The Woman/Girl Thread: Sex, Relationships, FAQs Pt. 2

[Koop]

:smokin:THE WOMAN THREAD RULES AN SETUPS:smokin:

Lets try this again people without the ignorance

1) This thread if for opinions and knowledge of women in general. Relationships, sex, etc. I ask that everyone kept it REAL and not DUMB.:cool:

2) Don't knock everyones opinion nor take it for full regard unless the majority agrees. Otherwise take it an mold it to your liking.:chat:

3) Make sure to look through the thread for situations that may be similar to yours. If you can't a member shall just point out a post that has the answer you are looking for.:wow:

4) IF we have lady members, please voice a straight forward answer, NOT what YOU expect or want.:tup:

5) IF you feel uncomfortable expressing it within here, I am willing to answer it through PM.:shy:

6) Ignorant answers will be deleted as well as disses toward those that may have not walked your path.:nunchuck:

7) Concerned about your health....please resort to www.WebMD.com (http://www.webmd.com/) for further help rather than srk.:wtf:

8) Please no "Post a Pic" reply. It will be deleted.:annoy:

9) If you want one member to answer your question, please state his or her name in the beginning. (ie hey koop...):pray:

10) Relationship questions should be given enough detail for those willing to help to understand (your age, length of time together, and issues at hand aka your an her fault) :sweat:

11) This is NOT a journal. Any day to day posting will be deleted and you will be warned.:zzz:


Good luck. I will try to answer as many as I can and hope srk's finest will help also. I really hope this works to kind of end alot of issued women topics. Also starting today mods will merge future threads to this one.:tup:




Holla
Koop:woot:

[Chachi]

Just wondering- is the first thread archived somewhere, or is it gone forever?

[JackTenrac!]

k, Koop. In other words: Anti SRK ftw!

...anyhow, Koop: I'm about to get back in the game by going out a few weeks away. Is it better to have dinner before or after the movies?

...that went well.

[catchafire]

yeah, where is the first thread? There was some good information in that one...

[Koop]

k, Koop. In other words: Anti SRK ftw!

...anyhow, Koop: I'm about to get back in the game by going out a few weeks away. Is it better to have dinner before or after the movies?

...that went well.

Either

Before can force you to make open conversation. If your not good at yappin or talking this can lead to being stuck. afterward can help cause you have the movie to talk about along with the basics... so its on you an how you feel and can conversate...

good luck on the date playboy...


Koop

[Koop]

yeah, where is the first thread? There was some good information in that one...

I will have to dig it up in the archives tomorrow. I will repost if I can find it.

[xero15]

yeah i was wondering what was up with that i know that one guy was having marriage problems i was gonna try and help with the best i could.

[Azrael]

...anyhow, Koop: I'm about to get back in the game by going out a few weeks away. Is it better to have dinner before or after the movies?
I know its been said before, but I really hate the movie as a first date. Unless its a situation where its a small theater, no one else is watching the movie, and you two can pull off MST3K-esque banter. Otherwise, its kind of stiff - you just kind of sit there and watch. And if the movie sucks, then that doesn't really help you.

I'd recommend some other activity. I've used bowling a few times really well in the past.

[xero15]

well it depends on how you see it. if you want a quiet get away then yeah the movies work. if you want to talk with them about other things then do something where casual conversation is good, in your case bowling, if they are really into movies and like talking about them regardless then thats good too. i use movies from time to time to see what kind of person they are based on the movie they pick. its a good approach really.

[catchafire]

k, Koop. In other words: Anti SRK ftw!

...anyhow, Koop: I'm about to get back in the game by going out a few weeks away. Is it better to have dinner before or after the movies?

...that went well.

It all depends on what you think is appropriate. Personally, i'd rather catch a movie before dinner than after dinner. Reasoning:

If i'm at dinner with my date, i'd like to enjoy my food and the conversation without having to worry about getting to the movie theater in time to catch the movie. I'd just feel a little rushed.

If I watch the movie first, there's going to be no communication during the movie and atleast I could use material from the movie to spark some kind of conversation during dinner... Throw in a glass of wine and the conversation starts to flow nicely- no pun intended.

You shouldn't get too worked up over what to do first; just remember than you'll have a great meal and a wonderful person to share it with. This is what I usually think about when i'm headed out to dinner.

Have fun.

[xero15]

dont know if you would want to do this bear but ive taken girls to dinner first, then a movie, then out to dance or something else casual. it makes for a great night :tup:

[CoMpOuNd]

well I just canceled on some girl, "beamer". Only because I was hella broke, and couldn't even pay for myself too see a movie. Do you guys think she'll get over it and go out with me again? I told her I was broke and that I'd still hang out with her if she wanted. I'm still waiting for her reply...

word.

[xero15]

beamer??? that was the white girl with the tig ol bitties and lots of money right? drove a beamer? why aint she payin?

[CoMpOuNd]

beamer??? that was the white girl with the tig ol bitties and lots of money right? drove a beamer? why aint she payin?

