The Woman/Girl Thread: Sex, Relationships, FAQs Pt. 2

[fistoftheryustar]

girls cheering about fights? man thats the way it should be. im not seein alot of that these days tho

[Gord]

^:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:: rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::ro fl:


lol, honest question though.

[SweetHoney]

omg! I just got an email from my best friend's boyfriend...he is having doubts about his relationship with my best friend and says he likes me. Do I tell my best friend? and how do I turn him down gently? What do I say?

help!

[BBQ]

^ 3 some with your bestfriend and him.

[SmrK]

omg! I just got an email from my best friend's boyfriend...he is having doubts about his relationship with my best friend and says he likes me. Do I tell my best friend? and how do I turn him down gently? What do I say?

help!


Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to relationships.

[SweetHoney]

Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to relationships.

Of course, but he did make me promise not to tell her, otherwise I wouldnt have a problem with calling her up and spilling the beans. He made me give him my word not to tell, but shes my bff...do I tell her anyway?

[Silentness!]

BFF ... :rofl: I haven't heard that shit since middle school.
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[FallingEdge]

IDK, my BFF Jill?

srsly though, you should tell him that you are not interested and that he needs to talk things out with his girl. Make sure that you let him know that things will not happen between the two of you. If she starts to confront you with what has happening, be honest and tell her what's going on.

or the 3way. Much easier. And more fun.

[SmrK]

Of course, but he did make me promise not to tell her, otherwise I wouldnt have a problem with calling her up and spilling the beans. He made me give him my word not to tell, but shes my bff...do I tell her anyway?


Well, it's quite simple...
If you care about her more than you care about him, spill the beans.
If you wanna fuck him, backstab your BFF.

[Ghostal]

What SmrK said.
Anyways, there'll be plenty of other swinging dicks but good friends tend to be hard to come by.

[SweetHoney]

ness- thats cause you're a dood. lol

edge- I dont want him to talk things out with her, I want her to leave him but she wont because shes scared of what he might do....and yeah Im definitely not interested in him... though Im considering faking it if it gives her a way out...

[BBQ]

^ I dunno, but it seems you are going to make shit even more complicated. But I know women that does these types of things, they like teh drama

[FallingEdge]

^ I dunno, but it seems you are going to make shit even more complicated. But I know women that does these types of things, they like teh drama

:rofl:

so true.

edge- I dont want him to talk things out with her, I want her to leave him but she wont because shes scared of what he might do....and yeah Im definitely not interested in him... though Im considering faking it if it gives her a way out...

so wait, she's in some sort of abusive relationship with him? what is it in particular that she is afraid of? does she want to leave him?

I honestly don't understand how that works. If you aren't happy and afraid of what is going to happen to you, get the fuck out. Common sense.

[pherai]

People will leave relationships when they want to, and trying to intervene will just blow up in your face. I'd stay out of it.

[Darklightjg1]

omg! I just got an email from my best friend's boyfriend...he is having doubts about his relationship with my best friend and says he likes me. Do I tell my best friend? and how do I turn him down gently? What do I say?

help!

Be straight up about it if you're really not interested. For the love of God no mixed messages please. It's much easier to get over someone knowing you don't have a chance right off the bat than to have someone drag things on much longer than necessary and THEN find out the interest was never there. :bluu:

Also, your friend deserves to know how he's currently feeling/the situation, so you should either convince him to talk to her or break it to her yourself. Things will only get more awkward if this remains a secret IMO.

[SweetHoney]

girls cheering about fights? man thats the way it should be. im not seein alot of that these days tho

UFC baby.

[SmrK]

ness- thats cause you're a dood. lol

edge- I dont want him to talk things out with her, I want her to leave him but she wont because shes scared of what he might do....and yeah Im definitely not interested in him... though Im considering faking it if it gives her a way out...


Do not complicate shit and let them work it out. Sure, support her, talk to her, but don't get mixed up in their relationship, as it will only blow up in your face eventually.

[SweetHoney]

:rofl:

so wait, she's in some sort of abusive relationship with him? what is it in particular that she is afraid of? does she want to leave him?

I honestly don't understand how that works. If you aren't happy and afraid of what is going to happen to you, get the fuck out. Common sense.

Easier said then done. And yeah the relationship isnt a healthy one, borderline abusive from what I hear from her. She cant just leave him, he has so much power over her and can make her life a living hell if he wants to..which is why Im going to try to convince him to leave her on his own, and if that doesnt work, plan B. Im not the drama queen type, but its for the sake of a good friend. All I would really have to worry about then is what he would do to me... : (

[BBQ]

Fuck that noise, she can leave him if she wanted to. He isn't king shit to where she is chained to him. There are thingsshe can do if he is an actual problem like restraining orders and what not. All you are doing by intervening is just causing unwanted stress on your part and probably making the situation a lot worse. I would never get involved with any of my friend's troubled relationships, they are all grown adults, let them handle it themselves.

[SweetHoney]

Fuck that noise, she can leave him if she wanted to. He isn't king shit to where she is chained to him. There are thingsshe can do if he is an actual problem like restraining orders and what not. All you are doing by intervening is just causing unwanted stress on your part and probably making the situation a lot worse. I would never get involved with any of my friend's troubled relationships, they are all grown adults, let them handle it themselves.


You've obviously never had a pyscho ex boyfriend...and restraining orders really wouldnt do much to stop him from retaliating.

[SmrK]

You've obviously never had a pyscho ex boyfriend...and restraining orders really wouldnt do much to stop him from retaliating.


And getting involved in the whole psycho thing is much better, right???

[SweetHoney]

I'd do it for her.

[Ghostal]

You've obviously never had a pyscho ex boyfriend...and restraining orders really wouldnt do much to stop him from retaliating.

I've had a psycho ex girlfriend.
Restraining orders work just fine, what is he going to do, crank call?
All this "he has so much power over her" is bullshit, I'm sorry.
Unless he has access to her social security number and bank account and shit, he doesn't have anything to "ruin her life", especially if she files a restraining order, unless she's a very very emotionally fragile human being, in which case she needs to check herself too.

But really, restraining order and a changed cell/home number is miraculous with dealing with frenetic exes.

[SmrK]

I'd do it for her.

/facepalm


Did you also get her involved with this guy? Why do you feel the need to get inbetween them?? Stand by her side, but don't be stupid and don't get involved if the guy is really as psychotic as you say...

[SweetHoney]

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I get where you're going, but its a little more complicated than Im willing to go into...


smrk- havent gotten involved in their soon to be breakup, and hopefully I wont have to. I guess it depends on whether or not he leaves her on my suggestion that if he feels they arent right for each other he should leave her anyway.

[Phoenix Wright]

Sweethoney... Regardless of how complicated the situation is, unless the guy has a child with the girl or is living in the same building or block as the person, simply acting as if the person doesn't exist is enough to get them out of the persons life. She has a choice, and if she chooses to speak to this psycho then she's an idiot.

If you feel threatened by this individual, get a weapon (pepper spray, mace or whatever) just in case he decides to go after you.

If you want someone out of your life, all you need to do is cut all communication with the person.

[blazeu25]

guess im on my own on this one

[Silentness!]

I promised my girl that I would work out intensively for a month when she goes to Italy. So from like May 30th till like July 4th I will be working out like a madman and on a real strict 6 meals a day diet with plenty of protein shakes + water.

Shit I'm really doing this for myself, but by the time she comes back from Italy I should be a little more toned.
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I showed her this pic and she was like:

Her: Who is this?
Me: That is me...
Her: DAMN THAT IS SEXY...

HAHAHAHA :rofl: I haven't even been working out seriously. Give me a month of vigorous training and shit will be more toned. I'm going back on my power workout.

[angelpalm]

oh lala, love me some moobs

[Silentness!]

oh lala, love me some moobs

man boobs ahhahaha

[Shotokan Symphony]

guess im on my own on this one

Suck it up. :|

[Shadow Ace 50]

Her: Who is this?



wtf ness...hope she was joking

[Shotokan Symphony]

wtf ness...hope she was joking

Seriously. If she doesn't know your body by now... damn, son.

[Silentness!]

hahaha I hope she was joking... she always jokes and says that I have no muscles and I need to work out.

She knows my body...

#1: I lost count of how many times we slept together. (I always sleep in just boxers)
#2: During sex she plays with my nipples and shit (TOO MUCH INFORMATION SORRY)

Maybe the picture I posted consists of myspace angles. :wink: I didn't do any editing to it, but let's just say the way I posed made it look better than it seems *shrugs*

[SweetHoney]

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Not only does he live with her, but she also runs a business and he could seriously screw with her income and ruin her reputation if he wanted to be vindictive. Not to mention the shit she would be in if he wanted to report her for tax evasion and such.

I think Im going to leave it alone and hope he does the right thing. I cant really afford to have him pissed off at me either.

[akumatrunigga]

Yea I hear ya, my recent dry spell has got me thinkin' about girls that I don't need to be bothering with, I might give her a buzz though just to see what's good.

