question, no, I haven't dumped him... I love him too much. Am I a fool?

4 months is a short time but in gay time 4 months is almost a year.

if it bothers you this much than maybe you guys would be better suited waiting till he moves closer or you move out if that is in the forseeable future.

As for the rules of an open relationship.. they are different for everyone. Some guys don't want to know at all what the partner is doing and who he slept with. Others are only open when they are apart. some are only open when they are together.


the key is what you guys aggreed upon and it sounds like (imo) you guys werent completely sure of the terms of the relationship. He may have just felt (at the time) that it's unreasonable for you to think that he wouldn't be playing if you live under lock and key 2 hours away.



We did last week. We both came back neg.

good for you guys :encore:

That's what I'm saying. He beats himself up more than me! I didn't even get angry when he told me. He punishes himself more than I ever could.

and yet you are still sad/ pissed about this.

My question is.. what exactly are you pissed/sad about? Regardless if you choose to forgive this offense you have to truly let it go.. that means no bringing it back up in later fights. or using this offense as a get out of jail card free. That may not mean anything to you now... but in a few years...

[BlodiaVulcan5]

:rolleyes: he should be doing that anyway.


Can't hurt to say it again.

get checked, man.

=)

[DrumlinerJoe]

Eh, the first relationship is for practice for future ones anyhow. Good to get it out of the way early, like the Chicken Pox.

[iwst99]

Is there any way you can close the distance between you two? Are you too young to move out? Long distance relationships just don't work.

What do you base this on?

[DrumlinerJoe]

I'd tend to agree with mech. I mean you can make it work, but more often than not the odds are stacked against you.

[ramberk]

They were so epic that the claps and cheers of my victories were more than enough to balance out my sad losses. I love El Fuerte. I don't think I could play this game if it weren't for him, he makes it feel less slow than the game is.

Way to be in SF4 Mech. Their reaction to your Elf victories remind me of myself and Remy in 3S. No one expects the low tier characters to put up a good fight. I personally rather play a low tier (but fun) character then a high tier but boring character.

I still haven't gotten a next gen machine or played a lot of SF4 but reading stuff like this motivates me to do so.

[DrumlinerJoe]

Yeah, I remember at my peak folks really got into watching my Rogue teams. I can't wait for MVC2 getting a second wind.

[iwst99]

I'd tend to agree with mech. I mean you can make it work, but more often than not the odds are stacked against you.

That's different from them just not working.

They CAN work, they're just more work and take patience from both parties.

I was in one for 4 years, and I know other couples that have been together for more years than that in long distance relationships.

[DrumlinerJoe]

Well myself I'd never recommend one. Cause it's true that they can work, but they tend to be the exception rather than the rule.

[iwst99]

Well myself I'd never recommend one. Cause it's true that they can work, but they tend to be the exception rather than the rule.

Yep.

I wouldn't recommend one either. :sweat: But they CAN work. :D

[sh1fty]

He broke up with me. I'm not mature enough for a relationship :/

I'm crushed :(

[iwst99]

He broke up with me. I'm not mature enough for a relationship :/


That's not the case at all. You had rules in your relationship, that's mature right there. You had an agreement, he didn't follow it, you weren't obligated to stay with him. If anyone is immature it's him for not telling you about it.

[angryliberal]

That's not the case at all. You had rules in your relationship, that's mature right there. You had an agreement, he didn't follow it, you weren't obligated to stay with him. If anyone is immature it's him for not telling you about it.

What iwst said...you can't beat yourself up over someone else's shortcomings...no matter your feelings for them...

[Bastion]

I just want to say one thing that I read that kinda irks me because i just dont understand, and this isnt going to sh1fty personally, but as a general statement to everyone. This "a mans got needs" bullshit. Like, really? If you love someone, then you love someone. I was married to a guy for 6 years. When I was with him I loved him so much that the general idea of having sex with anyone else turned me off. It actually made me feel nauseous. He became diabetic and was undiagnosed about 2 years into our relationship. The first couple years we were fucking all the time, but after he got sick the frequency became further and further apart. The longest we went with out having sex was 10 months. Yes, I was horny. Yes, I would get as close to begging with out actually begging. But never did I think "I should fuck someone else because I'm a man and I have needs.". Sex is not a necessary function of our bodies. It's not like eating and breathing. Trying to justify betraying someone you say you love by putting it down as "having needs" is selfish and not in the same vain as love.

