The Woman/Girl Thread: Sex, Relationships, FAQs Pt. 2 [Archive] - Page 25

Kourin-chan

04-15-2008, 12:15 PM

Its not that they stop giving you play........ Its just maybe they wont do "things" in bed to u because they dont wont to feel like a slut.:sad: /Or let them think you think that they are a slut If the do a "thing" to you in bed.

Women DO think about these things; alot of times, it's because how they were raised, or should I say, "programmed". From birth to basically throughout a woman's life, she's bonbarded by society's notions on how she should be/act, and it shows when you meet chicks who are "repressed" sexually.

I struggle with it myself; I even worry at times when I wold kick it with a guy I was seeing, what if I fuck this dude so early into getting to know him...will he think I'm a slut? It didn't really matter, cuz we became a couple, getting to know each other more and more, etc, etc. So I guess it just depends on the guy and how he thinks; what both ppl's expectations are going into the whole thing, and so on. It's better that both parties be on the same page.

Havoc

04-15-2008, 12:25 PM

Women DO think about these things; alot of times, it's because how they were raised, or should I say, "programmed". From birth to basically throughout a woman's life, she's bonbarded by society's notions on how she should be/act, and it shows when you meet chicks who are "repressed" sexually.

Bingo.

I struggle with it myself; I even worry at times when I wold kick it with a guy I was seeing, what if I fuck this dude so early into getting to know him...will he think I'm a slut? It didn't really matter, cuz we became a couple, getting to know each other more and more, etc, etc. So I guess it just depends on the guy and how he thinks; what both ppl's expectations are going into the whole thing, and so on. It's better that both parties be on the same page.

You see how we fuck girls' heads up? It's a shame.

Why can't she feel free to do things that she wants to do?

Oh yeah... because somebody's gonna call her a slut...

That shit is so stupid to me. I don't see how a guy can dismiss a girl for fucking him... She's no different from you! Are you a slut? Are you dirty? Are you damaged? If you are then beggars can't be choosers. If you're not... then she's not.

I don't see how people develop these warped mindsets. I don't get mad at a girl for *gasp* liking sex. I really don't see the problem. I don't want a broad that's been fucked by all my friends, and had the football team run through her... but then again... I'm not that much of a slut either. So, I can make that call. If you've fucked 300 broads, how can you really judge a girl that's fucked 10? 20?

No defence

04-15-2008, 12:25 PM

Humans are Horny

Look at India/ China. They Are the most horny. Like a billion kids live there.:amazed:

my point is that sex(people)can be dangerous.:annoy:

Thats the only reason why people have the Wait period in relationships.

It was made up to protect up from random shit. Like Stalkers,Babysnachers,STD,Crazybitches/Crazybithes husbands wives/goldiggers,regret SEx, ECT the list goes on and on.:shake:

If a girl approves of you enough to give up the goods. Go for it.:woot:

Its like waiting for your credit card to approve. Once it approves you can get what u want.:confused:

Just use you brain to decide if she/he has or is one of the dangers listed above^^^^ it all a gamble.

KOOP is the truth..... Take my word with a grain of salt. I am technically a virgin.:angel:

The Epidemic

04-15-2008, 12:57 PM

That shit is so stupid to me. I don't see how a guy can dismiss a girl for fucking him... She's no different from you! Are you a slut? Are you dirty? Are you damaged? If you are then beggars can't be choosers. If you're not... then she's not.

I don't see how people develop these warped mindsets. I don't get mad at a girl for *gasp* liking sex. I really don't see the problem. I don't want a broad that's been fucked by all my friends, and had the football team run through her... but then again... I'm not that much of a slut either. So, I can make that call. If you've fucked 300 broads, how can you really judge a girl that's fucked 10? 20?

I know what your saying but....
Its not so much that I think shes a slut for having sex...but if i dont have to put any effort into it and shes all over me...like she wants it bad. That comes off as slutty to me.(especially if i dont know her) I dont know about you guys but i dont want over-used goods...

I mean at the end of the day its that old fashioned double standard.
Guys can fuck whoever/ whenever but, when a broad does it shes a slut.
But i mean..its just how i feel. I know im not the only one who thinks like this either...

I dont want a wife who has been fucked by everyone in my graduating class...
even if i did fuck 300 broads..i would still keep my mindstate about not wanting a girl who haas been around just as much as me. :shrug:

Oh and just for the record...im not a slut and i dont talk to mad different broads...:wgrin:

Koop

04-15-2008, 01:00 PM

Oh and just for the record...im not a slut and i dont talk to mad different broads...:wgrin:

i bet hoe... i bet u do:rofl::rofl:

pherai

04-15-2008, 01:11 PM

Thats their problem...If your so wack that your wife stops givin you play...i mean thats your fault.

That's a bold statement to make. I'd wait til I was 10 years into a marriage before I take the blame for a wife that won't put out. Fact is, the vast majority of long term marriages start to get pretty dry, and thats just the nature of monogamy, not anyone's fault specifically.

thurst

04-15-2008, 01:15 PM

That shit is so stupid to me. I don't see how a guy can dismiss a girl for fucking him... She's no different from you! Are you a slut? Are you dirty? Are you damaged? If you are then beggars can't be choosers. If you're not... then she's not.

i was talking to my friend about this awhile ago and pretty much said the same thing. if you're single, not looking for a relationship but still trying to hook up with chicks you're not really in a position to be calling girls sluts.

The Epidemic

04-15-2008, 01:53 PM

i was talking to my friend about this awhile ago and pretty much said the same thing. if you're single, not looking for a relationship but still trying to hook up with chicks you're not really in a position to be calling girls sluts.

^this is true....

SF_PHOCUS

04-15-2008, 01:55 PM

BBQ

04-15-2008, 01:59 PM

To a degree though, if the girl is actually known and it's pretty much a fact, then any one can say said girl is a slut. But I do agree, women are just like men, we all want to get some every now and then even if a relationship doesn't exist in the lives.

The Epidemic

04-15-2008, 02:01 PM

^I think alot of us have different ideas on what a "slut" is....

tech master

04-15-2008, 02:21 PM

dictionary.com:

1. a dirty, slovenly woman.
2. an immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute.

1.
1. A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous.
2. A woman prostitute.
2. A slovenly woman; a slattern.

slut
1402, "a dirty, slovenly, or untidy woman," probably cognate with dialectal Ger. Schlutt "slovenly woman," dialectal Swed. slata "idle woman, slut," and Du. slodder "slut," but the ultimate origin is doubtful. Chaucer uses sluttish (c.1386) in ref. to the appearance of an untidy man. Also "a kitchen maid, a drudge" (c.1450; hard pieces in a bread loaf from imperfect kneading were called slut's pennies, 18c.). Meaning "woman of loose character, bold hussy" is attested from c.1450; playful use of the word, without implication of loose morals, is attested from 1664.

"Our little girl Susan is a most admirable slut, and pleases us mightily." [Pepys, diary, Feb. 21, 1664]

....... its a fact. men can't be sluts. now slippah da c0xor as much as you wawnt hurrrr

orochizoolander

04-15-2008, 03:24 PM

even if i did fuck 300 broads..i would still keep my mindstate about not wanting a girl who haas been around just as much as me. :shrug:

It's very hypocritical to take on that POV, but you just can't help it because no one wants to be with someone that fits their definition of a "real slut" yet you never know for sure if your girl is a "slut" or not, you just gotta go with your gut on that.

While I agree with most of the posts from epidemic, havoc, koop, etc. I think a lot of yall are over-analyzing this whole dating thing because from my POV 90% of everything said in the past 5-10 pages is all common sense. I'm probably the youngest one here (20 next month) but even so I like to think I know a lot about women and it sounds like most of what's being said on here are things we all do in our head automatically like breathing. When i'm out with a girl I don't think about all these things such as location, money, how to act, whatever I just say and do whatever I feel like at the time because my goal is to have fun, get to know her, and possibly get to know how her coochie feels.

I'l just give my scrubby rundown of whatever yall been talking bout in this thread over the last few pages:

money: I don't mind spending money on a girl whether I just met her or known her for years because for me a typical date looks like dinner at applebees, fridays, tuesdays, and a movie, chill at the park or any other public venue, it's whatever I feel like doing at the time. I don't spend a lot of money on just any girl unless I like her enough to though that doesn't necessarily mean I have to know a girl my whole life just to spend money on her, hell I bought my ex a louie vutton wallet on her bday after being with her for a year n half. Like I said sometims i spend money on the girl and sometimes she spends money on me (most of the time if they pay for me then she's older then me lol) and sometimes we split the bill 50/50 either way it's not a big deal to me.

how to "impress" a girl: Simple, I just "be myself" though because i'm naturally very confidant, weird, random, and brutally honest 24/7 but not all girls find that attractive as much as my ego would like to think otherwise. I just be me and if the girl is feeling me cool we're gonna kick it again some other time and if not then it was nice to know she wasn't worth my time n I keep it moving.

location on first date: I think yall get the point that it don't matter to me where (I don't mind walking sometimes.)

Being with a "slut": When I was first starting to go out n stuff (14-15) I had no notion of sluts or cheaters or anything and then I learned that ish the hard way with the quickness. Later on (16-18) I though most women were sluts and if I get the vibe that the girl i'm talking to fits my definition of a slut then i'm out regardless of the fact that I was/am a slut. Now I don't think like that because I have been with a lot of women and I think i'm beginning to understand that although there are alotta skanks out there that don't mean every girl I talk to is one. If I meet a girl who I get to fuck the same day i'm NOT going to dismiss her as a slut, i'l be thinking she could either be a slut or she was just really feeling me, or she was just hella horny at the time (we all know how that impairs judgment:rofl:), or maybe a combination of all that. Would I wife a slut? Probably not BUT that doesn't mean I wouldn't i'll make that decision when I get to that bridge, but for now I have no problem getting into a serious relationship with a slut if I liked her enough, because I don't see why a womans previous sexual experience should impede on the fun I have hanging out with her.

