The Woman/Girl Thread: Sex, Relationships, FAQs Pt. 2

[tahoo]

I just don't have the balls to go up to a girl and introduce myself:shake:

They say that everything in life is about how bad you want it...I want a girlfriend..fuck I just want to lose my virginity without having to pay for it.

Starting this week I'll try to make conversations with chicks...this is insane. I already threw away my teens, not gonna do that with my 20s.

Posting here to keep me on track. I MUST get laid.

[DarkNecrid]

I just don't have the balls to go up to a girl and introduce myself:shake:

They say that everything in life is about how bad you want it...I want a girlfriend..fuck I just want to lose my virginity without having to pay for it.

Starting this week I'll try to make conversations with chicks...this is insane. I already threw away my teens, not gonna do that with my 20s.

Posting here to keep me on track. I MUST get laid.

Man up!

Why are you scared to talk to a girl?

[tahoo]

Man up!

Why are you scared to talk to a girl?

Zero confidence in myself...too many insecurities.

Plus I worry that if I get a woman in bed I won't perform well because I've never done it. Girls these days start being sexually active at age 14-17...I'm freaking 20 and never even kissed a girl.

I've considered a prostitute but honestly I think that's gonna fuck me up.

[Dasiatic]

story

you should not have dressed as fresh as you did that day.
why walk the streets of flatbush looking fly as hell for?

[SF_PHOCUS]

you should not have dressed as fresh as you did that day.
why walk the streets of flatbush looking fly as hell for?

hmm... i wasnt fresh... now that i think i did have on this basketball tournament jersey from this tourny i played in earlier that summer.. and i had on the white and blue 16's....

[BaSiK_TeKniK]

Motherfucker don't let High School pass you by. (Excuse my language lolz)

Don't make the same mistake I did... I went through High school with the whole attitude of I don't need bitches. Then again I also rode the school bus from grades 5-12 ROFL. YES NIGGA 12th grade I rode the bus... how do you tell the ladies that with out them laughing at your ass. I was too afraid to ask girls out because I wouldn't be able to take them anywhere unless my mommy and daddy where going to drop us off. I didn't get my license until I got to college. That's when I started offering chicks rides to lunch and shit at my University :china:

(Where I use to live GA everyone had a license this isn't New York/Korea where everyone takes the Subway/buses and shit)

Anyways I'm rambling yet again. Don't make excuses for not getting chicks in High School. HIGH SCHOOL IS LIKE FREE PLAY in an arcade game, take advantage of the free games. HS chicks want that dick you just gotta go after it and don't say all chicks are taken. HS school is easy pickings do they have wedding band on their finger (95% of HS kids shouldn't be married hopefully :confused: ) Boyfriends don't mean shit in HS, some girls go through boyfriends like school semesters. You already lost if you have that mentality that the girl you want to approach might have a boyfriend or will think I'm a loser.


thanks :sweat:
as soon as I get back to school from winter break im steppin my game up!

[SF_PHOCUS]

thanks :sweat:
as soon as I get back to school from winter break im steppin my game up!

its easy to say that... but will u really do it thats the question...:confused:

[Havoc]

Exactly. People that spend a lot of time in their own heads instead of looking at htemselves always from a social perspective tend to have a lot of things personally figured out that the others don't. These are also the people most likely to figure out things without havng to experience them firsthand.

About that talking black garbage, I get that a lot. I rarely respond to it because I figure that people who think like that don't have sense enough to deal with it, but I really should just step up and let them know that shit ain't cool.

I remember years ago in high school, I went to Governor's School over the summer. I found out about halfway through that people thought I was stuck up because I wasn't talking to people. I was like, what the fuck? I'm SHY. I don't talk to people because nobody talks to me and/or there's no specific conversational context. Man, I was the accidental mack there after that, though. I didn't do shit and had 5 or 6 different girls jocking me. And I, naturally, didn't put 2 and 2 together until much later.

Wow. You sound exactly like me growing up. People used to think I was stuck up because I didn't talk to people that much. Not stuck up... I just didn't talk to people without a purpose. I still don't, and people still think I'm stuck up. I guess I am now to some extent because I really don't give a fuck...

Turns out... the only people that will call you stuck up are the girls that are mad you're not talking to them...

Co-sign the piece about introverts also. I'm like that. I don't have any real desire to be liked, so I tend to not think of myself in social terms. I think I'm much better off for it.

[Dasiatic]

its easy to say that... but will u really do it thats the question...:confused:

yeah, Teknik's a pussy. he wont do shit.
you'd see the nigga standing there for a good hour thinking of what to say while she's already preparing to leave.

[GreyFoxx]

Pherai- Yeah im a LDR always some how get the chicks that seem too strike my fancy yet live states away sheesh. I know the bain of any relationship is distance.

SF_Phocus- Have nothing close too be honest i dont think there is anything close. I am talking too some chick online but we all know how those go...

Dasiatic- Yes i can pronicate some workds longer then a witty line of text. Sheesh dont know how you guys pull the chicks and numbers respect mad respect!!!

[DarkNecrid]

Zero confidence in myself...too many insecurities.

Plus I worry that if I get a woman in bed I won't perform well because I've never done it. Girls these days start being sexually active at age 14-17...I'm freaking 20 and never even kissed a girl.

I've considered a prostitute but honestly I think that's gonna fuck me up.

1- get some confidence. If something goes wrong, yeah, someone might hate you. You can't win over everyone, and that definitely applies to women.

2- Don't worry that you won't perform well. You won't. No one ever does 1st time around. If everyone worried that they wouldn't perform well, well...we'd be a dead race already. Sex should never ever be about how well you perform anyways...granted that helps, but it should be about the bond you two share.

3- It's okay, I know a guy in his 50s who has never kissed a girl / got laid. Some people just never have it happen / don't want it to happen. If you want it to happen, it will come. Just make sure the girl knows you're new at everything. If she truly has feelings for you, she'll have no problems teaching you, bet on it.

[tahoo]

I will try to get laid ASAP.

If I ever lose my purpose or feel intimidated I will look at this thread and my claims. Seriuosly pussy can't be THAT hard to get

[DarkNecrid]

I will try to get laid ASAP.

If I ever lose my purpose or feel intimidated I will look at this thread and my claims. Seriously pussy can't be THAT hard to get

Don't try to get laid ASAP! It will only ruin your first time experience (come on man, don't you want it to be special? Espically after all this time.) and more-than-likely you won't have a girl who will want to teach you in that case.

Generally girls who get you laid ASAP want guys with experience cause they are in it for the thrill of the fuck, not the thrill of the fuck with you.

[sainthuey]

what do you guys use for your openers, like in public? just straight introduce yourself and ask for her name and then go from there? I usually use a compliment like "oh, what kind of jacket is that?....oh cool where'd you get it?" and go like that.

[Dasiatic]

what do you guys use for your openers, like in public? just straight introduce yourself and ask for her name and then go from there? I usually use a compliment like "oh, what kind of jacket is that?....oh cool where'd you get it?" and go like that.

PHOC can handle this. where is he?

anyway, Blank likes to knock his women out cold and drag them into his house. very effective for dealing with the bitchy types.



Dasiatic- Yes i can pronicate some workds longer then a witty line of text. Sheesh dont know how you guys pull the chicks and numbers respect mad respect!!!

i just cant help but admire how cute your av is everytime you post. i want to snuggle you.

[Silentness!]

Had a long AIM discussion with one of my guy friends and now I realize that I need to tell this girl how I truly feel for her.

EVERYONE sees us as boyfriend/girlfriend. Hell even the taxi driver told us your "Girlfriend" has beautiful eyes. I can't play in the buddy category anymore...

I'm not going to fall into the friend zone category when I realized that I've met a girl that I'm truly in love with. (Ok maybe love is a strong word, but I can't see myself with anyone else at the moment)

It's not that one-itis shit... I've known her for a while now and realized how good I have it.

[GreyFoxx]

PHOC can handle this. where is he?

anyway, Blank likes to knock his women out cold and drag them into his house. very effective for dealing with the bitchy types.



i just cant help but admire how cute your av is everytime you post. i want to snuggle you.

LOL you know im a guy but hey the ava is atleast little bit cute...never finished that anime anyway. Carry on.

[DarkNecrid]

Had a long AIM discussion with one of my guy friends and now I realize that I need to tell this girl how I truly feel for her.

EVERYONE sees us as boyfriend/girlfriend. Hell even the taxi driver told us your "Girlfriend" has beautiful eyes. I can't play in the buddy category anymore...

I'm not going to fall into the friend zone category when I realized that I've met a girl that I'm truly in love with. (Ok maybe love is a strong word, but I can't see myself with anyone else at the moment)

It's not that one-itis shit... I've known her for a while now and realized how good I have it.

Good luck Ness, hope it turns out well for you. :)

(did she correct the taxi driver? If not, things are definately looking good...)

[Silentness!]

Good luck Ness, hope it turns out well for you. :)

(did she correct the taxi driver? If not, things are definately looking good...)

well actually she did say No to the taxi driver :wasted:
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She's completely oblivious to the fact that I like her more than as a friend, but I'm so good at being a pussy. Here's how things went down (It's like 8:05 PM Saturday right now)

Anyways Friday night she wanted to go out on Saturday so I agreed and told her to meet me at my room at 9 AM. So yeah following day she came at 9:05 (heh she was ready to go before I was even ready) She wanted to see my arcade because last week I told her that I went there on Sunday because she asked where I went. So we took the subway got to the arcade and I showed her it (it was embarassing, how the fuck do you show an arcade to a girl without feeling nerdy)

Anyways she asked if I wanted to play and I said no. So we left and went sightseeing and shit then ate blah blah blah. Towards the end of Saturday we went back to the arcade to see if I would see anyone I know from SRK, but they weren't there so we played 2 games of Melty Blood and left. (YES she wanted to play me in Melty blood hahaha... I suck ass at that game, but I still had to sandbag so that I would make it easier on her.) She told me I use the same move over and over. That's because Nero Chaos is a bitch and has to spam Jumping C button "HOAAAH HOAAAH.. hahahaha cheap ass move" (She was actually whipping my ass one round doing combos... wtf!? She doesn't even play games)

Ok I've been rambling: It all comes down to me not being aggressive since the first day I met her. Normally a girl would realize that I'm hitting on her, but she was in a relationship when I met her so I got stuck with the friendly vibe. When she broke up with her boyfriend I slowly started picking up the pace.