Everyone here knows life is going to fuck you up. You can't count on anything. What are you going to do if your husband of 15 years gets paralyzed? No more sex. Are you going to betray 15 years of commitment and go somewhere else because you need to fuck?

Having a open releationship is a different story altogether and that a personal choice.

But, sh1fty, dont sell your self cheap. You guys were in a monogamous relationship at the time he cheated on you and thats not loyalty.... which is imo the most important virtue of what it means to be a man.

[sh1fty]

I just want to say one thing that I read that kinda irks me because i just dont understand, and this isnt going to sh1fty personally, but as a general statement to everyone. This "a mans got needs" bullshit. Like, really? If you love someone, then you love someone. I was married to a guy for 6 years. When I was with him I loved him so much that the general idea of having sex with anyone else turned me off. It actually made me feel nauseous. He became diabetic and was undiagnosed about 2 years into our relationship. The first couple years we were fucking all the time, but after he got sick the frequency became further and further apart. The longest we went with out having sex was 10 months. Yes, I was horny. Yes, I would get as close to begging with out actually begging. But never did I think "I should fuck someone else because I'm a man and I have needs.". Sex is not a necessary function of our bodies. It's not like eating and breathing. Trying to justify betraying someone you say you love by putting it down as "having needs" is selfish and not in the same vain as love.

Everyone here knows life is going to fuck you up. You can't count on anything. What are you going to do if your husband of 15 years gets paralyzed? No more sex. Are you going to betray 15 years of commitment and go somewhere else because you need to fuck?

Having a open releationship is a different story altogether and that a personal choice.

But, sh1fty, dont sell your self cheap. You guys were in a monogamous relationship at the time he cheated on you and thats not loyalty.... which is imo the most important virtue of what it means to be a man.

Yeah, I loved him a lot, though. He also told me the night we made the 'pact' he ended up sleeping with another guy. So what I had thought was him trying to show a good gesture turned out him having an excuse so it wouldn't be 'cheating'. I just feel like shit since I'm the one who got dumped when I didn't do anything wrong.

Oh well, such is life I suppose

Edit: And honestly, I do (did?) love him to death, and the only reason I went with that pact is because I thought he would be happier in the end. I'm really a more monogamous kind of guy and it did bother me to hear him talk about sex with other people.. but he seemed happier because of it..

[DrumlinerJoe]

You know interesting that you mention that Bastion. I had been thinking on the same line about how everyone says "Men will be men" and all that and how it's all instinct.

I think this tends to be a cop out for a lot of guys because a lot of them aren't willling to self sacrafice and compromise. I see a lot of relationships crumble cause people aren't willing to budge and actually give up part of themselves or their lives.

As far as the instinct thing goes, I've always held the mindset that there are a LOT of instinct that humans have, given that we're basically animals. But we also have brains. We can differentiate between a temporary physical desire and a commitment.

As far as open relationships go, I don't have a problem with them. I couldn't do it myself cause I know how I am. I think that they aren't for everyone, but people jump into them cause they think they are this easy thing that they can get used to.

Ay, such a mess of things I'm trying to say, but I don't think I'm articulating everything right.

[iwst99]

I just want to say one thing that I read that kinda irks me because i just dont understand, and this isnt going to sh1fty personally, but as a general statement to everyone. This "a mans got needs" bullshit. Like, really? If you love someone, then you love someone. I was married to a guy for 6 years. When I was with him I loved him so much that the general idea of having sex with anyone else turned me off. It actually made me feel nauseous. He became diabetic and was undiagnosed about 2 years into our relationship. The first couple years we were fucking all the time, but after he got sick the frequency became further and further apart. The longest we went with out having sex was 10 months. Yes, I was horny. Yes, I would get as close to begging with out actually begging. But never did I think "I should fuck someone else because I'm a man and I have needs.". Sex is not a necessary function of our bodies. It's not like eating and breathing. Trying to justify betraying someone you say you love by putting it down as "having needs" is selfish and not in the same vain as love.

Everyone here knows life is going to fuck you up. You can't count on anything. What are you going to do if your husband of 15 years gets paralyzed? No more sex. Are you going to betray 15 years of commitment and go somewhere else because you need to fuck?