Naslectronical

04-15-2008, 03:48 PM

Koop:

I have never spent a single cent on any of the women I've fucked. Ever.

Many women seem to have this idea that a man's entire raison d'etre is to impress her, and the last thing I want to do is reinforce such a pretentious idea. Maybe I can't change the way that other people do the whole "dating" thing, but I can certainly change the way that I do it.

I have no problems whatsoever with spending money on a girl if we're together in a serious relationship, but I'm not about to start depleting my bank account for a girl that I barely even know.

Granted, I've never been in a serious relationship, but considering the way most women are, I think that's all for the better.

Murt!

04-15-2008, 03:56 PM

So...anyone else ever been in a situation where a girl tries to test you? Like says some real wise ass shit to gauge your response?

Hatred Edge

04-15-2008, 03:59 PM

Alright I just want a little feedback.

I've known this girl for about 5 years now and for quite a few months like over fucking 8 months she knew that I wanted to be with her. Problem was she had a boyfriend. Last month they broke up. So she and I are talking and she's all I have to wait until marriage if I want to she her topless or get oral or have sex. Then today we're talking about sex. I was like "I don't like looking a girl in the eyes during sex because I find that shit to be weird. I just feel creepy." She says she looks in the eyes when she's having sex. She's told me she only had sex with one person:the guy she just broke up with last month. Or so I thought...

Then I say "Y'know some men choke their girls during sex." She's says she knows, she's been choked before. Me::wtf: "Who did that? Your ex boyfriend?" She says no, another guy.... It dawned upon me that she's lies about stupid shit. First she lies and tells me that she's a virgin then says her ex fucked her ONCE. Keep in mind that this chick has told me on NUMEROUS occasions that he'll come over and eat her pussy. NUMEROUS occasions. You tell me, how many men eat their women and ONLY get sex ONCE and sex ONLY? No man comes over to just eat pussy and then walks.

Not too long ago she claims she's never cheated on her boyfriend. One of her friends says that she(not the girl I'm talkin bout) has cheated many times because the boyfriend cheated and it's a stupid game and she stopped cheating. Whatever. Then this chick admits she's cheated on her boyfriend twice and he never cheated on her...

There was also some shit about her admitting she smokes every month and drinks. Random crap. I remember one thing she told me:"If my husband goes down on me, I'll go down on him." Remember her ex boyfriend ate her NUMEROUS times talking about she taste like Pina Colada or however the fuck that's spelled.

Am I wrong to be suspicious of this girl? Is it wrong that I feel like I should just say fuck this noise and move unto other girls? I have enough trouble trusting people.. Am I over reacting?

Oroman

04-15-2008, 04:03 PM

^I don't think you're over reacting. That's some pretty suspicious shit and she doesn't seem like she's worth the trouble in my opinion. It's your call though.

Murt!

04-15-2008, 04:14 PM

Well to be blunt it doesn't sound like she's interested in you. That marriage shit is usually a lie they throw out to get you to back off.

Hatred Edge

04-15-2008, 04:23 PM

That's what I think. I'm just gonna get over this bullshit. Move the fuck on. It's a waste of time and energy.

pherai

04-15-2008, 04:24 PM

Alright I just want a little feedback.

I've known this girl for about 5 years now and for quite a few months like over fucking 8 months she knew that I wanted to be with her.

This is all I needed to hear to say forget her, and it got much worse from there. It's not gonna happen, and I would hope you wouldn't want it to happen with a bitch like that.

HeaT

04-15-2008, 04:24 PM

^^My logic is, if its easy...she prolly isnt relationship material

If she gives it to you made early/easy then she most likely been generous to other dudes too.:bluu:
Im not saying I wouldnt hit..but im definetly not gonna wife a broad like that.

so what is the cut off day for early...

i also have never really spent money in the starting phases, minus the dates if money was indeed involved but nothing extravagant and when it got serious we usually just split stuff, like i would pay for dinner one time the next time she would etc...

im outi

Roberth

ps...you know what i notice??? it is hard finding a chick when you are not in school anymore especially if you dont do the club/drinking/party scene...cause ive been in the mode to check out some chicks but not many are available...maybe i will get lucky in finding something in the activities i like to do...

J-ride

04-15-2008, 04:25 PM

So...anyone else ever been in a situation where a girl tries to test you? Like says some real wise ass shit to gauge your response?

I think spending time with a new girl is like being a substitute teacher, they are going to test you to see what they can get away with. Usually I let them know the instant they do something I don't like that I don't put up with that nonsense, and that usually stops it from happening again. Sometimes they get super pissed and say they don't want to see me anymore, and I tell them thats fine with me and call their bluff. 99% of the time they STFU and get angry, but they don't pull that shit again. I've had girls I've been in relationships test me, in really stupid ways, but I just avoid those whores these days because I am getting too old for that.

The Epidemic

04-15-2008, 07:01 PM

It's very hypocritical to take on that POV, but you just can't help it because no one wants to be with someone that fits their definition of a "real slut" yet you never know for sure if your girl is a "slut" or not, you just gotta go with your gut on that.

Hypocritical? Yes...very much so. But, I cant see myself with a slut..ever.
As for my girl..i KNOW she aint a slut..but i wont get into why:wgrin:

Also, i have a slut eye...i know a slut when i see one. I always thought it was easy to know whos a slut or not....guess i just got the eye.

so what is the cut off day for early?...

I mean..i dont have a said date marked on a calender or anything:lol:

all im sayin is..a broad a smash within hours of meeting isnt wifey material to me...(unless she got dough)

But, to answer your question...anywhere from a week or two is straight to me.
I dont wanna give off the impression to a broad that i just wanna smash.
Im a fast talker and have alot of charisma so..if i wanted to i could speed things up in my favor if need be. Obviously if she offers im gonna accept the cooch mad quick too...

Azrael

04-15-2008, 10:41 PM

I will freely admit that I am a male slut. As such, I like female sluts. The world needs more of them.

Assuming I was still a single guy, if I got horny, sometimes I'd want to go out and have sex. That doesn't mean I want a relationship or I want to wait for one week or one month until the Brady Sex Bill passes or whatever, I just want to go out, have good sex, maybe meet her again if the sex was good, and have that be the end of it. I realize that if I want to enjoy this, I'm going to need women willing to work with this system. It does me no good to judge any woman who enjoys casual, relationship-free sex as much as I do.

Also, I prefer experienced women. Inexperienced women tend to suck at sex, and training them takes a while. If she's got experience, perhaps she can teach me a few new things, or, when she says "you're the best I've ever had!" it tends to mean a lot more.

I also am not about dropping tons of cash to impress a girl early on. If she likes you, she likes YOU regardless of how often you pull out your wallet. I remember talking to this one girl about this guy she was seeing, and he didn't have any money so she would end up paying for him! She bitched about it...but she still fell head over heels for the guy. Compare that to other guys who took the same girl out on dates and paid for everything, but she just couldn't find any interest in them.

Once the girl has established herself as a serious relationship partner, then I don't mind picking up the tab every now and then. But I just don't like having to cover the expenses of someone who is more or less a stranger just in the hopes of getting her to bed/a possible relationship.

Murt!

04-15-2008, 10:59 PM

As a rule of thumb you're not supposed to spend more than fifty dollars on a girl on the first date.

I think spending time with a new girl is like being a substitute teacher, they are going to test you to see what they can get away with. Usually I let them know the instant they do something I don't like that I don't put up with that nonsense, and that usually stops it from happening again. Sometimes they get super pissed and say they don't want to see me anymore, and I tell them thats fine with me and call their bluff. 99% of the time they STFU and get angry, but they don't pull that shit again. I've had girls I've been in relationships test me, in really stupid ways, but I just avoid those whores these days because I am getting too old for that.

This girl I've been fooling around with tried that shit on me last night.

Me: Go to sleep.

Her: Don't think since you are older [I am a sophomore and she is a freshman, not like it matters but w/e] a male that you can tell me what to do.

Me: Older a male? Care to clarify?

Her: Older and a male. Don't get fresh with me.

Me: HAHA. You've been misinformed my friend, so allow me to correct you. I get "fresh" with who I damn well please, and that includes you.

I kinda feel like a dick-flexer for posting that though. Oh well.

Javid

04-15-2008, 11:13 PM

Ok, suppose you ask the girl out for coffee, are you supposed to pay for her drink or something? I think most of us established that going out for coffee is a neutral act, but should you pay if you did the asking?

pherai

04-15-2008, 11:14 PM

It doesn't really make a difference. Only bitches will consider you not paying a deal breaker.

Pat the Great

04-15-2008, 11:23 PM

pretty much every girl (college age / recent grad) i know says that, if you ask someone out, even to coffee or whatever, you gotta pay for it.

boba ftw. cheap, and ball-sucking on the first date.

Javid

04-15-2008, 11:42 PM

pretty much every girl (college age / recent grad) i know says that, if you ask someone out, even to coffee or whatever, you gotta pay for it.

boba ftw. cheap, and ball-sucking on the first date.

Yeah that's what I thought also. Also, some of the girls I know say they really like it when a guy opens doors or pulls out a chair for them on the first couple of dates or so. Not that they expect this to continue or anything, it just shows class.

What about you guys? Would you do that, cause I don't, maybe I should next time.:wonder:

And what the hell is boba?

BrentoBox

04-15-2008, 11:58 PM

Yeah that's what I thought also. Also, some of the girls I know say they really like it when a guy opens doors or pulls out a chair for them on the first couple of dates or so. Not that they expect this to continue or anything, it just shows class.

What about you guys? Would you do that, cause I don't, maybe I should next time.:wonder:

And what the hell is boba?