:rofl::rofl:

I unno, I havn't really talked to her yet. I left her a msg on msn and signed off, plus I'm on my way too my boys house right now(bolten.. muthafucka can't afford internets..). The last time me and her went out, we went too DQ, and she bought me icecream. I told her I was broke, and that if she just wanted too chill then that's alright with me. But she hasn't replied yet, hell she's not even online.

w.e, I'll call her when I'm at my boys house... I'll be back with news after this weekend.... EZ.

word.

[Chachi]

Should have just told her you were partying on the moon. Telling her you'll still hang out if she wants to makes you sound like a white boy.

[TheSix]

I really think the other thread wasn't that bad. At least not enough to warrant a deletion.

Regardless, a new start is always nice. :wgrin:

[Ill E]

^ yeah, especially a thread with good rules...

11) This is NOT a journal. Any day to day posting will be deleted and you will be warned.

[katraqueyous]

After getting a girl's phone number, how long do you guys wait to call her? I wait 5 to 9 days.

[TheSix]

After getting a girl's phone number, how long do you guys wait to call her? I wait 5 to 9 days.

My dick would abandon me if I waited that long.

2 days, to set up a meeting(typically on a friday or sunday).

[JackTenrac!]

TheSix is right: 1-2 days. 2 days tops. What I will ask next is why Sunday?

...that went well.

[J-ride]

I was wondering if anyone had any good strats for dealing with Woman Question Trickery. For instance, After you date for a while and they start asking you hypothetical questions or they ask you if you believe in true love and all that jazz. Is there some clever SRK member who has a good way to get out of these questions? This girl I am seeing right now is great, but I always got into fights with my previous girlfriends over questions like this, because I told the truth.

[Koop]

I was wondering if anyone had any good strats for dealing with Woman Question Trickery. For instance, After you date for a while and they start asking you hypothetical questions or they ask you if you believe in true love and all that jazz. Is there some clever SRK member who has a good way to get out of these questions? This girl I am seeing right now is great, but I always got into fights with my previous girlfriends over questions like this, because I told the truth.


no there is no way to roll cancel this. you literally have to roll with the punches an honestly answer the questions how you feel. if you are fighting with you ex that mean your ex still has strong feelings for you. honestly you do you. answer them if you feel... if you don't parry that shyt and roll onto the next question for her

her: you know i think when you meet someone you can fall in love
you: oh really... what about building a strong relationship?


parry an keep it moving if you don't feel like getting into it... if you do.. then thats you...don't change you for no one...

[monbaby]

Allright koop i have a question...

Just moved to atlanta...

And this place is damn huge and i don't know anyone...

Where do i start?...

[Koop]

Allright koop i have a question...

Just moved to atlanta...

And this place is damn huge and i don't know anyone...

Where do i start?...

First ask Ronin Chaos an his crew where the spots at. Then I can help from there...

[CPS_3]

no there is no way to roll cancel this. you literally have to roll with the punches an honestly answer the questions how you feel. if you are fighting with you ex that mean your ex still has strong feelings for you. honestly you do you. answer them if you feel... if you don't parry that shyt and roll onto the next question for her


It's not a roll cancel but more of a side step, you could always say: "I didn't before I met you" ;)

[TheSix]

TheSix is right: 1-2 days. 2 days tops. What I will ask next is why Sunday?

...that went well.

I like to at least pretend I have a life by being busy on saturday. Which really isn't a lie(can't miss that naruto dub :sad: ). And that's typically Evo practice night too.



I was wondering if anyone had any good strats for dealing with Woman Question Trickery. For instance, After you date for a while and they start asking you hypothetical questions or they ask you if you believe in true love and all that jazz. Is there some clever SRK member who has a good way to get out of these questions? This girl I am seeing right now is great, but I always got into fights with my previous girlfriends over questions like this, because I told the truth.


Gotta agree with Koop. Sidestep - superjump backwards - pause menu - quit.

Subject change if you can. Although, some bitches are persistent when it comes to those type's of questions.

[Taito]

Any tips for keeping in touch with people in general (including girlfriends and other interests) long distance? Especially over the Internet?

I'm not good at communicating over stuff like email and Myspace. At all. I'm too used to using the phone and talking in person. Every time I try to keep a relationship going over the Net, it just dies off.

And the phone doesn't work that great when you're in a different country (long distance costs, bad reception) and time zone (her afternoon is my overnight, etc).

[CPS_3]

Any tips for keeping in touch with people in general (including girlfriends and other interests) long distance? Especially over the Internet?

I'm not good at communicating over stuff like email and Myspace. At all. I'm too used to using the phone and talking in person. Every time I try to keep a relationship going over the Net, it just dies off.

And the phone doesn't work that great when you're in a different country (long distance costs, bad reception) and time zone (her afternoon is my overnight, etc).


You could use Skype, it's a free software for telephoning over the net, works great and all you need is a microphone and speakers =)

[Taito]

You could use Skype, it's a free software for telephoning over the net, works great and all you need is a microphone and speakers =)
I will have to try that out. That takes care of the long distance charge
problem, but the time zone problem is still there.