I wish I could hug you right now.

I love the way you think. :)

For most of my sex life I was totally banging everything that moved, and all of the sudden something clicked in me and I didn't want any of that shit. Even when I was with someone we lived far but I used that as an excuse and slept around, but I didn't want that anymore and I realized I only did it cause I wasn't satisfied in my relationship. I feel exactly how you do about relationships, and I'm surprised to hear somebody else with the same viewpoint, especially in the gay community. Open relationships are a no no to me and not even a consideration, I only have eyes for my BF and don't want anyone else. Nor should my "means" be met by someone else because I am a man. I guess if I really had to I could JO and that would be that.

[sh1fty]

I'm with you guys, though I feel dirty now o.o

[Mechanica]

What do you base this on?
Everyone I've ever talked to (except probably you), but I should've been more clear.

I dunno how to phrase what I mean. They can work, but they don't work like a normal relationship? I don't know, you can't expect to get the same level of satisfaction from something long distance. To me you simply can't build it into what a relationship should be until you're close enough to be able to see each other now and again. Even just on weekends or every other weekend, but like any less than that, and IMO it doesn't work like a relationship. It's like a relationship-to-be, and it's never really gonna be right until you close the gap somewhat, or one of you could lose patience (and something like shifty's situation could happen). That's just how I see it, I don't have personal experience with very long distance relationships. Everyone I know who's in one seems pretty miserable to me though (the kind where you might as well be internet lovers, never see each other irl and all that). I guess I can't throw out baseless statements like 'they don't work' without being more clear.

Annnyyway, shifty, you're better off like this, from what I can tell. He's hurting you now but it'd hurt even more later, and it sounded like it was coming either way. Hope you're alright, though. Can't say that I know how you feel, but wish you well. <3

[Azagtoth]

I do think it's worth mentioning that people with sex pretty high on their priority list probably shouldn't get themselves into monogamous relationships in the first place, especially not the kind where you end up limiting your playing field to one person you won't have much access to.

While I do 100% agree with a guy having needs (obviously this doesn't apply to everyone, particularly the more old fashioned types who see sex as more than just a fun time), I also agree that using it as a justification to cheat in a monogamous relationship is fucking retarded because it's little more than an admission of defeat. If anything, it's more of a justification for why the relationship probably shouldn't continue; if your needs aren't being met, then clearly it's not working out.

sh1fty, I'm sorry to hear he dumped you and gave you such a bullshit reason for it. An LDR is a tough road, though, needless to say he couldn't handle it even considering you guys were in the same state (I know what it is to not have that luxury :().

Personally, I'm not ready for monogamy at all (I guess the manlust is TOO strong haha), and if my unfortunately brief but eye opening experience in a triad is of any indication, I'm not going to rule out the possibility that it may very well not be for me. I'm still young and have plenty of time to figure myself out, so I'm in no rush. Either way, I'm not the jealous type in the least, so open relationships are cool with me. Sharing is caring. :)

[great cow lord]

@sh1fty , sorry to hear. it's like you got double whammy! you'll fine someone who appreciates you for you~
make you feel any better, play me in sf4 on live.I'll let you win a round~ ;o

if i was you, I would find him and slash his tires. /ghetto

[Bastion]

You know interesting that you mention that Bastion. I had been thinking on the same line about how everyone says "Men will be men" and all that and how it's all instinct.

I think this tends to be a cop out for a lot of guys because a lot of them aren't willling to self sacrafice and compromise. I see a lot of relationships crumble cause people aren't willing to budge and actually give up part of themselves or their lives.

As far as the instinct thing goes, I've always held the mindset that there are a LOT of instinct that humans have, given that we're basically animals. But we also have brains. We can differentiate between a temporary physical desire and a commitment.


Instinct in humans can be argued about forever. But, I belong to the side that believes humans have no instincts. Instincts are defined as not having to be learned and be irresitable (among a few other criteria). When we talk about Sex in humans, firstly it is learned, and secondly it isn't irresistable (not in the true definition of the word). Even eating isnt a instinct because a person can starve themself.

Yes, we are animals. But we are different. We have the closest thing to freewill that will ever exist. And the greatest difference between a man and a animal is a man can make a sacrifice. No animal can decide to jeopardize it's own well being for anything.