So cliff notes version I first knew her when she was in a relationship and that put me in the friends category for a while. She broke up with her BF and now I need to let her know that I'm trying to be the replacement...

That's why she said No in the Taxi because every hint/clue I gave her goes right over her head about me liking her.

[DarkNecrid]

:rofl

Ah...well just be direct.

Good luck!

And if she says yes y'know...make sure to provide some pics...for research. On dating .

[Silentness!]

My heart was pounding like a little bitch. She came to my room and I had it all planned out, but when she asked to go to the movies with me and her EX I straight up said NO.

I struggled to tell her that I liked her because FUCK it was so random. She eventually realized why I was acting so weird: "Do you like me...?" My response *sigh* "Yeah..."

Then she was all like "Ugh everyone likes me. I'm not ready to get back into a relationship. Did you know <insert other guy's name> liked me as well? I can't believe this is happening (she's really sad at this point). There are so many girls here! Don't you know the guy to girl ratio. (I'm too fucking heart broken/stunned to tell her that she's not just any ordinary girl amongst the odds) Can we still hang out?"

I told her NO again. (Fuck that friend zone bull shit... I'm not falling for that shit) It hurt me to tell her no, but I had to man the fuck up and tell her: "I need some space away from you because I have actual feelings for you"

She told me to email her if we wanted to do something. She still wants to be my friend, but I don't want to be her friend anymore. I asked her if she understood what I'm talking about and she agreed.
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I'm not sad at all. I'm fucking happy as hell... I lifted a huge fucking boulder off my chest. I'm no longer in the FRIEND ZONE. She now knows my true feelings for her and I told her if she's going to keep seeing me as just a friend I need some space away from her.

[SF_PHOCUS]

My heart was pounding like a little bitch. She came to my room and I had it all planned out, but when she asked to go to the movies with me and her EX I straight up said NO.

I struggled to tell her that I liked her because FUCK it was so random. She eventually realized why I was acting so weird: "Do you like me...?" My response *sigh* "Yeah..."

Then she was all like "Ugh everyone likes me. I'm not ready to get back into a relationship. Did you know <insert other guy's name> liked me as well? I can't believe this is happening (she's really sad at this point). There are so many girls here! Don't you know the guy to girl ratio. (I'm too fucking heart broken/stunned to tell her that she's not just any ordinary girl amongst the odds) Can we still hang out?"

I told her NO again. (Fuck that friend zone bull shit... I'm not falling for that shit) It hurt me to tell her no, but I had to man the fuck up and tell her: "I need some space away from you because I have actual feelings for you"

She told me to email her if we wanted to do something. She still wants to be my friend, but I don't want to be her friend anymore. I asked her if she understood what I'm talking about and she agreed.
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I'm not sad at all. I'm fucking happy as hell... I lifted a huge fucking boulder off my chest. I'm no longer in the FRIEND ZONE. She now knows my true feelings for her and I told her if she's going to keep seeing me as just a friend I need some space away from her.

lol in the words of Nick cage from face-off... BRAVO BRAVO BRA-FUCKING-VO!!!
its about time u grew some balls!!! i know that was like an anvil lifted off ur shoulders!!!:woot:

lol watch give her like a week... she will hit u up regarding wat u said... THEN U WILL BE IN CONTROL!!! ::does dr. evil laugh MUHHHAHAHAHAHAHA: lol

[Silentness!]

Exactly she has two choices: A) Realize how much she enjoys my company and takes it to another level or B) We just gotta go separate ways
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She doesn't know what the fuck she's doing to people by manipulating them. I know she's in pain because of her EX, but she shouldn't try to drag others to her level.

[SF_PHOCUS]

what do you guys use for your openers, like in public? just straight introduce yourself and ask for her name and then go from there? I usually use a compliment like "oh, what kind of jacket is that?....oh cool where'd you get it?" and go like that.

lol i was knocked out last night... when u have 2 of the best chinese food spots in brooklyn just 2 blocks from ur house u tend to catch niggaritis real quick... anyway honestly there isnt a really bad opener... its all on how u deliver it... for instance lets take (for example purposes) Daz someone who is pretty dam good at gettin girls and joe schmoe who isnt that good at gettin girls...

lets say DAZ and Joe get the same exact line... now because DAZ understands fully wats goin on he knows that he doesnt even have to say the line... he could write it on a fuckin piece of paper and hand it to her and get the same affect as if he were to say it to her...

On the other hand Joe isnt too good at gettin girls so hes a little bit insecure.. and because hes so insecure other things start happening... he starts rocking.. he starts figiting with his fingers... instead of makin DIRECT eye contact he looks down once she looks at him... so once he finally say the line the girl would have already made the decision that this guy is a loser....

Point of the story is it doesnt make wat u say its how u say it....:china:

[SF_PHOCUS]

Exactly she has two choices: A) Realize how much she enjoys my company and takes it to another level or B) We just gotta go separate ways
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She doesn't know what the fuck she's doing to people by manipulating them. I know she's in pain because of her EX, but she shouldn't try to drag others to her level.

once a girl is hurt/has baggage its very hard to do anything at all... i can say this cause my last relationship was like that... the bitch had baggage and she brought it into the relationship... if she has baggage id advise u to stay away.... put the X up wif ur fingers like she was a vampire cause girls like that until they figure shit out are gonna cause u nothing but heartache and pain:sad:

[Silentness!]

Point of the story is it doesnt make wat u say its how u say it....:china:

Pretty much. I'm pretty good at giving advice and coming up with solutions, but sometimes when I'm put to the actual challenge I fucking flinch/shutdown.
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Exactly how I felt when I had to tell her that I can't be FZed anymore. I thought I could say it easily with full confidence, but the outcome was so fucking huge that I was dumbfounded when it was "Go-time" she had to answer for me :confused:

All goes back to the textbook jocky and no actual gameplay. Someone that never goes to tournaments can't be good just by watching videos.

[Dasiatic]

well actually she did say No to the taxi driver :wasted:
__________

She's completely oblivious to the fact that I like her more than as a friend, but I'm so good at being a pussy. Here's how things went down (It's like 8:05 PM Saturday right now)

Anyways Friday night she wanted to go out on Saturday so I agreed and told her to meet me at my room at 9 AM. So yeah following day she came at 9:05 (heh she was ready to go before I was even ready) She wanted to see my arcade because last week I told her that I went there on Sunday because she asked where I went. So we took the subway got to the arcade and I showed her it (it was embarassing, how the fuck do you show an arcade to a girl without feeling nerdy)

Anyways she asked if I wanted to play and I said no. So we left and went sightseeing and shit then ate blah blah blah. Towards the end of Saturday we went back to the arcade to see if I would see anyone I know from SRK, but they weren't there so we played 2 games of Melty Blood and left. (YES she wanted to play me in Melty blood hahaha... I suck ass at that game, but I still had to sandbag so that I would make it easier on her.) She told me I use the same move over and over. That's because Nero Chaos is a bitch and has to spam Jumping C button "HOAAAH HOAAAH.. hahahaha cheap ass move" (She was actually whipping my ass one round doing combos... wtf!? She doesn't even play games)

Ok I've been rambling: It all comes down to me not being aggressive since the first day I met her. Normally a girl would realize that I'm hitting on her, but she was in a relationship when I met her so I got stuck with the friendly vibe. When she broke up with her boyfriend I slowly started picking up the pace.

So cliff notes version I first knew her when she was in a relationship and that put me in the friends category for a while. She broke up with her BF and now I need to let her know that I'm trying to be the replacement...

That's why she said No in the Taxi because every hint/clue I gave her goes right over her head about me liking her.

the taxi man? lol. i think he was fucking with you. yeah, you're right. you weren't aggressive. passiveness doesn't win here.
let me put this shit in anime terms for you, who's more likely to get girls on the daily?
Jin or Mugen?

My heart was pounding like a little bitch. She came to my room and I had it all planned out, but when she asked to go to the movies with me and her EX I straight up said NO.

I struggled to tell her that I liked her because FUCK it was so random. She eventually realized why I was acting so weird: "Do you like me...?" My response *sigh* "Yeah..."

Then she was all like "Ugh everyone likes me. I'm not ready to get back into a relationship. Did you know <insert other guy's name> liked me as well? I can't believe this is happening (she's really sad at this point). There are so many girls here! Don't you know the guy to girl ratio. (I'm too fucking heart broken/stunned to tell her that she's not just any ordinary girl amongst the odds) Can we still hang out?"

I told her NO again. (Fuck that friend zone bull shit... I'm not falling for that shit) It hurt me to tell her no, but I had to man the fuck up and tell her: "I need some space away from you because I have actual feelings for you"

She told me to email her if we wanted to do something. She still wants to be my friend, but I don't want to be her friend anymore. I asked her if she understood what I'm talking about and she agreed.
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I'm not sad at all. I'm fucking happy as hell... I lifted a huge fucking boulder off my chest. I'm no longer in the FRIEND ZONE. She now knows my true feelings for her and I told her if she's going to keep seeing me as just a friend I need some space away from her.

ooooh man. sorry to hear that. that little bitch! how dare she say that shit to you!!?
alright man first off. i dont think you were being aggressive enough.
because when you finally broke it to her, she had to think back at all the things you've done together and question on how she currently feels about you now. dont give up yet.
her response was STRICTLY based on how she felt about you at the moment.

unfortunatly, right now, she sees you as every other guy who had liked her.
so now that she's KNOWS you like her, she has the advantage over you. she's dominant in the friendship, and well, shes bored of it, apprently. dont get pissed. there are ways to handle this, but its hella hard work. you'll have to convince her that you no longer care, so MAYBE JUST MAYBE she'd see you as a stronger man than the rest.

show her that you're doing well without her. lets hope that this gets her to think differently about you. if you make any moves at her, she just keep thinking you like her. and since she had already turned you down before, she'll do it again. this is something women enjoy doing.


Exactly she has two choices: A) Realize how much she enjoys my company and takes it to another level or B) We just gotta go separate ways
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She doesn't know what the fuck she's doing to people by manipulating them. I know she's in pain because of her EX, but she shouldn't try to drag others to her level.

or, she has C) choose any of these other boys who likes her D) get back with BF she broke up with, E) she completely puts down relationships for now, and focuses on other things.
F) say fuck it, and term into a lesbo.

