The Woman/Girl Thread: Sex, Relationships, FAQs Pt. 2

[Naslectronical]

im still waiting for thit reply man.. somebody tell me why this is...? does this go for every girl.. help a noob out so i know not to wait n make a move...

I can't speak for the rest of the world, but of all the women I've been with, I've never really made the first move with any of them.

The irony of the situation is that I've never gotten anywhere with any of the chicks where I did make the first move.

All the girls I've been with pretty much came to me. Perhaps it's just that I don't really fit in anywhere and I look and seem to be rather weird, so it peaks their curiosity. *shrug*

[fistoftheryustar]

im still waiting for thit reply man.. somebody tell me why this is...? does this go for every girl.. help a noob out so i know not to wait n make a move...

not every girl just most. its more traditional and if she comes up to you be thankful for those moments. its similar how most girls want a cool guy, not all girls crave cool guys but most do

[drobizh]

What's with girls and making out. I don't want to spent 6 hours parked in front of her house makin out. Why not just give head and I'll be on my way. I shouldn't wait for an hour and a half for her to remember to suck something.

[Naslectronical]

not every girl just most. its more traditional and if she comes up to you be thankful for those moments. its similar how most girls want a cool guy, not all girls crave cool guys but most do

I see what you're saying, but you're being a bit too broad.

While some girls will expect a guy to come over and make the first move, I'm sure that there are plenty of them who simply don't think that way and hence won't sit idly by if they see a guy who interests them.

As far as most girls wanting a cool guy, there is no objective standard for determining which guys are cool.

[fistoftheryustar]

just an example man. point is most girls want the guy to approach them. not all but most

[Hoonyo]

how do women feel about being blunt with your feelings? i don't want to play games with this girl so i just want to tell her i like her. people tell me that's not a good thing to do.

[Naslectronical]

just an example man. point is most girls want the guy to approach them. not all but most

And how do you know that it's most? Have you met most women in the world?

And even then, just because they want for a guy to approach them, doesn't mean that they won't approach him first if he doesn't do so.

[TheWanderer]

I can't speak for the rest of the world, but of all the women I've been with, I've never really made the first move with any of them.

The irony of the situation is that I've never gotten anywhere with any of the chicks where I did make the first move.

All the girls I've been with pretty much came to me. Perhaps it's just that I don't really fit in anywhere and I look and seem to be rather weird, so it peaks their curiosity. *shrug*

what kind of stuff that show they're making the first move.. and how did you handle it man..?
just an example man. point is most girls want the guy to approach them. not all but most

gotcha..:pleased:

[Gumbercules]

What's with girls and making out. I don't want to spent 6 hours parked in front of her house makin out. Why not just give head and I'll be on my way. I shouldn't wait for an hour and a half for her to remember to suck something.

amen, shit gets old

[orochizoolander]

And how do you know that it's most? Have you met most women in the world?

And even then, just because they want for a guy to approach them, doesn't mean that they won't approach him first if he doesn't do so.

That's not a good response that's like asking how do u know oxygen exists if you can't see it.

It's common knowledge that no matter what women say they want the guy to make the first move, males are biologically hardwired to be the aggressors, how many men were gatherers during the reign of cavemen?

Is it always like that? no as such is your case but chances are if you're feeling a girl she'll want you to come to her not the other way around, and if you don't she's more likely to move on to another man who will play the game of cat n mouse on her terms. Women know they are desired and put up on pedestals so why would a woman waste her time on a guy who's not into her when there's a million other guys waiting to bend to her every whim?

I've been hit on by girls (10's as well as 2's) a few times and while it's a nice ego boost, most of the time I'm the one making the first move and that's the way I like it.

what kind of stuff that show they're making the first move

Playing with her hair, laughing at your cornyass jokes/lines no matter how lame they may be, asking you personal questions right off the bat especially if they ask if you're single, ya know that sorta stuff

Trust me if a girl is feeling you'll know.

[pherai]

Your answer seem like it came straight out of a book. I think it different with everyone, different approaching methods could work for different people.

And this sounds like a justification to a bad approach. You can blow off all advice in this thread by saying different things work for different people.

[JGD CHAOS]

A good book:

http://www.amazon.com/Emily-Posts-Etiquette-Thumb-Indexed/dp/0066209579

[Futch]

A good book:

http://www.amazon.com/Emily-Posts-Etiquette-Thumb-Indexed/dp/0066209579


http://www.amazon.com/Alphabet-Manliness-Maddox/dp/080652720X/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1214104100&sr=1-1

A better book.

Seriously, just take the advice, dude. If you are here it's because you want advice, why the hell discard it?

[GreyFoxx]

Need some advice on something. Had a fall out with my ex awhile ago over some stupid stuff. I attribute it too age diff and my lack of relationship exp. Also factor in distance anyway flash forward some years later we start talking again. We meet up and start bringing up old feelings in a god way plus i tap it. Yet after all that things went down hill and we dont talk for a month. Out of the blue she texts me asking me whats up. So far she texted me for the last 2 days around the same time.

My boys said just give her straight answers all chill without bringing stuff up from the past. Do care for her alot just this whole repeat of past events isn't settling right with me. Any suggestions or advice too go forward with this?

[Gord]

Tell her she is nothing more than a side girl.

[TheWanderer]

im planning on making a fukin move this mond when i get to the school!!! *rawwrrr*... lol..

anyway.. if for some reason... the two girls i was talking about show up somewhere near me and try to get my attention... how should i play my game..? lets just say i got a little bit of game ok... lol... what i want is to get email address or phone number..? but phone number is almost impossible for me unless u guys got something u can hook me up with..

[JGD CHAOS]

http://www.amazon.com/Alphabet-Manliness-Maddox/dp/080652720X/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1214104100&sr=1-1

A better book.

Seriously, just take the advice, dude. If you are here it's because you want advice, why the hell discard it?

Discard it? I'm pointing out a good book. (http://www.amazon.com/Emily-Posts-Etiquette-Thumb-Indexed/dp/0066209579)

[Foleyeffect]

Now for something a little different

I figure i'd shed share my story how making out turned into me almost dying(well kinda) in hopes this doesn't happen to anyone. Basically my girl loves to suck on my tongue infact she's been getting a little "too" sucky. Anyone during one of our sessions and both in the buff, she sucks so hard she rips the skin that's connected to the bottom of the skin. Frankly to say it hurts like a son of a bitch and the healing process is not any better. Anyway I lay there for a sec and start tasting blood to the point man this taste won't go away. I get up to check the damage and i start feeling woozy to the point i'm having trouble seeing let alone standing up. At this point my girlfriend is freaking out saying "i'm sorry, i'm sorry!" repeatedly. Anyone part of me is going "crap am i seriously dying from a tongue wound?" so I shrug her off, grab some pants, and make my way to the kitchen. I look around for water but I literally can only see one big fuzzy blur. Luckily I cried out to my roomie and he got me some water and my girl is like frozen and finally runs out wearing my T and helps me finish some more water. Apparently since the sudden loss of blood around my head and the fact i loaded up on espresso's earliar that day combined dehydrated me severely and almost caused me to feint and possibly die. So anyway moral of the story is if you get a make out injury hit dat water because its possible it can get serious.

which brings me to another question, now i have this fucked up skin under my tongue that connects it to my lower jaw. Its all white and looks like it'll turn into an ulcer/canker sore. I'm hitting it with alcohol but i'm wondering if I should hit up the doctor.

[Shotokan Symphony]

which brings me to another question, now i have this fucked up skin under my tongue that connects it to my lower jaw. Its all white and looks like it'll turn into an ulcer/canker sore. I'm hitting it with alcohol but i'm wondering if I should hit up the doctor.

Do you really need to ask that?

[Silentness!]

OH BABY... you got what I need, but you say I'm just a friend...

^ Oh such true words.

[ckrazy]

Do you really need to ask that?

canker sore is serious business! haha but really who the fuck goes to the doctor about that? fucking pussy! C'mon your girl bite you and you were alright you should be fine.

[Shotokan Symphony]

...no, seriously, go to a fucking hospital. Jesus Christ.

[Silentness!]

LMAO I just now thought of something... this song (http://youtube.com/watch?v=sWNGf3d-tI8) was playing in the club when me and that hot ass Korean chick (from Friday night) was staring into each other's eyes. Omg I know "useless without pics" but she seriously looked like a model. I thought I was looking into an angel's eyes.

She looked like this http://img512.imageshack.us/img512/4254/shaunakoasianmodelslp1.jpg (closest picture I could find)

It's like that song came on for us. As she walked slowly towards my way I sang that song to her and the rest is history. Ahh good times good times...

[w1r3d]

...no, seriously, go to a fucking hospital.

seconded

[Higher-Jin]

Posted this in a different thread, but I thought it was relevant to this thread:

paying for sex (with exceptions of one night stands and cougars) is what everyone does whether it be mentally or monetarily. Getting escorts or hookers is actually the less shameful of the 2 since it cuts out the bullshit.

Everyone's ashamed of their baser instincts. We shouldn't be though, maybe we just have a hard time admitting that we're not as evolved as we think we are. We have a long way to go, but yeah sex is well... sex. It's what keeps our species alive and thus our genetics programmed various tricks and incentives into our beings to ensure we continue to hump until the end of time.

What's funny is how hypocritical society is. If you don't have a mate then you must be a dysfunctional human being, and if you have two or more at the same time then you must also be a dysfunctional human being. It's just stupid. Of course the matters aren't helped when most of the population is ignorant as fuck about sex and leave their kids to figure out like 90% of the dynamics between males and females on their own or from people even more damaged and fucked up than they are.