[The Green Trench Coat]

He broke up with me. I'm not mature enough for a relationship :/

I'm crushed :(

this is gonna sound so cold....

but..



"meh"

project yourself a year from now. and look at this situation.

DLJ makes an excellent point in that it might be good for you to not reflect on the sadness but see what you learned from this relationship. I'll tell you daddy has lived.. i've been through all kinds of breakups but i must say i learned a little something from everyone. Mostly stuff about me. If nothing else .. you now have a better idea of what you'd prefer in a relation ship.


as for him.. lemme tell you something sweetie..
Don't ever waist a minute being sad about someone who doesn't want you. Ex one to the next one till you find the best one.

*bearhugs*

I just want to say one thing that I read that kinda irks me because i just dont understand, and this isnt going to sh1fty personally, but as a general statement to everyone. This "a mans got needs" bullshit. Like, really? If you love someone, then you love someone. I was married to a guy for 6 years. When I was with him I loved him so much that the general idea of having sex with anyone else turned me off. It actually made me feel nauseous. He became diabetic and was undiagnosed about 2 years into our relationship. The first couple years we were fucking all the time, but after he got sick the frequency became further and further apart. The longest we went with out having sex was 10 months. Yes, I was horny. Yes, I would get as close to begging with out actually begging. But never did I think "I should fuck someone else because I'm a man and I have needs.". Sex is not a necessary function of our bodies. It's not like eating and breathing. Trying to justify betraying someone you say you love by putting it down as "having needs" is selfish and not in the same vain as love.

Everyone here knows life is going to fuck you up. You can't count on anything. What are you going to do if your husband of 15 years gets paralyzed? No more sex. Are you going to betray 15 years of commitment and go somewhere else because you need to fuck?

Having a open releationship is a different story altogether and that a personal choice.

But, sh1fty, dont sell your self cheap. You guys were in a monogamous relationship at the time he cheated on you and thats not loyalty.... which is imo the most important virtue of what it means to be a man.

kudos to you. but in a way .. i'm sure you masturbated during the time you werent having sex. Were you always masturbating thinking about your husband? just curious actually. You are a better man than I. If the man i was with got paralyzed and we couldn't have sex... wait paraplegic or quad? cause i mean if he's still got a mouth...

I mean i aggree there is more to a relationship than sex .. but sex is definitely an important part of it.

(I guess the manlust is TOO strong haha), and if my unfortunately brief but eye opening experience in a triad is of any indication, I'm not going to rule out the possibility that it may very well not be for me. I'm still young and have plenty of time to figure myself out, so I'm in no rush. Either way, I'm not the jealous type in the least, so open relationships are cool with me. Sharing is caring. :)

amen brother!

[Bastion]

kudos to you. but in a way .. i'm sure you masturbated during the time you werent having sex. Were you always masturbating thinking about your husband? just curious actually. You are a better man than I. If the man i was with got paralyzed and we couldn't have sex... wait paraplegic or quad? cause i mean if he's still got a mouth...

I mean i aggree there is more to a relationship than sex .. but sex is definitely an important part of it.


Yeah, when I jacked off I thought of him 95% of the time. But the nature of thought when we beat it is like, these flashes and fragments of scenes, previous sexual encounters. Like a montage of the past, present, and fantasy. When shit started going bad in the relationship in the last year I think I was probally fantacising about other men (fictional or otherwise) more. And I would watch porn of course.

I've thought about killing someone, that doesnt make me a murderer. ;)

I'm not a better man than any other man. Just my own man. And thankfully for each of us the most important aspect of being a man is we get to choose what kind of man we want to be.

Initially sex is important. And it becomes less important. And then, once your old, and you are with the person you can't imagine ever being without you'll think about sex and laugh. Like a baby blanket you once held it in such high regard, and your good temperment relied on it's nearby proximity, and then you'll discard it as the novelty of flesh and youth that it is.

Now I sound like a prude. lol. But nah, I fuck my ex twice a week still cause that ass is crazy tight and I love his fat portuguese cock. But, im 25 and full of vigor. I got alot of life to live. :razzy:

[sh1fty]

I appreciate the support fellas. I just have trouble controlling my sex drive. When you get off ~12 times a day your hand just starts to get boring..