My main problem with the whole long-distance thing is, I lose interest or I get wrapped up in other things, then I start losing touch with the girl.. there's somebody in the UK I want to talk to, but I've been caught up with work and getting settled into my new place, and we've reached that awkward point where we haven't talked in a while.. I don't know if she's seeing somebody or if she forgot about me or whatever.

[ruthless_nash]

yo wazzup mah shorying niggaz, ive got a bit of a dilema hopefully you can sort out.

so theres this chick i know who im very good friends with. shes really cute with a face like Leila Arcieri (hot MILF from daddy day care), but a bit fairer. we really get along like a house on fire, and everytime im with her it feels like 10 hours felt like 10mins. shes very sweet and laughs at even the most lamest jokes :S so i dont feel like a dick. shes got a fine set of booty but the only problem is...

shes fat! and althogh i really like her as a person, and shes a wonderful cute face, i dont find her sexually appealing. she has told me she has feelings for me, and i have just replied with "i think your cute too". :S

so what do i do O masters of teh punani!

[Higher-Jin]

I was wondering if anyone had any good strats for dealing with Woman Question Trickery. For instance, After you date for a while and they start asking you hypothetical questions or they ask you if you believe in true love and all that jazz. Is there some clever SRK member who has a good way to get out of these questions? This girl I am seeing right now is great, but I always got into fights with my previous girlfriends over questions like this, because I told the truth.

Avoidance. By that I mean don't ever directly answer her questions that try to qualify you like that, always joke, or give a retarded answer. (just try to make it funny)

[JackTenrac!]

Short answer: Ahhh... the looks vs. personality thing. Two words if you ruin this relationship: Heavy Loss. Women big or small all deserve a shot if you're feeling them.

Long Answer:
As for the situation: Sounds as if you are feeling her as she is you. As for her, she sounds nice.

As for your next move: this depends on how important looks are to you. If you cannot overlook her appearance, make your intentions for the relationship known before she gets alot closer to you. You should aleast continue to be friends with her if being lovers is out of the question at the moment( I say at the moment because life seems to have a way with randomization. Heck, you never know if you'll end up feeling her later). But if you could actually see her for what is going on inside, tell her how you feel and start the dating process accordingly.

Good luck, ruthless nash.

...that went well.

[ruthless_nash]

eh.. its tough dude. i like being with her and hanging out with her... but i just dont get "excited" in that way. i know it sounds raw but i look at her and i just dont think "dayum! i sure would like to giver teh BONE" or anything. its just like "meh, wassup mah nigga" kinda thing.

on a related note, i know this other chick which is HOT AS HELL but shes kinda boring, and doesnt really laugh at my jokes. she just looks at me like i murdered a baby ostrich or something with the "WTF" look everytime. so shes cool and all, but i just dont click with her personality wise shes just like i sad.. meh..

oh decisions.. :(

[kof4life]

eh.. its tough dude. i like being with her and hanging out with her... but i just dont get "excited" in that way. i know it sounds raw but i look at her and i just dont think "dayum! i sure would like to giver teh BONE" or anything. its just like "meh, wassup mah nigga" kinda thing.

on a related note, i know this other chick which is HOT AS HELL but shes kinda boring, and doesnt really laugh at my jokes. she just looks at me like i murdered a baby ostrich or something with the "WTF" look everytime. so shes cool and all, but i just dont click with her personality wise shes just like i sad.. meh..

oh decisions.. :(

From my experience (what little there is of it), when someone gives you those WTF looks,that is not a good sign. That usually means there's something wrong. How bad it is depends on the person. With me,it's ranged from simple gripes to friendship-ending stuff. Then again,if you don't care about this 'meh' girl,then why care?

As for your other friend,the one that likes you, don't throw away what you could regret later. Good looks do not make a good significant other. Hope that helps!

[ruthless_nash]

hmm.. i could just get a random hoe and give her the bone i guess. lolz.

[Chachi]

About the wing-girl thing I talked about in the last thread:

She just dumped her dude last night, so I don't think she would be up for helping me hooking up with other chicks.

I'll give her a couple of days to cool off, then try to set something up for next weekend...

[mr. newbie]

date ideas?

i'm in hs, broke, and i don't have a car. i have a date in 6 minutes and i don't where to go.

[katraqueyous]

Do you guys ever plan another date with a female while ON a date? Like saying "hey, you wanna do ____ on ___day?"

[debs]

how do you tell your gf that she can't sing? i mean, really...

[TheSix]

Do you guys ever plan another date with a female while ON a date?

No. To me, that comes off as a bit needy. The chances of her flaking on you depend on how she feels about you at that point. If you want to try, I'd say do so at a high point in the date when you are both obliviously having a good time or sharing a "moment".

If you hit it or not that day, you should wait agian to contact her.

how do you tell your gf that she can't sing? i mean, really...

"Put this cock in yo mouth."

Not tested, but seems fail proof.

----

Back to being single. This time, with much more wisdom and less hornier.

[xero15]

yeah i need to know where the spots are at here in georgia other than pickin up chicks at work.

[kimjongiLL]

date ideas?

i'm in hs, broke, and i don't have a car. i have a date in 6 minutes and i don't where to go.
That's too good. I wish I were in high school.