[Ill E]

girls until they figure shit out are gonna cause u nothing but heartache and pain:sad:

true story. the ones that dont know what they want...

"Aint brought nothin' to the table but hard times and heartache..." -Tip "I Cant Be Your Man"

Generally girls who get you laid ASAP want guys with experience cause they are in it for the thrill of the fuck, not the thrill of the fuck with you.

This isn't necessarily a bad thing. The guy is just TWENTY years old....he doesnt need to be searching for the love of his life right now....

[Silentness!]

you'll have to convince her that you no longer care, so MAYBE JUST MAYBE she'd see you as a stronger man than the rest.

show her that you're doing well without her. lets hope that this gets her to think differently about you. if you make any moves at her, she just keep thinking you like her. and since she had already turned you down before, she'll do it again. this is something women enjoy doing.


haha you don't know me very well. When I break the friend zone I keep it that way... I told her I wanted "space away from her" for a reason. She told me to email her if we we wanted to do something, but I'm not going to email her or do shit because I want her to think of what she done to me! I really don't care if we no longer see each other at all anymore I'm just glad it finally hit her how I actually feel about her.

PS: She does have her EX by the balls, he's so got damn pathetic, but she took his virginity so what could you expect the guy probably thinks he can't get any other girls.

[Dasiatic]

haha you don't know me very well. When I break the friend zone I keep it that way... I told her I wanted "space away from her" for a reason. She told me to email her if we we wanted to do something, but I'm not going to email her or do shit because I want her to think of what she done to me! I really don't care if we no longer see each other at all anymore I'm just glad it finally hit her how I actually feel about her.

PS: She does have her EX by the balls, he's so got damn pathetic, but she took his virginity so what could you expect the guy probably thinks he can't get any other girls.

but she's not going to think about what she had done to you. thats what im trying to say.
you told me that she said she had mad other boys liking her, correct? she has the ability to choose other people. so what have you done to her lately that makes you confident that she'll rethink this over? if anything, she probaly moved on long ago but still would'nt mind if you two were to hang out sometime again. meaning that shes not even thinking about it anymore.
she turned you down, and you handled it like a child. thats whats going on in her mind.

she said "no", and you decided to give her the "im not talking to you, its through" treatment. what do you think she'll do with all these other guys around her? or what about her life in general?
she's gonna do that JayZ "brush that shit off your shoulders" and move on.
mainly because you were'nt aggresive from the very beginning.

[pherai]

Pherai- Yeah im a LDR always some how get the chicks that seem too strike my fancy yet live states away sheesh. I know the bain of any relationship is distance.

Ugh, that complicates things. It seems like every relationship you guys have is supposed to hold the possibility of marriage. Don't know if I could help you there. Can't even put myself in that mindset.

[Silentness!]

she turned you down, and you handled it like a child. thats whats going on in her mind.

she said "no", and you decided to give her the "im not talking to you, its through" treatment. what do you think she'll do with all these other guys around her? or what about her life in general?
she's gonna do that JayZ "brush that shit off your shoulders" and move on.
mainly because you were'nt aggresive from the very beginning.

1) I didn't turn her down like a child. Any self respecting man would get out of any type of relationship when they realize they are being tormented by the "Friend Zone". I clearly told her "YOU UNDERSTAND RIGHT?" I made it as professional as possible. I didn't yell at her, I talked in a calm tone and told her that I couldn't hang around her anymore due to the uneven feelings.
2)Weren't aggressive from the beginning? I've known her since maybe August and I only liked her as a friend back in that time. She was in a relationship and I respected that. The more time I spent being with her as she had a BF the more time I digged myself into the FZ.

3) What did I bring to table? I have no idea; that's her opinion as to what I had brought to the table. I do know that she's obsessed with taking me places.

4) I have a life. So showing her that I can be better off is quite easy lol! I had to sacrifice my own "ME" time to go out with her as just a buddy that's just not RIGHT.

5) She can easily get with her EX or any other guy. I'm fine with that... just don't use me as one of your escort buddies.

[Dasiatic]

1) I didn't turn her down like a child. Any self respecting man would get out of any type of relationship when they realize they are being tormented by the "Friend Zone". I clearly told her "YOU UNDERSTAND RIGHT?" I made it as professional as possible. I didn't yell at her, I talked in a calm tone and told her that I couldn't hang around her anymore do to my feelings.

2)Weren't aggressive from the beginning? I've known her since maybe August and I only liked her as a friend back in that time. She was in a relationship and I respected that. The more time I spent being with her as she had a BF the more time I digged myself into the FZ.

3) What did I bring to table? I have no idea; that's her opinion as to what I had brought to the table. I do know that she's obsessed with taking me places.

4) I have a life. So showing her that I can be better off is quite easy lol! I had to sacrifice my own "ME" time to go out with her as just a buddy that's just not RIGHT.

5) She can easily get with her EX or any other guy. I'm fine with that... just don't use me as one of your escort buddies.

i understood your situation. i just did'nt agree with how you handled the rejection.
she seemed to like you probaly because you did'nt make it known that you had liked her like the rest of the boys did. so she proebaly felt safe.

i dont know man, id say something like "ok, well if thats how you feel, your loss." not the "do you understand how i felt for you" and "i need space now". to me, that sounded babyish, as if she had hurt you badly.
im not calling you baby, just the way you said it.

[Silentness!]

I didn't say anything about how I felt for her (my posts aren't making sense :confused:)
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She was the one that finally said: "Do you like me" and all I said was yeah. That was it, I didn't get all dramatic & shit confessing how much I like her. I asked if she understood why I needed space from her.

1) She DID hurt me.
2) I never actually mentioned my feelings for her.
3) Like many of the people above me have posted, I realized that she needs to deal with her own baggage situation with me out of the equation. If that makes me sound childish I guess that's the road I have to take

[Dasiatic]

I didn't say anything about how I felt for her (my posts aren't making sense :confused:)
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She was the one that finally said: "Do you like me" and all I said was yeah. That was it, I didn't get all dramatic & shit confessing how much I like her. I asked if she understood why I needed space from her.

1) She DID hurt me.
2) I never actually mentioned my feelings for her.
3) Like many of the people above me have posted, I realized that she needs to deal with her own baggage situation with me out of the equation. If that makes me sound childish I guess that's the road I have to take


nah, i was talking about what you said to her after she turned down any chances of you two being together.
or wait....did you tell that you were going to space yourself from her because of her situation? or because you were hurt?
maybe thats my confusion.

[FallingEdge]

There is nothing wrong with the way he handled the situation. He really liked her a lot and he let his feeling known to her. It is understandable that he want some space and does not want to be friends with her as that was not his intention all along. And he let her know that. He didn't yell at her and he didn't curse her out. It was handled very maturely IMO.

[Silentness!]

@FallingEdge: Will you marry me!? No homo... but you hit it right on the spot
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Nah there's just confusion all around :rofl:

In simple terms... she's cool with me having space; or she wouldn't have calmly left my room and say that if we ever want to go out to email her or whatever. Hell when her BF broke up with her she screamed and called him a fucking loser. So I got the calm reaction...
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But yeah I told her I needed space because:

1) It'll be awkward for a while hanging out together because she knows that I like her.
2) I need some time to think about what she said and vice versa (Dude I know she's not going to forget about me... and some guys that I know from the states are coming to Korea soon and work with her. They will be asking her how I'm doing and that's just going to refresh her memories of me)
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It's not like I said: "Dammit why don't you love me... I don't want to see your face anymore" I just simply politely told her I needed some space for a while.

I'm going to go recover by playing some Guilty gear/CvS2/3s/Melty blood in the arcade :rofl:

[Dasiatic]

There is nothing wrong with the way he handled the situation. He really liked her a lot and he let his feeling known to her. It is understandable that he want some space and does not want to be friends with her as that was not his intention all along. And he let her know that. He didn't yell at her and he didn't curse her out. It was handled very maturely IMO.

@FallingEdge: Will you marry me!? No homo... but you hit it right on the spot
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Nah there's just confusion all around :rofl:

In simple terms... she's cool with me having space; or she wouldn't have calmly left my room and say that if we ever want to go out to email her or whatever. Hell when her BF broke up with her she screamed and called him a fucking loser. So I got the calm reaction...
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But yeah I told her I needed space because:

1) It'll be awkward for a while hanging out together because she knows that I like her.
2) I need some time to think about what she said and vice versa (Dude I know she's not going to forget about me... and some guys that I know from the states are coming to Korea soon and work with her. They will be asking her how I'm doing and that's just going to refresh her memories of me)
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It's not like I said: "Dammit why don't you love me... I don't want to see your face anymore" I just simply politely told her I needed some space for a while.

I'm going to go recover by playing some Guilty gear/CvS2/3s/Melty blood in the arcade :rofl:


oh ok. i get you now. yeah, you and falling edge cleared it up. you're the man, SilentNess.

[SF_PHOCUS]

oh ok. i get you now. yeah, you and falling edge cleared it up. you're the man, SilentNess.

:takes off d&g glasses for this one!!!: Now that i think about it and read ur post over again... I think you could of handled it better... What I mean by that is you really didnt have to say wat you said in the end about needing space... beacause now shes not thinking about you.. why? because when u said u need space thats means u will hit her up when ur ready...right? Now if u didnt say that and just did it... she would be calling you.. and when u dont answer that will make her think!!! and everytime she calls you she will think about what you said... then wat do you think will happen when yOU FINALLY HAD ENOUGH SPACE!:rolleyes:

[Dasiatic]

:takes off d&g glasses for this one!!!: Now that i think about it and read ur post over again... I think you could of handled it better... What I mean by that is you really didnt have to say wat you said in the end about needing space... beacause now shes not thinking about you.. why? because when u said u need space thats means u will hit her up when ur ready...right? Now if u didnt say that and just did it... she would be calling you.. and when u dont answer that will make her think!!! and everytime she calls you she will think about what you said... then wat do you think will happen when yOU FINALLY HAD ENOUGH SPACE!:rolleyes:


thats what i was saying before.
she's not gonna care for silentness anymore. silentness had already confirmed it. when she gets enough space, she might go back to her BF, find another BF, turn down chances of relationships in the future, or go lesbo. thats it.



but i think silentness had already got that part already. the part i was confused about was that whether he made a pussy out of himself or not. but he did'nt do it exactly. but it still showed through what he said about "needing space".

my point is....silentness is losing. big time. something needs to be done.
yet he handled the situation without sounding too needy, as awkward the situation was. so i thought he did well.

so, to put in plainly....he handled it ok. but hes still behind.