If you ask me if people would actually sit down and talk to their kids about all this then human beings on the whole would probably be a little less insane. At any given moment I'd say billions of human beings are angry, depressed, or otherwise unhappy due to problems with the opposite sex. Everyone thinks about it all the damn time so I'd say it's a pretty significant part of humanity that we simply don't explore enough due to the taboos and stigma around it. If we did then people would be more balanced and as a result our world would probably be more balanced as well.

One of the biggest problems I've noted is that people can't separate their value as a human being from their sexual value. When someone gets dumped they tend to feel like they are worthless, and when they lose their virginity it's like they are validated as a human being for the first time in their life. I don't feel this is totally healthy behavior, since basing your self worth on the opinions of others will never give you emotional stability and you will always need continued validation in order to be happy, which is difficult to attain and even harder to maintain.

Also it's not a very good way to judge your self worth. If you want to judge someone's value as a human being based on how many people wanted to fuck them, then Ted Bundy must've been Mother Teresa on the weekends because he had literally hundreds of fangirls who wanted to marry him after he got caught. Why? I think some of them thought they could "change him". I really have no fucking idea, but I'm sure all they would've end up changing was Bundy's dinner plans for the night, but I digress.

Overall, bad people get laid all the time. Who gets sex isn't a value call on their worth as a human being, it's a value call on their value as a sexual mate. And all that really means is basically identifying the traits our genes have pre-programmed us to respond to. Nothing more, nothing less. Attraction is not a choice. If our genes programmed us to respond to a pig rolling in shit, then that's what we'd respond to, and we would have approximately zero choice in the matter. So yea, it probably is a good idea to work on your sexual value. It is a very good thing to be accepted by the opposite sex. But just realize that it doesn't define you, it's only a part of you.

Just IMO

- Jin

P.S. Sorry for the rant

[Havoc]

I'm not ashamed of my baser instincts.

[Gord]

Fucked up story

WTF is wrong with you? Your tongue is one giant exposed muscle, it should NOT go through that at all.


which brings me to another question, now i have this fucked up skin under my tongue that connects it to my lower jaw. Its all white and looks like it'll turn into an ulcer/canker sore. I'm hitting it with alcohol but i'm wondering if I should hit up the doctor.


:confused:

Of course you fucking should, you could DIE from that.

[Higher-Jin]

I'm not ashamed of my baser instincts.

Well that's just cuz you're a monster.

You don't count.

[Shotokan Symphony]

What if I'm just in the mood to jerk off? Does that make me a worse human being because I don't want to stick my wang in someone I don't know?[/rhetorical fucking question]

[fistoftheryustar]

That's not a good response that's like asking how do u know oxygen exists if you can't see it.

It's common knowledge that no matter what women say they want the guy to make the first move, males are biologically hardwired to be the aggressors, how many men were gatherers during the reign of cavemen?

Is it always like that? no as such is your case but chances are if you're feeling a girl she'll want you to come to her not the other way around, and if you don't she's more likely to move on to another man who will play the game of cat n mouse on her terms. Women know they are desired and put up on pedestals so why would a woman waste her time on a guy who's not into her when there's a million other guys waiting to bend to her every whim?

I've been hit on by girls (10's as well as 2's) a few times and while it's a nice ego boost, most of the time I'm the one making the first move and that's the way I like it.



Playing with her hair, laughing at your cornyass jokes/lines no matter how lame they may be, asking you personal questions right off the bat especially if they ask if you're single, ya know that sorta stuff

Trust me if a girl is feeling you'll know.

Exactly. That is what Im trying to say. Most doesnt mean all, but people can figure out the "most" without using any crazy gadget or poll.

Either way, why should a guy rely just on letting the girl approach him first? If you cant approach and make it happen yourself having her come to you is better than nothing obviously. But you should def at least get to where you need to be to be able to approach if you really wanted to. Get the best of both worlds for yourself.

[RockBogart]

So I got called a "pussy ass nigga", "dick", and a "bitch" today. Because I don't let the women I work with walk all over me. And its only two women who feel this way. And one of the two is a major attention whore. She tries to bait me into arguments about nothing and I usually just walk away. She is always trying to get me to do her work, and often argues with other employees in front of guest. She doesnt appreciate the immense amount of restraint I show when dealing with her. So tonight while we were closing she tried to fuck with me again. I clocked the fuck out and went home. I thought she would have gotten the hint after she just saw me throw a cement bench in the middle of the road ( some guest walked out on a check and I was pissed). And the fact that I threw her about 8 feet because she decided to be funny and cut me off at the computer mid key stroke.

[Shotokan Symphony]

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[fistoftheryustar]

I think it's time you introduced her to a friend.
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thats just great ^

[kingfismit]

seconded
LMAO. that's some hardcore tongue sucking.:rofl:

[fistoftheryustar]

LMAO I just now thought of something... this song (http://youtube.com/watch?v=sWNGf3d-tI8) was playing in the club when me and that hot ass Korean chick (from Friday night) was staring into each other's eyes. Omg I know "useless without pics" but she seriously looked like a model. I thought I was looking into an angel's eyes.

She looked like this http://img512.imageshack.us/img512/4254/shaunakoasianmodelslp1.jpg (closest picture I could find)

It's like that song came on for us. As she walked slowly towards my way I sang that song to her and the rest is history. Ahh good times good times...

was this in VA. i knew a girl just like that

[TheWanderer]

-this girl always look for me in the morning in the library... i be sitting chilling.. and i see her coming in.. looking for me.. HOW I KNOW... well she go in n look at the spot i was at yesterday and walk over at that spot... what do that mean..

-everytime i turn i see the same girl sitting afar... she doesnt stare at me.. but whenever im in the library and turn somewhere i see her... what do that mean..

-she alway wait for me to leave class then she leave after... she only sometime leave class first when she gotta.. but alot of time.. she be waitin for me to leave class then she leave after... wwhy is that..

[The Epidemic]

^lol...its clear she likes you. Just talk to her.

[TheWanderer]

i hear you man.. but there's this other boy in class that sit in front of her.. and i sit in the back.. she stare at him everytime he turn back n hand her work paper n crap..

and at the library.. that same boy sit on my side where i sit.. and he also in the library in the morning too.. HAHAH..

so its one of us that she like..or maybe she like him HAHAH.. i would hate to be the wrong one.. hahaha

[GeoG2]

http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/5407/results

You guys need to see this poll, the results are fucking hilarious.

[mr. newbie]

works for me...what girl doesnt like to be told she looks good? Its how you say things that makes it effective or not.

it's the male equivalent of "you're tall."

[Silentness!]

http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/5407/results

You guys need to see this poll, the results are fucking hilarious.

I couldn't finish reading the whole poll without wanting to vomit.

A poll Magnetix would make

[ckrazy]

I couldn't finish reading the whole poll without wanting to vomit.

A poll Magnetix would make

I am straight and I finish reading the poll..... It wasn't that hard I found it funny. Half the shit I already knew cause one of my homgirls talk nonstop....

[The Epidemic]

it's the male equivalent of "you're tall."

ummmm...oook? :confused:
i wonder about some of you guys sometimes...
tell the broad whats on your mind. Dont play games just...
you guys acting like giving compliments is taboo...i dunno where you guys heard that but, best believe you heard wrong.

[GreyFoxx]

At last i get friend-zoned...TEH HELL!!!

[SF_PHOCUS]

ummmm...oook? :confused:
i wonder about some of you guys sometimes...
tell the broad whats on your mind. Dont play games just...
you guys acting like giving compliments is taboo...i dunno where you guys heard that but, best believe you heard wrong.


I def agree with you on that shit! Like most people are under the impression that a "Your Beautiful.. I just had to come and Speak to you... I hope you don't mind but could I sit down? Im Gareth(smile)"....... wouldn't work.... When u play games and shit sometimes guys could play games for too long and fuck the shit up... Thats why most of the time when i give some sort of advice bout chicks i dont say shit like play games and beat around the bush... Most of the time u just gotta show a lil emotion haha

Smh I currently have this cute Columbian and indonesian chick in the works... I could prolly say this is one of the cutiest girls Ive bagged.. lol There are pics on my myspace but im too lazy to post them up.. and im not in any of them

[Naslectronical]

That's not a good response that's like asking how do u know oxygen exists if you can't see it.

It's common knowledge that no matter what women say they want the guy to make the first move, males are biologically hardwired to be the aggressors, how many men were gatherers during the reign of cavemen?

Is it always like that? no as such is your case but chances are if you're feeling a girl she'll want you to come to her not the other way around, and if you don't she's more likely to move on to another man who will play the game of cat n mouse on her terms. Women know they are desired and put up on pedestals so why would a woman waste her time on a guy who's not into her when there's a million other guys waiting to bend to her every whim?

I've been hit on by girls (10's as well as 2's) a few times and while it's a nice ego boost, most of the time I'm the one making the first move and that's the way I like it.



Like I said, you're being too broad and general here, and I'm not going to deal with women based on what neanderthals were doing eons ago.

The way I see it, a woman doesn't deserve to be put up on a pedestal just by dent of being a woman. She might have a gorgeous face, nice tits, nice round ass, and a luscious figure, but so do many other women out there. I don't see where that makes her any special, really. She's just another another woman as far as I'm concerned, no different from all the others until she proves otherwise. Hell, I know that there are plenty of women out there who'd love to be with me, so why should I waste my time. Two can play at that game.

But if you put women on pedestals just because they're there, and that's what works for you, then I'm not going to beat you over the head.

[fistoftheryustar]

again man you are missing the point^

he is saying that women shouldnt be put on a pedestal, read it again.