As for the other girl...do you mean this chick? From last fall?

http://img138.imageshack.us/img138/5732/n6850260376921932543vk4.jpg

I met her at the library while working, I friended her on FB, she poked me and I replied "Hey, who do you think I am? I don't poke until the 3rd date ;)" She IMed me almost immediately. Shit was on then, she came over we made out a bit and she looked fucking good. My roommate cockblocked us though. :bluu: Either way, she called to come over the next day to "study" and it culminated in her watching me playing Guitar Hero, then stripping in order to distract me. We fucked around and yes I got to see them titties :tup: No, she wouldn't let me take pics :tdown: Later that week she starts acting flaky and weird and shit, so I ask what's up. She says that she's got depression, ADHD and anxiety disorder and probably something else. She said she acted weird cuz she was off her meds...why are the hot ones always crazy? Anyway, I haven't talked to her a whole lot since then.
now i remember the story. But one thing that is getting to me. You post alot about
1. you meet a chick
2. She is feeling you
3. you are feeling her
4. you fuck up
5. ask the panel why

Shouldnt you have it figured out someway by now. For each fuck up it should be some form of lesson of what not to do.
*update on my situation*
ok this bitch lied bout moving to P.A. i saw her myspace today and it looks like she just got another guy. and just lied her ass off. she still has my ring. ima hunt her ass down. but got no leads. o i no is her name what skool she gos to and her myspace. but how am i gona find her?
Listen:
1. no one is going to give you tips about hacking a myspace
2. She wasnt feeling you from the begining
3. Are you trying to go to jail over a ring? a fucking ring?
4. Yes you are on your own

Does anyone bother to ask girls to get an STD/herpes checkup before having sex?
Asking before you lay the pipe? I would assume a topic like that would be addressed when you are getting to know the chick.
^:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:: rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::ro fl:
It is a bit funny but to be honest that is serious ass question and it should be addressed by both parties.

[bridgypoo]

Listen:
1. no one is going to give you tips about hacking a myspace
2. She wasnt feeling you from the begining
3. Are you trying to go to jail over a ring? a fucking ring?
4. Yes you are on your own


I don't know about number 2. Maybe she just felt that he was too much for her after they met. Sometimes it happens where the novelty wears off.

[pherai]

Not only does he live with her, but she also runs a business and he could seriously screw with her income and ruin her reputation if he wanted to be vindictive. Not to mention the shit she would be in if he wanted to report her for tax evasion and such.

I think Im going to leave it alone and hope he does the right thing. I cant really afford to have him pissed off at me either.

Him being able to tag her for tax evasion is not a problem with him, its a problem with her. I would assume you could get legal protection from him ruining her reputation, but by not paying taxes she's dug her own grave. She should be talking to a lawyer for a number of reasons.

[orochizoolander]

LOL @ everyone being baited by honey.

[ProfessorS]

now i remember the story. But one thing that is getting to me. You post alot about
1. you meet a chick
2. She is feeling you
3. you are feeling her
4. you fuck up
5. ask the panel why

Shouldnt you have it figured out someway by now. For each fuck up it should be some form of lesson of what not to do.



Yea, truth be told, most of the time I know where I fuck up(usually the result of falling for her too fast/something stupid I did). I just have a bad habit of not listening to my own advice, and I like to get lotsa perspectives on the issue, so I tend to post about these situations a lot(even though if they start to all look the same). Lol, I learn a little each time but I still meet girls that throw me for a loop.

[The Epidemic]

It is a bit funny but to be honest that is serious ass question and it should be addressed by both parties.

the reason why its funny is bc theres really nothing you can do about it. Unless she gives papers of her medical history your just gonna have to either use good judgement or take her word for it. (or pray shes honest with you) Anybody can just tell you that their clean...then end up burning you.
Thats why its funny to me.

Him: so are you clean?
Her: Of course silly, do i look like i have anything?
Him: umm no.
Her: Ok then...lets go.
Him: Ok!:encore:


I will say in my travels with women i have never gotten anything. Mainly bc i like to think that i have good judgement...I can kinda tell when a broad has something...just the way she'd carry herself.

[Kourin-chan]

LOL @ everyone being baited by honey.


You think it's bait?:wonder:

[The Epidemic]

^I hope it is...

[pherai]

w/e, she wouldn't be the first or the last baiter in this thread. I've always assumed we had an honor system going :rofl:

[akumatrunigga]

Yea, truth be told, most of the time I know where I fuck up(usually the result of falling for her too fast/something stupid I did). I just have a bad habit of not listening to my own advice, and I like to get lotsa perspectives on the issue, so I tend to post about these situations a lot(even though if they start to all look the same). Lol, I learn a little each time but I still meet girls that throw me for a loop.
dont get me wrong it was something that came up. But at least you are doing it the right way posting unlike others in here.
the reason why its funny is bc theres really nothing you can do about it. Unless she gives papers of her medical history your just gonna have to either use good judgement or take her word for it. (or pray shes honest with you) Anybody can just tell you that their clean...then end up burning you.
Thats why its funny to me.

Him: so are you clean?
Her: Of course silly, do i look like i have anything?
Him: umm no.
Her: Ok then...lets go.
Him: Ok!:encore:


I will say in my travels with women i have never gotten anything. Mainly bc i like to think that i have good judgement...I can kinda tell when a broad has something...just the way she'd carry herself.Its not that I dont disagree but once you reach a certain maturity level a person just have to be careful and it should be on his mind with each chick. The way how some of these young chicks looking nowadays shit you mind as well ask for ID too. :lol:

But the end result is that you are right it is a guessing game.

[orochizoolander]

You think it's bait?:wonder:

Sweethoney is a guy sorry to ruin the fantasy for everyone:rofl:



Epidemic said it best, I'm pretty careful now but looking back on highschool i'm sooo fucking grateful I never caught anything.

[Kourin-chan]

Epidemic said it best, I'm pretty careful now but looking back on highschool i'm sooo fucking grateful I never caught anything.

I'm surrounded by a bunch of early bloomers:wow::looney:

[DS]

I'm surrounded by a bunch of early bloomers:wow::looney:

Make me a sandwich, mujer!

[Kourin-chan]

Make me a sandwich, mujer!
Oh, sure thing....

/goes into the kitchen and gets a large frypan

Now..what was that again??:devil:

[hanz0]

So I just hooked up with this chick, shes not really pretty like a model but shes not ugly neither, and shes a lil chubby, she falls under plain normal girl category.

I never really had a real girlfriend before. I feel kinda ackward when im holding her or walking down the street, I feel people are like watching and shit.

Is this normal?

And before you guys ask, ( no shes is not chubby like a whale)

the plus is shes got huge boobs:pray:

and last night we went at it 2 times and 1 time in the morning. shit was awesome.

I feel weird cause I never had an actual official girlfriend, and I can
just imagine what all the people I know will say when they see her.:bluu:

any advice.

[pherai]

Some people just aren't into PDA's, and sounds like you're one of them. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. If you don't like holding her hand in public, don't. Some girls may not like it, but there's nothing wrong with that.

[hanz0]

I see, i did not think of it that way, I guess I will tell her that I feel akward doing things in public.

cause she was starting to ask me if I was ashamed to be with her.

thanks.

[SweetHoney]

Sweethoney is a guy sorry to ruin the fantasy for everyone.

I have been to events in both houston and dallas and confirmed by a few srkers in case you havent noticed.


Thanks for the advise guys...it seems the dude has backed off of me without having to start drama. Hopefully he'll leave my home girl without hassle at my suggestion then I can gently blow him off when he tries to get with me by saying Im taken and whatnot. Thanks for the suggestion Angelpalm. :)

[Reveal]

Don't worry Hanz, people are generally too busy dealing with their own insecurities. If you like her then that's all that matters. Screw anyone who does have a problem.

[SweetHoney]

I never really had a real girlfriend before. I feel kinda ackward when im holding her or walking down the street, I feel people are like watching and shit.

Is this normal?


yeah it is common for people to feel that way... when you are afraid to be seen with someone. You never said whether or not you are ashamed of being seen with her or not. Are you? If so you should break things off...things never last when you are scared to be affectionate in public because you're worried someone you know will see you. Its just not fair to her.

[angelpalm]

So I just hooked up with this chick, shes not really pretty like a model but shes not ugly neither, and shes a lil chubby, she falls under plain normal girl category.

I never really had a real girlfriend before. I feel kinda ackward when im holding her or walking down the street, I feel people are like watching and shit.

Is this normal?

And before you guys ask, ( no shes is not chubby like a whale)

the plus is shes got huge boobs:pray:

and last night we went at it 2 times and 1 time in the morning. shit was awesome.

I feel weird cause I never had an actual official girlfriend, and I can
just imagine what all the people I know will say when they see her.:bluu:

any advice.

concentrate on having truly enjoying yourself when your with her. Take the time to consider everything she says, and always think before you talk, but if the moment takes you by surprise, then talk with your body instead....

[Higher-Jin]

.

I feel weird cause I never had an actual official girlfriend, and I can
just imagine what all the people I know will say when they see her.:bluu:

any advice.

Stop being a faggot and listening to what your friends say about your girl. Most of them are probably otaku nerds who wouldn't know a vagina if one hit them in the head. If they try and talk shit in front of her tell them you will beat their fucking ass.

Seriously, are you happy? Yea. Is she kinda cute? Yea. Then go with it you moron. Don't obsess over what people think and accept her or reject you based on what YOU think. Not what anyone else thinks.

For real.

[BBQ]

^Yeah no shit, if you are happy with what you got, why does it matter what any one else thinks? But if you are denial that this chick is chunky and you have reasons for going below your "standards" then maybe you should seriously think if you want anything to do with her.
But it sounds like you are worried of what people around you think of her then what you actually think of her.