[tahoo]

Don't try to get laid ASAP! It will only ruin your first time experience (come on man, don't you want it to be special? Espically after all this time.) and more-than-likely you won't have a girl who will want to teach you in that case.

Generally girls who get you laid ASAP want guys with experience cause they are in it for the thrill of the fuck, not the thrill of the fuck with you.

honestly I feel I need to get laid for the experience. I feel that if I get laid (without paying for it) most of my insecurities will be gone.

If I don't perform good..oh well. I still got her in bed.

Confidence comes from experience..I have no experience. No wonder I'm the way I am.

[SF_PHOCUS]

honestly I feel I need to get laid for the experience. I feel that if I get laid (without paying for it) most of my insecurities will be gone.

If I don't perform good..oh well. I still got her in bed.

Confidence comes from experience..I have no experience. No wonder I'm the way I am.

talkin like that wont get u shittt

[tahoo]

talkin like that wont get u shittt

then what will?

No matter how many self help books I read to boost confidence in myself (I haven't read any btw), my self esteem won't rise until I MAKE something happen. My self esteem won't rise until I've gotten something that I REALLY want.

I don't want a girlfriend, I don't crave "love" nor "company". All I want is to be able to say "yeah, I've done it before, and it felt great", or even better "I do it all the time"

No matter how many success stories I read, how many people tell "I can", or how many times I can compare to myself and say "I'm better off than him" it will not make me feel better about myself until I get what I want.

I realize that I can't get girls to take down my pants by simply asking them to have sex with me (maybe it works for EXTREMELY good looking guys..I'm not one of those)..so I'll have to go through other methods.

I guess I need to start dating:rofl:

[BaSiK_TeKniK]

yeah, Teknik's a pussy. he wont do shit.
you'd see the nigga standing there for a good hour thinking of what to say while she's already preparing to leave.



I promise nigga believe in me.

can yall get some icebreakers?

[R.P.D rookie]

then what will?

No matter how many self help books I read to boost confidence in myself (I haven't read any btw), my self esteem won't rise until I MAKE something happen. My self esteem won't rise until I've gotten something that I REALLY want.

I don't want a girlfriend, I don't crave "love" nor "company". All I want is to be able to say "yeah, I've done it before, and it felt great", or even better "I do it all the time"

No matter how many success stories I read, how many people tell "I can", or how many times I can compare to myself and say "I'm better off than him" it will not make me feel better about myself until I get what I want.

I realize that I can't get girls to take down my pants by simply asking them to have sex with me (maybe it works for EXTREMELY good looking guys..I'm not one of those)..so I'll have to go through other methods.

I guess I need to start dating:rofl:

Excercise: trimming any unwanted weight and getting some nice muscle definition will help boost confidence. More muscle means more testosterone and more confidence. I'm not saying be a meathead but when you know you look good physically, that helps a lot. Not saying you don't but what guy isn't confident in himself when he's got a six pack and nice arms and chest?

[GreyFoxx]

Seems i kinda slipped into a love/hate relationship with my LDR gf and seems she is willing too go the distance and move too Indiana. Now she is saying that what type of commitment will she get from this venture. Of course love and protection she pulls at a engagement..WTH women!!!!

[Dasiatic]

Seems i kinda slipped into a love/hate relationship with my LDR gf and seems she is willing too go the distance and move too Indiana. Now she is saying that what type of commitment will she get from this venture. Of course love and protection she pulls at a engagement..WTH women!!!!

awwwwwwww!
its alright. fuck that skank. you can be with me.

[SF_PHOCUS]

awwwwwwww!
its alright. fuck that skank. you can be with me.

......

[Dasiatic]

......

PHOC, its an inside joke. just let it go.

[Liquid Fists]

fuckin' skanks

[Silentness!]

it's only been 24 hours and I already miss her. :wasted:

Shit it's going to be hard to move on and don't give me that plenty of fish in the sea bullshit.

I'm in the middle of got damn KOREA. The only ones that speak English are the little kids due to school.
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I'm just going to apologize to her through her work E-mail or maybe go by her room. The "I need some space" comment was pretty lame. Fuck it still hurts strong :sad: I don't even feel like eating and I haven't eaten anything all day. I know I'm sounding really emo/bitchy right now, but it hurts to see someone you care so much about leave you.

Hell I'd go to her room right now to apologize, but I got food that I don't want to go cold. ROFL

[Dasiatic]

it's only been 24 hours and I already miss her. :wasted:

Shit it's going to be hard to move on and don't give me that plenty of fish in the sea bullshit.

I'm in the middle of got damn KOREA. The only ones that speak English are the little kids due to school.
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I'm just going to apologize to her through her work E-mail or maybe go by her room. The "I need some space" comment was pretty lame. Fuck it still hurts strong :sad: I don't even feel like eating and I haven't eaten anything all day. I know I'm sounding really emo/bitchy right now, but it hurts to see someone you care so much about leave you.

Hell I'd go to her room right now to apologize, but I got food that I don't want to go cold. ROFL

fuck, why does this sound familiar?
anyone know why? anyone?

its because she has the power in the relationship, as i said. thats it right there. you are feeling her power. she has all the choices in the world, while you are left to mourn.

[Silentness!]

fuck, why does this sound familiar?
anyone know why? anyone?

its because she has the power in the relationship, as i said. thats it right there. you are feeling her power. she has all the choices in the world, while you are left to mourn.

translation?

I'm not going back to being her puppet. I just wanted to let her know that I'm sorry for saying the "I need space" does that make me her bitch?

[Dasiatic]

translation?

I'm not going back to being her puppet. I just wanted to let her know that I'm sorry for saying the "I need space" does that make me her bitch?

yes. yes it does, actually. its written all over you. dont go and apologize. please dont. I know how bad you want to see her again. but dont do it. what was your plan again?

[Silentness!]

yes. yes it does, actually. its written all over you. dont go and apologize. please dont. I know how bad you want to see her again. but dont do it. what was your plan again?

What was my plan? huh...

The only reason why I wanted to apologize was because you and Phocus said I was being an ass by saying "I need space"

I don't get it... so I should just leave her with a shitty ending since I told her "I need some space?"
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*not related* Haha I'm back to asking a ton of questions I've realized, but this is pretty serious to me.

[Dasiatic]

What was my plan? huh...

The only reason why I wanted to apologize was because you and Phocus said I was being an ass by saying "I need space"

I don't get it... so I should just leave her with a shitty ending since I told her "I need some space?"
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*not related* Haha I'm back to asking a ton of questions I've realized, but this is pretty serious to me.

nah, nah, nah...i was'nt saying you was being an ass, I was saying that was a crybaby move that could hurt you exactly like how it is doing now. i thought it would've turned out better when FallingEdge had backed you, but i was wrong. how you're feeling now was exactly what i was talking about/afraid of what'll happen.

this was why i said you had to be more aggressive from the beginning, so that the only one who'd be feeling this way would be her instead of you.
she had choices from the very beginning. look back at my previous posts to review them. you had to make it known that you were a once in a lifetime catch.

how do you honestly think she'll feel once she sees you coming back to her apologizing for the same shit you said? and it was'nt even her idea, it was yours.
this whole thing had begun to fall when you let her discover the real deal with you with that simple question "do you like me?"

how you responded was "game over".
Im sticking with you not going back to her.

[Silentness!]

this whole thing had begun to fall when you let her discover the real deal with you with that simple question "do you like me?"

how you responded was "game over".
Im sticking with you not going back to her.

Wait, ok now I'm confused... it's game over because I said yes when she asked "Do you like me?"

[Dasiatic]

Wait, ok now I'm confused... it's game over because I said yes when she asked "Do you like me?"

given your situation, yeah.

i dont know how you would attack this situation. i honestly dont. it seems like its soo out of your hands now she knows you like her.
I've been in this situation before during my teen years. so i know.

the idea was to not make your interest in her so obvious so she'll be left guessing. for obvious reasons.

not only that, but you answered her nervously. she probaly smelled that one too.

[Silentness!]

haha just talked about this girl with my dad. He's also saying that I should take some time away from her, but guess what!

FUCK IT I'm going to talk to her anyways. Yeah I said it... crawling back or whatever the fuck you want to call it. My dad made me realize that if she's as great as I say she is it's not worth killing the whole friendship. So yeah sorry SRK, but I'm a have to take my own advice and just go talk to her.
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I want to just be friends with her. I'm not in the friend zone if I don't want to actually be her boyfriend. I'm cool with just being friends, but she knows that I would like to be her BF so meh that works for me?

DOES ANY OF THIS SHIT MAKES SENSE... regardless I'm going to talk to her. I can't live with the moronic response I gave her last night.

[Dasiatic]

DOES ANY OF THIS SHIT MAKES SENSE

it doesn't have to. you seem like you're in love.
oooor, you just want to obtain something that is actually within your reach.

regardless, listen to your dad!! stay away from her like i said!
well, you cant stop a heart on fire, i always say. but know that you being in the friendzone does'nt depend on whether you see yourself in there or not. so even if you dont want to be her BF, she is still seeing you as her friend. so, you might be friendzoned. who knows.
it depends on how she views you, not how you view yourself.

well goodluck, pal.
tell me how it goes. and send pics.

[MrBuster]

Well all I can say is good luck to you on that one Ness. Seriously, I completely understand what your going through. Just a few different things that I did or said with the girl I'm trying to get at led me to feel the same way that you are feeling about the one your after. I know that you said that you just want to be friends now. But honestly, you know deep down inside that you still want her. That right there is something I tried and its just going to be a temperary fix on what you feel for her.

I wish I had something more positive to offer but these are the situations where your in between a rock and a hard place emotionally.

[Dasiatic]

Well all I can say is good luck to you on that one Ness. Seriously, I completely understand what your going through. Just a few different things that I did or said with the girl I'm trying to get at led me to feel the same way that you are feeling about the one your after. I know that you said that you just want to be friends now. But honestly, you know deep down inside that you still want her. That right there is something I tried and its just going to be a temperary fix on what you feel for her.