It never hurts to show courtesy to a woman. They don't expect it all the time, but they will notice if you do it and then stop for a long time. It is nice to do it everyonce in a while to let them know they are special to you.

Boba is Bubble Tea and is Delicious. It is like getting a milkshake or a sweet tea in almost any flavor you could possibly want.

thurst

04-16-2008, 12:01 AM

it depends on the chick and the EXACT situation. sometimes shit will unravel in a way where the only way you can pay for them would involve you pulling some awkward ass move that requires you trying too hard, other times it's just a natural thing...and then other times the chick will just pay. obviously the last scenario is preferable, but it goes without saying that you have to be willing to drop the cash on the next event for the day, whether it be the movies, next drink, etc...

relevant story, tonight at the bar i saw this chick i know (and i kinda wanna fuck, but nothing serious) at the bar, so i buy her a drink out of habit. this other dude is pressing her hard as fuck, so i fall back and chill with my boys bcuz after all, it's a tuesday and realistically i have 2 tests tomorrow and am not trying to take this bitch home...but i'm in the vicinity and i see this dude buy this chick no less than 5 drinks. a few minutes before last call comes and the chick turns to dude gives him her number and bounces. my opinion is dude got played, if you're just trying to get a number that can be done in 5 mins of conversations, if i'm feed a bitch drinks all night best i'm expecting a drunken handjob at the very least.

Koop

04-16-2008, 05:39 AM

Koop:

I have never spent a single cent on any of the women I've fucked. Ever.

ya 24-25ish... "18 chicks"... youve done "no work"... "never been in a relationship nor persuaded one"... "did nothing but stood there an let them do all the work"...... well your a rare breed....very rare

So...anyone else ever been in a situation where a girl tries to test you? Like says some real wise ass shit to gauge your response?

plenty of times... an the way I shut that shyt down strikes so much fear in them that shyt doesnt happen again...

-->again... at the money situation since I see a lot of you are paranoid an quick to shout out about the monetary portion of 'dating' etc. its not that serious. your own brain an logic should tell u if your taking it a bit far. you should know a chill evening over her crib or your crib will cost you... from gas to pickin up some snacks... thats what i mean you come outta pocket regardless. not trickin yaselves over some pussy. im sayin to the youngin's its unavoidable all the way round. this is coming from my experience with sistas (black chicks for the smart an ignorant) an latinas.... yeah ya first few dates can be loungin roun the crib an such but $20 says that shyt gets boring quick an some other battle plan is needed... so... once again ya gotta put out a little. aint sayin you gotta do it ALL THE TIME... but a here n there is necessary.

now im not gonna sit here an break it down ill just let you witness for yourselves an point it out everytime you post a female issue of some sort..

w1r3d

04-16-2008, 06:25 AM

Regarding the coffee date. The way I do it is once I get the number (so far it has been in salsa clubs, but I've only been doing this for a couple months), I wait 5-9 days to call to set up the Starbucks date. I call, chit chat for about 1-2 minutes, and then tell her I want to get a cup of coffee with her on Thursday (for example. but I try to make it 2-3 days after the actual call. It HAS to be on a weekday too, no weekends) at 8pm (for example). Then I shut up. If she agrees, I'll say something like "ok, let's meet at the Starbucks in Southwestern Blvd and I-75" and since she agreed in the first place THEN I can be a bit flexible on the location. If she doesn't agree, I'll wait. If she's like "I'm busy that day" or something, then whatever, it means she wasn't interested to begin with (girls with high interest will cut class or get out of work early just to see you again). The only way I'll change my set date is if she counter offers with a specific date. I will do a bit more chit chat and end the call (I try to keep phone calls under 8 minutes or so).

Anyways, the day of the date I'll meet her there, and "interview" her for around 40 minutes. I'll pull up her chair, pay for her coffee (come on, it's only like 3-4 bucks), act like a gentleman as much as I can. I only give her TWO compliments (one when I first see her, one before leaving). Of course all the while I'll just be observing her body language, count the number of times she touches my arm/hand, etc. I'll keep conversation light and funny, no heavy subjects. At the end of the ~40 minutes I'll say I have to go or whatever, but I make sure it is me that ends the date, not her. Also, I won't "schedule" the next date or even talk about seeing her again during the date. IF I want to continue seeing this girl (meaning, if she passed the interview) then I'll wait another 5-9 days to set up the next date (which will be dinner+dancing or some other type of physical activity like pool or mini golf or whatever). ETC.

Sorry for the long post. I know a lot of you may not agree with me, and I know that this isn't the "standard" way to do it. I am not a player or anything like that, and so I'm not looking to "hit and quit" or anything, which you can see just by looking at the way I approach dating. I like to test girls as much as I can to quickly move on from the ones that I know aren't compatible with what I look for in a girl (for a serious relationship).

If anyone wants me to, I can go into detail on how a lot of the stuff described above "tests" the girl and stuff.

Reveal

04-16-2008, 11:08 AM

plenty of times... an the way I shut that shyt down strikes so much fear in them that shyt doesnt happen again...

Can ya give an example? I'm intrigued!

onyx

04-16-2008, 12:03 PM

Yeah that's what I thought also. Also, some of the girls I know say they really like it when a guy opens doors or pulls out a chair for them on the first couple of dates or so. Not that they expect this to continue or anything, it just shows class.

What about you guys? Would you do that, cause I don't, maybe I should next time.:wonder:

And what the hell is boba?
Ya i do it until they stop say'n "thankyou" ,then they'll notice afta a while and ask "how come you dont do that anymore??" Because you stop appreciating it:xeye: I've got a bad habbit of spoiling the women that im with, gotta kick it.

---Boba is like a asain "frappachino" Comes in all kinda of flavors, green tea, pinneaple ect. At the bottom it has these little black starch balls that you consume along with the frozen drink.

Warpticon

04-16-2008, 12:32 PM

Once again, it's not about not spending money. It's about not nourishing an expectation of getting stuff for free.

SRKev

04-16-2008, 01:00 PM

So, I broke up with my girlfriend for good yesterday, it felt great.:woot:

She probably thinks I'm feeling hella lonely, but nope, I've always got another girl in the pocket! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aqiKdUke69Q)

Warpticon

04-16-2008, 01:24 PM

thurst

04-16-2008, 01:26 PM

lol i don't really mind if bitches don't say "thank you" when i open the door for them, it's just something that i do out of habit at this point. i guess i make up for it by referring to them as "bitches"...another habit.

Naslectronical

04-16-2008, 01:27 PM

ya 24-25ish... "18 chicks"... youve done "no work"... "never been in a relationship nor persuaded one"... "did nothing but stood there an let them do all the work"...... well your a rare breed....very rare

No one did any work. There is no "work".

The way I see it, it's just people hanging out, talking, meeting women, and if one of them and myself should want sex, then so shall it be. That's not to say that women are coming up to my front door asking to have sex(it's not that easy), but I'm not doing hard goddamn work to get women into bed, either.

I think the problem most guys have with girls(and vice versa) is that they make it into some huge affair like they're trying to set up a multi-million dollar business deal and then they put her up on this huge pedestal and put tons of pressure on themselves to do anything and everything they can to make the girl like them. This is stupid.

The way I see it, if the girl and I both want sex, then it'll happen. There's no need to do any sort of "work". Yeah, maybe I am a rare breed for my viewpoint and for the way I do things, but I don't think any of it is as outrageous as it seems. After all, they're only women.

As for the whole slut thing, I'm with Az on this one.

As a matter of fact, I find that the so-called sluts are much easier and more pleasant to deal with than the ones who want me to solve a mind-bending puzzle, scurry across a platform fixed with spinning blades suspended over a river of hot lava, and then defeat the true last boss before sex occurs. Women who seek casual sex without a relationship don't play games, they know what they want to do, so they go out and do it. Far less tedious hassle to deal with.

HeaT

04-16-2008, 01:34 PM

But, to answer your question...anywhere from a week or two is straight to me.
I dont wanna give off the impression to a broad that i just wanna smash.
Im a fast talker and have alot of charisma so..if i wanted to i could speed things up in my favor if need be. Obviously if she offers im gonna accept the cooch mad quick too...

but what if you only seen her 1 time in that week??? hahaha...or 3 times by week 2...thats not very many get togethers to start smashing if i were on the same logic as you were about "too early"...

im outi

Roberth

BaSiK_TeKniK

04-16-2008, 01:37 PM

Just wanted to let you folks know I read this thread like a dictionary or encyclopedia. it has alot of tips/pointers :tup:

The Epidemic

04-16-2008, 02:02 PM

but what if you only seen her 1 time in that week??? hahaha...or 3 times by week 2...thats not very many get togethers to start smashing if i were on the same logic as you were about "too early"...

im outi

Roberth

If im pursuing a broad...im gonna see/talk to her more than once during the week tho:lol:
With me..any broad that i have ever been with are like my friends too..so hang'n out on the regular is normal to me.
So basically Im gonna end up seeing her like everyday..thats how i do son.:wink:

Luigi-Bo 87

04-16-2008, 06:51 PM

So I ran into my ex AGAIN today, wtf is goin on???:confused:

Koop

04-16-2008, 07:33 PM

So I ran into my ex AGAIN today, wtf is goin on???:confused:

temptation... but u decided... remember what i said cause i bet NOT.....BET NOT.... see any thread bout u an ya ex an tryin to figure out where to go from here post... i bet not

Luigi-Bo 87

04-16-2008, 07:37 PM

Ahhhhhh, this is too confusing.:sad: We ended up talking for over an hour playing catch-up and shit.:sad: I dunno man....

The Epidemic

04-16-2008, 07:38 PM

^^:rofl:

Koop..u know the young brothas are hardheaded...we all were

Luigi-Bo 87

04-16-2008, 07:51 PM

Shut up.:bluu:
DO I ditch her or what?:confused:

Statistics

04-16-2008, 09:39 PM

I'm officially in a crisis. My girlfriend is pissed at me.