[akumatrunigga]

-this girl always look for me in the morning in the library... i be sitting chilling.. and i see her coming in.. looking for me.. HOW I KNOW... well she go in n look at the spot i was at yesterday and walk over at that spot... what do that mean..

-everytime i turn i see the same girl sitting afar... she doesnt stare at me.. but whenever im in the library and turn somewhere i see her... what do that mean..

-she alway wait for me to leave class then she leave after... she only sometime leave class first when she gotta.. but alot of time.. she be waitin for me to leave class then she leave after... wwhy is that..

i hear you man.. but there's this other boy in class that sit in front of her.. and i sit in the back.. she stare at him everytime he turn back n hand her work paper n crap..

and at the library.. that same boy sit on my side where i sit.. and he also in the library in the morning too.. HAHAH..

so its one of us that she like..or maybe she like him HAHAH.. i would hate to be the wrong one.. hahaha
Listen Wanderer just smile say hi and sit next to her in class. After class go to the library and get to know her regarding the class you have taken together jeez!!!!
ummmm...oook? :confused:
i wonder about some of you guys sometimes...
tell the broad whats on your mind. Dont play games just...
you guys acting like giving compliments is taboo...i dunno where you guys heard that but, best believe you heard wrong.
I dont know they are too many clowns that is on the line game too. But also many women act like they heard the line too :rolleyes; "you're attractive, my name is and i like to know you and we should hang out" In many cases she is already feeling you prior to you asking the question.
again man you are missing the point^

he is saying that women shouldnt be put on a pedestal, read it again.

Um no he isnt

[Silentness!]

There's nothing wrong with complimenting a girl.

Like if your chick GOTHERHAIRDID and if you compliment it she will be happy because you actually noticed instead of just ignoring it. The little things like that add up...

Now smothering someone with compliments can be too predictable you gotta mix that shit up like that good ole Street Fighter.

[TheWanderer]

-class bout to start so i walk in like minaute late but teacher no there so i sit down... this girl turn corner n see me and minaute later she got up and walk out.. and when she come back.. she stand outside the door stare at me... HAHAHA.. what she up to...

-this girl know i take the same way to get out off scool after class... well today she decide to take diff way.. but then we both meet at same spot.. she tryda doo that sometime now.. why... .. she kinda freakki.. lol..

-who shoud make first move.. boy or girl... like let say if both boy and girl dont know but like each other.. but both shy... so who shoud make first move...

Listen Wanderer just smile say hi and sit next to her in class. After class go to the library and get to know her regarding the class you have taken together jeez!!!!


i dont like doing shiet if i dont know if shes into me or not.. :sweat:

[Black Chanler]

So yea, my current girl got a new job...where my last girl currently works at.

This is going to be a fun summer...

[AzN_Skater]

So yea, my current girl got a new job...where my last girl currently works at.

This is going to be a fun summer...

lol... oh man. I feel bad for you. haha.

[pherai]

You should be charging them for referrals man.

[orochizoolander]

The way I see it, a woman doesn't deserve to be put up on a pedestal just by dent of being a woman. She might have a gorgeous face, nice tits, nice round ass, and a luscious figure, but so do many other women out there. I don't see where that makes her any special, really. She's just another another woman as far as I'm concerned, no different from all the others until she proves otherwise. Hell, I know that there are plenty of women out there who'd love to be with me, so why should I waste my time. Two can play at that game.

But if you put women on pedestals just because they're there, and that's what works for you, then I'm not going to beat you over the head.

I couldn't agree with you more.

When did I say I, myself was one of the many who puts the pussy on a pedestal all I said is that more often then not it's me who's making the first move because that's how I operate.

Um no he isnt

Actually I am, I thought my post was pretty simple n clear on that.


Silentness I'm too lazy to read back the last whatever pages so whats the situation with the "thick" korean chick you were banging?

[GeoG2]

LOL.... Wanderer posts like a fob.

Just say, "Hi bitch, what you desire lies within my Bugle Boy jeans. It is the reason you cannot think straight around me. Let me blow your mind."

[fistoftheryustar]

Um no he isnt

Didnt he just say that he thinks women think they are on the pedestal?

What guy straight or not would come on here and say that women truly should be held on a pedestal

[Silentness!]

So yeah me and my "EX" are back together again... :confused:

Women are confusing...

[Ryu1999]

So yeah me and my "EX" are back together again... :confused:

Women are confusing...

And apparently you're a masochist :looney:

[akumatrunigga]

i dont like doing shiet if i dont know if shes into me or not.. :sweat:
well dont do anything since you are too chicken and let the other dude get her

Actually I am, I thought my post was pretty simple n clear on that.

Not really your post was just like driving in the middle of fog where the fog lights are growing dim. It was too vague as nas stated. Im sorry that i dont have my SRK to English text with me right now my bad. But since it was translated like that then I agree women shouldnt be.

[TheWanderer]

well dont do anything since you are too chicken and let the other dude get her



talk to her today after class and it the last day of that class to..

we talk while walking to our car... she 28+... she talk kinda fast when i say hi to her.. lol.. she woulnt tell me her age when i ask for her age.. she keep saying 20 something n i said 20 something what... she didnt wanna say nothing but then later tell me shes 28+ and said bye to me...

[SmackTalkSupreme]

So yeah me and my "EX" are back together again... :confused:

Women are confusing...

Wow dude. . . .wow. . .

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. .. .. . . . this the chick that left you for her ex last week?

[fistoftheryustar]

talk to her today after class and it the last day of that class to..

we talk while walking to our car... she 28+... she talk kinda fast when i say hi to her.. lol.. she woulnt tell me her age when i ask for her age.. she keep saying 20 something n i said 20 something what... she didnt wanna say nothing but then later tell me shes 28+ and said bye to me...

least u went for it man. for some guys what u did i s normal. for some guys its liek torture. idk if thats ur norm or what but its step in the right direction with it.

we are so lucky that we're guys and that we can actually work on game and personality to help us. most of the times if a girl is already skinny but ugly, it'd be super hard for her to get her 10...without alcohol

[HeaT]

you guys ever wonder at what age women stop getting wet at...i dont know why but i was thinking about this last night AHAHAHA...

im outi

Roberth

[akumatrunigga]

you guys ever wonder at what age women stop getting wet at...i dont know why but i was thinking about this last night AHAHAHA...

im outi

Roberth

sounds like something didnt happen last night

[TheWanderer]

least u went for it man. for some guys what u did i s normal. for some guys its liek torture. idk if thats ur norm or what but its step in the right direction with it.

we are so lucky that we're guys and that we can actually work on game and personality to help us. most of the times if a girl is already skinny but ugly, it'd be super hard for her to get her 10...without alcohol
yea.. you sound like if you know she aint into me or something.. lol.. :sweat::wasted:

after talkin to her.. got me to see that i needa make first move ASAP next time... :tup:

[thurst]

im still waiting for thit reply man.. somebody tell me why this is...? does this go for every girl.. help a noob out so i know not to wait n make a move...

just saw this...generally unless a girl is naturally aggressive AND thinks you're hot as hell she's not gonna approach you. i'm not gassed or anything, but i don't think i'm a bad looking guy and i'm pretty approachable and broads almost never randomly hit me up on some game-spitting type of shit. imo the most you can expect from a chick is that she'll start a convo up with you just to give you the opportunity to spit some game at her and even is wishful thinking most of the time.

seriosuly girls will eye fuck you forever but not say a single word until you pull some trick out of your hat, it's just the way shit is.

oh, and i just caught up on the rest of the thread, epidemic is speaking the truth. when did compliments ever become a bad thing? niggas is reading too many books and psyching themselves out if you think dropping a few compliments isn't a tried & true means to getting anything you want from anybody, let alone bagging a chick.

[Naslectronical]

the most you can expect from a chick is that she'll start a convo up with you just to give you the opportunity to spit some game at her and even is wishful thinking most of the time.



That's all you need. If she weren't interested, she wouldn't start a convo, now would she?

[Silentness!]

@ all the comments about me being with my EX.

I'm just as dumbfounded as to why I am doing this to myself...

[SmrK]

@ all the comments about me being with my EX.

I'm just as dumbfounded as to why I am doing this to myself...


Man, drama must be your crack or something :bgrin:

[Silentness!]

Man, drama must be your crack or something :bgrin:

Yeah it is...

I need to get out of Korea and go to Tokyo ASAP

[thurst]

lol idk ness, k-drama is supposed to be the best asia has to offer.

That's all you need. If she weren't interested, she wouldn't start a convo, now would she?

i agree, chicks willl let you know they're interested but they also expect you to do something about it.

[HeaT]

That's all you need. If she weren't interested, she wouldn't start a convo, now would she?

ya she still would...

im outi

Roberth

[fistoftheryustar]

yea.. you sound like if you know she aint into me or something.. lol.. :sweat::wasted:

after talkin to her.. got me to see that i needa make first move ASAP next time... :tup:

oh i next time, i thought that was the last day of class. i was prolly readin someone else's post then. for that guy, get at it!

[The Epidemic]

ya she still would...

im outi

Roberth

yea..she would but, she would be mad short.

[HeaT]

yea..she would but, she would be mad short.

ya but some peeps think that just cause shes 5'0 she got a tight fitted vag too...NAWMEAN DAWG...

im outi

Roberth

[CoolWater]

For all those guys out there who think getting friend zone is the worst thing in the world.

I was having lunch with a she-friend today. She was talking to me about something that was barely relevant enough to respond intelligently to (mind you I was eating) and she started getting REALLY pissed at me. Apparently, the fact that I was noT providing her with long winded analytic answers (which is what I usually do) was --and I quote-- "creating negativity" for her and she made it very vocal that she cuts off relationships as not to be around negative people. I laughed for a solid half minute based on what she said, and her response to my mockery was "yeah, thats better...seee".