I wish I had something more positive to offer but these are the situations where your in between a rock and a hard place emotionally.


holy fuck, as if he could'nt FEEL that for himself already. god dayum!
you people drive me nuts. when will you guys stop?

[Silentness!]

Dude, I am in love... haha. You know it's like my heart wants to go for her, but my brain is saying "Are you fucking dumb?" Now that she knows that I actually would like to be her BF I don't care if she sees me as just a friend. I just wanted to let her know that I'm not her gay shopping buddy. It was tormenting knowing that I liked her, but she didn't have a single clue about it. Now I can hang out with her and in the bottom of her mind she'll know that I like her and it will make our friendship even stronger. That sounds pretty gay (Love bug has me rambling)
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Yes deep down inside I do want her, but I like her so much that I can't even lose her as a friend. There's always bitches to fuck, but when you meet that special girl you don't want to leave her no matter what?

You feel me? I don't have any cares in the world when I'm with her... I don't have to be fucking her to be happy.

I can keep her as a friend and just find some fuck buddies or some shit. WIN WIN Situation HAHAHAHAHA

PS: I never been to her dorm building so I'm going to have to ask someone :wasted: I was wandering around like an idiot.

[MrBuster]

Hey, I was trying to sympathize with the guy since I have gone through the same experience. It's not fun and I don't want him to go through the same experience. But I feel where your coming from Das to not add fuel to it. But the end result wont be that fun. I guess the best bet is to actually start talking to other females. You can still keep contact with the one you like, but talking to others should help out a lot in this case because you wont be as focused on her. Thus, in the long run you can prolly get a chance at her again down the road.

[SF_PHOCUS]

You motherfuckers dont sleep and shitt???? lol geez ness ur really in a pickle.... just chalk it up as a loss and move on man... theres like 10 more girls out there u could prolly get wif right now that have better qualities...! you gotta know when u take a L

[Silentness!]

Umm I already know it's a loss! Phocus she's not like any other girl to me man... I can't just say well she doesn't like me fuck her (and pretend like I never knew her)

I already came to my solution: I just keep her as a female friend. It's always good to have a couple female friends... and then I find some bitches on the side.
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I'm in Korea so it's 11:15 PM on a Sunday here so I actually do sleep :sweat:
Awesome 3300 posts now... this thread's helping my post count

[SF_PHOCUS]

Umm I already know it's a loss! Phocus she's not like any other girl to me man... I can't just say well she doesn't like me fuck her (and pretend like I never knew her)

I already came to my solution: I just keep her as a female friend. It's always good to have a couple female friends... and then I find some bitches on the side.
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I'm in Korea so it's 11:15 PM on a Sunday here so I actually do sleep :sweat:
Awesome 3300 posts now... this thread's helping my post count

lol i hear you... you see wat i was sayin now about why not to say the i need space thing?? cause of the way ur actin now... im not playin u im just makin a comment... if u re read my post and apply it to how ur actin now it will make perfect sense....!:rock:

"GIRL UR PUSSY POWERFUL CAUSE NIGGAS NEED DATTTT!!" -Cassidy

[TheWanderer]

this girl i've never talk to but stares and smiles at me and i'd smile back.. i think she's just being friendly just like she does to every other guys that talk to her.. so she could be a fuking tease, so i'm not gonna try and get with her..

well.. last week, as she was heading out to go home.. she saw me sitting chilling so she walked by and looked and had a little smirk on her face at me.. i looked back at her with a relax and a pissed off face cuz she does the same shit she does to other guys.. which is try to tease..

she saw me looking pissed so she got uncomfortable and nervous and couldnt take a sip of her water.. when she tried to take a sip of her water.. she looked at me through the corner of her eye..

eventhough i've never talk to this girl before.. i'm thinking of just asking this girl out so i can get this shit over with.. tired of thinking what if and all this other shit..

how does this sound.. Me:Hey, i didnt mean to make you feel uncomfortable last week alright..? Her:blah blah.. Me:What are you doing this week..? Her..I don't now.. why.. Me:Lets go shopping cuz i need to find a gift for my niece.. you should come along and help me pick one.. and we can grab a bite to eat while we're there..

what do you guys think..? REMEMBER.. WE NEVER TALK BEFORE, SO SHE DOESN'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT ME.. i just want to get this over and done with.. if i get rejected atleast i know where i stand..

[Havoc]

Ness, your plan sounds OK to me.

I didn't read the whole backstory, but if you really like this girl, don't let pride kill it.

Let her know that you do want to be with/around her, just make sure you don't come off sounding like a complete bitch. You don't want that, but to just kill the whole situation over pride is dumb.

[Silentness!]

It's all over. GAME OVER

I FUCKING KNEW IT. I'm going to be heartbroken for maybe a day and then I'm going to hit up some Korean clubs to remedy it

I'm typing up the full post in a minute: (to be continued...)
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Ok so like I said I was going to find her dorm room to ask if we could just be friends. I couldn't find her room so I went to a friend of mine to ask if he knew where her room was at. He eventually realized I liked her (damn everyone knows I like her). So anyways he ends up telling me that he saw her and her "ex-boyfriend" holding hands.

THAT'S RIGHT LADIES AND GENTLEMEN. I NEVER HAD A FUCKING CHANCE IN THE WORLD... She was obviously using me as a crutch because she thought I was neutral, but when she found out that I like her it freaked her out because she still had feelings for her EX.

BTW for those of you that haven't been keeping track:

1) They were together... he lost his virginity to her.
2) She broke up with him.
3) He proposes to her. They become engaged...
4) The guy's brother died in a car wreck during thanksgiving holiday
5) The guy is gravely depressed and the girl tells him to stop being such a jerk (even though I'd be shitty feeling too if my brother died)
6) The guy eventually breaks up with her because of the way she treats him and he's still confused because of his brother's death.
7) The girl calls him a fucking loser and says that "He will never find a girl as good as her"
8) I play Mr. Cupid: I tell her that it was pretty fucked up to call her EX a fucking loser especially since his brother just died in a car wreck.
9) This Saturday I fuck up and tell her "I need some space" and don't want to go to the movies with her and her EX. I even asked what her relationship status was with her EX. She said "We're just friends nothing serious."
10) Now they're together again and possibly for good...
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So yeah I'm pretty fucking heart broken, I'm not going to pretend like I'm a tough guy and say that I'm not emotionally damaged. I didn't cry, fuck I never cry, but it does hurt me deep down inside. Thankfully I found out she got back together with her EX by one of my friends and not from her personally.

So anyways I never found her room. I can't call her a bitch though because deep down inside I love that girl. My friend asked me that, he's like how much do you like that girl on a 1-10 scale. I told him a 10... and he's like do you love her? My answer was: Kind of (I do)
I hate being heartbroken it sucks ass. Mr. Buster was right I only wanted to be her friend because I wanted to feel like I was in a psuedo-relationship.
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Why do I feel like I like I "love" her? I know like the INs and OUTs of everything about her. She told me about her childhood, all of her family, friends and everything. We knew each other like as it was one of those couples' show where you had to answer questions about your spouse.
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The part that hurts the most... was finding out that she took his virginity. It's bad enough knowing they had sex (not really), but the fact that SHE was his first. GOOD FUCKING GAME... I mean seriously if it was his first time they were definitely passionate about it, but I don't want to hear about that SHIT!?

I appreciate those that actually read this whole post. This is serious shit that I'm posting that I wanted to let out... (like a corny SRK bond) I even showed her the fucking drink toast. (The people I work with, when we go out to eat we ALWAYS do a special toast)
The best part out of all this though is: If you guys are ever heartbroken, seriously go talk to your REAL friends. I mean guys that will have your back no matter what... Thankfully I ran into buddies late at night (1 AM) that were there to cheer me up. I told them the whole story and they cheered me up and had my back. If I'm ever in depression or lonely I just go to them and I feel a lot better.

~Silentness: Serious whole hearted post~

PS: I know that someone is going to use this post against me in the future just like my previous heartbroken events. I'm man enough to admit em though...

[SF_PHOCUS]

snip...

Yo Ness before I give you the "bitch slap to snap you out of it" let me first say I feeeeeeel ur painnnnnn boss! that shit does hurt deep down inside because u felt as though someone pulled a carpet from right under ur feet... and u fell and hit ur head....

:karate: :gives you one of BLANK's Pimp Backhand Slaps: now my friend you cant allow this to keep u down... fuck it... regardless of wat ur still a man and u walked out of this wif a lot more exp than u did when u first started this situation... Remember its wat u take out of a fucked up situation that really matters... now next time when u find urself in a similar situation you will know how to handle it:rock:

[Silentness!]

Yeah, I never had a shot of winning this battle though.
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You can't stop true love... I KNEW she loved that nigga. Every now and then she would make a slight reference to him. She couldn't get over that guy, but fuck it I need to find a girl with no baggage/feelings for her EX.
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My buddy said he'll cheer me up by taking me to some Korean clubs. I don't know much fucking Korean, but what the hell I'm game.
FUCK yeah, I should go back to the old me. Sarging (PUA term :wasted: Sorry Havoc) every hot chick I see. EVEN KOREANS... I don't give a shit if they can't understand me. Actually a lot of Koreans do know English like I said earlier, but some are just completely oblivious to it.

[Dasiatic]

It's all over. GAME OVER

I FUCKING KNEW IT. I'm going to be heartbroken for maybe a day and then I'm going to hit up some Korean clubs to remedy it

I'm typing up the full post in a minute: (to be continued...)
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Ok so like I said I was going to find her dorm room to ask if we could just be friends. I couldn't find her room so I went to a friend of mine to ask if he knew where her room was at. He eventually realized I liked her (damn everyone knows I like her). So anyways he ends up telling me that he saw her and her "ex-boyfriend" holding hands.

THAT'S RIGHT LADIES AND GENTLEMEN. I NEVER HAD A FUCKING CHANCE IN THE WORLD... She was obviously using me as a crutch because she thought I was neutral, but when she found out that I like her it freaked her out because she still had feelings for her EX.


*rushes back into this thread*

wait? what? im sorry, does this sounds familiar? i could swear to fucking god this does.
what did I say before? what?

someone please repost what i had just said to this guy! sombody!!