She says she's unsatisfied because of all the making out we do while she's on her period. Normally, I get "satisfied", she doesn't. Normally, I'd think this is unfair, but I was always under the impression that she was completely willing to do it. Until now she never said a word about it, and all of a sudden she's as pissed as I've ever seen her.

Previously, she's talked about how she doesn't want to have to tell me everything she wants, and that's understandable. But she doesn't tell me ANYTHING even remotely important. She'll say stuff like:

"lets go to the movies today"
"we should have this for dinner"
"im horny"
"how does this look"

But never anything substantial like "We need to talk about our finances" or "Eric, I don't like how ~." From time to time, she'll talk about our sex life and what she wants from it, but she's never EVER mentioned specifics about this time of the month other than "It's pretty nasty, we shouldn't do this anymore." That's what I remember, and that's what I go off of.

She seems to think, however, that since we were making out last night, the situation should've taken over and that I should've had sex with her and pleased her. When I told her about what she said previously, she retorts with "And there weren't any alternatives?" referring to the vibrator I use on her occasionally.

Granted, the vibrator slipped my mind. It did. I'm sorry, I really am. But now she won't talk to me and won't let me touch her, even for a hug. She says it'll be like this for awhile and that I should "rectify" the situation. But how the hell am I gonna do that? Every single time I ask her what I should do about this, she simply says "i don't know, do something..."

To recap:
- she's pissed she didn't orgasm and that I did.
- she thinks she's giving me signals and I'm apparently not picking them up or I think too hard about what she says.
- we live together, and this separation is killing me.
- even though she knows I'm torn apart by this, she's still pissed.
- humor and touching won't work, and most attempts at conversing end with "so do something about it."

So wtf do I do, SRK!?

max_85

04-16-2008, 10:34 PM

thurst

04-16-2008, 10:47 PM

beat her

...but seriously, just fuck her on her period. she's your girl, right?

Azrael

04-16-2008, 10:51 PM

If it makes you feel any better, you are not alone. This is just something that women do - not tell you about what's bothering them, get angry at you, blow up about it, get even angrier that you had no idea before she exploded, and then get even angrier still that you're not trying to solve the problem while you're desperately trying to defend yourself from her K-Groove rage. The last part especially sucks - she's all pissed and snappy at you, and then expects you to be all happy and accomodating to her; she only gets angrier when you can't do it.

Sometimes, you may need to give her some time to cool down. What this doesn't mean is to run off and play games at a friend's house while she steams at home - this will only make things worse. Just, do as you always did, but don't expect any changes for the better for a few days at least.

In all arguments, each person wants to communicate how they felt to the other side. In doing so, we start to feel like we're getting attacked, and then switch into self-defense mode. She's going to say stuff that you're not gonna agree with. And it will be your first impulse to say "But...!" But, don't. She feels the way she does for a reason. Just listen to what she has to say, and try to understand it. Absorb what you can, apologize if necessary. ...Don't look at this as a defeat, but rather, a strategical retreat to allow for later advancement. Once she's gotten her issues off her chest, and it looks like you have listened/understand her issues (that's crucial), she will calm down a lot, and it will allow you to make your points.

Having fought this same fight before, I can guess that her issue is that she feels like she shouldn't have to tell you that she wants to get off as well - you should just know. Us guys, we don't think too deeply about these things, but women will take that as a sign of not caring/indifference. You will probably have to promise to be more attentive to her needs...but do make sure to stress your point that you are a dumb-ass guy (we all are) and sometimes, we need a point in the right direction

Azrael

04-16-2008, 11:13 PM

(cont...)

Period sex is possible. A little messier than normal, sure, but absolutely possible.

First, you (or both of you) will have to get over any possible mental aversion to it. C'mon, sex is just messy to begin with. That's the region where piss comes out, shit's not too far away, and your juices and her juices all mix up into a nasty yet wonderful creamy stew. Period blood is just another fluid. It won't kill you or make you sick, and it washes off easily.

The easiest place to have period sex is the shower. Any potential mess washes away as you make it. Depending on how big your shower is, you can possibly do doggy, and some forms of cowgirl (with you sitting up as opposed to laying on your back). You can buy a bath stool that may help with positioning. While the shower is nice for the cleanliness, the heat from the shower does tend to tire both of you out quicker, so you may want to keep temperatures lukewarm, and/or have a bottle of Gatorade nearby.

Bedroom sex is also completely do-able. You'll need some towels - I recommend buying some dark-colored towels specifically for this purpose. If you have light-colored bedsheets, you may want to change these into dark-colored ones as well, possibly even sheets you have specifically for period sex. Missionary will be the most messy - put a towel down underneath her bottom and go to work. Girl on top actually works well - put the towel underneath you and have her get on top of you. Your dick will sort of act as a plug to keep most of the stuff from spilling out - any leakage just ends up on top of you, and can be wiped away with paper towels. I do not recommend doggy, nor do I recommend changing positions - pick one and stick with it until the end. Afterwards, you will both want to take a shower to clean up, of course. Oral is possible, provided that you do it after she has showered, and never stray below her clit. Again, you will want to lay towels down. If you have sex toys that are easily cleanable, these also work. And of course, I do recommend doing all of this in low/no lighting, unless you're a vampire or some shit and like the sight of your genitals smeared in blood.

Despite the visually un-appealing nature of it, period sex actually does have some benefits. She will be very well lubricated. Many women report that sex during menstruation helps to ease the pain of cramps. Some women actually get very horny during their periods (sounds like your girlfriend might be one of these). Also, if you want to go bareback, pregnancy-wise her period is one of her safest times (safest. NOT absolutely fail-safe. Women can and have gotten pregnant by period sex, so do realize the risk...).

Koop

04-17-2008, 06:21 AM

Ahhhhhh, this is too confusing.:sad: We ended up talking for over an hour playing catch-up and shit.:sad: I dunno man....

^^:rofl:

Koop..u know the young brothas are hardheaded...we all were

Shut up.:bluu:
DO I ditch her or what?:confused:

ok... you dont have to ditch, in fact u can tap that pussy again... toss it all roun the crib

BUT .... ya muthafuccin bet not get all into it... ya bet not cause im giving you fair warning on bullshyt ahead cause if i see a thread that has a smilie lookin like
:shake:

then imma be like
:arazz::rofl::looney:

i learned the hard way too an thats exactly what them ol schoolers did to me after they specifically told me to fall back or hit it an have an understandin ya not movin backwards... did i listen, no. i took her soft nice conversation of how she was gettin her life together all the while im lookin at her like damn she went an got toned up so her little frame with big boobs an phat ass all came together once she went an lost that baby fat on her tummy... .. slowly like an A groove meter the sexual side was getting stronger an i was truely losing focus on what she was sayin etc... all i knew was hit this shyt koop an talk later. an i did... it was that sex that just left both of you like HOT DAMN. But soon as I used up my a groove meter she was raged an released that shyt on me

" you know i miss us... what happened?? i mean i know but i really do think of us ..blah blah blah blah"

AW FUCK... now when i try to slow the rush down she is kgroove parryin every excuse i was throwing out the book cause i didnt set a guideline... she was whisper shyt in my ear while im fuccin her like i "miss u an this" an my dumb ass would respond instead of poundin that shyt harder. instead of acting nonchalant about the past i was giving into her questions and feelings an eventually she caught me wit the cr. MK an excuted that fuccin super an THEN i woke up an realized THIS WAS ONE OF THE FUCCIN REASONS I BROKE UP WIT THIS BITCH. an now im runnin away tryin my damnest to make it out witout havin to strong arm this chick to fall the fucc back...

all in all... control ya self youngin.

SF_PHOCUS

04-17-2008, 06:32 AM

blah blah blah

Hey man its seems like shes wearin the pants in the relationship... stop actin like a cry baby and start takin control of ur relationship... toooo many times have i heard friends talk the same story your talkin.... Instead of waiting for her to tell u wtf she wants start doin shit on ur own... Dont wait for her to talk about finances bring the shit up urself...

Look at yourself in the mirror and say wait the fuck a minute... "I'm the man up in this piece!" Sorta like denzel at the end of training day http://youtube.com/watch?v=RHgtX6wyYmU

Phoenix Wright

04-17-2008, 08:19 AM

Shut up.:bluu:
DO I ditch her or what?:confused:

Hit it and bounce.

onyx

04-17-2008, 08:24 AM

Shut up.:bluu:
DO I ditch her or what?:confused:

If you're not in a relationship right now, dig her out. I dunno why you guys broke up in the first place, but if it had anything to do with her being promiscuous, then even more of a reason (IMO) to do it (protect yourself).. Listen to her stuff, give her the same answers and response's you gave her when you broke up,, She'll realize what you guys have an unspoken agreement of "fuckbudies" sooner or later.

You really just have to hold your ground though, witch actually turns them on even more. If standing your ground was'nt one of your strong point with her when you were in the relationship. Then dont initiate the sex, just keep talking as friends and one day when you guys are talking and chill'n your newfound manlyness will just urge her to rape you anyway, and let her. Then when she starts say'n stuff like "but we had sex n it still feels like love" agree to a degree and remind her that sex was her choice.
beat her

...but seriously, just fuck her on her period. she's your girl, right?
Eww ,its not so much the blood thats disturbing, its the flesh particle hanging oof your d!ck*blood vomit* Along with the bed n your cloths looking like evidence in a crime scene:shake:

I'm officially in a crisis. My girlfriend is pissed at me.
So wtf do I do, SRK!?

I feel your pain man, theres nothing more frustrating than a girl on her period ranting @ u.