Fuck that. Just... FUCK IT!!!

[pherai]

Yeah, I'm not really down with having female friends.

[TheWanderer]

just saw this...generally unless a girl is naturally aggressive AND thinks you're hot as hell she's not gonna approach you. i'm not gassed or anything, but i don't think i'm a bad looking guy and i'm pretty approachable and broads almost never randomly hit me up on some game-spitting type of shit. imo the most you can expect from a chick is that she'll start a convo up with you just to give you the opportunity to spit some game at her and even is wishful thinking most of the time.

seriosuly girls will eye fuck you forever but not say a single word until you pull some trick out of your hat, it's just the way shit is.

oh, and i just caught up on the rest of the thread, epidemic is speaking the truth. when did compliments ever become a bad thing? niggas is reading too many books and psyching themselves out if you think dropping a few compliments isn't a tried & true means to getting anything you want from anybody, let alone bagging a chick.

-how true is that man..? if you're HOT AS H3LL then girls aint gonna approach you?

-and eye fuck... i know what it is but i wanna know if im right.. whats eye fuck?

That's all you need. If she weren't interested, she wouldn't start a convo, now would she?
so basically if a girl asks you anything.. shes interested right..? like.. if you got a pencil... know the time.. etc...?


i agree, chicks willl let you know they're interested but they also expect you to do something about it.

how true is that..? and what some stuff that show they interested and how should you deal with it?
oh i next time, i thought that was the last day of class. i was prolly readin someone else's post then. for that guy, get at it!

you're right man.. it was the last day of class... i finally talk to her.. when i walked out the classroom.. i saw her standing outside looking inside the classroom.. and saw me walk out and then turn n started walking... so i decided to FUCK IT and talk to her... it was like CAKE!! i cant believe i havent done it sooner.. :wasted:

but yea.. it was the last day of that class we got together man... so... i guess i will never know if she was interested in me or not...some ppl even tell me to ask for her phone number.. but i dont know if that is safe to go...:wasted: but all that is too late now...:wasted:

[CoolWater]

^^^ Yeah, I feel you on that one. Always worrying about shit then its too late. I try to live by the principle of "I didn't find 1000 ways to screw up, just 1000 ways not to approach a chick".

[J-ride]

Yeah, I'm not really down with having female friends.
I can have female friends, but I have certain expectations. If they just want to be friends and I get to treat them like I do my guy friends, then it's cool. However, if they want me to be their emotional support/councilor, then it's not cool, and I won't do it. I have had a few really good female friends and no one can ever pull wing for you the way a woman can, period. My friend Candace has gotten me set up with SO many women, it's ridiculous, and in return, I've introduced her to guys I knew that she wanted to meet. As long as the relationship benefits both parties then it can work, but to hell with all that being a woman's emotional pillow crap.

[pherai]

Well, its more of a personal preference for me, but those seem like good guidelines.

[Ill E]

...but to hell with all that being a woman's emotional pillow crap.

Well put. Thats what a partner is for, not just some guy friend...."FUCK That..I don' tha' SHIT in my LIFE"- Scarface

[onyx]

She looked like this http://img512.imageshack.us/img512/4254/shaunakoasianmodelslp1.jpg (closest picture I could find)


She would get... destroyed.
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So i havent been reading this thread 4 a while, lemme get this strait... YOu had a gf last time i saw and you were haveing troubles.. So since then, u broke up, got together again, then broke up again and just got back together??

I think it's time you introduced her to a friend.
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Question for you guys. When you meet a girl that ask FIRST you if you have a GF and u know or find out she has a BF, do u still proceed and eliminate the boyfriend as an issue because she's showing interest?? or do u just keep the pouncing at a moderate level and continue to flirt a bit?

[fistoftheryustar]

you're right man.. it was the last day of class... i finally talk to her.. when i walked out the classroom.. i saw her standing outside looking inside the classroom.. and saw me walk out and then turn n started walking... so i decided to FUCK IT and talk to her... it was like CAKE!! i cant believe i havent done it sooner.. :wasted:

but yea.. it was the last day of that class we got together man... so... i guess i will never know if she was interested in me or not...some ppl even tell me to ask for her phone number.. but i dont know if that is safe to go...:wasted: but all that is too late now...:wasted:

that is why i was giving the good job speech, bc i thought even though u did good u might not see her again. u know what to do next time, but ill admit i have to say with those kinna things i tend not to learn my lesson too easily.

those situations always suck.

[The Epidemic]

so basically if a girl asks you anything.. shes interested right..? like.. if you got a pencil... know the time.. etc...?


No.

Are you interested in every broad you ask a question to?

You can tell when a broad is interested.

[TheWanderer]

that is why i was giving the good job speech, bc i thought even though u did good u might not see her again. u know what to do next time, but ill admit i have to say with those kinna things i tend not to learn my lesson too easily.

those situations always suck.

i really hope i see her even if just for 1 minute... IMA GET THAT DIGIT!!! if i get a no.. i dont give a shit!!

theres this girl who been sitting where you could see me in the library lately.. not sure how often she does it.. but when i look away from the comp while working on my work.. i'd see her sitting afar reading magazines or some shit.. then i act like im working then i look over at her and i see her staring with her hair covering one of her eyes... kinda freaky lol..

later i got up and walk over to a building 2 to walk around... as im walking down the stairs to head back out n walk to building 1... there she is walking up the stairs as im walking down the stairs...

^im plannin on talking.. even if it just some random shit.. ima TALK!! theres this boy who stalk her n put his game on her... but i dont know if she feeling him or not.. so i wanna have my turn with her next time i see her stalk me.. :sweat::tup:


No.

Are you interested in every broad you ask a question to?

You can tell when a broad is interested.

if some broad stamp I LIKE YOU sign.. i would think she doesn't.. i dont know why.. maybe i dont got game to back that shit up or aint man enough to put some game on her...:sweat::wasted:

some ways to know a broad is interested? like if somebody you just meet in a new class or in public..:tup:

[Warpticon]

i really hope i see her even if just for 1 minute... IMA GET THAT DIGIT!!!

that digit? (http://badera.us/hostedimages/middle-finger.jpg)

[fistoftheryustar]

i really hope i see her even if just for 1 minute... IMA GET THAT DIGIT!!! if i get a no.. i dont give a shit!!

theres this girl who been sitting where you could see me in the library lately.. not sure how often she does it.. but when i look away from the comp while working on my work.. i'd see her sitting afar reading magazines or some shit.. then i act like im working then i look over at her and i see her staring with her hair covering one of her eyes... kinda freaky lol..

later i got up and walk over to a building 2 to walk around... as im walking down the stairs to head back out n walk to building 1... there she is walking up the stairs as im walking down the stairs...

^im plannin on talking.. even if it just some random shit.. ima TALK!! theres this boy who stalk her n put his game on her... but i dont know if she feeling him or not.. so i wanna have my turn with her next time i see her stalk me.. :sweat::tup:




if some broad stamp I LIKE YOU sign.. i would think she doesn't.. i dont know why.. maybe i dont got game to back that shit up or aint man enough to put some game on her...:sweat::wasted:

some ways to know a broad is interested? like if somebody you just meet in a new class or in public..:tup:

ha go for it man. i forgot to ask why didnt you get the digits the first time you talk to the first girl after class. you forgot or you didnt think it felt the vibe was right?


in the past my game had been indirect mostly and it worked tons for me. Now that im trying direct, which sounds quicker yet riskier, i think i am mixing both games up to = mediocre game.

i think all it takes is a summer to get ur game sky rocketing. but to get it started for that summer is harder than it sounds

[FistsofFury]

ARTICLE: BAD GUYS GET THE MOST GIRLS

<------LINK------> (http://www.newscientist.com/channel/sex/mg19826614.100-bad-guys-really-do-get-the-most-girls.html)

NICE guys knew it, now two studies have confirmed it: bad boys get the most girls. The finding may help explain why a nasty suite of antisocial personality traits known as the "dark triad" persists in the human population, despite their potentially grave cultural costs.

The traits are the self-obsession of narcissism; the impulsive, thrill-seeking and callous behaviour of psychopaths; and the deceitful and exploitative nature of Machiavellianism. At their extreme, these traits would be highly detrimental for life in traditional human societies. People with these personalities risk being shunned by others and shut out of relationships, leaving them without a mate, hungry and vulnerable to predators.

But being just slightly evil could have an upside: a prolific sex life, says Peter Jonason at New Mexico State University in Las Cruces. "We have some evidence that the three traits are really the same thing and may represent a successful evolutionary strategy."

Jonason and his colleagues subjected 200 college students to personality tests designed to rank them for each of the dark triad traits. They also asked about their attitudes to sexual relationships and about their sex lives, including how many partners they'd had and whether they were seeking brief affairs.

The study found that those who scored higher on the dark triad personality traits tended to have more partners and more desire for short-term relationships, Jonason reported at the Human Behavior and Evolution Society meeting in Kyoto, Japan, earlier this month. But the correlation only held in males.

James Bond epitomises this set of traits, Jonason says. "He's clearly disagreeable, very extroverted and likes trying new things - killing people, new women." Just as Bond seduces woman after woman, people with dark triad traits may be more successful with a quantity-style or shotgun approach to reproduction, even if they don't stick around for parenting. "The strategy seems to have worked. We still have these traits," Jonason says.

This observation seems to hold across cultures. David Schmitt of Bradley University in Peoria, Illinois, presented preliminary results at the same meeting from a survey of more than 35,000 people in 57 countries. He found a similar link between the dark triad and reproductive success in men. "It is universal across cultures for high dark triad scorers to be more active in short-term mating," Schmitt says. "They are more likely to try and poach other people's partners for a brief affair."