Go to the library and do your homework. Or tell the girl you're busy later, but she can come over for a little while so you two can do your homework together.

You can show her this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-UJXCw6vyk) video on your computer to get her laughing and in a good mood. "Hey, come here. I want to show you something.", is extremely handy for getting a girl into your bedroom, where the only place to sit is your bed of course. That's what I told my little brother to do to get himself laid.

[Ill E]

hmm.. i could just get a random hoe and give her the bone i guess. lolz.
lol. that always works

yeah i need to know where the spots are at here in georgia other than pickin up chicks at work.

lol

[akumachan]

After getting a girl's phone number, how long do you guys wait to call her? I wait 5 to 9 days.

why 5 to 9 days?

If a guy waited that long to call me I wouldnt go out with him when he finally did call.


and If i was really interested in him, I would just call him and see what he was up to on the weekend.

all this waiting bullshit is stupid IMO. I just dont get that. I know that a lot of people say not to call too soon or it makes you look too eager, but honestly, why would I want to go out with a guy who wasnt somewhat eager to see me? Whats the point in going out with someone who acts like they dont care whether or not we go out?

If i am interested in someone, then i want to see them and if they are interested in me enough to ask for my number then I expect them to want to see me as well.

[akumachan]

eh.. its tough dude. i like being with her and hanging out with her... but i just dont get "excited" in that way. i know it sounds raw but i look at her and i just dont think "dayum! i sure would like to giver teh BONE" or anything. its just like "meh, wassup mah nigga" kinda thing.

on a related note, i know this other chick which is HOT AS HELL but shes kinda boring, and doesnt really laugh at my jokes. she just looks at me like i murdered a baby ostrich or something with the "WTF" look everytime. so shes cool and all, but i just dont click with her personality wise shes just like i sad.. meh..

oh decisions.. :(

IMO Bear handled that question the best. Keep being good friends with the nice girl, but LET HER KNOW that you are not necessarily interested in going further than friends. That way, if you do have a change of heart later you can start a relationship. But since she is a nice girl dont lead her on if you have no intentions of having a relationship.

and stay away from the hot girl who gives you those kind of looks. Thats trouble. Thats only worth a one night stand some time. But even that can bring you a lot of unwanted drama.

And you dont HAVE to choose immediately. Dont be in such a hurry. Keep hanging out with the nice girl you like. Keep meeting new people and see what happens.

but also keep in mind that while I DEFINITELY agree that you should feel physically attracted to your significant other, you also HAVE to be mentally attracted. or else the relationship will suck...

but take your time.

[Silentness!]

You can show her this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-UJXCw6vyk) video on your computer to get her laughing and in a good mood.


wtf.

[katraqueyous]

why 5 to 9 days?


If she happens to forget about me around that time I do call her, she has low interest level.

Plus if they DO think it was too long and don't wanna go out, big deal. Probably too uptight/structured.

[Murt!]

There's a girl I know who's prety fucking sexy, and I think she's starting to dig me. However, I don't know if she's just trying to see if I'll react so she can leave me on my ass, or if she wants to be more than friends.

What's more, there's another girl I've met who thinks I'm the hottest thing that ever lived and doesn't want to date or anything and neither do I. I managed to make out with her and play with her nipples yesterday in a movie, and I'm 99% sure she's more than willing to fuck me. The problem is, I don't know if this should stop me from pursuing other girls. Advice?

[JackTenrac!]

- About the girlfriend who can't sing thing: Tease her about it. It's all apart of the sacrifices you have endure in relations. If you want her to stop trying to do it, be prepared to end something you do that annoys her or you can't do well. As well as a very solid defensive to overtake your opinion. Women are more sensitive to things than men. This type of thing especially. Trying to get her to change is not a good idea if you do not know how to tactfully approach her about the issue. You do not own her...

- xero15: define the type of woman you want, and find out where they usually hang out.

...that went well.

[akumachan]

If she happens to forget about me around that time I do call her, she has low interest level.

Plus if they DO think it was too long and don't wanna go out, big deal. Probably too uptight/structured.


but what if they just think that you arent interested because you waited for a week?


so you are testing the girl to see if she will stay interested in you while you make her wait for a week? IMO it's not about forgeting about you in a weeks time. (i mean if that happens then Im not sure why she would give you her number in the fist place)


It sounds to me like you are getting numbers from girls that you dont really care about seeing??? if that is the case why bother seeing them at all?

just curious...

[mr. newbie]

date ideas

@kim i can't have her over since my mom is home all day (retired). and i never even read your posts so w/e.

bowling still cool?

[akumachan]

There's a girl I know who's prety fucking sexy, and I think she's starting to dig me. However, I don't know if she's just trying to see if I'll react so she can leave me on my ass, or if she wants to be more than friends.

What's more, there's another girl I've met who thinks I'm the hottest thing that ever lived and doesn't want to date or anything and neither do I. I managed to make out with her and play with her nipples yesterday in a movie, and I'm 99% sure she's more than willing to fuck me. The problem is, I don't know if this should stop me from pursuing other girls. Advice?

Thats simple...