[marn]

If you fell in love with a handicap girl and people told you she's fugly and she's not worth your time because her legs are fucked up. You gonna throw her away? That's fucked... But then again, I would =X!

[akumatrunigga]

Stop being a faggot and listening to what your friends say about your girl. Most of them are probably otaku nerds who wouldn't know a vagina if one hit them in the head. If they try and talk shit in front of her tell them you will beat their fucking ass.

Seriously, are you happy? Yea. Is she kinda cute? Yea. Then go with it you moron. Don't obsess over what people think and accept her or reject you based on what YOU think. Not what anyone else thinks.

For real.thank you for this great post regarding that clown

[hanz0]

thanks guys, i been thinking about it, its not that i dont like her is just that people are so evil down here and superficial, and my family has their standards so high up:bluu: as to what girls i should be dating and stuff probably the reason me and many guys here have their standards for a perfect girl so high up there.

One problem I have now is that since shes here on vacation and I have more
female friends Im always seen with hot skinny girls. now when people see me they will be shocked. I realize the problem is me. So Im a moron for caring to much about appeareances. But I like her though.

In fact Im introducing her to my family tonight:woot:

Jago kick the punks that might offend her:nunchuck:

[hanz0]

Stop being a faggot and listening to what your friends say about your girl. Most of them are probably otaku nerds who wouldn't know a vagina if one hit them in the head. If they try and talk shit in front of her tell them you will beat their fucking ass.

Seriously, are you happy? Yea. Is she kinda cute? Yea. Then go with it you moron. Don't obsess over what people think and accept her or reject you based on what YOU think. Not what anyone else thinks.

For real.

thanks for the advice Ill man up and GGPO to anyone that disses her fo sho:devil:

[pherai]

There's nothing wrong with having high standards of physical beauty.

[SweetHoney]

I never really had a real girlfriend before.




my family has their standards so high up:bluu: as to what girls i should be dating and stuff probably the reason me and many guys here have their standards for a perfect girl so high...

Im always seen with hot skinny girls. now when people see me they will be shocked.

You dont seem to be making much sense here. :confused:

[The Epidemic]

^whats not to get??

[monbaby]

i just want all ya'll folks to know that Sweet Honey is my girl...

Thanks for trying, folks...

Maybe next time...

[hanz0]

Sorry I meant to say A real Official girlfriend.

all the other ones where just messing around with chicks and stuff and never nothing serius.:bgrin:

[The Epidemic]

@Monbaby

ummmm....good for you?....:confused:

[Silentness!]

Stop being a faggot and listening to what your friends say about your girl. Most of them are probably otaku nerds who wouldn't know a vagina if one hit them in the head. If they try and talk shit in front of her tell them you will beat their fucking ass.

Seriously, are you happy? Yea. Is she kinda cute? Yea. Then go with it you moron. Don't obsess over what people think and accept her or reject you based on what YOU think. Not what anyone else thinks.

For real.

This man speaks so much truth.
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My girl is a little chubby, and she knows it. She keeps saying she's too fat to be a model. I like her though and I don't mind holding her hand in public and I don't give a fuck what people think about me being with her. MORE BREAST FOR ME... http://img78.imageshack.us/img78/2040/chubstf6.jpg

I admit it's a little fucking awkward though when you are in a part of Korea where there are VERY FEW foreigners and you see a black guy holding a Korean girl's hand. I get enough stares being by myself, but me holding a Korean girl's hand is like LONG HARD STARES.

[The Epidemic]

some of you guys are mad insecure....i hold my girls hand in public. Hell, i even apologized to her on many occasions while on my knees in public.
I love being seen places with my girl...i love the hate i get too. Shit is mad funny...niggas be jealous.

[CoolWater]

now i remember the story. But one thing that is getting to me. You post alot about
1. you meet a chick
2. She is feeling you
3. you are feeling her
4. you fuck up
5. ask the panel why

Shouldnt you have it figured out someway by now. For each fuck up it should be some form of lesson of what not to do.

.

Holy shit the story of my life :encore:. I would actually like to know how women define "fucking/ screwing up". Cause I tend to do that but can't seem, for the life of me, to find logical reasons for it. Is it mechanical, psychosomatic, or is it related to these "hormones" that I hear about so often?

[ProfessorS]

Holy shit the story of my life :encore:. I would actually like to know how women define "fucking/ screwing up". Cause I tend to do that but can't seem, for the life of me, to find logical reasons for it. Is it mechanical, psychosomatic, or is it related to these "hormones" that I hear about so often?

LOL, glad to know I'm not the only one with that problem. I can GET girls easily, but I can't maintain them worth a damn. I feel like I'm the only guy in the planet that can get a girl naked in my bed the first night we hang out and then get a "just friends" speech a week later. Maybe I'm just really bad in bed :razz:

Girls love the chase, and you gotta do something that makes them want to chase YOU. From my experience, screwing seems to come along the lines of taking things too fast. If a girl knows she "has" you right from the start, she's bound to lose interest...you don't have to play games, you just can't be acting like she's the woman of your dreams from that start.

I remember something the first girl I ever fell in love with told me when I had asked her what drew her to me, she said "I really liked you after our first date...but the fact that you didn't talk to me for an entire week after our date is what really got me thinking about you..."

It's a great way to get a girl thinking about you, especially if you really hit it off...if you don't for a while call she starts to wonder things like "what's he doing? Does he really like me? I like him! Why won't he call?" And when you finally do call, she's chompin at the bit to hang out with you again.

My problems stem from that fact that I don't listen to my own advice! I might give it a day or 2 after our initial hookup/date/whatever, but then I start calling multiple times a week and trying to arrange several dates in a week's span. Unless she's totally smitten with you from the start/doesn't have a life, then this won't fly.

So yeah...just chill on it, girls can smell clinginess and desperation from a mile away.

[forgenjuro]

going out on a date tonight. she doesnt know ive got a girl already. i dont wanna get her attached to me but i wanna fuck her. do i lie if she asks?

i hate lying though:bluu:

[tech master]

depends if shes a slut or not, you dog!

[forgenjuro]

depends if shes a slut or not, you dog!

hmmm true. guess ill have to wait and see.

best case scenario we avoid that topic the whole time

[pherai]

If you can never maintain a relationship, its likely you just aren't relationship material. People fight nature too much.

[SF_PHOCUS]

going out on a date tonight. she doesnt know ive got a girl already. i dont wanna get her attached to me but i wanna fuck her. do i lie if she asks?

i hate lying though:bluu:

should of been known that you had a girl from the start meh:wtf:

[BBQ]

Shit, he better come off as a playa'/playboy when he goes out on the date so she isn't thinking he's not or else it's pretty much going to backfire on him unless she's easy.

[BaSiK_TeKniK]

question:
why the hell when you are talking to a girl and at random times girls bring up random dudes names and say they are hot? it's like do you think I care? it's supposed to be me!

[forgenjuro]

Shit, he better come off as a playa'/playboy when he goes out on the date so she isn't thinking he's not or else it's pretty much going to backfire on him unless she's easy.

i usually come off as crazy and i prolly am harharhar

[w1r3d]

*post with pics*

you sir, are a winner. :tup:

[GreyFoxx]

GJ ness and why is she thinking she is fat? Looks alright too me and cute too boot!!!

[The Epidemic]

^all woman think they are fat lol...
especially asian broads. Since 95% of them are mad tiny..when one is not as tiny as the rest of society shes labeld fat.

Edit: I know this one girl who lives out in Japan now and shes always tellling me how she feels fat over there. How all the broads are dumb tiny and shes thinkn about dropping a few pounds to be more attractive by their standards...

[HeaT]

Hell, i even apologized to her on many occasions while on my knees in public.


ummm what??? what kind of apology to anyone deserves to get on your knees???

im outi

Roberth

[The Epidemic]

^:rofl: its a looooonng story...i made a thread about it a few months back.

[Lantis]

Updating my situation from a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG way back (probably from about 4 months ago).

Basically, the verdict is in: I've been Friend Zoned YET AGAIN! But this time, it actually HURT. Like, big time, no joke, cold-hearted shit, fo' real.

Last I recall here, I told people I was dating/seeing/hanging out with this cool chick for about 7 months now. We clicked pretty fast, and before long, we were talking about our deepest secrets in no time. I was obviously feeling pretty attracted to this broad since she had some pretty cool ideals (that detracted from common woman thinking, like "You have to pay for everything" or "Pick me up everywhere") and we were all around just cool with each other.

3 months after I initially met this girl, I confessed my feelings for her. She was taken aback a little by this confession (was 3 months a little bit too late? I suck at timing, but it probably wasn't THAT long), but no comment was made afterwards...basically because she said (at the time) that she did not want to commit to a relationship because she was OK hanging out on her lonesome (totally respectable). Then, on my birthday (Feb. 6), I hinted that we should become a couple, to which I was refused yet again (OK...at that time, she was coherent with what she had initially proposed). It stung a little bit, but I was like "Hey, maybe she really isn't ready yet. I'll just be patient and chill...."

No "awkward feelings" ever surged from either of these confessions. We kept talking to each other and stuff like nothing really happened.