I dunno how long you guy's have been together, but the first thing you have to realize is where this random burst of anger is coming from.. The answer most likely is.. Nowhere.. She on her period.:rolleyes: So at times like these, when she throws you some random issues out of the blue try your best to listen clearly without a :wtf: facial expression. After enduring her comments/questions , just say something to the effect of "ok, i didnt know, i'll try harder" (if you truely do understand) Now, if your still like :wtf::confused: then bite your tongue of any serious retorts, it wont matter how right you are or how many logical points you may make, this will only increase her rage, your level of confusion and the distance between the two of you. Keep in the mind the points you want to make, and bring the issue up again when she is not on her period, this is the time when she's a bit more emotional stable and will be more receptive of your comments and confusion.

As for the issue @ hand, if your not down with the crimson tide sexual adventure there are alternatives. So next time she on her period..

1.) Just turn her on and eat her out, but by all mean stay clear of the vaginal passage:wasted: Sure an oral orgasm is'nt the same as a vaginal one, but its still provides a good release of sexual tension. If you haven't made her orgasm from that yet, nows a good time to learn. People where posting about techniques about that very subject some pages ago.

2.) Dual masturbation i find is another good substitute.

3.) Toys, if you got them, might do the trick, but it may just backfire and get her more excited for the real thing.:xeye:

4.) Suggest anal exploration... Either blood or $hit, its your choice.

Edit:
5.) AZ's shower method is actually a bloody good idea, im gonna have to retain that one myself.

Nokato

04-17-2008, 08:28 AM

So I ran into my ex AGAIN today, wtf is goin on???:confused:

Leave....that....shit....alone.

IT IS really, that simple. PLEASE BELIEVE ME

In most cases, its not worth it ...the few exceptions are FEW for a reason.

Koop is speaking from experience and gave you some play-by-play detailed that was really easy to understand. I'm speaking from experience as well. Seriously don't fuck yourself up.

TornadoFlame

04-17-2008, 03:02 PM

Leave....that....shit....alone.

IT IS really, that simple. PLEASE BELIEVE ME

In most cases, its not worth it ...the few exceptions are FEW for a reason.

Koop is speaking from experience and gave you some play-by-play detailed that was really easy to understand. I'm speaking from experience as well. Seriously don't fuck yourself up.

Definitely not worth it. Trust me, I just learned that shit a few weeks ago. Come to find out, my Ex lives 40 seconds away in walking distance.............I'm LEAVING THAT SHIT ALONE.

HeaT

04-17-2008, 03:42 PM

so just a general question i been wondering about...

has anyone been in a relationship where you either (situation #1) cheated on your gf and she found out then got back together...

or (situation #2) your gf cheated on you and you got back together...

so if the answer was yes to either of these, how was it like afterwards...was it awkward for a long person of time or what???

i never been in this situation so just wondering...

im outi

Roberth

tech master

04-17-2008, 03:51 PM

two of my best friends were a couple. she cheated on him so they broke up. he pulled some bitch shit and started hella rumors about the situation and about her. she lost all her friends got hella depressed and felt hella bad so then they worked things out and got back together.

dood just never trusted her again and gave her hella shit. but he was the angry type though, so take that in to consideration. then again that was like his first GF and they were together for like 3-4 years so he went crazy. she tried to be good, but he just didnt trust her no matter what she did. so they ended up breaking up again.

but pre-cheating, honestly he wasnt that good of a bf so maybe he pushed her to the cheating.

if in that situation you get back together, you just really have to pay attention to the cheater. are they trying REAL hard to be a better person? do they go out of their way to SHOW they arent cheating? thats what you really need to do. just don't bring hella doubt in to the situation cuz thats just more drama and lack of trust.

The Epidemic

04-17-2008, 03:56 PM

cheating is wrong...dont do it.

pherai

04-17-2008, 03:59 PM

The problem with trying to work things out when you are cheated on is there isn't anything abnormal about not trusting that person, so in the interest of keeping the peace, you'll basically be keeping things bottled up constantly. It's a situation doomed to failure and high blood pressure.

BBQ

04-17-2008, 04:05 PM

I've never really been cheated on or never knew. But I am the type of guy that has zero tolerance when it comes to this shit. There were past relationships where I was really into the girl I was seeing, but I always had a thought in the back of my mind "If this girl cheats on me and I find out, I will call her out right then and there say that she can live the rest of her life without me " I just have that don't give a shit mentallity when it comes to girls fucking around with other guys. I wasn't born to council bitches problems so why would I give a shit about a girl that did me wrong especially when I can move on to probably better girls. And it makes me wonder on the past guys she's been in a relationship with, kind of gives me an idea that they were a bunch of pussies and just let the bitch ruin their lives.

tech master

04-17-2008, 04:13 PM

yea, there is no reason why a functional relationship should have a cheater. so if someone cheats, then it shouldnt even be. dumpdabitch and tell everyone how much of a slut she is. unless like, she only cheated because she had a psycho, overprotective, violent, drunk bf who wouldn't let her leave haha

SF_PHOCUS

04-17-2008, 05:57 PM

yea, there is no reason why a functional relationship should have a cheater.

i dont think thats true... Your trying to tell me if the girl you have been trying to get wif since jr high comes knockin at ur door, lookin good as hell, and is about to leave out of town ur not hittin that??

The Epidemic

04-17-2008, 05:59 PM

^i wouldnt....

Warpticon

04-17-2008, 06:11 PM

i dont think thats true... Your trying to tell me if the girl you have been trying to get wif since jr high comes knockin at ur door, lookin good as hell, and is about to leave out of town ur not hittin that??

Damn right I wouldn't. But then, I"m not a pussy with no control over my dick. If you're in a serious relationship and you cheat...if you can answer "yes" to some question of whether you would cheat or not ahead of even being in the situation...you're a fucking loser. If you feel like fucking around, stay your ass out of a relationship. There is no excuse for cheating in a serious relationship, point blank, period. If things aren't going quite right in the relationship? Open your fucking mouth and say something about it, or call it quits. If she ain't as kinky as you prefer or whatever? Persuade, deal, or call it quits. You know she wouldn't be down if she knew, and you damn sure wouldn't be down if she did the same. Bottom line, if you can't handle the payments stay your ass off the lot.

Alzarath

04-17-2008, 06:32 PM

tech master

04-17-2008, 06:43 PM

i dont think thats true... Your trying to tell me if the girl you have been trying to get wif since jr high comes knockin at ur door, lookin good as hell, and is about to leave out of town ur not hittin that??

i only get with women that are a dollar passed a dime anyway, so she probably wouldnt be lookin too much better than what i already have haha. besides, when in a relationship i make sure its a possible "keeper" so then we prolly gonna fuck like rabbits anyway since its that serious.

i dont play around with relationships, you gotta be completely legit to get with me. (i hate drama, especially when its coming from somethin that has boobs and pink taco) i've never really been in to "just tryna get some pussy" shit, only when im drunk haha. women know i keep my dick in my pants so they want me more for it anyway. so when TEK has a lady, thats all he wants since the criteria to be TEKs is so high. could care less bout anotha beezy that looks good...

THE 0RKO

04-17-2008, 07:26 PM

pics now!

Luigi-Bo 87

04-17-2008, 07:35 PM

Thanks guys, I'll try. BUT IT'S SOOOO HARRRRD!!!!!

Mah mind is telling me nooooo.....

BUT MAH BAHHHHHDEEEEEEEEEEEEE, MAH BAHHHDEEEEEEEE'SSSSSSSSSSS TELLIN' ME YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Darklightjg1

04-17-2008, 08:59 PM

All right place your bets:

How many days before Luigi admits he didn't take the advice and ended up smashing his ex anyway?

I got $20 on two days from now. :lol:

TornadoFlame

04-17-2008, 09:00 PM

All right place your bets:

How many days before Luigi admits he didn't take the advice and ended up smashing his ex anyway?

I got $20 on two days from now. :lol:

That's free money for me :tup:

Luigi-Bo 87

04-17-2008, 09:02 PM

Fuc that shit:bluu: I'mma try yo. BTW shw wasn't promiscuious, we were mad faithful and junk and she's only been with 1 other dude to my knowledge.

TornadoFlame

04-17-2008, 09:04 PM

Fuc that shit:bluu: I'mma try yo. BTW shw wasn't promiscuious, we were mad faithful and junk and she's only been with 1 other dude to my knowledge.

I would like that money either thru Paypal or Money Order :rofl:

Or you can just break me off when you get ya FEMA Check.

Luigi-Bo 87

04-17-2008, 09:06 PM

That FEMA check ain't neva gon come.:sad:
I think that date thingy is tomorrow that I mentioned before.

Azrael

04-17-2008, 09:14 PM

Something I forgot before...
When I told her about what she said previously, she retorts with "And there weren't any alternatives?"
The lesson to be learned here is - never, ever listen to a woman. You can learn from their actions and reactions, but don't take what they say as bond, because most of the time they're full of shit. Even they know that.

So, use your common sense, go off their general reactions to things that have happened in the past...but don't depend on the words that came out of her mouth, cause they can be as meaningless as Bison dollars.

***

Women suck. They really, really do. If it were possible for me to go gay, I would. If masturbation was at all a viable substitution, I just wouldn't bother. Women should realize this. I mean, just thinking about it -

My hand doesn't get jealous if I look at other women.
My hand is never not in the mood, doesn't have headaches, or just wants to sleep.
My hand doesn't need constant displays of affection - it knows that it is appreciated and does its job as such.
My hand may not be able to cook, but it’s a great help in diailing up delivery pizza.
My hand doesn't bleed for 3 months out of a year.
My hand doesn't mind if my dick finds itself in a different warm orifice - my hand knows that at the end of the day, this is where dick will come back to.
My hand accepts my friends and doesn't judge them.
My hand doesn't force me to watch any movie with Hugh Grant or Renee Zwellenger in it - rather, my hand helps me applause when one of these annoying characters unexpectedly dies on screen.
My hand knows that the garbage will be taken out and the dishes will be cleaned, and later is just as good as now.
My hand doesn't do things unexpectedly and then become angry when I didn't expect the unexpected thing.
My hand will never drag me shopping for 3 hours and use me as a clothes hangar, only to leave the store having bought nothing because it couldn't find anything it liked.
My hand does not give a shit about celebrity gossip, and would not make a frowny face at me if it tried to tell me about celebrity gossip and I made my non-giveashittance face.
My hand does not care how I spend my free time.