Are you looking to settle down with one girl at the moment? if not then dont bother trying to force yourself. When you want to settle on one girl then do it. Dont try to do it before you are ready to. You will only irritate yourself and hurt the girl who you are trying to date.



and bear is right again...



-AC
just my opinion

[Serpent]

why 5 to 9 days?

If a guy waited that long to call me I wouldnt go out with him when he finally did call.


and If i was really interested in him, I would just call him and see what he was up to on the weekend.

all this waiting bullshit is stupid IMO. I just dont get that. I know that a lot of people say not to call too soon or it makes you look too eager, but honestly, why would I want to go out with a guy who wasnt somewhat eager to see me? Whats the point in going out with someone who acts like they dont care whether or not we go out?

If i am interested in someone, then i want to see them and if they are interested in me enough to ask for my number then I expect them to want to see me as well.


Because these stupid children want to make everything harder than it is. They want to read about how to interact with members of the opposite sex, rather than just go out and do it. They want other people to tell them rules to follow, because then when something doesn't work out, they don't have to look at themselves, but rather have the comfort of the rules to protect their egos. "I followed the rules, it's not my fault, what else could I have done?" They want to generalize everything and make it as simplistic as possible, rather than do things dynamically, and rely on their charm and intelligence to see them through.

The truth is, obviously, if a girl (or guy, but let's use girl just because the majority of the readership here is male) is interested in you, she'll be happy to hear from you sooner, and if she isn't, no amount of time is going to suddenly get her interested in you. She will make the time to meet with you when you first contact, or she will never do so. Now if you are actually busy, then go ahead, wait some time, but I've always done it pretty much that day, and it has never backfired on me, whereas if I've waited some time, I've pretty much never had success. It's obviously anecdotal and could be coincidental, but that's just my experiences, and I think worth considering. You are most interesting to someone when they first meet you, it's like they're under your spell. The more time you wait, the less of a hold you have over someone. The longer people know you, generally, the less willing they are to do whatever you tell them, and prioritize your demands.

I really do not understand why so many people are having problems. It's just girls. Just try and you will be fine. I think someone else said it best when he said the majority of problems here can be solved by "Don't be a pussy." I think you should tell yourself to "Be Strong" and it works about the same, and that is what girls that aren't full of shit will tell you too. Seriously, just....try, that's pretty much it. Why do these kids have all these abbreviations and give names to everything? C'mon, seriously, you're not studying for a test or anything here.

[akumachan]

Because these stupid children want to make everything harder than it is. They want to read about how to interact with members of the opposite sex, rather than just go out and do it. They want other people to tell them rules to follow, because then when something doesn't work out, they don't have to look at themselves, but rather have the comfort of the rules to protect their egos. "I followed the rules, it's not my fault, what else could I have done?" They want to generalize everything and make it as simplistic as possible, rather than do things dynamically, and rely on their charm and intelligence to see them through.

The truth is, obviously, if a girl (or guy, but let's use girl just because the majority of the readership here is male) is interested in you, she'll be happy to hear from you sooner, and if she isn't, no amount of time is going to suddenly get her interested in you. She will make the time to meet with you when you first contact, or she will never do so. Now if you are actually busy, then go ahead, wait some time, but I've always done it pretty much that day, and it has never backfired on me, whereas if I've waited some time, I've pretty much never had success. It's obviously anecdotal and could be coincidental, but that's just my experiences, and I think worth considering. You are most interesting to someone when they first meet you, it's like they're under your spell. The more time you wait, the less of a hold you have over someone. The longer people know you, generally, the less willing they are to do whatever you tell them, and prioritize your demands.

I really do not understand why so many people are having problems. It's just girls. Just try and you will be fine. I think someone else said it best when he said the majority of problems here can be solved by "Don't be a pussy." I think you should tell yourself to "Be Strong" and it works about the same, and that is what girls that aren't full of shit will tell you too. Seriously, just....try, that's pretty much it. Why do these kids have all these abbreviations and give names to everything? C'mon, seriously, you're not studying for a test or anything here.



that is the truth right there boys and girls. (ok so theres really no other girls here)

but it is the truth.

playing all these games means nothing. If you run into someone who you think is hot and has an awesome personality and they seem to think the same of you then dont wait!!! lock that shit down! and I speak from pure experience.

Im an old timer by most of the standards on this board. I've been married for little over a year. And was dating my husband for 5 years before we got married.
but when i first saw my husband I thought he was hottest thing on two legs (and still do btw). And when we had a short chance to talk I DEFINITELY knew I wanted to go on a date with this guy. and I spoke with him later that evening, and we scheduled a date for 2 weeks later (due to time constraints) and 6 years later we have been married for a year.

would we be together now if had we played that stupid waiting game?? prolly not. If he had waited over week to contact me, I would have been really discouraged, and felt that he really wasnt all that interested in me, and I would have been less inclined to go out with him. luckily he didnt wait. like you serpent, he contacted me by IM later that evening we were both still excited about meeting each other. And its all history from there.

[katraqueyous]

but what if they just think that you arent interested because you waited for a week?

That's fine. The more they think about about me, the better. That would raise interest level. It's kinda like keeping money in the bank with interest. The more you don't see it, the more it grows. Like I said, if they don't like it, and don't like me, no biggie.