About one month later (in March now), she told me that she had returned with her ex-boyfriend (who was constantly pesting her to get back for like 2 months). I was like :wtf: , so you decided to give someone who was absent from your life for like 5 months a new chance, but you couldn't give ME the time of day after all we had lived together? I was like :annoy: , you gotta be kidding me with that shit. I was pissed, but became cool with it due to her being "unsure" about getting back with him (of course, I played my part, and easily poked fun of him everytime he was brought to topic)

Shortly after this, she was diagnosed with "anxiety attacks" (I dunno, that is the clearest I can detail of her condition). She basically has low lithium in her brain which causes her to become extremely anxious at time and feel a little bit desperate. I stood by her side the whole time because...come on...I'm not a cold-hearted beast who leaves dear people to me stranded. By that time, her boyfriend had moved to some other city, and he is about to move to Kanada for 1 1/2 years, which kinda got my hopes up, since I could play game with him far away.

But as it turns, she is already looking for some houses for them to live in when he comes back, and is already talking about marriage plans. :wtf:

OK, so here I am, the guy who basically gave you shelter when you ran away from home, the guy who stood by you in times of need, and the guy who almost kept from pulling the goddamn trigger when you were in your anxiety frenzy...and I lose to someone who is 3562 miles away, barely gets to see her, and basically acts jealous 60% of the time? :mad:

I really don't know what to say or think.... This is turning out to be quite devastating despite all the signs that told me "yeah, this thing is not going anywhere". :sad:

(and for all you kinky pervs, yes, we did have sex a couple of times)

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK :annoy:

[tech master]

maybe it has nothin to do with you, but they really meant to be together?

[Lantis]

maybe it has nothin to do with you, but they really meant to be together?

Yes, that's what I kinda think, too.

Which is probably why it hurts even worse.

[tech master]

Yes, that's what I kinda think, too.

Which is probably why it hurts even worse.

After my last relationship there were a few women getting interested. i liked the attention and what not, but still had feelings for the ex for awhile. i was somewhat waiting to see if we would get back together for a long time. the women that were givinig interest i could have tap'd fasho but i'm not really in to that one night stand shit. because of all the female attention i got, i kinda liked being single. just like your friend said. really though, it was mainly cuz i was waiting to see what would happen with the ex.

there were a couple women i got REALLY close to gettin with. although they were cool, they just couldnt compare to the ex so i'd shut em down. maybe they werent bad, but they just couldnt compare in compatibility. thats probably what she felt with you. clicked, everything about you was cool but its just that she had already established a huge connection with her ex and better safe than taking a chance?

just look at it on the positive side. its a girl you liked, you clicked, got the booty (if shes not a slut, then that probably means alot) and she wasnt afraid to let you take care of her and be a good friend. finding the person you really wanna be with is extremely hard to do, so the chances of her being it was already slim considering you had pre-notions from her. just suck it up and get on another girls good side, you already know u got what it takes

[FallingEdge]

Yes, that's what I kinda think, too.

Which is probably why it hurts even worse.

This is just my opinion, but this is the Ladder Theory/IW concept in play. You did everything for her but she just ran off to the other guy. You were basically her emotional crutch.

Sucks to hear as I have been in the situation many a time before. Best of luck to you.

[Chasem0]

Sorry for the delay, but here's an update. Apparently she was cock teasing me to be a... bitch. After bringing up sex again, she said "if I meet you back when I was messing around, I would have done you, but I just want to settle down, get married and have kids now" (she hasn't done her current BF, the dude I know, since before I meet her, and they broke up and got back together like five times since my last post, and I brought up the sex while one of the times they were broken up). She even admitted to cock teasing me to simply tease me. During a conversation with her, she said she's "emotionally unbalanced". It makes perfect sense now, she was keeping me around as a rebound, SINCE SHE JUST COULDN'T BE SINGLE. She didn't hook me up with friends that were interested because she wanted me all for herself, the only friend she had me meet was VERY shy, bashful and wanted to stay a virgin, that's why she had me meet her, she knew nothing would happen between me and her friend. After ignoring her for two days, she went psycho and messaged me saying "I HATE YOU! GET OUT OF MY LIFE!" She told her BF that one of my friends was "talking shit about her" and that I "told her about this". He messaged my friend asking who it was, and my other friend who doesn't like the guy just said "you know what, tell him it was me, I just want him to have a reason to want to fight me so I can kick his ass". The guy so far has bitched out and never meet up with my friend to fight.

[BBQ]

hahahahaha @ falling edge's response. I remember reading about this ladder a long time ago. It's funny when I hear stories like Lantis and others and especially when some one else brings up the ladder theory. And it just continues to proves that women can be deceiving bitches and use men as tools for their own selfish purposes. After being there myself a few times I can no longer be as emotionally attatched as some guys.

[Silentness!]

GJ ness and why is she thinking she is fat? Looks alright too me and cute too boot!!!

Ok I will let you guys in on a horrible secret... she has an 8 year old daughter that is half Black. She hasn't even told her parents that she has a kid that's currently in the states because she doesn't really get a long with her parents since she was put in a foster family at the age of 2.

So yeah... I'm dealing with a 26 year old girl with a 8 year old daughter. :wasted: God what the fuck is wrong with me... the kid is in the States, but that shit still doesn't go away in my mind.

PS: I am telling you this because when I see most women after having kids they look like shit. This girl didn't get too big after having a baby. So I wouldn't say she's FAT/OBESE, but a little thick in the right places :wink:

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@Chasem0: Holy shit man that girl has some fucking issues :rofl:

Seriously fuck women. That's what I say in the gym when I'm working out/running. FUCK WOMEN FUCK WOMEN FUCK WOMEN! AHHHH (unleashes rage) I'll never understand women...

[orochizoolander]

@ lantis and chasemo.

The girl you're interested doesn't like you and more then likely never will or at least not 1% as much as you liked her. It sucks to get played, dumped, cheated on, whatever by a girl you had genuine feelings for especially the first few times I prolly been there more times then anyone here on srk so I can definitely sympathize. The best (and most obvious) advice isn't as easy to follow as it sounds but trust me on this; Cut off all contact with the bitch and get her completely out of your life because it's clear that by staying in contact you only setting yourself up for more hurt, even the best case scenario isn't favorable for you so just do the logical thing. There are plenty of other women out there so for the first month or two u might still be hella bummed out bout the one that got away but take solace in the fact that eventually you'll meet someone else who'll make you forget how shitty you're feeling now.

I like to think I understand women pretty damn well or at least better then most guys and my experience taught me it's key to know when to fold, I had to learn the hard way several times so don't let a dumb bitch who isn't worth it emotionally string you along. One of my rules about relationships especially the serious ones is that I'll only get involved with her if she's feeling me as much as I am her cuz if not then i'm the one losing out and I know I deserve better then that.

That being said, if you're really into a girl and you 2 known each other for a while make no mistake that you will have to humble yourself once in a while especially to get dat pussy...pride is a bitch sometimes.

[SF_PHOCUS]

^^ yup... lol

but what i dont understand is (well maybe u said it in a prior post) why havent u asked her to have sex... or i bet u didnt even try and press up to have sex... by doin that u sent of the message that "i dont wanna have sex i just wanna be friends" and she read that loud and clear.... this----> if I meet you back when I was messing around, I would have done you, but I just want to settle down, get married and have kids now" is where u messed up... you should of turned it up here... you should of called her bluff... i think she was testing u here just to see if u would be a man in this situation.... of course i could be wrong but i doubt it..

So i say u just take zoo's advice and leave her alone... just take the loss lol

[thurst]

Ok I will let you guys in on a horrible secret... she has an 8 year old daughter that is half Black. She hasn't even told her parents that she has a kid that's currently in the states because she doesn't really get a long with her parents since she was put in a foster family at the age of 2.

So yeah... I'm dealing with a 26 year old girl with a 8 year old daughter. :wasted: God what the fuck is wrong with me... the kid is in the States, but that shit still doesn't go away in my mind.

is this the chick that has the job in italy or something? if so, damn. the kid is with the father i'm guessing?

[Silentness!]

is this the chick that has the job in italy or something? if so, damn. the kid is with the father i'm guessing?

Yeah her daughter (8 years old now) is with her dad. Her daughter's dad is pretty mad at her for ditching her kid. Though she couldn't take care of the kid because she was in college for 4 years and then grad school. So she never really spent much time with her kid and now she regrets it because she realizes that she's doing the same thing her mom did to her when she was a baby.
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She goes to Italy this coming Tuesday for a month :crybaby:

How did I get so attached to this girl ... :sad:

[SweetHoney]

i just want all ya'll folks to know that Sweet Honey is my girl...

Thanks for trying, folks...

Maybe next time...


wtf?! who the hell are you? :bluu:



...I think I liked being a dude better...

[akumatrunigga]

some of you guys are mad insecure....i hold my girls hand in public. Hell, i even apologized to her on many occasions while on my knees in public.
I love being seen places with my girl...i love the hate i get too. Shit is mad funny...niggas be jealous.
Exactly, what kind of a loser dont want to noticed that he has a dime (no a silver dollar) holding his hand. what makes it even funnier are the insecure clowns that get upset if a couple of niggas is checking his chick out. You should be honored that other niggas find your girl attractive.

[Silentness!]

Exactly, what kind of a loser dont want to noticed that he has a dime (no a silver dollar) holding his hand. what makes it even funnier are the insecure clowns that get upset if a couple of niggas is checking his chick out. You should be honored that other niggas find your girl attractive.

I LOVE IT when guys check out my girl.

I DONT love it when people are staring us down with hate/anger.
_________

I get really uncomfortable when swarms of Koreans are staring at me when I go out in areas where there are few foreigners. Multiply that by TEN when she's holding my hand or showing a ton of public affection

[angelpalm]

I LOVE IT when guys check out my girl.