Ladies must realize that if not for the booty, we wouldn't need them at all. Which is another reason why I can't hate sluts. They know what they have to offer, and do so accordingly.

Nokato

04-17-2008, 09:14 PM

Fuc that shit:bluu: I'mma try yo. BTW shw wasn't promiscuious, we were mad faithful and junk and she's only been with 1 other dude to my knowledge.

You're so going to regret it.

orochizoolander

04-17-2008, 09:26 PM

Yo allen I just found out my girl can't come to evo cuz I thought it would be the same time as last year (aug 24-26) but when I saw someone post it's the 8-10th this year I told her and she said she can't make it. Her parents anniversary is on the 8th and her bday is on the 11th so she already made plans for the weekend so is it selfish of me to be disappointed that she would rather go out with her friends on her bday then see me? FYI she goes to school in cali so we haven't seen each other for while.

I'm not in the greatest of moods now so I definitely need to get buzzed at evo n kick it for a minute with plenty o bitches.

GL luigi let us know how it goes:tup:

Stanman

04-18-2008, 12:27 AM

Just to get a second opinion on this....

There's this Asian girl in my lab class group who I've been joking around and I guess just been talking to and enjoying my time with. She's very attractive in my book and she's my age, twenty. No pics, but will provide when I get some if needed. I finally get the balls to do something about it and start talking to her outside class and I can definitely tell she's flirting with me. Then a bomb finally hits, she has a 5 year old son. So at 15 years old, she had her first child. I remember from reading this thread that is a huge red flag and that most would recommend to GTFO immediately. To be honest, I think my immediate reaction might have reflected that, which probably didn't work out in my favor at the time. But something is still making me consider it for some reason.

20 is pretty young so it doesn't seem like it would be a usual case. But at the same time, it could be an even worse case. Besides the whole kid thing going on, I was really into everything about this chick to the point of it almost seeming too good to be true, and of course that ended up happening. I don't know, I don't think I'm really going to be marrying this chick or anything, but it definitely smells like the wiser choice would be to get out while I'm still ahead. But I keep beating myself up over it because before that one little bit I was really into this girl and I'm letting this one bit (a huge bit) change my mind completely.

Thoughts?

XTG

04-18-2008, 12:36 AM

why do you wanna bring a girl to EVO? to show her your 9 frames of invincibility?

Azrael

04-18-2008, 12:46 AM

Thoughts?
I say keep going forward, but that depends on what you want. Are you looking for a serious relationship, or just someone to kick it with for awhile? If you are looking for something serious, you may want to run. However, if its just casual, stick it out and see how it goes.

Many people will assume that she's looking for a father for her kid. Not necessarily. She could be, but she's also young too, and may just be wanting to get out and date like all her other peers are doing. You won't find out unless you keep going with this, and if it did come down to "be my son's new daddy!" you can always tell her that you're not interested in that and then bail.

orochizoolander

04-18-2008, 01:28 AM

The Epidemic

04-18-2008, 07:12 AM

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Its all good..Either way im still gonna rent a car. Im like 80% sure i will.
It definetly seems like my girl will be coming however...she doesnt have a whole bunch of trust for me in vegas :rolleyes:
I dunno why :shrug:
Im still gonnaa go out tho...

why do you wanna bring a girl to Evo? to show her your 9 frames of invincibility?
:rofl::rofl::rofl:
Or his infinite stun technique:looney:

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Just wanna Co-sign AZ's post regarding Stuns question:tup:

Stanman

04-18-2008, 09:20 AM

I say keep going forward, but that depends on what you want. Are you looking for a serious relationship, or just someone to kick it with for awhile? If you are looking for something serious, you may want to run. However, if its just casual, stick it out and see how it goes.

Many people will assume that she's looking for a father for her kid. Not necessarily. She could be, but she's also young too, and may just be wanting to get out and date like all her other peers are doing. You won't find out unless you keep going with this, and if it did come down to "be my son's new daddy!" you can always tell her that you're not interested in that and then bail.

I'm not much of a hit it and quit it person. I guess that means I should get out of there.

SF_PHOCUS

04-18-2008, 10:21 AM

Thanks guys, I'll try. BUT IT'S SOOOO HARRRRD!!!!!

Mah mind is telling me nooooo.....

BUT MAH BAHHHHHDEEEEEEEEEEEEE, MAH BAHHHDEEEEEEEE'SSSSSSSSSSS TELLIN' ME YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Yo Hit that shit!!! lol...

you tek i feel wat ur sayin cause im the same exact way... When i say cheat i dont mean some random dumb chick that u see all the time... im talkin about that one girl u wish u could of fucked but something happened... it could be a hs sweet heart whose only in town for a couple of days... or some shit like that.. Im a very faithful man but given that scenerio id prolly have to cheat...
:shake:

"You'd really risk a serious relationship over some random girl from the past?"
No not random.. we prolly had some sort of tie in the past...

thurst

04-18-2008, 10:27 AM

well there is a small chance that she's actually not completely batshit insane and just fucked up once and ended up with a kid. you figure a large percentage of people are having sex at 15, so there are gonna be a few 15 year old moms out there...all of them don't necessarily have to be degenerates.

i say take it slow and see what the deal is, you met her in school right? thats at least a hint that she kinda has her shit together

HeaT

04-18-2008, 10:39 AM

why do you wanna bring a girl to EVO? to show her your 9 frames of invincibility?

:rofl:

best post these like couple of pages...

im outi

Roberth

Luigi-Bo 87

04-18-2008, 10:43 AM

For Zoolander

I clowned her and said she looked like one of the Supremes with that hair.:rofl:

Koop

04-18-2008, 10:45 AM

For Zoolander

I clowned her and said she looked like one of the Supremes with that hair.:rofl:

awwwww shyt. i see u gettin swept already.

oh ill prepare my intervention later. Have fun, STRAP UP!!!!!!, an put it down sir.

Demon Dash

04-18-2008, 10:46 AM

Am I the only person here that thinks young adulthood is more inpotant to your self than it is devoted to another person?

Luigi-Bo 87

04-18-2008, 10:47 AM

Shut up Koop, shut your damn mouf.:rofl::arazz:

Warpticon

04-18-2008, 11:10 AM

Am I the only person here that thinks young adulthood is more inpotant to your self than it is devoted to another person?

what does young adulthood have to do with it? A person should always be developed as a person before getting into a serious relationship.

rsigley

04-18-2008, 11:18 AM

i fuck 'em and stay i don't fuck 'em and leave. this is my place bitch get up and leave

^^ words to live by

SF_PHOCUS

04-18-2008, 11:38 AM

For Zoolander

I clowned her and said she looked like one of the Supremes with that hair.:rofl:

way way wait! how old r u again?????

Luigi-Bo 87

04-18-2008, 11:42 AM

20..

onyx

04-18-2008, 12:31 PM

so just a general question i been wondering about...

has anyone been in a relationship where you either (situation #1) cheated on your gf and she found out then got back together...

Once that initial blissful trust is gone, it only decreases over time. Along with love and respect for that person. But hey, some people have unfaithful marriages and somehow keep it together, but i think shit changes when kids are involved.

Am I the only person here that thinks young adulthood is more inpotant to your self than it is devoted to another person?

No, your not the only person, i realized this all too late, now im try'n to play a little catch up.

Silentness!

04-18-2008, 08:52 PM

Ok you guys are probably going laugh at me and ridicule me for the rest of my SRK/real life existence, but I got to tell you guys the truth.

Err I never done anything serious with my past girlfriends. *cough* I am a virgin... err was one until this Friday night.
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I'm not going to go into detail/blog, but I need some advice. I decided to go to this club looking to have a good time and maybe find a girl to have a relationship. WHO THE HELL GOES TO CLUBS FOR RELATIONSHIPS?

Well due to the fact that I don't speak Korean the best spot to meet a Korean chick is at the clubs. So I went and met this one chick that was fluent in English. Cutting the story short she figured I was just into her for a "one night stand". She thought all Americans were into the "hit it and quit it" attitude. I actually like her more than some random sex though. Anyways we made out in some room and she took her top off bla bla bla I start kissing her all over her body and then head towards the "Jungle". I almost suffocated down there due to the hair was going up my nostrils, but I managed to get two sets of "ABCs" off in her pussy. She started getting real wet and her body basically automatically pushed me out.

So she doesn't like being on top. :confused: So I had to get on top and do shit and then I don't know if she was on period or whatever, but she was uncomfortable. So I got off cause I didn't want to get charged with rape. For some stupid reason I wanted to make an excuse due to being new to this shit and she was like "OMG you're a virgin? I don't think you should be doing with this some random person you don't like. You should be doing this with someone you love and care deeply for." (YET WE'VE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR ABOUT 3 HOURS AND YOU ALREADY WANTED TO FUCK!?)

OMG NOT THAT SENTIMENTAL BULLSHIT! She basically gave me blue balls cause I wasn't even close to done and I already ate that bitch out. How the fuck you're going to get all the action and leave me hanging. So we laid there in bed and I was secretly mad as hell. She kept saying how she wasn't the one for me to have sex with and all this other random bullshit.
SHE NEVER WOULD OF EVEN SAID THIS IF I DIDN'T SAID IT WAS MY FIRST TIME.