It sounds to me like you are getting numbers from girls that you dont really care about seeing??? if that is the case why bother seeing them at all?


It's more about self-control than anything else. Sure, I would love to hope aboard the needy-train and call girls hours after getting their number, but that's too predictable. It's more about flipping the stereotypical roles of dating: guys=chaser, girls=being chased. :angel:

[akumachan]

That's fine. The more they think about about me, the better. That would raise interest level. It's kinda like keeping money in the bank with interest. The more you don't see it, the more it grows. Like I said, if they don't like it, and don't like me, no biggie.



It's more about self-control than anything else. Sure, I would love to hope aboard the needy-train and call girls hours after getting their number, but that's too predictable. It's more about flipping the stereotypical roles of dating: guys=chaser, girls=being chased. :angel:



alrighty. whatever works for you i guess :wonder:

[Silentness!]

Because these stupid children want to make everything harder than it is. They want to read about how to interact with members of the opposite sex, rather than just go out and do it. They want other people to tell them rules to follow, because then when something doesn't work out, they don't have to look at themselves, but rather have the comfort of the rules to protect their egos. "I followed the rules, it's not my fault, what else could I have done?" They want to generalize everything and make it as simplistic as possible, rather than do things dynamically, and rely on their charm and intelligence to see them through.

The truth is, obviously, if a girl (or guy, but let's use girl just because the majority of the readership here is male) is interested in you, she'll be happy to hear from you sooner, and if she isn't, no amount of time is going to suddenly get her interested in you. She will make the time to meet with you when you first contact, or she will never do so. Now if you are actually busy, then go ahead, wait some time, but I've always done it pretty much that day, and it has never backfired on me, whereas if I've waited some time, I've pretty much never had success. It's obviously anecdotal and could be coincidental, but that's just my experiences, and I think worth considering. You are most interesting to someone when they first meet you, it's like they're under your spell. The more time you wait, the less of a hold you have over someone. The longer people know you, generally, the less willing they are to do whatever you tell them, and prioritize your demands.

I really do not understand why so many people are having problems. It's just girls. Just try and you will be fine. I think someone else said it best when he said the majority of problems here can be solved by "Don't be a pussy." I think you should tell yourself to "Be Strong" and it works about the same, and that is what girls that aren't full of shit will tell you too. Seriously, just....try, that's pretty much it. Why do these kids have all these abbreviations and give names to everything? C'mon, seriously, you're not studying for a test or anything here.

Looks like I'm able to rep you again.

[katraqueyous]

alrighty. whatever works for you i guess :wonder:

I have a question for you. Have you ever dumped a guy for being TOO nice to you? Like always agreeing with you, doing everything you wanted to do, really indecisive, being really clingy, etc?

[JackTenrac!]

- Sorry, I altered one of my posts a few times, but yeah, A-chan's a woman and a married one at that. Probably the best resource for guys here since she is at that level of completion and is actually a real woman( I saw pics ).

Serpent:
To each his own.Really. I agree with what's being said, but in turn, I must quote this here. Some people find it hard to approach certain situations, even dating, which seems to be as difficult as black and white to others. Different people, with similar situations and different levels of understanding, require different solutions to those situations. This thread could be one of them. Not looking to downplay your advice at all if it sounds that way.

...that went well.

[akumachan]

I have a question for you. Have you ever dumped a guy for being TOO nice to you? Like always agreeing with you, doing everything you wanted to do, really indecisive, being really clingy, etc?

nope. I dont think i have dated a guy that I considered too clingy.

Honestly most of my boyfriends were assholes, I just too stupid as a young girl to know it.

But i wised up luckily and found a guy who is not afraid to admit that he needs me as much as I need him in our relationship. and i love being treated really well for the first time in my life.


anyway, i can see how being too clingy can be a turn off for many people. Being a doormat is not the goal. IMO a guy has got to have his own mind or he's a bore. I want to be able to debate things with my significant other instead of listening to how much they agreee with me and how they cant make any decisions without me.

[kof4life]

nope. I dont think i have dated a guy that I considered too clingy.

Honestly most of my boyfriends were assholes, I just too stupid as a young girl to know it.

But i wised up luckily and found a guy who is not afraid to admit that he needs me as much as I need him in our relationship. and i love being treated really well for the first time in my life.


anyway, i can see how being too clingy can be a turn off for many people. Being a doormat is not the goal. IMO a guy has got to have his own mind or he's a bore. I want to be able to debate things with my significant other instead of listening to how much they agreee with me and how they cant make any decisions without me.
The world needs more girls like this! I know that I treated my ex (if you can call her that) very well. If I disagreed on something,I'd say so. We talked about everything and anything,and,even though we said we were just friends, we both knew what was happening.Even when I confronted her about how I felt,she was'nt surprised at all.First she said she would need time. Then,she comes up with all this BS about not being ready and being hung up over her ex. Now she's saying that she shouldn've let this happen in the 1st place?! Like I was just a mistake in her life? WTF?!

[xero15]

bout time we get a girls few on the situation i mean we had that one chick in the other thread but we really still do need lots more just to get a even look on situations in here.