I DONT love it when people are staring us down with hate/anger.
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I get really uncomfortable when swarms of Koreans are staring at me when I go out in areas where there are few foreigners. Multiply that by TEN when she's holding my hand or showing a ton of public affection

come one dood, you act like Jhoon Rhee and Angela Mao are gonna come out of the wood work and start wrecking shop(although if i recall, they loved them white ppl) Just be a trend setter, no a pioneer in race relations, we here at srk will back you up from the way back.

Now that i recall, i met jhoon rhee, he was actually pretty cool for an old ass guy

[SmrK]

@Silentness - damn, you really have gotten yourself deep into the whole darkside area :confused: this month away from her is probably a good thing as it will let you work your shit out, sort your feelings and emotions... Man, you gotta do something, as this relationship seems to be taking an immense toll on you.

[BBQ]

Exactly, what kind of a loser dont want to noticed that he has a dime (no a silver dollar) holding his hand. what makes it even funnier are the insecure clowns that get upset if a couple of niggas is checking his chick out. You should be honored that other niggas find your girl attractive.

That's how I feel when I'm with a girl especially when she's above a 7. It's like a fine automobile, I love it when guys are lurking deep and that's all they can do, and that's great. It's like "yeah mother fuckers, you can look but in the end I'm the one running up on dat"

[Dirt Mc Girt]

some of you guys are mad insecure....i hold my girls hand in public. Hell, i even apologized to her on many occasions while on my knees in public.
I love being seen places with my girl...i love the hate i get too. Shit is mad funny...niggas be jealous.

sounds like you're whipped / not in charge of this relationship

[Dirt Mc Girt]

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK :annoy:

dude if she says no, there's like a 1% chance you'll end up with her

this isn't some 80s movie where you'll show up at her house with a stereo and win her heart

or your persistence will pay off and she'll finally be with you

in real life that is creepy stalker shit and never walks

should of just moved on right away and not been her friend because what happens is you see little things and think you're changing her mind when you aren't

[Dirt Mc Girt]

If you fell in love with a handicap girl and people told you she's fugly and she's not worth your time because her legs are fucked up. You gonna throw her away? That's fucked... But then again, I would =X!

I'd probably save money to send her to college

[The Epidemic]

sounds like you're whipped / not in charge of this relationship

lol...arent u the guy who got put in the doghouse for ordering porn on direct tv? whatever u say kid. :rofl:

Im far from whipped son...but, im not in charge either. Its 50/50 which is why its a relationship.

Edit: and learn how to use "multiquote"

[Dirt Mc Girt]

lol...arent u the guy who got put in the doghouse for ordering porn on direct tv? whatever u say kid. :rofl:

Im far from whipped son...but, im not in charge either. Its 50/50 which is why its a relationship.

Edit: and learn how to use "multiquote"

nah i'm the one who beat his girlfriend and got her put in jail

and i need to get my post count up cause people in the premium folder said i have to get 500 posts, so multiquote is useless to me right now until i hit 500 posts

[HeaT]

lol...arent u the guy who got put in the doghouse for ordering porn on direct tv? whatever u say kid. :rofl:

Im far from whipped son...but, im not in charge either. Its 50/50 which is why its a relationship.

Edit: and learn how to use "multiquote"

i bet after that apology you had some great ass sex that night...girlys are all about that "romantic" shit and get all wet over it...

im outi

Roberth

[Dirt Mc Girt]

Edit: and learn how to use "multiquote"


you



are



gay


Epidemic


i used multiquote, happy?

[CoolWater]

sounds like you're whipped / not in charge of this relationship

Men are NEVER in charge of the relationship cause its often a battle between logic (men) an emotion (women). No amount of rational thought will EVER be as effective as a swift five across the eyes.... ERRRR i mean its impossible for logic to win over emotion because emotion isnt based on anything tangible. Its like trying to argue logic to a devout Christian.

[CoolWater]

LOL, glad to know I'm not the only one with that problem. I can GET girls easily, but I can't maintain them worth a damn. I feel like I'm the only guy in the planet that can get a girl naked in my bed the first night we hang out and then get a "just friends" speech a week later. Maybe I'm just really bad in bed :razz:

Girls love the chase, and you gotta do something that makes them want to chase YOU. From my experience, screwing seems to come along the lines of taking things too fast. If a girl knows she "has" you right from the start, she's bound to lose interest...you don't have to play games, you just can't be acting like she's the woman of your dreams from that start.

I remember something the first girl I ever fell in love with told me when I had asked her what drew her to me, she said "I really liked you after our first date...but the fact that you didn't talk to me for an entire week after our date is what really got me thinking about you..."

It's a great way to get a girl thinking about you, especially if you really hit it off...if you don't for a while call she starts to wonder things like "what's he doing? Does he really like me? I like him! Why won't he call?" And when you finally do call, she's chompin at the bit to hang out with you again.

My problems stem from that fact that I don't listen to my own advice! I might give it a day or 2 after our initial hookup/date/whatever, but then I start calling multiple times a week and trying to arrange several dates in a week's span. Unless she's totally smitten with you from the start/doesn't have a life, then this won't fly.

So yeah...just chill on it, girls can smell clinginess and desperation from a mile away.

OMG MY BROTHER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER. I DEAL WITH THE SAME SHIT. Generally, I don't fall, but when I do I fall kinda hard so I try to move really fast and I guess they just start to think im desperate. Its kinda true, so I'm reverting to my college method of dating--get a number, have sex and forget they ever existed.
Ironically, I have a she-friend that blows my fucking phone up every day talking about this guys that she REALLY REALLY REALLY wants to see (to the point where shes crying), but has blown her off more times than I can count on both hands and toes. God bless the gender divide. Ironically, bitch is dating a fucking Raider second stringer all the while. Ive never met a woman that made me wish I could undo having had sex with them before but....

[Weeks]

Man Lantis you shouldn't have waited three months

If i want to be with a girl I make it clear straight up that I'm not just in this for friends within the first couple of weeks..I can't drag things out that long

[PanderanGambler]

(and for all you kinky pervs, yes, we did have sex a couple of times)

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK :annoy:


At least you can take something away from it.

[fistoftheryustar]

My attachment is similar to those hot girls with the smexy douchebags. Im picky but when I find the type I really like, I get hooked easier...why? bc u know its rare. While other ppl might not get it.

[Silentness!]

err non premiums can't have attachments

[Lantis]

dude if she says no, there's like a 1% chance you'll end up with her

this isn't some 80s movie where you'll show up at her house with a stereo and win her heart

or your persistence will pay off and she'll finally be with you

in real life that is creepy stalker shit and never walks

should of just moved on right away and not been her friend because what happens is you see little things and think you're changing her mind when you aren't

Well, thing is, I didn't too much calling/visiting. SHE was the one who constantly wanted to come and crash in my crib. She always referred to this line of behavior to be "quite odd of her" but it was something "she liked a lot".

Hell, just yesterday, she came and ate up a storm (when she claimed she had lost her appetite these last couple of weeks) and said she had felt a lot better than the past few days. She said that visiting me always does her a lot of good (and she always sends me text messages expressing how grateful she is).

This task...won't be easy. :crybaby:

[PanderanGambler]

Lantis how did you pull off sleeping with her after being friend zoned?

I'm just curious

[Lantis]

Lantis how did you pull off sleeping with her after being friend zoned?

I'm just curious

I won't lie.... A little bit of alcohol played some part in both times. Surprisingly enough, no awkward feelings surged afterwards....

We haven't brought up the topic, either.

[fistoftheryustar]

you just wanted to get with her / wanted to before but now that u didnt care too much it magically fell to ur lap ?

also are u trying to pursue anything with her or did i read write and u dont want anything to do with her?

ive been in this situation too, but it didnt end well ha. it can be tricky and theres no site that really talks about that situation. good luck man

[Lantis]

you just wanted to get with her / wanted to before but now that u didnt care too much it magically fell to ur lap ?

also are u trying to pursue anything with her or did i read write and u dont want anything to do with her?

Strangely enough, first time came about a week or two after I confessed my feelings. Second time was probably a week after the first.

First time, she made the first move. Second time, it was me.

It has been about 3 months since that passed.

Basically, both times, we weren't "looking" for it.... It just "happened". For some reason, we even had some interesting talk in-between sessions.

Hmmmmmmmmm......

[fistoftheryustar]

3 months? da fuck? one of the replies made it seem like it just happened 2 days ago.

i think u might have been friend zone'd before, but not "truly friend zone." only had to wait a week for the bone rofl

[BBQ]

Well obviously there's a lot of miscommunication between the two of you and it seems like you are in a big pile of chaotic shit. My advice is to either except that she's a friend and start being one and have her stop playing fucking mind games, or just cut her off from your life because you don't need this bullshit. Either way man up and stop pussy footing around.

[SweetHoney]

Ok I will let you guys in on a horrible secret... she has an 8 year old daughter that is half Black. She hasn't even told her parents that she has a kid that's currently in the states because she doesn't really get a long with her parents since she was put in a foster family at the age of 2.

So yeah... I'm dealing with a 26 year old girl with a 8 year old daughter. :wasted: God what the fuck is wrong with me... the kid is in the States, but that shit still doesn't go away in my mind.