Barbara Oakley of Oakland University in Rochester, Michigan, says that the studies "verify something a lot of people have conjectured about".

Christopher von Rueden of the University of California at Santa Barbara says that the studies are important because they confirm that personality variation has direct fitness consequences.

"They still have to explain why it hasn't spread to everyone," says Matthew Keller of the University of Colorado in Boulder. "There must be some cost of the traits." One possibility, both Keller and Jonason suggest, is that the strategy is most successful when dark triad personalities are rare. Otherwise, others would become more wary and guarded.

[Silentness!]

So i havent been reading this thread 4 a while, lemme get this strait... YOu had a gf last time i saw and you were haveing troubles.. So since then, u broke up, got together again, then broke up again and just got back together??


:lol:



Pretty much. I think she's driving me crazy, but I want to test the waters a little bit more. She offered to introduce me to her friend if shit doesn't work out. LOL... she said her friend is a good settled down girl. Every one of her friends have been hot so I'm not worried about being hooked up with a blind date if that's what ends up happening.

[X_x]

She offered to introduce me to her friend if shit doesn't work out. LOL... she said her friend is a good settled down girl.

Wow..since when do gf's offer to find you future gf's in case of a bad relationship? That's the first time i ever heard of something like that.

[ckrazy]

Pretty much. I think she's driving me crazy, but I want to test the waters a little bit more. She offered to introduce me to her friend if shit doesn't work out. LOL... she said her friend is a good settled down girl. Every one of her friends have been hot so I'm not worried about being hooked up with a blind date if that's what ends up happening.

Dude no offense but when she say shit like that it destine to be failure. Not trying to jinx you in any way, but she has no faith in your relationship what so ever even if she was joking with that comment.

[Silentness!]

Yeah lol I'm highly aware that this relationship was damned from the beginning.

That's why I said I'm treading the waters right now :rofl:

[TheWanderer]

ha go for it man. i forgot to ask why didnt you get the digits the first time you talk to the first girl after class. you forgot or you didnt think it felt the vibe was right?

in the past my game had been indirect mostly and it worked tons for me. Now that im trying direct, which sounds quicker yet riskier, i think i am mixing both games up to = mediocre game.

i think all it takes is a summer to get ur game sky rocketing. but to get it started for that summer is harder than it sounds

aint that fast man... :wtf:.. dont we talk for a couple day then ask... maybe you could show me wassup..:sweat:..

[Malfreds]

Ok. I got this situation. Let me know what you think.
I got this girl, separated with two kids.
Also I have my girl and I let her know of this to my "lover"
She took it with "oh well". So I though it was over but no, she continued to send me sms and all that stuff.
Then I was near to left my job (where she is too) and of course, she moved fast. So we date sometimes since then. This started three weeks ago.

My problem is I want to drop her, not because she is not good, in fact she is great, but she...mmm...how can I say? I don't know how you americans refer when a girl does not want to go to "sleep together". She remains closed and I'm sicking of it. She haven't been with a men in months and don't want to go? Bizarre.

Should I go and tell her directly "lets go to the five letters" or should I stop it now? My girl is getting suspicious and I can't stand it more time. And add in my new job the proportion is 70% girls / 30% man. (assembly factory), so I see more (and better) opportunities in the horizont.

[Havoc]

Hold on... you're cheating on your girl... with someone you're not fucking...

No.

[SRKev]

Hold on... you're cheating on your girl... with someone you're not fucking...

No.

Exactly.

This broad is just milking you for emotion/attention. You need to get rid of her ass and tell her that Match.com is that way ----------------------->

[Biolink]

My problem is I want to drop her, not because she is not good, in fact she is great, but she...mmm...how can I say? I don't know how you americans refer when a girl does not want to go to "sleep together". She remains closed and I'm sicking of it. She haven't been with a men in months and don't want to go? Bizarre.



:rofl::rofl::rofl:

But yeah.

Cut that bitch off.If you aren't getting any pussy out of it,there is no reason to stick around and get caught by your real Girlfriend,when you weren't getting any pussy,and was just there for emotional support.

Have you even made your intentions known that you want to have sex with her,or are you waiting for her to say something first?

[thurst]

-how true is that man..? if you're HOT AS H3LL then girls aint gonna approach you?

they might, but they'll probably try harder to "catch your eye" or just generally dig into their bag of tricks to get you to approach them.

-and eye fuck... i know what it is but i wanna know if im right.. whats eye fuck?

when a chick is eyeballing you up & down with sexual intent she's eye fucking you, pretty much telling you to come get it.

how true is that..? and what some stuff that show they interested and how should you deal with it?

your story is a perfect example of what i'm talking about. you and shorty are exchanging glances and shit all semester and then finally she decides to mill around the classroom door until you leave, obviously catching your attention and then she decides to walk away without saying anything...c'mon man.

...some ppl even tell me to ask for her phone number.. but i dont know if that is safe to go...:wasted: but all that is too late now...:wasted:

get the digits, son.

[TheWanderer]

what some best way to get a date outta someone you just meet... like in class or library.. or just somewhere public... LET SEE SOME SICK GAME ppl... :karate::badboy::tup:... im talkin about step by step.. like...

You:sup..
Her:sup..

then what... LET SEE something ppl.. show me.. :wasted::sweat:
they might, but they'll probably try harder to "catch your eye" or just generally dig into their bag of tricks to get you to approach them.



when a chick is eyeballing you up & down with sexual intent she's eye fucking you, pretty much telling you to come get it.



your story is a perfect example of what i'm talking about. you and shorty are exchanging glances and shit all semester and then finally she decides to mill around the classroom door until you leave, obviously catching your attention and then she decides to walk away without saying anything...c'mon man.



get the digits, son.

-why won't they just approach instead giving tricks n treat shiet so i gotta approach them...

-when shes eye balling me.. that mean 100% a YES for a date right..even if someone i just meet..

-yea.. i miss my chance... :wasted:.. i cant get digit now.. class is over and that class is the only class she take... if i see her again i be sure to ask for digit though. :sweat:

[Ryu1999]

-why won't they just approach instead giving tricks n treat shiet so i gotta approach them...

-when shes eye balling me.. that mean 100% a YES for a date right..even if someone i just meet..

-yea.. i miss my chance... :wasted:.. i cant get digit now.. class is over and that class is the only class she take... if i see her again i be sure to ask for digit though. :sweat:

Certain gender roles still exist, don't believe the hype of female empowerment: if women can seize on someting beneficial from the old regime, such as laying back and let the men make the moves without having to deal with rejection, they will

[Koop]

Certain gender roles still exist, don't believe the hype of female empowerment: if women can seize on someting beneficial from the old regime, such as laying back and let the men make the moves without having to deal with rejection, they will

**rubs goatee**

excellent... now go'w pwactice for ya bar ryu-san!!!!!!!!!!

[Silentness!]

HELP! Guys my biggest weakness is that I don't know what to say on the phone...

Like the girl I'm seeing for about 2-3 months gets frustrated at me when we're talking on the phone and I make long pauses in the conversation.

I don't know what to say though. That's what I like about new relationships because you can talk about so much shit, but once you've been with the same person for a while it's like there's not much new shit you can talk about. We both know each other so it's not like we can "interview" each other.

Talking about my daily life is boring. I'm a computer technician/play dat WoW/go to the gym every now and then. HELP ME WHAT DO I SAY TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION INTERESTING?

[w1r3d]

Why talk to her that much on the phone to begin with? That's one of the mistakes I decided to correct for future relationships. I used to talk a lot with my ex on the phone to the point where I was bored and started thinking about other stuff (games mostly) or just turning on the pc/ps3/whatever and just zoning out of it. I could tell she was the same with her pc/facebook/whatever.

BUT that's not something you can just get out of once you created the habit, so I dunno. Open up Google news and talk about a random topic you see "hey, did you know so and so discovered the cure for so and so? yeah i saw/read it on the news today" etc.

"The man's reason for the phone is to get a date. The woman's reason for the phone is to weed him out." - Doc Love

[Koop]

HELP! Guys my biggest weakness is that I don't know what to say on the phone...

Like the girl I'm seeing for about 2-3 months gets frustrated at me when we're talking on the phone and I make long pauses in the conversation.

I don't know what to say though. That's what I like about new relationships because you can talk about so much shit, but once you've been with the same person for a while it's like there's not much new shit you can talk about. We both know each other so it's not like we can "interview" each other.

Talking about my daily life is boring. I'm a computer technician/play dat WoW/go to the gym every now and then. HELP ME WHAT DO I SAY TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION INTERESTING?

I... we... no one can. I can say this much. Why are you still catering to phone conversation?? How often are you guys talking?? Basically you should have shown how you feel about talking on the phone. We [men] typically don't like talking that long and if we do we have a long amount of things to briefly go over due to the fact we haven't seen the opposite party in who knows how long. Now if its a long distance thing, you need put her or get into a timeline of phone calling. Give time to pass to make a conversation. If you see each other regularly (or can) save phone calls for cute little sayings, plans, feelings...aka small talk and a good conversation for when you see one another.

You need to let her know your not a phone person. I am not and lovely enough nor is my shorty (shockingly) but when we get around each other we have plenty to say. I don't know the situation as a whole, but thats my advice to you unless you can inform me more on the situation. Now again... I nor WE [srk] can tell you what to say. Its on you. But to kinda of set it up, we may can help.

[The Epidemic]

I be on the phone for hrs whenever im (or my girl) outta town. I never really thought being on the phone for hrs at a time was a big deal. If you like talking to her, the time doesnt even feel that long. Like i ould be on the phone for 2+ hrs and it will only feel like 30 minutes lol....
plus i multi-task while on the phone with her so its never really boring to me anyway.