Yeah, I never had a shot of winning this battle though.
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You can't stop true love... I KNEW she loved that nigga. Every now and then she would make a slight reference to him. She couldn't get over that guy, but fuck it I need to find a girl with no baggage/feelings for her EX.
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seriously, omg.
I've said this to you before. Its because you were in love and it blinded you all the way to fuck. I told you it was a beartrap, yet you had to be the blunt animal, walking into the dangerous forest.

[Havoc]

Will he learn from this?

I don't know how much there is to learn from this situation.

He liked a girl, and she likes somebody else.

Also, he doesn't even really know the situation. He heard that the girl was holding hands with her ex.... so?

That doesn't necessarily mean they're back together. They could just be chilling. Doesn't mean they're back in an exclusive relationship...

Even if they are back together exclusively, what is there to learn?

Never go after a girl that has an ex? Never tell a girl you like her?

Just because something doesn't work out doesn't mean you fucked up, and something needs to be changed. If I push with a set of aces, and some dumbfuck calls to hit a runner-runner straight, yeah... I'll lose my money, but I still played the hand absolutely correctly.

Unless the lesson you take from that is "never play". Well, I guess that's valid, but it's gonna be a boring life.

[Silentness!]

haha you win Dasiatic. :tup:
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Sigh I need to stop dealing with little kids. She's only 19! Havoc is right 21+ year old women for the win.

(I'm not even 21 lol... not until August)

Two of my new friends I met in Korea, and I guess my closest new friends. Told me their stories of being heartbroken as well to make me feel better.(I can tell them anything and they wont laugh at me)
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I just need to stop being so fucking attached to certain girls. Havoc knows my dilemmas...

[Dasiatic]

Will he learn from this?

I don't know how much there is to learn from this situation.

He liked a girl, and she likes somebody else.

Also, he doesn't even really know the situation. He heard that the girl was holding hands with her ex.... so?

That doesn't necessarily mean they're back together. They could just be chilling. Doesn't mean they're back in an exclusive relationship...

Even if they are back together exclusively, what is there to learn?

Never go after a girl that has an ex? Never tell a girl you like her?

Just because something doesn't work out doesn't mean you fucked up, and something needs to be changed. If I push with a set of aces, and some dumbfuck calls to hit a runner-runner straight, yeah... I'll lose my money, but I still played the hand absolutely correctly.

Unless the lesson you take from that is "never play". Well, I guess that's valid, but it's gonna be a boring life.

no, its not gonna be a boring life for him. there is someone out there for him. yes, Im a firm believer of fated love.

haha you win Dasiatic. :tup:
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Sigh I need to stop dealing with little kids. She's only 19! Havoc is right 21+ year old women for the win.

(I'm not even 21 lol... not until August)

you will find love. just not so soon.
(personaly i think it was because she's korean and you caught yellow fever)

[SF_PHOCUS]

no, its not gonna be a boring life for him. there is someone out there for him. yes, Im a firm believer of fated love.



you will find love. just not so soon.
(personaly i think it was because she's korean and you caught yellow fever)

DAZ! My nigga wats poppin!:lol:

[Silentness!]

lol wtf? The girl I was hypnotized (starts singing Akon's new retarded song lol) about was Hispanic.
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After being in Korea for about a month now I kind of killed all traces of any Yellow fever. At first I was saying to myself damn Asian women are exotic and now I'm like, FUCK they're everywhere :wasted: I want a nice American girl. I'd take a Korean girl though, but NONE OF EM HAVE tits and ass WTF? That wack ass diet makes them so skinny

[Havoc]

I know what you mean, but I'm full of shit.

My girl just turned 21 a week ago. I've been with her for about a year. It's been the worst fucking year of my life, but I love her.

You can try to have rules, and learn things from shitty situations, but the main thing I've learned in all this is that all the pain and bullshit you'll go through trying to find what you want, is worth it when you wake up next to somebody that gives you goosebumps every time you think about them.

I know I sound bitch, but that's what it is.

Don't become bitter by one or two shitty situations though. Don't think you have to "learn" from every one of these. Most "learning" is really just becoming a jaded jackass. Keep your chin up; you'll be fine.

[Dasiatic]

lol wtf? The girl I was hypnotized (starts singing Akon's new retarded song lol) about was Hispanic.
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After being in Korea for about a month now I kind of killed all traces of any Yellow fever. At first I was saying to myself damn Asian women are exotic and now I'm like, FUCK they're everywhere :wasted: I want a nice American girl. I'd take a Korean girl though, but NONE OF EM HAVE tits and ass WTF? That wack ass diet makes them so skinny


oh. i thought she was korean. well, still. korean girls dont have ass/tits because its against thier religion, and i hear they'll get disowned if they do.

ask PHOC. her parents had left her years ago. shell tell you.



I know what you mean, but I'm full of shit.

My girl just turned 21 a week ago. I've been with her for about a year. It's been the worst fucking year of my life, but I love her.

You can try to have rules, and learn things from shitty situations, but the main thing I've learned in all this is that all the pain and bullshit you'll go through trying to find what you want, is worth it when you wake up next to somebody that gives you goosebumps every time you think about them.

I know I sound bitch, but that's what it is.

Don't become bitter by one or two shitty situations though. Don't think you have to "learn" from every one of these. Most "learning" is really just becoming a jaded jackass. Keep your chin up; you'll be fine.

you dont sound bitch at all.

[Dasiatic]

DAZ! My nigga wats poppin!:lol:

HEY PHOC!
nothing. just me and HollyWood Hav, and SilentNess.
Siltentness wanted that pussy and I was like "nooooooo nigggaaaaaaa!! dont"
and he was like "but im in looooooooooooooooooooooooooooove!!!!!!!!!!!"

and i was like "cool"

[Silentness!]

That has to be the kindest thing Havoc has said to me. no homo (Most of his posts directed at me are flames due to using PUA terms and using too many smilies)

[Dasiatic]

That has to be the kindest thing Havoc has said to me. no homo (Most of his posts directed at me are flames due to using PUA terms and using too many smilies)

watch your ass silentness.

[Havoc]

I think I've been pretty nice. I speak bluntly, and I use harsh terminology most of the time, but I think the majority of my posts towards you have been good-natured.

Meh...

[SF_PHOCUS]

That has to be the kindest thing Havoc has said to me. no homo (Most of his posts directed at me are flames due to using PUA terms and using too many smilies)

lmao @ too many smilies!!!!:rock:

[Warpticon]

lol wtf? The girl I was hypnotized (starts singing Akon's new retarded song lol) about was Hispanic.
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After being in Korea for about a month now I ki[nd of killed all traces of any Yellow fever. At first I was saying to myself damn Asian women are exotic and now I'm like, FUCK they're everywhere :wasted: I want a nice American girl. I'd take a Korean girl though, but NONE OF EM HAVE tits and ass WTF? That wack ass diet makes them so skinny

You have no idea how hard I laughed at that. :lol: :lol: :lol: Like they're roaches or something. :lol:

[Darklightjg1]

snip

*sigh*

Seriously? Like serious-fuckin-ly yo?

This is the true power of the 'friend zone'. It's not actually just wanting to be friends... it's rejection when you really thought you had a chance. When you spent so much time actually developing real feelings for a girl only to have them shot down. And she wanted to "let you down easy and still carry on a friendship" but girls don't realize that shit's damn near impossible at this point.
All the guy ever does is still hope there's still a chance (and there's not) and he regrets he ever wasted his time trying.

Man, AIN'T NO FUCKIN HAUNTED HOUSE! (http://youtube.com/watch?v=lhcgd1Go7u4)

You can't dodge that shit... it's UNBROCKABLE!

...It's SO much easier just walkin' up to a chick, askin' her out, having her just say "No" and then just saying "fuck it" and move on.

I feel your pain dude. I went through the same shit a couple of months ago.:shake:

This is not gonna mean much right now, but the best way out of this is finding a girl who's a step up from this girl. Seriously. There are girls capable of making you feel the same way you felt about her (maybe even moreso) AND can return the feelings (very important... make note of that). You gotta put in that work and find the girl who's right for you. But first you HAVE to accept this loss (and I mean TRULY accept it) and prepare to move on. Don't dwell on this any longer than you have to.


Edit: Damn I type slow! I'm several posts late on this one.:rofl:

[Dasiatic]

You have no idea how hard I laughed at that. :lol: :lol: :lol: Like they're roaches or something. :lol:

lol. never saw it that way.

[Hoonyo]

I don't have any advice to offer you Ness, but I really liked your story because I just went through something similar.

[Dasiatic]

damn, everyone's been through it huh?
so where were you guys when Ness needed help?

[Hoonyo]

Sorry for not being there for you Ness. :xeye:

[SF_PHOCUS]

damn, everyone's been through it huh?
so where were you guys when Ness needed help?

WHERE WERE U WHEN NESS NEEDED HELP! :angel:

[Dasiatic]

WHERE WERE U WHEN NESS NEEDED HELP! :angel:

nigga, I was the one up all last night helping that nigga out. lol.
where are you now?

[TheSix]

My work is done here.

/Puts on cape and rides off into the sunset

:arazz::arazz:

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I got a scenario I want to run by you guys in a few hours. I'm trying to find out all the details exactly. It's happening right now, so if I post it won't make complete sense.

Should prove....interesting.

[Dasiatic]

My work is done here.

/Puts on cape and rides off into the sunset

:arazz::arazz:

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I got a scenario I want to run by you guys in a few hours. I'm trying to find out all the details exactly. It's happening right now, so if I post it won't make complete sense.

Should prove....interesting.

Six, we've been down together from the start. I'll try to be here. if not, then PHOC, Blank, or Pheria will run thier advice by you.

[SF_PHOCUS]

Pics if possible.

[Dasiatic]

ok, while Six is gone, i might as well talk shit about him.

i bet six is getting raped this very second. this very moment as anyone is reading this. hes getting raped so HORD, that the next user to come here named seven is gonna feel it.

^
sig this shit.

[Javid]

*sigh*

Seriously? Like serious-fuckin-ly yo?

This is the true power of the 'friend zone'. It's not actually just wanting to be friends... it's rejection when you really thought you had a chance. When you spent so much time actually developing real feelings for a girl only to have them shot down. And she wanted to "let you down easy and still carry on a friendship" but girls don't realize that shit's damn near impossible at this point.
All the guy ever does is still hope there's still a chance (and there's not) and he regrets he ever wasted his time trying.