PS: I am telling you this because when I see most women after having kids they look like shit. This girl didn't get too big after having a baby. So I wouldn't say she's FAT/OBESE, but a little thick in the right places :wink:

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@Chasem0: Holy shit man that girl has some fucking issues :rofl:

Seriously fuck women. That's what I say in the gym when I'm working out/running. FUCK WOMEN FUCK WOMEN FUCK WOMEN! AHHHH (unleashes rage) I'll never understand women...

And you're still with her? Arent you scared of her sticking you with a kid too? Tell me you're totally in love with this girl.

[Silentness!]

And you're still with her? Arent you scared of her sticking you with a kid too? Tell me you're totally in love with this girl.

She doesn't want me to have anything to do with her kid. Like I said her kid is in the States...

The kid is her issue not mine. We're not married so I have nothing to worry about the kid.

and no I'm not scared of her sticking the kid on me. If anything the kid would be like my little sister... 12 year age difference rofl

[SweetHoney]

She doesn't want me to have anything to do with her kid. Like I said her kid is in the States...

The kid is her issue not mine. We're not married so I have nothing to worry about the kid.

and no I'm not scared of her sticking the kid on me. If anything the kid would be like my little sister... 12 year age difference rofl

Thats not what I said, but let me rephrase. Have you ever wondered that if she happens to get pregnant she will leave you with the baby like she did her first one?

[Silentness!]

Thats not what I said, but let me rephrase. Have you ever wondered that if she happens to get pregnant she will leave you with the baby like she did her first one?

lol first of all I'm not dumb enough to get a girl pregnant.

2nd of all if I had a kid I would be married. I wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock...

[angelpalm]

lol first of all I'm not dumb enough to get a girl pregnant.

2nd of all if I had a kid I would be married. I wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock...

is that right, well god bless you sir, and shame on all the other fools out there that lack the INCREDIBLE will and clarity that you possess

[Dwin]

Yeah, I too hope to not have a child out of wedlock. That's the way God would wnat mme to.

[J-ride]

lol first of all I'm not dumb enough to get a girl pregnant.

2nd of all if I had a kid I would be married. I wouldn't have a kid out of wedlock...

You really underestimate the deviousness of woman. I've seen so many guys who were really careful get trapped. Don't ever think you are too smart for anything, because I guarantee you that a woman could get you if she really wanted to. Hell one of my friends got married because his girl was pregnant, she even started to "show" then they got married and she "miraculously" miscarried before the honeymoon.

[JackTenrac!]

is that right, well god bless you sir, and shame on all the other fools out there that lack the INCREDIBLE will and clarity that you possess

Bear smells sarcasm. :lol:

Sometimes I think they do it to themselves because they really want to screw up and make noise about it. I have alot of girl friends who have pregnancy scares, some of the time, and it baffles me when they start to bitch about it. Why complain about a risk, that you take, with a consequence that you can't willingly pay for?

Anyway, Ness: that's what happens when you date moms. Some of us can ignore the fact that she has a kid, while the rest let it haunt us. It happened to me. I didn't even see the kid and I still thought about it when I was busy with his mom. She told me that I'll never have to see him, but I couldn't let that go. Even when young moms holler at me, I know I'll end up with that kid in my mind regardless of whatever she'll say. All falls back on acceptance.

I agree with J-Ride on this: you can't be TOO careful. I've seen that situation as well(married to the pregnant girl thingy there). Even Tiger Woods doesn't win ALL the Masters.

[Warpticon]

I know I'm not dumb enough to get a girl pregnant. :lol:

[monbaby]

if you with a girl and she doesn't want you to see her kid, then that bitch is crazy...

Her kid should come first...

[Taito]

If you haven't heard from your significant other for two weeks (that includes one unanswered call and one unanswered text), what would you do? Not somebody that you're casually dating.. but somebody you've been with for at least two years. I don't have a lot of long-term experience.. but when that's happened to me in the past, that tells me I should move on and get back to single life. I'm ready to do that without a lot of grief, but I have a feeling that's how you should react to a meaningless short-term relationship.. and for a long-term one, you should do a little more to save it.

[Silentness!]

If you haven't heard from your significant other for two weeks (that includes one unanswered call and one unanswered text), what would you do? Not somebody that you're casually dating.. but somebody you've been with for at least two years. I don't have a lot of long-term experience.. but when that's happened to me in the past, that tells me I should move on and get back to single life. I'm ready to do that without a lot of grief, but I have a feeling that's how you should react to a meaningless short-term relationship.. and for a long-term one, you should do a little more to save it.

Dude Taito I have been worried about you man like seriously I was thinking earlier today "Wonder if Taito ever talked to his woman since the last time he mentioned her"
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I don't know what to tell you since I've never had a relationship that lasted 2 years... got damn. That really sucks though that she went two weeks without saying anything to you.

The girl I'm currently seeing doesn't really show me much attention anymore as in communicating with me.*shrugs* She's flying to Italy this Tuesday so I'll see if this month of separation kills the attraction we had or not.

Still though sorry to hear that your woman has went MIA. It's easy to get back into the game again, but it sucks starting over with a new girl.

[Taito]

I'm a vet, I'll get over this easily if it's the end. I'm just wondering if I'm doing enough. Really, thanks for worrying about me, but I'll be alrite.

And it's not 2 years straight.. it's more like 1 year, a 2 year break (only because I moved) and both of us moving on and dating other folks, then getting back together for another year..

[pherai]

If you need to put a bunch of effort into making things work, I don't think its meant to be. Maybe if you've been married for years that would be appropriate, but if you guys already took a long ass break before, and shes just dropping off the map like this, she doesn't sound like the one for you.

[Taito]

Again, only reason I took a break is because I had to move a continent away from where she lived. When I moved, I wrote it off like I'd never see her again, but she put all the effort into keeping it going, including staying in contact with me over phone and email.. and after unexpectedly running back into her again, asking me to get back together, even though I live a long distance away from her. This shit would have been done in 2005 if it wasn't for her, so these last two weeks have been nothing but a surprise to me.

[Azrael]

I would say put a little more effort into getting in touch with her before writing it off. First, do you know that everything is okay? If you can't get in contact with her specifically, what about the grapevine? Does she use some social networking site, and has she logged on recently? Do you have any mutual friends who might know what she's up to? I would say first make sure that she's not in trouble.

[Taito]

She logged onto Myspace recently.. this week I'll try hitting up her Myspace friends that she sees IRL on a regular basis.

Last time I saw her, we parted ways on a REALLY GOOD note. Really, this makes zero sense and I feel more worried than burned.

[PanderanGambler]

She logged onto Myspace recently.. this week I'll try hitting up her Myspace friends that she sees IRL on a regular basis.

Last time I saw her, we parted ways on a REALLY GOOD note. Really, this makes zero sense and I feel more worried than burned.

I'd feel pretty insulted if I were you.

She could of just lost her cell but if its someone you'd speak to regularily and shes blowing you off (not literally) then wtf.

[Silentness!]

Yeah Taito give us or at least ME an update on your situation.

I am curious of the results

[Taito]

Check the Lounge thread

[Silentness!]

Looks like my relationship is dead.

Cause I'm too shy/boring.
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I guess I really am SILENTNESS
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Oh shit her myspace went back to.... Single. Looks like I fucked up.

Why am I still listening to her on the phone when this shit is pretty much dead?

[SmrK]

@Silentness - damn, you really have gotten yourself deep into the whole darkside area :confused: this month away from her is probably a good thing as it will let you work your shit out, sort your feelings and emotions... Man, you gotta do something, as this relationship seems to be taking an immense toll on you.


u missed this post, i guess... look on the bright side. Your next girl can't be that complicated.

[PanderanGambler]

Looks like my relationship is dead.

Cause I'm too shy/boring.
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I guess I really am SILENTNESS
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Oh shit her myspace went back to.... Single. Looks like I fucked up.

Why am I still listening to her on the phone when this shit is pretty much dead?

Dont take this as an insult, but maybe if you spent as much time thinking of something special to do for her as you do analyzing your relationship with her over srk with complete strangers. . . maybe you wouldn't be having these types of problems?

You also dont seem to know shit about anything about yourself and how you feel. You're all over the place with this chick. One week you're sayin you're in love with her and that shes somethin special, the next you're saying you dont even wanna listen to her. Don't be offended I'm just sayin this so maybe you wake up a little bit?

[angelpalm]

Dont take this as an insult, but maybe if you spent as much time thinking of something special to do for her as you do analyzing your relationship with her over srk with complete strangers. . . maybe you wouldn't be having these types of problems?

You also dont seem to know shit about anything about yourself and how you feel. You're all over the place with this chick. One week you're sayin you're in love with her and that shes somethin special, the next you're saying you dont even wanna listen to her. Don't be offended I'm just sayin this so maybe you wake up a little bit?


wow, damn son you called him a ping pong ball. Lol, i think if thats the case then someone needs to spend time really finding out who they are instead of looking to be entertained. That way when you get with the girl you want then you can be the star of the show, like Mr Please Please Please himself, JAMES BROWN

[Silentness!]

I'm always up for constructive criticism.

I am not perfect and I really do appreciate the responses.
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I was joking about the not listening to her on the phone. I really do care about her...
I am not ping ponging when I say I do really care about her. Some of you guys are strangers, but some of you guys on SRK I've known for years so I may have never seen you before, but I would hope you guys would have my back.