[J4YX2]

My main problem with the whole long-distance thing is, I lose interest or I get wrapped up in other things, then I start losing touch with the girl.. there's somebody in the UK I want to talk to, but I've been caught up with work and getting settled into my new place, and we've reached that awkward point where we haven't talked in a while.. I don't know if she's seeing somebody or if she forgot about me or whatever.

Have you tried contacting her at all or vice versa?
Long distance is a really hard thing to deal with. Its a lot of hard work, especially with keeping up communication. Perhaps she got busy and didn't have enough time to contact you as well. How long has it been since you've last heard from her?

There's not much you can do about the time zone difference unless you or her talk about it and figure something out. Skype is awesome since its free and you can talk for a long time. If you have a web cam & a mic MSN video chat is also free and great cuz you can see the person you are talking to. Depending on pricing from your mobile provider you can always text eachother randomly anytime I know with cingular its 10 cents.

I was in a long distance relationship with a guy from the UK for more than a year and a half and it was probably one of the hardest things I've had to go through. I would stay up late at night to talk to him before he went to work since we were eight hours apart. When i had money I would fly out to visit him and he would do the same when he had time and money.

It was pretty great till he realized he couldn't handle it anymore and we went our seperate ways. Long distance things only work out when both people are obsessed with eachother, ya know, in love.

I would suggest not trying a long distance thing unless you really liked someone enough to try hard with it. Otherwise long distance friends are pretty rad and hey, if you ever get to meet up and hook up with them thats pretty good too.

[orochizoolander]

I would suggest not trying a long distance thing unless you really liked someone enough to try hard with it. Otherwise long distance friends are pretty rad and hey, if you ever get to meet up and hook up with them thats pretty good too.


REAL TALK:tup:

I been in 2 long distance relationships fully well knowing the obvious problems and when everybody says" they never work out" i didn't believe'em cuz i was stupid...err ummm less stupid and i let my attraction blind me from reality n not to say that long distance relationships aren't impossible...they're just NEARLY impossible to maintain for a long period of time so i give mad props to any1 who can.

3 years ago my sophomore year of highschool a girl i went on 4 dates wit moved to nj and we liked each other but just not enough to maintain a committed thing so we just became friends (not anymore lost her# cuz it was on my old cell which i lost 2 years ago:rofl:). Bout a year ago me n my gf graduated from highschool and my gf dormed at penn state while i stayed in ny but we talked alot before hand bout still wanting to be together n shit but as time went on we stopped talking randomly n bout 2 months after we graduated from highschool she called me n said she found another guy and oddly enough it didn't bother me as much as i thought it would cuz i understood the amount of commitment n effort it takes to maintain a long distance relationship....yeah sry to rant i just felt like i had to vent n drop my 2 cents on this subject.

[Taito]

..
Appreciate the advice miss. We talked a bit over wackass Myspace.. like I said I'm not feeling that shit. Oh and I already met this girl in person for a few months before I moved outta UK. We're just on some friendly stuff, even though I'm feeling her as far as personality and for damn sure looks.

I'll give it another shot.. although the last (and first) time I did the long distance thing, with a gf I had to move away from, it backfired.. I guess she didn't want to admit that she moved on, even though it was her idea to try and keep it going after I left town. But that's another story..


How Truth is macklessons.com?? (warning: real talk cursing)

http://www.zshare.net/audio/macklessons86-mp3.html

That "I'm busy" line is just scientific fact, especially with girls in high demand..

[terracotta]

is there any place you guys take girls regularly just to hang out? something along the lines of chilling at your place with the stereo playing Miles Davis in the background, but not at your house..

i'm looking for that kind of atmosphere you get just sitting in the car chilling to music, all deep introspective and sentimental and shit. i was lucky enough to find a quiet bar last Friday, but i think there'd be room to lay back even more elsewhere. any help would be appreciated.

[Taito]

^ The park or beach, away from everybody else, and right after sunset.. during Spring/Summer of course..

[Azrael]

Taito, like you for me it only took one bad experience to sour me on the whole long distance thing.

The way I see it is, there are a number of reasons why two people who like each other can't be together. Maybe your hobbies are just way too different. One's a day owl and one's a night owl. One is a sexual tiger and the other a cold fish. I think that distance is absolutely a valid, justified reason for keeping two people apart. It's like all the disadvantages of a relationship with none of the advantages.

If I were ever put in a LD situation again, I'd approach it as - you do your thing, I'll do mine. If our paths should cross again sometime in the future, and we're both single and willing, then sure. If not, then oh well.

[Koop]

nope. I dont think i have dated a guy that I considered too clingy.

Honestly most of my boyfriends were assholes, I just too stupid as a young girl to know it.

But i wised up luckily and found a guy who is not afraid to admit that he needs me as much as I need him in our relationship. and i love being treated really well for the first time in my life.


anyway, i can see how being too clingy can be a turn off for many people. Being a doormat is not the goal. IMO a guy has got to have his own mind or he's a bore. I want to be able to debate things with my significant other instead of listening to how much they agreee with me and how they cant make any decisions without me.