Man, AIN'T NO FUCKIN HAUNTED HOUSE! (http://youtube.com/watch?v=lhcgd1Go7u4)

You can't dodge that shit... it's UNBROCKABLE!

...It's SO much easier just walkin' up to a chick, askin' her out, having her just say "No" and then just saying "fuck it" and move on.

I feel your pain dude. I went through the same shit a couple of months ago.:shake:

This is not gonna mean much right now, but the best way out of this is finding a girl who's a step up from this girl. Seriously. There are girls capable of making you feel the same way you felt about her (maybe even moreso) AND can return the feelings (very important... make note of that). You gotta put in that work and find the girl who's right for you. But first you HAVE to accept this loss (and I mean TRULY accept it) and prepare to move on. Don't dwell on this any longer than you have to.


Edit: Damn I type slow! I'm several posts late on this one.:rofl:

What this man said exactly. This isn't to say that a friendship can never evolve into love, but you do have to move on if you know that there is no future in it. Besides, you're still young, you've got lots of time ahead of you.:wink:

[Dasiatic]

What this man said exactly. This isn't to say that a friendship can never evolve into love, but you do have to move on if you know that there is no future in it. Besides, you're still young, you've got lots of time ahead of you.:wink:

oh, so just ignore all of my jewels, right?

[sainthuey]

ness, why are you in korea for??

[Dasiatic]

ness, why are you in korea for??

for something yellow.

[tahoo]

Wow this thread moves fast:sweat:

Anyways today a cute girl gave me her phone #, which I found weird because from my perspective she's wayyy too hot for me. Also although I was confident in my approach, I used the stupidest pick up line ever. Maybe she thought it was cute?

Either way if the # doesn't turn out to be a fake one I'll call her on wednesday or thrusday. Wish me luck

EDIT:
yes, I keeping my damn promise to myself. I'm sick of being a loser. I'll sek more girls in the process.

[Dasiatic]

Wow this thread moves fast:sweat:

Anyways today a cute girl gave me her phone #, which I found weird because from my perspective she's wayyy too hot for me. Also although I was confident in my approach, I used the stupidest pick up line ever. Maybe she thought it was cute?

Either way if the # doesn't turn out to be a fake one I'll call her on wednesday or thrusday. Wish me luck

EDIT:
yes, I keeping my damn promise to myself. I'm sick of being a loser. I'll sek more girls in the process.


yay, my ball sack chin nigga. go get that.

[Silentness!]

yay, my ball sack chin nigga. go get that.

rofl. Ahh I need to get back into the game...

[Dasiatic]

rofl. Ahh I need to get back into the game...

if you're ready to go back in, be careful. dont let lingering memories of your heartbreak fuck up any future dates. you have to be 100% over that hispanic whore.
besides, she's only a house maid. what can you possibly get out of that?

[tahoo]

rofl. Ahh I need to get back into the game...

you certainly do, this isn't the first time you've been crazy about 1 chick.

Honestly I've never gotten into one of your situations. Perhaps my wondering eye and my fear of commitment is what keeps me from "falling in love" as you say :rofl:

Maybe you need to seek lots of chicks at one time, so that you don't get obsessed with one.

[Silentness!]

Maybe you need to seek lots of chicks at one time, so that you don't get obsessed with one.

That's what I do. As the saying goes "Don't put all your eggs in one nest" (or some shit like that :lol: )
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It's hard as fuck though and I'm not an English teacher unfortunately. I'm in the Air Force and so my choices are military bitches (that think they are hot shit because there are so few of them and so many guys) and Koreans that may or may not speak English.

Me and my dad call them "Queens for a year" (he's retired ARMY). Basically they are queens because there aren't that many women available here.

Now put those same bitches in beautiful LA where a 7 is a 1 and they wouldn't even get a second look. Damn I need to live in SoCali...
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BTW I'm over here in Korea for 2 years... don't fucking laugh! Hopefully my next location will Yokota Air Base (closest one to Tokyo)

[Silentness!]

nah...

[Kusanagi02]

That's what I do. As the saying goes "Don't put all your eggs in one nest" (or some shit like that :lol: )
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It's hard as fuck though and I'm not an English teacher unfortunately. I'm in the Air Force and so my choices are military bitches (that think they are hot shit because there are so few of them and so many guys) and Koreans that may or may not speak English.

Me and my dad call them "Queens for a year" (he's retired ARMY). Basically they are queens because there aren't that many women available here.

Now put those same bitches in beautiful LA where a 7 is a 1 and they wouldn't even get a second look. Damn I need to live in SoCali...
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BTW I'm over here in Korea for 2 years... don't fucking laugh! Hopefully my next location will Yokota Air Base (closest one to Tokyo)

haha...man you hit it on the nail with the military chicks.

I can feel your pain being in Korea though with the female options. Every female at Osan had like an entourage of guys following her. It was like if you even look in the general direction the chick was at you had like 5 dudes up in your face ready to start shit.

Anyways my current situation sucks cause its Christmas and barring some of the female friends i have back in Maryland, i have none to just kick it with here in California.
Definitely gonna be a lonely Christmas.

[TheWanderer]

this girl who's been staring at me whereever i go and smile at me when i walk by her.. welll today..

i walked by her the first time.. we exchange smiles and stares..

the 2nd time i walked by.. she played with her cell.. knowning i'm staring at her..

at the end of the day as im sitting on a bench chilling.. then she and some homo was walking with her and talk to her.. she knew full well i was sitting there chilling..

so she flirt with the mofo while walking..

after shes done talking to him.. she went the other way to head out..

when she walk the other way.. and im sitting on the bench..

she look over at me with a lil smirk.. i gave her a relax but kinda piss off look..

she then open her water bottle and couldn't even take A FUKING SIP of her drink.. it was like a fake ass open the cap to drink something.. she didnt even hold the bottle up...

she just open cap.. then put bottle in her mouth.. i didnt see any water coming down..

THE BITCH BE FLIRTING WITH BUNCH OF HOMOS.. then get nervous by me..? is this bitch just want attention or just a tease in general PPL..? SOMEBODY FUKING HELP!!

BTW:IM PLANNING ON JUST ASKING HER OUT FOR THE SAKE OF IT NEXT TIME I SEE HER.. EVENTHOUGH WE NEVER TALK TO EACH OTHER BUT SEE EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME.. IF I GET REJECTED.. THEN I CAN GET her out of my mind.. if i get a YES then maybe we can get something going..

[Dasiatic]

this girl who's been staring at me whereever i go and smile at me when i walk by her.. welll today..

i walked by her the first time.. we exchange smiles and stares..

the 2nd time i walked by.. she played with her cell.. knowning i'm staring at her..

at the end of the day as im sitting on a bench chilling.. then she and some homo was walking with her and talk to her.. she knew full well i was sitting there chilling..

so she flirt with the mofo while walking..

after shes done talking to him.. she went the other way to head out..

when she walk the other way.. and im sitting on the bench..

she look over at me with a lil smirk.. i gave her a relax but kinda piss off look..

she then open her water bottle and couldn't even take A FUKING SIP of her drink.. it was like a fake ass open the cap to drink something.. she didnt even hold the bottle up...

she just open cap.. then put bottle in her mouth.. i didnt see any water coming down..

THE BITCH BE FLIRTING WITH BUNCH OF HOMOS.. then get nervous by me..? is this bitch just want attention or just a tease in general PPL..? SOMEBODY FUKING HELP!!

BTW:IM PLANNING ON JUST ASKING HER OUT FOR THE SAKE OF IT NEXT TIME I SEE HER.. EVENTHOUGH WE NEVER TALK TO EACH OTHER BUT SEE EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME.. IF I GET REJECTED.. THEN I CAN GET her out of my mind.. if i get a YES then maybe we can get something going..

nigga you better do something soon. it seems as if she's doing all the work. she'll get bored eventually and stop. trust me.

[SF_PHOCUS]

i finally got 360!

[TheWanderer]

nigga you better do something soon. it seems as if she's doing all the work. she'll get bored eventually and stop. trust me.

nah man.. imo the bitch just want attention.. and i think she's fuking teasing me to make a move so she could reject my ass!!

bitch be giving me signs then go and flirt with other guys...? wtf kinda bs is that..

[SF_PHOCUS]

nah man.. imo the bitch just want attention.. and i think she's fuking teasing me to make a move so she could reject my ass!!

bitch be giving me signs then go and flirt with other guys...? wtf kinda bs is that..

lol DAZ take care of this one!

[Dasiatic]

lol DAZ take care of this one!

nah, im tired. i dont wanna.

i finally got 360!

merry christmas my nigga.

nah man.. imo the bitch just want attention.. and i think she's fuking teasing me to make a move so she could reject my ass!!

bitch be giving me signs then go and flirt with other guys...? wtf kinda bs is that..

well do you like her? you think she look good? what do you think you're gonna gain by acting all high and mighty ignoring a female giving YOU signs? females you giving signs first is a rarity, and you gonna keep pretending like you dont see it because you're afraid of something that you dont even know if its going to happen or not?

if you ignore her, you lose. she doesn't. according to you, she has a shopping list of dick to choose from. who knows, maybe she wants to try you. oh yeah, i forgot. the bitch only wants attention, right?

step to that fucking slut, and show her that you aren't one of the types that can be easily rejected like the rest. seriously, she had already taken care of the first step which is showing you the signs. she did the first half, now take care of that bitch. god damn, is it THAT hard to do? oh my fucking god! jesus christ nigga!

[TheWanderer]

nah, im tired. i dont wanna.
well do you like her? you think she look good? what do you think you're gonna gain by acting all high and mighty ignoring a female giving YOU signs? females you giving signs first is a rarity, and you gonna keep pretending like you dont see it because you're afraid of something that you dont even know if its going to happen or not?

if you ignore her, you lose. she doesn't. according to you, she has a shopping list of dick to choose from. who knows, maybe she wants to try you. oh yeah, i forgot. the bitch only wants attention, right?

step to that fucking slut, and show her that you aren't one of the types that can be easily rejected like the rest. seriously, she had already taken care of the first step which is showing you the signs. she did the first half, now take care of that bitch. god damn, is it THAT hard to do? oh my fucking god! jesus christ nigga!

ye i kinda like her.. she look good.. i gain nothing.. but the FACT that she smile n giggle with other guys when they talk to her just make me not wanting to have anything to do with her.. i want a relationship with her.. but she seem like she'll fuk me over considering other guys are on her ass too, n she'll dump me once we get together.. i'm sure none of us guys wanna be in that situation where you think u got the girl u want, but then found out she was fuking playing games with you..


if i see her again.. how should i ask her out..? we never talk before EVER!! but after i gave her a piss of look n made her uncomfortable.. i think i blew it.. unless i apologize to her for last week..?