[DrumlinerJoe]

Well you said you're 19 right? I think everyone has trouble controlling it at that age.

[sh1fty]

Yeah, I'm 19. Heh, I figured as much!

[DrumlinerJoe]

All good man. You got plenty of time to brush it off as a learning experience. Not to just write off your mourning time, but trust me man, it'll get better.

[JustB]

12 times a day?


...:amazed:

[Lobelia Prime]

My record is five. I was trying really hard.

[angryliberal]

I'm 30 and I still could masturbate 12 times a day. I don't think my sex drive is much different now than it was at 18...I don't get this "After a while, it's not as important" shit with sex. I'm not trying to be confrontational here, I just think sex will always be a pretty important part of my life...

[iwst99]

I'm 30 and I still could masturbate 12 times a day. I don't think my sex drive is much different now than it was at 18...I don't get this "After a while, it's not as important" shit with sex. I'm not trying to be confrontational here, I just think sex will always be a pretty important part of my life...

Yeah, not everyone's that way.

I've been with guys in their 60s, some wanted it everyday, few times a day if possible.

I've been with guys in their 40s that only wanted it once a week.

You can't generalize, it's a per person basis.

[angryliberal]

You can't generalize, it's a per person basis.

This is SRK...generalization is as commonplace as yellow fever...and apparently bear love among the gay community here at SRK...

[DrumlinerJoe]

I think it's every where in the gay gamer community. You should check out gaygamer.net. The whole bear love thing is just as rampant there.

[angryliberal]

so yellow fever is to straight gamers as bears are to gay gamers? Interesting...

[iwst99]

Haha, awesome.

[DrumlinerJoe]

Seems like it.

[sh1fty]

I love bears.


That is all~

[Zugi]

I feel so out of the loop. I don't have a thing for bears.

[iwst99]

I love bears.


That is all~

I have a shirt that says Bear Hunter and has a bear flag colored paw print. ^_^

[Mechanica]

But, I belong to the side that believes humans have no instincts.

Really? I don't consider sex an instinct (well, we'll never truly know but maybe it was back in the day before intelligent communication) but you really think humans have no instincts? You've never felt that inherent fight or flight response? Or like if you saw an abandoned baby your first thought wouldn't be to help it (coming from someone who hates children :lol: ). When someone you care about gets hurt in your presence you don't have that instinctual "!" feeling?

I get all sorts of gut instinct feelings. Really doesn't seem like anything affected/learned.

[Bastion]

shit, twelve times a day! now i really wish i lived next door. lol. my record was 8 times, I didnt go for 9 because I was actually ejaculating a little blood. My urethra was raw. I whack it at least twice a day now. That is mandatory. Sometimes more. But I find that anymore then 4 and my dick gets raw because I have these really intense razor like callouses on my hand from work.

[Bastion]

Really? I don't consider sex an instinct (well, we'll never truly know but maybe it was back in the day before intelligent communication) but you really think humans have no instincts? You've never felt that inherent fight or flight response? Or like if you saw an abandoned baby your first thought wouldn't be to help it (coming from someone who hates children :lol: ). When someone you care about gets hurt in your presence you don't have that instinctual "!" feeling?

I get all sorts of gut instinct feelings. Really doesn't seem like anything affected/learned.

Well, like I said its debatable. Its one of those philosophical things that will probally never be agreed on. Your talking about altruism, and technically its not truly irresitable. There are boys in afghanistan being raped so bad that their intestines drag in the dirt after the assault. I know this is happening. And I lose sleep over it. But im not doing anything to solve the problem. The closest thing we do that is instinctual is sleep. It is irresitable. It isnt learned. It never changes, our method of sleeping stays constant our entire lives.

google this shit. its actually an interesting read. im just regurgitating shit ive read anyway.

[sh1fty]

I wish you lived next door too :D


And, as a psychology major, I do believe we as humans have instincts, ESPECIALLY 'fight or flight'

[DrumlinerJoe]

We should just build one giant dorm for gay fighters somewhere.

[sh1fty]

Naked pillow fight in my room, k?

[BeaTs*]

haha

except you'll get rid of all the pillows I'm sure. dang, what else is there to do nekkid?

oh, and on the current (or previous?) subject: I feel we have a few, less common, instincts...but I don't believe in the "need" to fuck (others) when you are truly in love with someone : /