[Silentness!]

I... we... no one can. I can say this much. Why are you still catering to phone conversation?? How often are you guys talking?? Basically you should have shown how you feel about talking on the phone. We [men] typically don't like talking that long and if we do we have a long amount of things to briefly go over due to the fact we haven't seen the opposite party in who knows how long. Now if its a long distance thing, you need put her or get into a timeline of phone calling. Give time to pass to make a conversation. If you see each other regularly (or can) save phone calls for cute little sayings, plans, feelings...aka small talk and a good conversation for when you see one another.

You need to let her know your not a phone person. I am not and lovely enough nor is my shorty (shockingly) but when we get around each other we have plenty to say. I don't know the situation as a whole, but thats my advice to you unless you can inform me more on the situation. Now again... I nor WE [srk] can tell you what to say. Its on you. But to kinda of set it up, we may can help.

yeah it's long distance... it's the Jekyll and Hyde girl from Italy.

She comes back to Korea next Thursday. She's been gone for a month and I decided that I would call her every now and then, but I don't have shit to say. I'm just doing it to be courteous.

I remember a while back she was pissing and moaning about me not calling her enough. Now when I call it's like I'm digging for shit to say. She can tell that I'm straining to find new things to talk about. I guess I could open the news and be like "HEY DID YOU KNOW?"

It got to the point where I was talking about David Beckham being on the Galaxy LA team. WTF lolz...

[TheWanderer]

Certain gender roles still exist, don't believe the hype of female empowerment: if women can seize on someting beneficial from the old regime, such as laying back and let the men make the moves without having to deal with rejection, they will

say what... you saying that women will wait and let the guy make the first move if they gotta... or you mean something else..

[Shotokan Symphony]

say what... you saying that women will wait and let the guy make the first move if they gotta... or you mean something else..

That, and more, honestly. There are VERY few women, empowered or otherwise, who will smell easy money and NOT choose it over working a stable 9-5 job. If such a woman exists, she is either incredibly ugly, incredibly gay, or incredibly stubborn.

[TheWanderer]

That, and more, honestly. There are VERY few women, empowered or otherwise, who will smell easy money and NOT choose it over working a stable 9-5 job. If such a woman exists, she is either incredibly ugly, incredibly gay, or incredibly stubborn.

lol... so pretty much girls aint gonna do shiet even if they like like you right..? you gotta make the move right..

[The Epidemic]

^Damn! just tell the broad you're rich and got a big dick and be done with it....

[BBQ]

pretty much when it comes to the moves/decisions that are highly noticed. Yeah if a girl likes you, she might do things like make an effort to make unusually more small talk then others, maybe act a little more friendly, just subtle stuff that gives you signals of "What the fuck....is this girl comming on to me?"

[Ryu1999]

That, and more, honestly. There are VERY few women, empowered or otherwise, who will smell easy money and NOT choose it over working a stable 9-5 job. If such a woman exists, she is either incredibly ugly, incredibly gay, or incredibly stubborn.

I dunno, the girl I'm working on doesn't fit any of those categories. And she's choosing a 70hr/week job making at least 3-4 times what most people on SRK make. (Hell, at least twice what I project to make, and I have a J.D. :sweat: ) I guess that puts her in the stubborn category?

Generally I think the women are really only lagging in initiative for relationships and the like

[SweetHoney]

Ok. I got this situation. Let me know what you think.
I got this girl, separated with two kids.
Also I have my girl and I let her know of this to my "lover"
She took it with "oh well". So I though it was over but no, she continued to send me sms and all that stuff.
Then I was near to left my job (where she is too) and of course, she moved fast. So we date sometimes since then. This started three weeks ago.

My problem is I want to drop her, not because she is not good, in fact she is great, but she...mmm...how can I say? I don't know how you americans refer when a girl does not want to go to "sleep together". She remains closed and I'm sicking of it. She haven't been with a men in months and don't want to go? Bizarre.

Should I go and tell her directly "lets go to the five letters" or should I stop it now? My girl is getting suspicious and I can't stand it more time. And add in my new job the proportion is 70% girls / 30% man. (assembly factory), so I see more (and better) opportunities in the horizont.

Maybe she doesnt understand you...I sure as hell dont...


If shes a nice girl and doesnt want to put out, then leave her alone and move on to someone who is interested in a sexual relationship.

[SweetHoney]

HELP! Guys my biggest weakness is that I don't know what to say on the phone...

Talking about my daily life is boring. I'm a computer technician/play dat WoW/go to the gym every now and then. HELP ME WHAT DO I SAY TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION INTERESTING?


Just because you think you're daily life is boring doesnt me she will. Shes interested in you, which means she will most likely be interested in hearing how your day went and what happened. Tell her about the stuff thats going on at work, the problem you have with your co-worker or whatever. Talk about the funny thing that happened to you while you were getting food on your lunch break. Tell her how you lifted xyz lbs today. Tell her about the computer that you think is possessed by the devil and refuses to be fixed. If she likes you, she'll find it interesting, no matter how insignificant you think the little things are.

[Shotokan Symphony]

^This.

S.Ness:
You really need to FUCKING RELAX, dude. You act like it's your fault for not being interesting, which means your ego is still hurtin'. It's fine to want to converse better, but I don't think you're doing it for the right reasons.

[Ryu go!]

Just because you think you're daily life is boring doesnt me she will. Shes interested in you, which means she will most likely be interested in hearing how your day went and what happened. Tell her about the stuff thats going on at work, the problem you have with your co-worker or whatever. Talk about the funny thing that happened to you while you were getting food on your lunch break. Tell her how you lifted xyz lbs today. Tell her about the computer that you think is possessed by the devil and refuses to be fixed. If she likes you, she'll find it interesting, no matter how insignificant you think the little things are.

This is a very good advice right here, women love to talk random bullshit over the phone. This kind of "nonsense" conversations are a great weapon (kinda like IronMan MSH Proton Cannon) in the right hands.

[Silentness!]

Just because you think you're daily life is boring doesnt me she will. Shes interested in you, which means she will most likely be interested in hearing how your day went and what happened. Tell her about the stuff thats going on at work, the problem you have with your co-worker or whatever. Talk about the funny thing that happened to you while you were getting food on your lunch break. Tell her how you lifted xyz lbs today. Tell her about the computer that you think is possessed by the devil and refuses to be fixed. If she likes you, she'll find it interesting, no matter how insignificant you think the little things are.

Thanks for the information.

I understand what you are saying. Like when she talks about random shit I will listen to it regardless.
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I'm a try and be more vocal on the phone with her.

[fistoftheryustar]

Dammit! Help me out guys, I need an opinion:


Am I the only one who thinks that sometimes you never truly get over a girl? And I don't mean that lovey dovey shit. I mean when they pissed you off so much in the past you can never really just have "no emotion" towards them?


Everytime this girl messages me on facebook it just reminds me of the bad shit I went through with her. honestly, she is the only girl that ever worked my mind like this. Its like now everytime i get a message from her i just delete and think for the whole day "what a stupid bitch." Is there a way you can just have "no emotion" or care about those girls?

[pherai]

Reduce all contact with her, and it won't be a problem. Isn't there a way to block someone on facebook or something?

[Ryu1999]

Reduce all contact with her, and it won't be a problem. Isn't there a way to block someone on facebook or something?

I think you have to just unfriend them and change privacy settings so your page is only viewable by friends

[fistoftheryustar]

Yeah I changed all the settings so I wont see her picture or get any updates to remind me of her.

They can still message you if you arent friends. I dont want to block her but I should. I actually closed down most of my facebook stuff and Im wondering whats the worse that would happen if I closed down my whole account.

It said she sent it yesterday. Yesterday I think I heard her voice at burger king. I went to the bathroom and hear the voice again, didnt look around there was someone with a kid. And it didnt sound like her. Maybe a coincidence. I seriously had stopped thinking about her for a while, so its not like I hear her voice everwhere I go. And if it was her...with a kid? Aw fuck no

[pherai]

If you don't want to block her you aren't serious about getting her out of your life. Have you even removed her from your friend list?

[shatterstar]

*update*

Im back with my girl... never got to fully break up with her. She was really "fighting" for this relationship. *sigh* she brought up some good points like, we've only been together for two n a half months so we're not allowing the relationship to have a chance *now we're at 3*, and other stuff but Im slowly starting to find myself right back to where I started. *deeper sigh*

I gave her a chance, since Im a sucker for love and tears, but Im not seeing any improvements. A very, VERY BIG factor to how Im feeling about her right now was regarding my phone bill. I dont always check my shyt since it's usually around $67 bucks (Sprint w/ company discount from Hiton Hotels but I dont work there anymore, yay) so I wanted to pay my bill on friday, two fridays ago, but had other shyt going on so while I was at my temp job, Pamida, I left my cell with her since she dose not a cell of her own which is what Ive ben doing for the past two weeks. Later, I get a surprise from her. she went to Sprint and got me a new charger and battery for free since I was still under warrenty. That was like... the only time I was impressed with her actions. anyway, for some reason I kept getting side tracked from paying my bill. she wasn't stopping me or anything but it was just applying for jobs and doing random stuff for her family. I went to pay it on saturday instead but the line was hella long. I was like 20th in line so I said fuck it. I'll try monday, no worries. Sunday morning my phone wont dial out. i keep getting this crazy message. So, went back to Sprint, tried to pay buy using their machine like I always do and the machine wont let me... I decide to wait for a rep and when I get to him he tells me that my account is way over it's limit.... Im gettin slightly angry...