[BIG BAD MOG]

Become friends, apologize if the topic comes up, don't ask her out straight up. Non desperate girls think 2 things when someone random straight up asks her out. You're either trying to pound her meat or you are easily controlled by women. Get to know her, talk with her like a friend and find out if she's really this girl that will just play games with ya. If it's just smiling and giggling with other guys talking it's no big deal. Don't you smile and laugh and joke around with your female friends?

[TheWanderer]

^ you got a point there.. but she seem to fuking seem like shes into the guys that talking to her.. :sad: the thing is.. i heard she was quitting after the holidays.. so i dont think i'll see her again.. but if i happen to see her one more time.. i needa get her number or some shit to stay in touch..

so you dont think i should apologize for giving her the piss of look when she smirk and stare at me last week..? i was thinking of saying something like... ME:hey.. i didnt mean to make you feel uncomfortable last week aiight..? Her:blah blah.. ME:then i talk to her...

how does that sound..?

[Dasiatic]

Become friends, apologize if the topic comes up, don't ask her out straight up. Non desperate girls think 2 things when someone random straight up asks her out. You're either trying to pound her meat or you are easily controlled by women. Get to know her, talk with her like a friend and find out if she's really this girl that will just play games with ya. If it's just smiling and giggling with other guys talking it's no big deal. Don't you smile and laugh and joke around with your female friends?

im going with this one.

if you're seeking a relationship, the best way of approaching her is to not expect one.
dont take anything serously at first, just see what type of girl she is. since she may be the flirty type, dont expect you two to get it on right away. just see if you two are on the same page. when i say that, i mean see if shes looking for a deep relationship as you.

take your time and focus on building a friendship first. so if anything happens, well, atleast you can still trust her on some level. if everything goes well, then you can build on that friendship from there. but thats gonna be while from now.

in a relationship, a girl has to be your companion on multiple levels, not just sexual.
she has to be your best friend, homegirl, your helper, ect, ect...
establish these first, then decide if you REALLY want to hit if off.


^ you got a point there.. but she seem to fuking seem like shes into the guys that talking to her.. :sad: the thing is.. i heard she was quitting after the holidays.. so i dont think i'll see her again.. but if i happen to see her one more time.. i needa get her number or some shit to stay in touch..

so you dont think i should apologize for giving her the piss of look when she smirk and stare at me last week..? i was thinking of saying something like... ME:hey.. i didnt mean to make you feel uncomfortable last week aiight..? Her:blah blah.. ME:then i talk to her...

how does that sound..?

speak to her normally. say anything. just dont sound like you're needy and you were too concerned on how you made her feel that day. just talk casually. let her know what you're about, and find shit about her. dont take things seriously yet.

[TheWanderer]

im going with this one.

if you're seeking a relationship, the best way of approaching her is to not expect one.
dont take anything serously at first, just see what type of girl she is. since she may be the flirty type, dont expect you two to get it on right away. just see if you two are on the same page. when i say that, i mean see if shes looking for a deep relationship as you.

take your time and focus on building a friendship first. so if anything happens, well, atleast you can still trust her on some level. if everything goes well, then you can build on that friendship from there. but thats gonna be while from now.

in a relationship, a girl has to be your companion on multiple levels, not just sexual.
she has to be your best friend, homegirl, your helper, ect, ect...
establish these first, then decide if you REALLY want to hit if off.




speak to her normally. say anything. just dont sound like you're needy and you were too concerned on how you made her feel that day. just talk casually. let her know what you're about, and find shit about her. dont take things seriously yet.

ima do all that.. but im afraid if the next time i see her.. IT'LL BE THE LAST TIME I'LL GET TO SEE HER!!

should i try n get her number.. then when im off work or during the weekend.. i could hit her up and set a date rite..?

[Dasiatic]

ima do all that.. but im afraid if the next time i see her.. IT'LL BE THE LAST TIME I'LL GET TO SEE HER!!

should i try n get her number.. then when im off work or during the weekend.. i could hit her up and set a date rite..?

how often you see her? you sure it'll be your last time?
i would try to lock her in a lengthy conversation first before getting her number. dont ask her too soon. just enjoy your conversation with her as though she could be a nice friend.
dont make it seem as if you want a date though. strictly on a friendship level.

try this: "hey, you seem like you can be a cool friend to talk to. can i get your email, and maybe your cell too?"

the point is to not say anything too deep and serious like "dating" too soon. it might scare her off.
saying that she can be a cool friend is just as light as it sounds.

just say this after the convo and feel as though shes about to leave or something.
after you get the email/cell, then you can go however you want from there.

[randomsuper]

so is anyone else here getting christmas wishes from ex boyfriends/girlfriends you hate? i've gotten 3 already and that shit pisses me off. there's nothing worse than someone who can't take a fucking hint.

[BIG BAD MOG]

^ you got a point there.. but she seem to fuking seem like shes into the guys that talking to her.. :sad: the thing is.. i heard she was quitting after the holidays.. so i dont think i'll see her again.. but if i happen to see her one more time.. i needa get her number or some shit to stay in touch..

so you dont think i should apologize for giving her the piss of look when she smirk and stare at me last week..? i was thinking of saying something like... ME:hey.. i didnt mean to make you feel uncomfortable last week aiight..? Her:blah blah.. ME:then i talk to her...

how does that sound..?

Believe me, I know what you mean, I used to be into this model chick and after becoming friends I didn't like anything besides the looks because she was so goddamn boring.

The reason why I think apologizing up front for something that you don't even know offended her or not is because it makes you look like one of those paranoid worry people with no self-confidence. If it bothered her that much she would bring it up in which case you just say, "Yeah, I'm sorry about that, it came out wrong".

Depending on how often you see her, you might want to start talking before the day she quits. Given a few weeks or so, you should become friends and all that stuff. Good stuff takes time to make. Evaluate yourself and ask why are you attracted to her. If stuff that you are thinking of are good things, then by all means pursue her. If you are just thinking she's hot and all that stuff or you're just trying to make her exclusive to you, you're going down the wrong path and shouldn't put that much effort to squeeze in becoming acquainted with her in such a short time. Plenty of fish in the sea as they say. But hey, if you really feel driven to get to know her, start up a conversation from anything that doesn't sound dumb, make it nice and lengthy, and then when it's time to go ask for cell or e-mail.

I too am confused as to why you think that it will be the last time you see her. If you are thinking of a win/lose situation which you either go out with her or get rejected, you better change your perspective. Getting rejected and becoming friends can still be a win if you develop things later. Getting a date and then dumped just as quickly is still a loss.

[TheWanderer]

It say in the paper in the morning when they have a meeting..

It say she'll be done after the holidays.. :sad:

i pretty much blew it this time.. shoulda make a move or some shiet.. instead of sitting on my ass and become a fuking detective lookingg fo signs n shiet.. :rofl:

true.. theres plenty of fish in the sea.. but each fish is different than the others..

we see each other 2 days a week.. but starting thurs is when we'll be seeing each other.. but by then.. the holiday is already over.. so i guess she's not going to be at work this thursday..

if she is.. i'll make our conversation lengthy.. then say she seem like a cool person to be friends with.. then i'll ask her for her email n number..

[SF_PHOCUS]

It say in the paper in the morning when they have a meeting..

It say she'll be done after the holidays.. :sad:

i pretty much blew it this time.. shoulda make a move or some shiet.. instead of sitting on my ass and become a fuking detective lookingg fo signs n shiet.. :rofl:

true.. theres plenty of fish in the sea.. but each fish is different than the others..

we see each other 2 days a week.. but starting thurs is when we'll be seeing each other.. but by then.. the holiday is already over.. so i guess she's not going to be at work this thursday..

if she is.. i'll make our conversation lengthy.. then say she seem like a cool person to be friends with.. then i'll ask her for her email n number..


pretty much wat ive been tellin you?:looney:

[BIG BAD MOG]

Make the conversation and see if you really are interested or not. Trust me, fish are different yeah but you may find another girl and think to yourself, "Goddamn I am so glad that I hooked up with this girl instead of the other". Believe me, I have.

[Dasiatic]

It say in the paper in the morning when they have a meeting..

It say she'll be done after the holidays.. :sad:

i pretty much blew it this time.. shoulda make a move or some shiet.. instead of sitting on my ass and become a fuking detective lookingg fo signs n shiet.. :rofl:

true.. theres plenty of fish in the sea.. but each fish is different than the others..

we see each other 2 days a week.. but starting thurs is when we'll be seeing each other.. but by then.. the holiday is already over.. so i guess she's not going to be at work this thursday..

if she is.. i'll make our conversation lengthy.. then say she seem like a cool person to be friends with.. then i'll ask her for her email n number..

so wait, you mean all this time she was flirting and you did'nt do shit? you JUST NOW came to us? look how long that shit was going on for!
god damn holy christ.

[aragami]

Alright, so a bit of history, I've been aware of this girl for the past 3 years, but we never talked or interacted beforehand. We were just in the same Japanese class together. Flash forward to the beginning of this semester, apparently she had broken up with her off-campus boyfriend and was now living on-campus. Slowly but surely we started to talk more and over the course of the semester we started to hang out more and more frequently. Soon we were hanging out pretty much everyday. Along with the increased time we spent together, she would also find reasons to grab my shoulder or touch my back, etc. Eventually I did finally ask her if she was interested in me, to which she replied that she was interested in me 'as a friend'. She became concerned that, because many of her guy friends have professed their interest in her previously and subsequently would cease to be her friend any longer, we wouldn't be able to be friends anymore. At the time, I was only curious in her interest and wasn't really feeling anything for her so we remained friends.

Though it was kind of awkward for a few days, soon we were back in the same routine. I got suspicious again when she asked me, "What kind of girls I'm interested i