It's cool though if people want to laugh at me for telling SRK my women problems. I was mainly directing these messages to the people that actually wanted to help me out with my issues.
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If I really wanted to get personal with my problems I'd mention her real name, and tell you full details, but I just try to briefly discuss my issues.


CLIFF NOTES: I seriously seriously SERIOUSLY care about her, but I am willing to let her go. There are too many women out there and I can easily bounce back like I always do for another one. Learn from my mistakes and move on...

[onyx]

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She cute dude,nothing wrongwith a laittle meat on the the bones, sorry 2 hear about the issues ur haveing now, but if you do like her, and want to keep things going with her, give her a nice suprize, it always works to let your other know that you think enough about them to make plans 4 her without her knowing.. When she's away send her somethng you think would make her smile (ike a poem) Then when you get the chance to talk 2 her, ask her what things about you she wishes she could change, then she'll tell you what her issues with you are.

The only major problem i think you will have in your relationship with her that would be out of your control, is her meeting and possible date'n random guys when she's away on her bussiness trips and such.. If i were in your shoes i think that would be a splinter in my mind.

Also, about the whole marrige/kids thing... get'n married to a chick because she had your child is not a good idea IMO. I know you may have your reasons for doing that, but i think that was really matters is being a father to your child, not so much try'n to create or maintain a family that you originally did not want to be a part of.

LOL, glad to know I'm not the only one with that problem. I can GET girls easily, but I can't maintain them worth a damn. I feel like I'm the only guy in the planet that can get a girl naked in my bed the first night we hang out and then get a "just friends" speech a week later. . Funny imy problem is inversed, i cant do the one night stand thing, but once a girl starts talking to me for more than a week, its usuallyturns into a relationship... I can maintain them for as long as i feel i can that it, but im usuuly the one who wants to break it off.

nah i'm the one who beat his girlfriend and got her put in jail
:shake: thats a shame, i hope you didnt beat her for some dumb shit like bring'n home the wrong flavor of cream cheese.

[Silentness!]

^ The girl I posted is gorgeous.

The meat is definitely in the right places...

She's a stylist so she obviously knows how to make her self look hot as hell every time we went out. Sometimes I thought to myself: "Damn what did I do to keep this"

Well now it looks like it's the fucking end. I've learned my mistakes though and I will move on with my head up high. BACK TO CLUBBING THIS FRIDAY. :rofl: I MEET GIRLS AT THE WORST POSSIBLE FUCKING LOCATION. "Yeah I want to get in a serious relationship with you" (club music stops)

Seriously I am asking for trouble... serious relationship + initial meeting in a club = not good results majority of the time.

The first Korean girl (Who was in her mid 20s LMAO) ended up being a "hit it and quit it" in one night (which made me sad because I actually liked the girl, but yet somehow I ended up with the wrong number), and my current one (26 ROFL) lasted a month and a half.

PAUSE BREAK-> WHY THE FUCK AM I ALWAYS ATTRACTED TO WOMEN IN THEIR MID 20s? I DON'T EVEN TURN 21 UNTIL AUG 17th...

Ok I wouldn't say the girl I'm currently seeing is over, but the fact that she is going to Italy and now says she doesn't even know when she's coming back... worries me a lot.

I don't know if what we had is over completely, but her going to Italy definitely seems like the final blow. *sigh* It's going to be hard talking to a new girl and then constantly getting flash backs of the one I'm seeing. We did so much shit together in just one month and a half. My favorite moment was when we spent Friday night through Monday night together as like a mini vacation together in some beach region of Korea.

SORRY GUYS FOR MY RANTING, BUT I NEEDED SOMEWHERE TO LET OUR MY BLUBBERING

[PanderanGambler]

wow, damn son you called him a ping pong ball. Lol, i think if thats the case then someone needs to spend time really finding out who they are instead of looking to be entertained. That way when you get with the girl you want then you can be the star of the show, like Mr Please Please Please himself, JAMES BROWN

lol ping pong ball??

I was just tellin him to keep his head in the game.

[Silentness!]

Dont take this as an insult, but maybe if you spent as much time thinking of something special to do for her as you do analyzing your relationship with her over srk with complete strangers. . . maybe you wouldn't be having these types of problems?

You also dont seem to know shit about anything about yourself and how you feel. You're all over the place with this chick. One week you're sayin you're in love with her and that shes somethin special, the next you're saying you dont even wanna listen to her. Don't be offended I'm just sayin this so maybe you wake up a little bit?

To disect this post:

First half: I have done a lot of special things for her. I gave her something in particular that "bonds" us together. I know it sounds corny as shit, but she really appreciated it and every time when she thinks that the relationship might last she offers to give it back to me. Not only have I gave her something, but we always do something new together so I am not completely oblivious. I am not analyzing my issues with strangers. Some of these posters I've been talking to for years... yeah they may be strangers in face, but some of these guys I've seen in RL or just talked to for ages.

Second half: I was joking about not listening/loving her. I know exactly how I feel: Love is too strong of a word, that's something you would say when you're engaged/married/family. I do care a LOT about her though, but I can't say I love someone that doesn't like me in the same tone.

[AzN_Skater]

Silentness!: Sorry to hear about your shit, dude. I follow this thread pretty close since I like the SRK perspective. But I know what you are getting at. Meeting chicks at clubs is... shit, imo. Now this is a over-generalization, but most clubs girls are still stuck in party mode, especially the older ones. It's like they haven't grown up. Finding a seriously relationship in the pile usually just becomes a mess.

Good luck to you though, don't worry so much, like they say, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

[Silentness!]

Silentness!: Sorry to hear about your shit, dude. I follow this thread pretty close since I like the SRK perspective. But I know what you are getting at. Meeting chicks at clubs is... shit, imo. Now this is a over-generalization, but most clubs girls are still stuck in party mode, especially the older ones. It's like they haven't grown up. Finding a seriously relationship in the pile usually just becomes a mess.

Good luck to you though, don't worry so much, like they say, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

Yeah you feel me exactly. I thought to myself "damn this chick is 26... maybe she's grown up."... WRONG She still acts like a teenager. I'm more grown than her.
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PS: With the help of one of her friends... I managed to salvage the "Relationship". So we are not officially done just yet. RICHARD PRYOR: I'm NOT DEAD YET.

:rofl: omg my sides hurt from the laughter. Why the fuck am I torturing myself... I KNOW THIS SHIT can't last long, but yet I love the drama and continue to drag this relationship out. TNT KNOWS DRAMA

[GreyFoxx]

Ness problem kinda sounds like mine yet my girl kinda left me on the whole i wanna find my place in this world nonsense. Also negating 4 years and some odd weeks of old feelings in a week.

[Nokato]

Silentness!:
...Good luck to you though, don't worry so much, like they say, there's plenty of fish in the sea.


You know, I used to believe that quote but I think nowadays that "pickin's" are practically slim to none, moreso on the "none" side. Maybe I'm just bitter and jaded but I think women now are more concerned about making more money than men and being better than everyone--in which case--men are good for sex and whatever kindness they give to them until they either have a career opportunity in another location or they're just tired of you or they want to be with whoever they are cheating on with you.

I'm not saying that's always the case but its hard to accept that concept if you've been burned hella times. How forgiving are men supposed to be?

This isn't reflective of my current experience but I have been hurt and used hella and if my current relationship doesn't work out--I'm done. A part of me thinks love really doesn't exist much.

At least that's how I feel sometimes.

[AzN_Skater]

You know, I used to believe that quote but I think nowadays that "pickin's" are practically slim to none, moreso on the "none" side. Maybe I'm just bitter and jaded but I think women now are more concerned about making more money than men and being better than everyone--in which case--men are good for sex and whatever kindness they give to them until they either have a career opportunity in another location or they're just tired of you or they want to be with whoever they are cheating on with you.

I'm not saying that's always the case but its hard to accept that concept if you've been burned hella times. How forgiving are men supposed to be?

This isn't reflective of my current experience but I have been hurt and used hella and if my current relationship doesn't work out--I'm done. A part of me thinks love really doesn't exist much.

At least that's how I feel sometimes.

You are right, I completely agree. The empowerment of women has really caused a lot of grief for males in the relationship category of life. Many times, women will easily move from partner to partner because they know they hold some sense of power over the opposite gender. But for every male that is raised to be a traditionalist, there must be women out there that are also raised traditionally (ie. to accept when love hits, to understand the meaning of loyalty and compromise, to accept flaws, and to actually WORK at maintaining a relationship). It's the hope of finding a girl like this that drives and motivates the 'nice guys', so to speak. That's from my PoV, anyways.

Greyfoxx: I know exactly where you are coming from. My last relationship ended after 2 years because she 'didn't know what she wanted'. Granted, I was dating someone WAY too young for me and I should have seen it coming. hah!

[Nokato]

You are right, I completely agree. The empowerment of women has really caused a lot of grief for males in the relationship category of life. Many times, women will easily move from partner to partner because they know they hold some sense of power over the opposite gender. But for every male that is raised to be a traditionalist, there must be women out there that are also raised traditionally (ie. to accept when love hits, to understand the meaning of loyalty and compromise, to accept flaws, and to actually WORK at maintaining a relationship). It's the hope of finding a girl like this that drives and motivates the 'nice guys', so to speak. That's from my PoV, anyways.


Exactly, because all they see is what can "I" get from this? Or, they will claim in some minimal way that they did their part in the relationship which is....what people are supposed to do. Traditionalist women...I'll believe it when I see it.