So eventually we came to the conclusion that we would hang out on the weekends and build a "relationship" from there and eventually have "real sex". You gotta be fucking kidding me!
WHY IS IT EVERY TIME I MEET A HOT CHICK SHE HAS SOME ISSUE WITH ME!

So basically she gave me her number:

1) Is it her real number lolz
2) Will she actually pick up my call from caller ID
3) Will she flake on me if I ask to hang out with her on the weekend.

In essence I should of known clubs were 99% "One night stand" events, but fuck I just was going for entertainment/ and a slim chance of meeting a girl I could chill with for more than one got damn night. Do you guys think I'm wasting my time trying to get at her? I think the two main funny parts of the night are 1) After she gave me blue balls she was like "do you want to hug" I thought that sounded pretty gay, but I wasn't going to say no to a hot ass naked chick in the bed so I "cuddled" (omg that word is gay) with her. 5 seconds later she was like "Uhh yeah this is too hot..." so basically we slept like as if we were a married couple that's about to go through a divorce.

2) Funny thing was: In the morning she was like: "We can't been seen leaving the hotel at the same time together." ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS!? She was always trying to force me to hold her hand and keep me real close out on a busy night, but soon as we try to leave a hotel in the morning in a empty area she gets all paranoid about what people would think about us... :confused:

I think this bitch is flaking on me and was only interested in a one night stand. I'm going to give her a shot anyways cause I have nothing to lose, but to get torn by yet another hot bitch.

Luigi-Bo 87

04-18-2008, 08:59 PM

ummmm, damn

Silentness!

04-18-2008, 09:09 PM

ummmm, damn

Welcome to my fucked up life. :woot:

orochizoolander

04-18-2008, 09:20 PM

For Zoolander

I clowned her and said she looked like one of the Supremes with that hair.:rofl:

Who the fuck is that? lol

At the end of the day no one calls me pizza chest which is more then I can say for you.

I keep it real

I give you mad respect for being so honest cuz sometimes it's not easy admitting shit like that especially in front of srk of all crowds.

As for your situation it sucks balls to be...blueballed (sry couldn't resist) but look on the bright side:

-she was feeling you enough to give you play the very night you met her
-you showed her you can get her wet
-even after admitting being a virgin she stayed the night wit you instead of leaving as most girls would have done
-she gave u her #
-instead of making a bullshit excuse to not see you again she of her own free will said she wanted to see you even after "the incident"

All this leads me to believe she has at least some interest in you so if your feeling her then go for it, like you said you got nothing to lose n everything to gain and if it don't work out just move on to the next girl simple as that.

Silentness!

04-18-2008, 10:22 PM

Meh it's all good. The more women I deal with the more I realize they can cause me headaches... I'm only 20 years old and I feel like I'm gaining white hair dealing with some of these broads. The funny thing is the latest one is a college graduate teaching Mathematics now. I didn't get her age, but I'm guessing her mid 20s

She was like "When were you born 85?" Me: 87... ROFL
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Ah seriously my entertainment priorities are: Fighting games -> Women. Least I know a fighting game can't bullshit me on any given day of the week.

Bobby's mom: WOMEN ARE THE DEVIL

MaxVandalism315

04-19-2008, 12:22 AM

I'm going to give her a shot anyways cause I have nothing to lose, but to get torn by yet another hot bitch.

virginity?:confused:

BBQ

04-19-2008, 12:53 AM

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Dude, don't worry about losing your virginity, I came into the army myself with the v card and no one took it away until a year before I went to Iraq. I dunno about the unit you are in, but the shop that I was in, nearly every one heckled me until I lost it and it was like pulling fucking counter as the chick that I lost it to was hotter then their wives/girlfriends/past girlfriends. It ended the heckling when I brought her to a family day event at the local beach.

My advice is to not get hooked up with club bitches unless it's just for play and nothing else. A bunch of my friends got with club bitches and they nearly have ruined their lives. Of course it's their fault for being bitches themselves and getting into this shit. It sucks that you got blue balls, it's the worst because at least for me, I can't do nothing about it, jerking off doesn't work because the pain is too intense and I am usually pissed that I didn't get off. But hey, you actually did work and even though you wern't able to do the deed, atleast you got some experience of getting to that point. Just keep it up and you'll end up gold.

SF_PHOCUS

04-19-2008, 08:10 AM

Dam ness u be havin some stories meh.. just move to NY when ur done overseas... it will solve allllll of ur problems...

Silentness!

04-19-2008, 08:38 AM

virginity?:confused:

Uhhh I said in my previous post that I ate her out and was fucking that chick I posted about... Shit I could of lost my virginity a long time ago, but I never was with any girls worthy of trying to bone. I know it's a cocky attitude, but I'm not trying to go out and bang just any got damn chick.

LOLZ NO PICS SRK cause I'm too cheap to buy a digital camera. She's hotter than like majority of these military chicks on base that's for damn sure. Rack + chun-li legs + body = win :lovin:

MaxVandalism315

04-19-2008, 12:48 PM

o my bad i thought u just ate her out and when u were going to stick it in she said nooooooo no no[/amy whinehouse]

BBQ

04-19-2008, 01:22 PM

^Yeah that's what I thought too. Well then atleast you got your first taste of what it's like to penetrate a woman.

SRKev

04-19-2008, 01:29 PM

I wouldn't tell a girl that I was a virgin.

Not hating...just my opinion...

Silentness!

04-19-2008, 04:43 PM

I wouldn't tell a girl that I was a virgin.

Not hating...just my opinion...

oh trust me I regret saying that. I should of just left it at inexperienced. When I mentioned it you could hear a record player stopping in the background.

But seriously she owned me when she said "Don't Americans usually lose it at 16 or 17"

I GOT OWNED

thurst

04-19-2008, 05:04 PM

Silentness!

04-19-2008, 05:23 PM

it's easy to say you shouldn't have said anything now after the fact, but whatever what's done is done. if she actually is cool and shit when you hang out, then you more or less got what you wanted from the club, right? although you should probably be cognizant of the fact that this is the same chick that you were fucking after knowing her for 3 hours, nothing really wrong with that imo but just don't forget that shit.

yeah I'm definitely aware of that fact... if she can jump in some sheets in less than 3 hours... what's stopping her from doing it every night with some random guy.

Anyways I plan on calling the number she gave me later on today (Last time I seen her was 2 days ago) and see if she's just all fun and games.

thurst

04-19-2008, 05:37 PM

yeah as long as you're aware of that, go for it. i've been jedi mind tricked by more than my share of korean chicks, you might as experience it too.

...wait is my yellow fever showing there? =/

HeaT

04-19-2008, 06:51 PM

but I managed to get two sets of "ABCs" off in her pussy. She started getting real wet and her body basically automatically pushed me out.

da fuck??? i dont get it...it "pushed you out"???

im outi

Roberth

The Epidemic

04-19-2008, 07:16 PM

^:rofl:

Silentness!

04-19-2008, 07:27 PM

da fuck??? i dont get it...it "pushed you out"???

im outi

Roberth

errr with her thighs/legs

It would of been better though if a zombie baby submerged out like in Dawn of the Dead

Azrael

04-19-2008, 07:36 PM

Ness - I'm sure I've said this before, but I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22. Everyone has their own paces - some lose it in high school, others university, others later still. Don't let some club ho mess with your head about that.

I think I'm about to say waaaay more than I should...but fuck it.

I thought I was going to lose it to some girl I met in a bar. We were hitting it off well, and she was inviting me back to her place to spend the night. But I was really drunk, and somewhere along the way I fucked things up, so she went home with her female friend and I ended up having to sleep on the street.

But I broke the V-card maybe just a few weeks later (less than a month) with the girl who'd become my first ex (the sorta infamous one). I met her at a party - she was clearly into some other guy who couldn't give two shits about her, but we talked a bit. Her friend and my friend (who were dating) arranged a double date with me and her to make her feel better about the party guy. She made it clear on the double date that she wanted to meet up with me for a 1-on-1 date the next day. So we met up, and by the greeting she gave me - a big hug and taking my arm - I knew I would be hitting that later on.

We had to wait until the first trains until 5AM before we could go back to my place. Unfortunately, by the time we got to my apartment, fatigue + alcohol + some degree of nervousness led to me not being able to perform. We just fooled around all day Sunday (no intercourse) before she went back home. I was disappointed, but I resolved not to let that stop me. She came up to meet me the following Wednesday, and I got over my nervousness, and knocked that shit out of the park. Several months later, we talked about it and I admitted that I was a virgin - she said she kind of had an idea.

We dated for maybe 16 months or so, but it really should have ended at the 12 month mark if not sooner. I forgot that she was essentially a girl I met at a party who I took home - I tried to make a serious girlfriend out of her and that's where I got burned.

Ness, I say go ahead and follow up with this girl if possible - why not? You've already made progress with her (despite some backsteps with the virginity thing). But if you do, DO NOT try to make her anything other than a casual girlfriend. Falling for her will probably burn you bad. Be careful.

Dasiatic

04-19-2008, 07:44 PM

I'm more interested into knowing how you fucked up with the first bitch.

Silentness!

04-19-2008, 07:46 PM

Yeah I agree. Thanks

TheSix

04-19-2008, 08:47 PM

But seriously she owned me when she said "Don't Americans usually lose it at 16 or 17"

I GOT OWNED

:sweat::sweat:

I'm not sure if anyone else had this roadblock, but I managed to convince myself that the first girl I fucked had to be a virgin too.

All that did was delay it by....oh......18 years. No one told me bitches were fucking at 12!

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Anyone wanna comment on club "game"? I've never been to a club....per se. Not the typical kind. I'm planning to go in May though. It will have to be one of those 18+ clubs so you can shove any alcohol related info.

Luigi-Bo 87

04-19-2008, 08:48 PM

Sad, but true.:shake:

Silentness!