I come to find out that even though I did pay the bill a week before but it wasn't enough... I actually under paid. the machine didn't tell me that... but my actual bill was $113. come to find out I went, excuse me, my girlfriend went over my minutes. I only got 400. she took it to 605 minutes... which is why Im being charged an extra $50. Now, since I didn't pay my bill yet, I got my typical ballance with $50 extra on it, but I get another surprise... Im over my minutes again! this time add another $50.

Now, I personally dont talk much on my phone especially during the day plus all my friends got Sprint too while Im in the mood for contacting people I usually text them so my average minutes I use a month is about 280. the highest I've ever done was 345 but I was trying to get into to college and talking to administrators. Ok, I only got enough to pay my main bills but only got enough to my regular cell bill and a lil' cash to me and her alive till next week which when I get paid again *yesh, paid weekly*. Sounds coo', but they want me to pay $100 some odd dollars to get my service back on if I want it on right now... and my girl doesn't get paid till that coming thursday. *even deeper sigh*

From sunday to thursday my phone is off. No incoming job offers. No important call-making. nothing. untill thursday. Im beyond pissed at this point since I was really waiting on an interview call for a Graphic Design job at this bank. Well, even though I called them and tryed to keep contact for that job I find out by friday that offered it to someone else. I can't even stomach the sight of this woman now. I mean, yea she helped pay my bill, but she shouldn't have to in the first place since it's MY phone plus money between the two of us is already tight. Im really upset about a lot things. Im more upset at myself for giving this girl another chance and my phone. I can't even think straight at times. She still want to get all touchy feely with me and I constantly parry her hand away from me. I even shutter at the thought of even kissing her. Im really not feelin this girl anymore. almost completely zero at this point.

My real problem is I know I can put this back in the position I had this initially, where Im breaking up with her and giving her no chances, but I will admit I fear that I might be throwing somethin away. I know Im not perfect and she's most certainly not so... Man, Im just runnin out of ammo, Im in a corner and Im facing a very big decision right now. I need a girl like her in my life cuz there's not too many faithful and "will fight for their man" type of women out their, but the question I have is the more I stay in this relationship will I continue to find myself deeper in the red and finding it even harder to show compassion for someone that I have very difficult times showing? you know, will the ends justify the means?

SMH. I hate this.

[w1r3d]

*post*

can we know how/why the fighting started? it seems to me like 2-month mark is pretty early for fighting. ppl are usually in the "happy to be here" attitude for a while before it gets bad.


I don't think it does you any good to have the mentality of "I need someone like her in my life so I don't want to leave her". There are plenty of women out there and you just need one. If you are not happy with this one, learn from the experience and go to the next one. This is all imo, of course. I asked the original question because for all I know you guys just fought over a silly thing or whatever, so I don't know how valid my advice is.

[akumatrunigga]

*update*

SNIP

Why would you let her use the phone knowing that you have potential job interviews and the such? You brought it to yourself (it is harsh and bit being an asshole but it's true) Not to mention the number of times that you probably used the phone as well probably added to bill.

The fact is that you keep pushing the phone bill off was another mistake as well.

If you had that connection with her why didnt you help her get a pre-paid phone?

So now you are willing to end things based on your fuck up?


I dont know the full story about you willing to end the relationship in only 2 months it would be great to elaborate.

[shatterstar]

I dont know the full story about you willing to end the relationship in only 2 months it would be great to elaborate.
http://forums.shoryuken.com/showpost.php?p=5258927&postcount=7659

http://forums.shoryuken.com/showpost.php?p=5259305&postcount=7667
Why would you let her use the phone knowing that you have potential job interviews and the such? You brought it to yourself (it is harsh and bit being an asshole but it's true) Not to mention the number of times that you probably used the phone as well probably added to bill.
couldnt keep the phone at work and she was my ride back and forth from work. plus she needed to keep in contact with her grandmother for her hospital appoinments that she had during that week while the gf was out job searching.

The fact is that you keep pushing the phone bill off was another mistake as well.
read my post again.

If you had that connection with her why didnt you help her get a pre-paid phone?
why spend money getting her a phone that she can't keep on? times is hard these days. plus, she's picky about everything. she know and wants a phone but she's not gettin a pre paid or even a cheap ass phone company like Cricket.
So now you are willing to end things based on your fuck up?
before this is was her fault but now it my fault. Yes most def.

[fistoftheryustar]

I didn't delete her yet since we do have some common friends. Thats the trouble with trying to get rid of waste of time girls, they will find a way to hang on ur ass in more than one way.

I also think that going that extra bit to delete them is asking for more drama and shows ur not over her. What does show ur not over her is when u think less of her. Today I totally forgot about her after typing my original post. It's a good sign since before I would have let it really bother me.

[Silentness!]

OOPS... I fucked up again :rofl:

Ahh shit I just threw myself right back into the drama kettle. I'm not going to explain because I know I fucked up.

[Warpticon]

Well, thanks for posting that meaningless bullshit.

[Silentness!]

Well, thanks for posting that meaningless bullshit.

It's not truly meaningless. It's just for whoever is keeping tally on how many times I fuck up and cause more drama for myself.

Maybe relationships weren't meant for me. *shrugs*

(BALLIN 5000th post)

[Warpticon]

Sorry, but nobody is sitting around taking stats on your fuckups. If you're going to tell the story, tell the story. Otherwise, just don't mention it. Oh, and quit making huge deals out of everything; that doesn't help.

[pherai]

Haha Warps had enough.

[Ceirnian]

Ness, you really do come off as extremely whiny in your posts. Just cool it down a bit and keep in mind that women are human too. Any emotions you feel they probably are feeling as well. Also, why are you still with this woman you know is doomed to failure? AND it's long distance so you aren't even getting physical time with her from what it sounds like.

Who knows maybe you just need this kind of stuff to happen so you can grow out of it.

[Shafted!]

Sup peeps. I used to work at a restaurant so I know the games that the waitresses/hostess there play. It's a service industry so they gotta be extra nice to you to try to get that extra tip. The ideal customer is one who becomes a regular customer, since they tend to tip more.

Anyhow, i guess my question is: is there any easy way to find out if a waitress/hostess has a boyfriend? I really don't want to go become a regular at this place just to get game spit at me (and lose more money on bad food). But i don't want to come across as too strong.

Hmm, in thinking about it more, the only way to find out is to put myself out there and do something proactive. If it doesn't go well, no big loss since i didn't like the place anyway.

It's funny how just typing a question out can sometimes allow you to think more clearly.

Anyhow this has been an odd post, in conclusion: women are desireable but at the same time confusing- gotta man up and get shit done!

[SRKev]

*update*



You need to weigh things out, because it seems like she's negatively effecting your life much more than anything else. I know you like her, but ultimately you come first. She's hurting your income in multiple ways and causing you unneeded stress, it's time to let go.
------------------------------------

I just went through the same thing, I dropped the girl I was with 2 days ago because I realized that I shouldn't have to sacrifice my happiness just to "be in a relationship." I'm looking for a new job, I'm trying to lock down a new apartment, and my mom was in critical condition in the hospital for 2 weeks. I tell her all of this and well...

Her: Why don't you spend time with me anymore?

Me: *Lists reasons*

Her: So I'm not good enough?

Me: *Facepalm* I'm done with this.

Not to mention, she is financially irresponsible and doesn't have any focus for her life, all she wants is sex and clothes. I know some of you are "gung ho" for that shit, but I beat my dick to girls with goals and ambitions, fam.

[SmrK]

It's not truly meaningless. It's just for whoever is keeping tally on how many times I fuck up and cause more drama for myself.

Maybe relationships weren't meant for me. *shrugs*

(BALLIN 5000th post)


Dude, stop with the drama and self-pity, please.

[Silentness!]

Alright I promise you guys I wont make any more emo posts. Seriously I PROMISE!

[SmrK]

Alright I promise you guys I wont make any more emo posts. Seriously I PROMISE!

It's not about emo posts, It's about your mentality as far as women are concerned.

[akumatrunigga]

http://forums.shoryuken.com/showpost.php?p=5258927&postcount=7659

http://forums.shoryuken.com/showpost.php?p=5259305&postcount=7667
now i see why you are suggesting in leaving.
couldnt keep the phone at work and she was my ride back and forth from work. plus she needed to keep in contact with her grandmother for her hospital appoinments that she had during that week while the gf was out job searching.
That cool I guess but she need to get her own dayum phone she is 26 fucking christ sake! But it still doesnt explain the high bill and I doubt she is talking to her grandma for all that time.


why spend money getting her a phone that she can't keep on? times is hard these days. plus, she's picky about everything. she know and wants a phone but she's not gettin a pre paid or even a cheap ass phone company like Cricket.
Well once you end things with her she is going to need a phone so beggars cant be choosers. Besides you shouldnt have to spoon feed her. I can see if she is some youngin but 26 acting like that?


If you are going through this much drama in the early stages of the relationship then go for it and let it go. Of course you can fight for it and try to make it work but why bother. You dont want to be a situation in your life where many dudes have a bitter hatred for women. To save your emotions just let her go. Go after the other you was talking about you always bump into.

[shatterstar]

you can fight for it and try to make it work but why bother. You dont want to be a situation in your life where many dudes have a bitter hatred for women. To save your emotions just let her go.
excellent advice but for me it's easier said than done.

I have attempted to let her go like I implyed in my initial post which I took it that we were already broken up, but she was playin' "the hard-ass" role. she's not good at that. she always finds herself putting her foot in her mouth. I hate her temper, but we both have a temper. the only thing is, I only have this temper when Im around certain women which is usually rare.