" ie. to accept when love hits, to understand the meaning of loyalty and compromise, to accept flaws, and to actually WORK at maintaining a relationship"

That right there to most women is incomprehensible. If only that were more common, although my friend somehow found someone like that a few years ago and got married recently. I know its weird but I'm so jealous of that shit (not in a negative way) but its gotta be nice to have someone you feel that way about. Even with that said, I'm sure he's gonna want to give her the stairs a few times.

But yeah, I'm all for people going for their dreams--I just don't think people need to be hurt in the process.

I just wish there was like a contract you could get prior to initiating a relationship that you could read over and you could see all the bullshit she would put you through and you can decide whether or not you can deal with it from there. Women may not believe it but the risk for relationships from a man's point of view is really scary. Women having lying down to an art.

[Striderhyru05]

silentness, your not alone brotha. I got it bad for older women, and I just turned 20. I guess its the maturity, because I cant hold a conversation with a younger girl at all because around here they are airheads.

[pherai]

Nokato, you're correct. We've just recently tipped into over 50% of marriages ending in divorce. When you consider all the people who stay in miserable marriages, your chances of having a lasting, long term relationship are pretty bad.

I think we're in an awkward transitional period regarding values in relationships. Women expect to be courted and payed for like the old days, but aren't willing to be submissive housewives. Men either resent women for this, or end up being nice guys and get FZ'd left and right. If you want a monogamous relationship, you're probably better off outsourcing.

[fistoftheryustar]

How do you guys mentally deal with player hate or swag hate?

Today I took an awesome shower so I followed it up and dressed up nice. When I went to go buy books at the college today, a group of people saw that I did dress nice and got insecure like "oh this asian guy thinks he's hot shit."

How do you guys "really" take that kind of stuff mentally?

[PanderanGambler]

How do you guys mentally deal with player hate or swag hate?

Today I took an awesome shower so I followed it up and dressed up nice. When I went to go buy books at the college today, a group of people saw that I did dress nice and got insecure like "oh this asian guy thinks he's hot shit."

How do you guys "really" take that kind of stuff mentally?

Be like "You're right, I do think I'm hot shit" and keep walking.

[The Epidemic]

How do you guys mentally deal with player hate or swag hate?

Today I took an awesome shower so I followed it up and dressed up nice. When I went to go buy books at the college today, a group of people saw that I did dress nice and got insecure like "oh this asian guy thinks he's hot shit."

How do you guys "really" take that kind of stuff mentally?


yeah..id embrace the hate if i were you. When ppl hate on you...you know you are doing something right.

[Havoc]

The problem with relationships these days is that guys have misguided, antiquated views on what a relationship should be.

The reality is that females don't need men in the same way as they have in generations past. They still need men, though. Just differently.

If you approach females from a traditional standpoint, you're really not bringing them anything in this day. If you ARE, with that traditional game, chances are the girl isn't really worth shit to begin with.

Relationships serve a different purpose today, from the glorified prostitution it had been throughout history. Nowadays, if you don't truly connect with a female on a deeply intimate level, you are expendable and replaceable, just as women have been throughout history. Most women (and men, truthfully) aren't emotionally intelligent enough to really understand themselves though, so they don't have the need for a partner that satisfies that side of themselves. That is the real issue in relationships today. Nobody knows who they are, what they want, and definitely not what they need. Finding a woman that is emotionally mature is difficult, but they exist.

You just have to be adept at differentiating between women with their head on straight, and women that are still confused, and emotionally immature. It's becoming more and more difficult to make the distinction, because people confuse financial success, independence, and just an overall sense of a woman having her shit together, with that woman having her mind and emotions in order. Since more and more women have their shit together in general, it assumed that they have it all together. Wrong. If you make that mistake at the onset, the relationship will have problems.

Most importantly, I'd say, though... is that you need to enter into relationships without pretense. If you think, wish, or hope it's going to be a certain way, you're already setting yourself up for failure.

[Warpticon]

Seriously, though, dude...you knew she was going to italy since right after you met her...shit ain't a secret. Get your head in the game.

In regards to that "there's nobody out there, wah wah" bullshit...y'all are looking at it wrong. Y'all are looking for somebody just to have somebody and getting with whoever feels good at the time, then crying about it when it doesn't work out. Are you looking for somebody serious? If so, then quit worrying about what women do, because you're not fucking getting into a relationship with women. There are roughly 3.5 billion women in the world, and I personally don't give .27 fucks about 3,499,999,999 of them, because they don't fucking matter. First off, stop chasing broads for relationships if you don't know what you want and need, because how else are you going to know what to look for? And for God's sake, quit shopping in the kids' section and wondering why the shit doesn't fit.

[Ryu1999]

This is the most depressing page in this thread by far

[AzN_Skater]

In regards to that "there's nobody out there, wah wah" bullshit...y'all are looking at it wrong. Y'all are looking for somebody just to have somebody and getting with whoever feels good at the time, then crying about it when it doesn't work out. Are you looking for somebody serious? If so, then quit worrying about what women do, because you're not fucking getting into a relationship with women. There are roughly 3.5 billion women in the world, and I personally don't give .27 fucks about 3,499,999,999 of them, because they don't fucking matter. And for God's sake, quit shopping in the kids' section and wondering why the shit doesn't fit.

This is the most truth for the jaded and broken.

[GreyFoxx]

Man some good knowledge being dropped here and yeah Azn too young was my girl so i need too get out of that kids section. :china:

[fistoftheryustar]

yeah..id embrace the hate if i were you. When ppl hate on you...you know you are doing something right.

yeah today i got alot of looks. some girl at the library came up and kept talking to me. then when i left she whipsers to her friend "he's leaving." its weird getting looked at so much. theres this pressure like when u see a girl u like and if u go up, get shot down...she pretty much fired down ur best. i like gaming when i look like shit. irony


not saying i want to pick a fight, maybe just curious, went back to where the group of ppl were to see if they were still there. but they were gone. instead. i notice some NICE bah-hind on some short dark tanned girl. she turns around and its like oh shit she has face that can match the ass? she was indian or pakistani. if she had the contacts in she'd be one of those bollywood actresses.

im kickin myself in for not talking to her. there was interest. thing is, its summer course and smart kids take classes now too. she could have been 17-. still i should have found out

[JGD CHAOS]

yeah today i got alot of looks. some girl at the library came up and kept talking to me. then when i left she whipsers to her friend "he's leaving." its weird getting looked at so much. theres this pressure like when u see a girl u like and if u go up, get shot down...she pretty much fired down ur best. i like gaming when i look like shit. irony

not saying i want to pick a fight, maybe just curious, went back to where the group of ppl were to see if they were still there. but they were gone. instead. i notice some NICE bah-hind on some short dark tanned girl. she turns around and its like oh shit she has face that can match the ass? she was indian or pakistani. if she had the contacts in she'd be one of those bollywood actresses.

im kickin myself in for not talking to her. there was interest. thing is, its summer course and smart kids take classes now too. she could have been 17-. still i should have found out

See, what's cool about school is that people are more open to talk. The real world is a totally different enviroment.

I remember this one time I ran out of gas money in Calabasas and asked some old lady for change at a gas station and I shit you not she yelled "NO! GET AWAY FROM ME!" This was in broad daylight too then this one lady who gave me a dollar was all like "Here's a dollar, believe in Jesus."

[fistoftheryustar]

Well yeah where I go now, people live in messed up broken homes. School is "safe." It's social.


Still kickin myself in about that Indian girl. Does anyone have go-getter friends that approach every girl they like?

[JGD CHAOS]

Well yeah where I go now, people live in messed up broken homes. School is "safe." It's social.


Still kickin myself in about that Indian girl. Does anyone have go-getter friends that approach every girl they like?

I had a few. It's good to stop talking to them after getting a gf because they'll probably go after yours.

Don't kick yourself dude it's not like strangers can meet up and spit some magical love dialect to get it going like instant noodles anyway.

[akumatrunigga]

Nokato, you're correct. We've just recently tipped into over 50% of marriages ending in divorce. When you consider all the people who stay in miserable marriages, your chances of having a lasting, long term relationship are pretty bad.

I think we're in an awkward transitional period regarding values in relationships. Women expect to be courted and payed for like the old days, but aren't willing to be submissive housewives. Men either resent women for this, or end up being nice guys and get FZ'd left and right. If you want a monogamous relationship, you're probably better off outsourcing.outsourcing huh? sounds interesting. I have a brief idea but please elaborate

[CoolWater]

The problem with relationships these days is that guys have misguided, antiquated views on what a relationship should be.

Most importantly, I'd say, though... is that you need to enter into relationships without pretense. If you think, wish, or hope it's going to be a certain way, you're already setting yourself up for failure.

I consider myself a logical, blunt and rational person, yet I get suckered by the she-bullshit emotional fallback every time. I am (or more WAS) under the perception that when a woman is in distress she wants me to place myself beneath her. This is an example of a MISGUIDED view. An apology whereby you make a woman feel safer and more secure is far better than one that makes you look like the emotional retard that most men are.

That people enter a relationship without pretense is the best philosophy. Unfortunately people that are ruled by their emotion are incapable of NOT using pretense as it provides a means to protect the perceiver.

And to let you know "Love" is NOT too strong a word. Its just strong enough a word.

[pherai]

outsourcing huh? sounds interesting. I have a brief idea but please elaborate

Well, I'm joking, but if you have traditional values, or want a traditional relationship, you're better