04-20-2008, 12:46 AM

Lol go figure I call two different Korean numbers as a test and they pick up. I call the number I intended on calling and nobody answers.

Maybe she's sleep (at 5 PM!?) or has a valid reason for not answering the phone... or maybe she's bullshitting me like I thought. LOLZ man do I love women!

Anyways I got to work tonight. Work + school = keeps my mind off jaded women

Stanman

04-20-2008, 12:52 AM

Silentness!

04-20-2008, 01:47 AM

lol nah I called later on and it was some random ass Korean person that didn't speak a lick of English. I think I know her real number, but I think she's playing games pretending to act like she's someone else.

Honestly I really don't give a shit. This just goes to reinforce the fact that club girls aren't too trustworthy. Oh well I guess I'm stuck with one night stands for the rest of my life

The Epidemic

04-20-2008, 02:29 AM

:sweat::sweat:

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Anyone wanna comment on club "game"? I've never been to a club....per se. Not the typical kind. I'm planning to go in May though. It will have to be one of those 18+ clubs so you can shove any alcohol related info.

18+ clubs are wack. If your gonna go out..go to an 21+ joint. Thats where the grown & sexy broads be. As for "game" thats entirely up to you...why change your approach just bc ur in a club?

thurst

04-20-2008, 02:42 AM

in the simplest terms clubs/bars are just places where bitches congregate...beyond that you have to experience for yourself, otherwise anything someone tries to explain to you will sound completely foreign. such as, "no girl left behind", "alpha whore", etc...

Azrael

04-20-2008, 04:47 AM

I think I know her real number, but I think she's playing games pretending to act like she's someone else.
I'd say, if you can, try to see if you can get past her bullshit and actually talk to her at least once. If not, no big deal, but don't let a little initial bullshit slow you down.

You're not going to find a keeper/serious girl in a club, but for the moment it might help you to pick up a few more club girls. Build up your experience and confidence for when a girl you really want to date comes along.

I'm more interested into knowing how you fucked up with the first bitch.
I was drunk, so details are a bit sketchy.

I'd only been in Japan for a week, two at best. I was with some friends at this bar, which was notorious for being a hook-up spot (at the time). I was talking to this guy, and he just randomly brings in these two girls into our conversation that happened to be playing pool next to us. So we're talking, and things seem to be progressing well, with one girl kind of taking a liking to me. I tell her that I'm having fun, but unfortunately my last train is at 11:30. She tells me that I can come back and sleep at her place. Here, I figure I'm as good as gold.

So thinking that sex is a given, I might have become kinda touchy-feely. I may have been pawing at her too much. Again, I was really drunk, so details are sketchy. At some point, this white guy comes along and sort of butts his way into the conversation. Me, the girl I was after, her friend, and this new guy all end up at karaoke. I've got my target sitting on my lap, and I'm more or less just wanting to go home so I can pork her. However, the new guy's routine is succeeding in not only charming the friend, but my target girl as well! She begins to get colder and colder towards me as the night goes on.

We leave karaoke, and I remind my target about the offer to stay at her place. Yeah, yeah, she's saying, but still walking off with her friend and without me. Getting sort of desperate, I go to give her a hug and a kiss, which she obviously wasn't expecting. She leaves with the friend and I was left alone with the new guy. The new guy says that "You're new to Japan, aren't you?" and when I ask why, he starts to explain how I blew it with the girl. At this point, my friends from before are leaving the bar - one of them will pay for a hotel room for all of us to stay the night in. I want to get in on this, but at the same time, I want to hear how I blew it with the girl. My friends pile into a taxi cab, and I ask the driver to just wait for 5 minutes. Swear to goodness, he waited for maybe 30 seconds until driving off.

Now completely stranded, I asked the new guy what I did wrong. He said I came on too strong - Japanese girls will get freaky, but they don't like to do so in public, and especially in front of their friends. Once I got all touchy-feely with her, had she left together with me, it would have been obvious that we were going to go have sex later, and she'd lose face. I should have been less physical in public and especially in front of her friend, and then when we got private I could have touched whatever I wanted. Thinking back on this situation now, there is some truth to this, and I can think of another situation where I did handle it correctly...but at the same time, I have to wonder if this dude didn't contribute to my cock-blocking that night. Anyway, having received his advice, I wandered off and went to sleep on the street somewhere until the trains started to run again.

I actually had the girl's phone number, and she lived in the next town over. I called her up and talked for a bit after a few days, and we arranged to meet. I asked if she wanted to go out, and she told me she'd rather come by my place to play video games. I figured this was going to be a pure sex hook-up, but she called a day or so before the actual day to say that she was sick and couldn't make it. I dunno if she was actually sick or what, but I figure having to actually get up and go out to a random hook-up is a lot harder than just being in the moment. My "video game" date was actually the same day as the double-date plan with my ex - I'd told my friend I couldn't make it, but when the girl cancelled I went on the double date, and the rest is history.

Biolink

04-20-2008, 06:02 AM

I've been in that situation before.

I do think it could have been half and half.

On one hand yeah maybe you were been a little touchy-feely,but on the other hand fucking Mr.Amazing,comes in with all the jokes and charisma in the world,and steals some of the fire you had going on with that girl.Basically cock blocked you on the down low.Unless you can 1-up this guy,it would be difficult to parry what he has just done.

Silentness!

04-20-2008, 06:56 AM

Err my dad met my mom in the club. Then again they both were military at the time so that helps.

I get what your saying though Az. Club chicks are ruthless and they don't go to clubs to meet nice guys. They just want to get drunk and fuck some random guy and then pretend like it never happened the next day.

It's a pretty sickening process. One of the main reasons why I don't like clubbing. I easily get attached to girls that I can connect with and next thing you know I'm on an emotional rollercoaster if I see that it turns out she's not really looking to get into a relationship.
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I honestly don't have a clue where to go to try and find real relationships. I'm tired of getting crushed though. I may sound like a pussy, but it hurts every time I feel like I'm being used by girls. I don't like being the position of man whore

I mean how am I supposed to find a girl that's not interested in "one night stands"?

PS: ASKMEN HAS GUIDES ON HOW TO GET A ONE NIGHT STAND! I'm the complete fucking opposite...
God I just want an attractive girl that I could chill with and get to know more than fuck and start the process over and over again

The Epidemic

04-20-2008, 10:09 AM

Club chicks are ruthless and they don't go to clubs to meet nice guys. They just want to get drunk and fuck some random guy and then pretend like it never happened the next day.

this isnt entirely true...
theres a lot of "good girls" that go to clubs too.

TornadoFlame

04-20-2008, 10:43 AM

this isnt entirely true...
theres a lot of "good girls" that go to clubs too.

True, very true.

tech master

04-20-2008, 11:03 AM

most of the good girls at clubs are there just with friends, ugly, taken, or too drunk that you can't tell she's a good girl haha.

thurst

04-20-2008, 11:26 AM

since we're talking about clubs, what's the best way to separate a chick from clingy ass friends in a club. like when you're talking to the one chick and she's crazy fucked (or maybe not even) and you're clearly no more than a hop, skip and a jump from getting her back to the crib to smash

...but she has those friends that treat going out to the bars like it's a fucking vietcong infiltration mission? you know, like "omg where's sarah? we can't leave without her under NO circumstances! who's that guy she's talking to? initiate extraction procedure 35, now!"

tech master

04-20-2008, 11:32 AM

thats your wingmens job. they must entertain the other ladies as you capture the mission objective

TornadoFlame

04-20-2008, 11:34 AM

thats your wingmens job. they must entertain the other ladies as you capture the mission objective

The buddy system has to be used and I am a firm believer of the Buddy System. You will find out soon at EVO (BUT NO, I DON'T TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM, SORRY)

ProfessorS

04-20-2008, 11:43 AM

I'm stumped SRK...

A couple weeks ago, a coworker of mine shows me her roommate on Facebook and asks if I think she's cute. "I'm like yeah, we should all meet up or something." I go with them to a concert a week later and dance at the concert, talk and pretty much just hit it off. About 5 or so days after that, I see her again and ask if she wants to hang out and get a bite to eat later. Two days later we go out and things are great, I can FEEL she likes me, hell she even flat out tells me she likes me at one point, and I feel the same too. She's real sweet, down to earth, kind of a smart ass and has a nice booty for a white girl :tup: She's got serious girlfriend material written all over her, so I'm trying to take things a little slower than I usually do, on that night we just kinda kiss and stuff. After we kiss she keeps looking at me and does this giggle, like an "oh I'm so happy" type giggle. I eventually take her home.

So I bring her over again yesterday and we end up in my bed, before anything starts she says she's a virgin. SHIT! I suspected she might a virgin since she's only 19 but she had dated a guy for 3 years. Thankfully, she does other things and I don't think having sex with her is out of the question if she ends up falling for me. I can live with a BJs for a while :wgrin:

My problem that night is since I don't see her as some ho(which is usually the type of girl I bring around lol), I'm not as aggressive as I usually am. I also get a weird vibe from her, like she's holding herself back. I do a lot of the "is this okay" bullshit before I try anything which ended up just making things awkward. She even commented on it. I put my hand down her pants...DRY AS A BONE down there and she was really unresponsive to anything I did, I had never seen anythign like it. Despite the fact I got her naked, we don't end up doing a whole lot. She wasn't bitchy about it or anything, but it was just weird because I know she digs me and is physically attracted to me to boot. So why couldn't I work it?

She ended up staying the night anyway, things are fine the next morning and she tells me to call her again. Despite the weirdness of the night before, I feel I can still work this.

So, do you guys have any idea? I think it could be one of 3 things. 1). She is holding out because she isn't 100% comfortable yet. 2. She wants to know my true intentions before she gets down i.e. she wants some sort of committment. Or 3. She just has a really low sex drive(she's on the pill to help regulate her cycle, I heard that can lower libido).