I think the main problem(s) are that relationship moved way too quickly. I've known of her for years but only decided to date her after a few months of talking and cathing up. before we were together, I was living in Missouri working at this plant while doing my online schooling for graphic design. thing was, back in late March, I was fired over some bullshyt, and Im currently in process of taking that company to trial cuz a lot of shyt that happen while I was down there was out of my control. so, my girl caught wind of that. she knew I had my own place but jobs in that lil' town were wack so she came all the way from Omaha to pick me up. I didn't tell her to do this. I had money to get back. well, from that point on, we've been attached at the hip. Im not use to that. I think the main reason why I hooked up with her was here's someone that I've known since 2nd-n-3rd grade and even went to high school with was willing to go all out of her way to snatch me up eventhough I didn't ask for it. that's love, and I know that's what made me fall. I was already diggin' her over the phone so that just added up.

So, now I stay at my brothers crib, he takes care of his grandmother while my girl stays with her grandmother while we both are in search for jobs and apartments. with that being said, it brings up the fact that she wants us both to move in together... that's waaaay too soon. I understand she want to get out of her situation just as much as I do but damn. That's another stress element to the relationship. so, there's: job situation, living arangements, school (summer classes for her to finish her major in music and my class wont start again till the 14th), family, gas, and the ever so important sexual part. All of this is adding up to my fustration and mostly it's her barely dealing with it which is like 75% of her own problems.

we share similar problems with jobs, place to stay, and school, but that other shyt is the real problem. the sex department has... changed... I ended up takin her virginity. It was actually a "slip up". I aimed for the wrong reciever... *cough* Im actually not too happy about that. Why? Im just not happy with being with her especially how things are right now. I shudder when she bring up the word "baby". This is why Im turned off most of the time while she's horny as hell.

Ive balanced out all the options I can take. Im still not 100% on the whole breaking up part, but I know that something must change and it must change SOON. I highly doubt that money could make this a lot better but it could give us some help. I wish her family was back in Cali and didn't live here. I bet things would be a lot different. Untill somethin comes up, Im just gonna sit on my hands till somethin' happens.

[kingfismit]

hey guys, I'm a little confused right now. first off, im still somewhat of a virgin, ( my dick was only in her for like a minute)

but the thing is, i just can't get fully comfortable to actually fuck her. yeah, i got the whole eating and fingering shit down. but when we try to fuck i just feel weird about it.

maybe she should try to work me up and get me hot and bothered??? It's just that I can't get as hard as i know i can when we try to fuck. >.<

i dont know....

[Silentness!]

hey guys, I'm a little confused right now. first off, im still somewhat of a virgin, ( my dick was only in her for like a minute)

but the thing is, i just can't get fully comfortable to actually fuck her. yeah, i got the whole eating and fingering shit down. but when we try to fuck i just feel weird about it.

maybe she should try to work me up and get me hot and bothered??? It's just that I can't get as hard as i know i can when we try to fuck. >.<

i dont know....

Even if your dick was in for just a minute you're still not a virgin.
dude wtf... please tell me you don't go limp during sex.
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I don't know maybe I'm different, but I get hard the second I see a chick naked. LMAO... a hot naked woman is my viagra

[pherai]

I remember hearing on the radio that viagra is becoming kind of a party drug in that a lot of younger males are taking it. What a bummer to need viagra in your 20's.

[Silentness!]

I remember hearing on the radio that viagra is becoming kind of a party drug in that a lot of younger males are taking it. What a bummer to need viagra in your 20's.

It makes me sad...

[MrBuster]

hey guys, I'm a little confused right now. first off, im still somewhat of a virgin, ( my dick was only in her for like a minute)

but the thing is, i just can't get fully comfortable to actually fuck her. yeah, i got the whole eating and fingering shit down. but when we try to fuck i just feel weird about it.

maybe she should try to work me up and get me hot and bothered??? It's just that I can't get as hard as i know i can when we try to fuck. >.<

i dont know....

Hey man, all you need to do is just relax and enjoy the moment for what it is. Chances are your probably think on ways to make it good for her so you kind of psych yourself out for the time being and not be at maximum potential. So the next just relax, have some fun, and do work. She'll love it.

Worked for me and it killed those performance thoughts dead.

[kingfismit]

Even if your dick was in for just a minute you're still not a virgin.
dude wtf... please tell me you don't go limp during sex.
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I don't know maybe I'm different, but I get hard the second I see a chick naked. LMAO... a hot naked woman is my viagra

I guess I get kind of self conscious or something. cause yeah, i can get pretty hard when we're groping and making out etc... but when i whip it out...I probably get self conscious. I mean I know I don't have a below average dick....

I guess in the back of my mind, im afraid that I'll do something wrong or be bad at it.

but yeah, I'll try to relax more.

[akumatrunigga]

excellent advice but for me it's easier said than done.

I have attempted to let her go like I implyed in my initial post which I took it that we were already broken up, but she was playin' "the hard-ass" role. she's not good at that. she always finds herself putting her foot in her mouth. I hate her temper, but we both have a temper. the only thing is, I only have this temper when Im around certain women which is usually rare.
That could be a potential problem in the later future if you stay with her any longer. You dont want the emotional strain by your 30s.


I think the main problem(s) are that relationship moved way too quickly. I've known of her for years but only decided to date her after a few months of talking and cathing up. before we were together, I was living in Missouri working at this plant while doing my online schooling for graphic design. thing was, back in late March, I was fired over some bullshyt, and Im currently in process of taking that company to trial cuz a lot of shyt that happen while I was down there was out of my control. so, my girl caught wind of that. she knew I had my own place but jobs in that lil' town were wack so she came all the way from Omaha to pick me up. I didn't tell her to do this. I had money to get back. well, from that point on, we've been attached at the hip. Im not use to that. I think the main reason why I hooked up with her was here's someone that I've known since 2nd-n-3rd grade and even went to high school with was willing to go all out of her way to snatch me up eventhough I didn't ask for it. that's love, and I know that's what made me fall. I was already diggin' her over the phone so that just added up.
The one thing you should focus on is getting that graphic design education locked down and get that position you are looking for before you go into a relationship. Nothing is wrong sleeping with a few chicks while building up your career.
So, now I stay at my brothers crib, he takes care of his grandmother while my girl stays with her grandmother while we both are in search for jobs and apartments. with that being said, it brings up the fact that she wants us both to move in together... that's waaaay too soon. I understand she want to get out of her situation just as much as I do but damn. That's another stress element to the relationship. so, there's: job situation, living arangements, school (summer classes for her to finish her major in music and my class wont start again till the 14th), family, gas, and the ever so important sexual part. All of this is adding up to my fustration and mostly it's her barely dealing with it which is like 75% of her own problems.
Man again the emotional stress and strain to you will ruin you and your future potential relationship or even potential marriage partner. You are already stressed out for a career and school. Why add to it with her distractions? Cut her loose.
we share similar problems with jobs, place to stay, and school, but that other shyt is the real problem. the sex department has... changed... I ended up takin her virginity. It was actually a "slip up". I aimed for the wrong reciever... *cough* Im actually not too happy about that. Why? Im just not happy with being with her especially how things are right now. I shudder when she bring up the word "baby". This is why Im turned off most of the time while she's horny as hell.baby? dude i think you need to roll out now. if you are having a hard time now financially; the baby is going to make it worse. Now there is a chance for emotional and more financial strain with a baby? You gotta go.


I'll admit im repeating myself but man you know what you have to do.

[VRViperII]

I'll be moving out of my current country to work full-time in late August. I met this girl a few weeks ago and we went on a date yesterday. Near the end, I told her about my career plans. Do you guys think that just telling her is enough? I still want to chill with her, and I'm not looking for committment at the moment. It's weird, because I kind of feel bad for showing her a good time, knowing that I'll be gone in a little more than a month.

[Shinshay]

I'll be moving out of my current country to work full-time in late August. I met this girl a few weeks ago and we went on a date yesterday. Near the end, I told her about my career plans. Do you guys think that just telling her is enough? I still want to chill with her, and I'm not looking for committment at the moment. It's weird, because I kind of feel bad for showing her a good time, knowing that I'll be gone in a little more than a month.

Don't feel that way man. It's good that you told her your plans and what the true deal is. If and when you return that keeps doors open to possibly getting together later on unless you never plan on coming back. Hell she might even come and see you. Stay in touch with her through email after you leave. That would be for the best.

[VRViperII]

Don't feel that way man. It's good that you told her your plans and what the true deal is. If and when you return that keeps doors open to possibly getting together later on unless you never plan on coming back. Hell she might even come and see you. Stay in touch with her through email after you leave. That would be for the best.

The problem is, I probably won't be coming back. If I come back, it'll be a full year after. I guess I just feel bad for somewhat being a tease, and personally I hate it when girls do that to me too.

I used to be pretty conservative, but since I'm leaving this place, I wouldn't mind something like a short summer fling. I might just be fishing for approval here, but I honestly want to know if I'm being a jackass if I still invite her on intimate dates until I leave. I just hope that by telling her my plans straight off on the first date, that she gets the idea that I'm not looking for committment.

[Darklightjg1]

If both of you are on the same page and understand that yall are definitely not planning anything for the long term, then there should be no problem with having a good time for the short term/a fling.

If she's down...and you're down... then get on down. :rock:

[MasterOfPuppets]

So I’m going to need some advice. Summer classes just started and I’ve met this chick that’s fucking amazing. She has no fear, seriously. She just sat down right next to me and asked if I had any gum, the rest was history. The past 3 weeks have been really crazy, we’ve been studying and have been talking about so much shit with her. I don’t think I’ve ever opened up to a chick as much as I’ve had with her. Anyway, we’ve gone out to lunch, I make her laugh and she says “I’m the funniest person she’s ever met” a