OMG.... IT ACHAN!!!:lovin::lovin::lovin::lovin::lovin::lovin:


its my e-lover... how are u an thank you for contributin to my thread mrs.lady... tell hubby to come in as well

Koop

[Silentness!]

^ The park or beach, away from everybody else, and right after sunset.. during Spring/Summer of course..

Yeah Riverwalks.

*disappears into space*

[Taito]

Wait wait wait.. about the LD subject, I'm using a chick I'm interested in as an example, only cause it's 'the woman/girl thread'.. but I'm really talking about keeping in touch with friends/associates in general more than anything.. it's a good feeling that I have a bit of a global network and I just wanted tips to keep it all intact..

I wouldn't go for a serious relationship that's LD unless she was dime status or Ms. Right.. I live by the rule of, if you're not fucking me, we're either friends, or you're trying to run game.. and if it's the latter, you can go kick rocks cause I'm moving on.

[katraqueyous]

But i wised up luckily and found a guy who is not afraid to admit that he needs me as much as I need him in our relationship. and i love being treated really well for the first time in my life.


How quickly did you expect him in the relationship to utter "I love you"?





Also, a question for everyone, how long do you guys wait to move in with someone you're in a relationship with? I think anywhere under 6 months is too fast.

[DS]

Also, a question for everyone, how long do you guys wait to move in with someone you're in a relationship with? I think anywhere under 6 months is too fast.


Even under a year it's too fast. After all, what can you find out about that person in one year?

They always say, "You're gonna really KNOW who the person is when you live with them." Which is true because you're sharing an apartment with your significant other and you're gonna see a lot of shit you never thought you'd see being done by that person.

Most relationships that get to this phase usually fizzle in just a few months after moving in together. Most likely, tolerance kicks into high gear at that point and some people can only tolerate so much. Especially if the situation goes down the Felix/Oscar path: One neat person and the other being a complete slob.

[TheSix]

Also, a question for everyone, how long do you guys wait to move in with someone you're in a relationship with? I think anywhere under 6 months is too fast.

Never.

Period.

[CoMpOuNd]

Should have just told her you were partying on the moon. Telling her you'll still hang out if she wants to makes you sound like a white boy.


I did tell her I was partying, just not on the moon. You don't know this girl like I do, when I said, "We can still hang out if you want too..". That usually means her coming over and "hanging" with me in my room. I told her I couldn't see her this weekend cause I was deadbeat broke, but we are supposed too do something this week, IFI call her. So, I just called her, and things are looking better already, she's coming over at 2:00pm. That gives me an hour and 15 min too, ummmmm, "chill" till I go pick up my lil sis from school.

word.

[xero15]

your sister might as well find another way home then lol

[Murt!]

Thats simple...

Are you looking to settle down with one girl at the moment? if not then dont bother trying to force yourself. When you want to settle on one girl then do it. Dont try to do it before you are ready to. You will only irritate yourself and hurt the girl who you are trying to date.



and bear is right again...



-AC
just my opinion

I don't want to settle down right now, thanks for the advice.

[akumachan]

OMG.... IT ACHAN!!!:lovin::lovin::lovin::lovin::lovin::lovin:


its my e-lover... how are u an thank you for contributin to my thread mrs.lady... tell hubby to come in as well

Koop

Hey koopy!! ^_^ :lovin: :lovin: *hugs*

how have you been? Life treating you good I hope?

Its hard getting SMB to post anywhere but the transformers thread :rofl:

[akumachan]

How quickly did you expect him in the relationship to utter "I love you"?




honestly I was so focused on the fun of just being with him and spending time with him, that I really didn't think about when I expected him to say it.

And when he did, I was completely caught off guard. i will remember the moment for the rest of my life :lovin:




Also, a question for everyone, how long do you guys wait to move in with someone you're in a relationship with? I think anywhere under 6 months is too fast.

6 months is a good minimum IMO. My hubby and I moved in together after about a year.

[Azrael]

I'd like to change my girlfriend's fashion sense.

She has a nice body, she really does. But you'd never know it under the fucking layers of POTATO SACKS she wears. I'm serious. Just today, I watched her get dressed for work...first she puts on a camisole. Then she puts on a sweater over it. Then she puts on some funky-ass shirt over the sweater, swear to goodness it looks like a half-inflated balloon. Then, she puts on a cardigan over the sweater. AND THEN she puts on a coat. "Do you really need all those layers?" I ask. "It's cold!" she says. We don't live in Mother fucking Russia.

Anytime I try to give her suggestions about wardrobe, she gets all defensive and hostile. And then she always asks me "What do you think about this?" and I say "lose the first 7 layers and then we'll talk" and then she gets mildly upset because I don't "understand" her fashion.

I was out with her and her mom once, and the gf stops at this shoe store and starts pointing out shoes she liked. Holy fuck, they were hideous! Her mom was trying to tell her too! Then the mom takes me aside and says "You have to help her, her fashion sense is awful!" ...You know its bad when YOUR OWN MOM thinks your fashion sense sucks.

So yeah. I'd like to help her to not look like a homeless person who had to wear everything they own before getting kicked out every time we go out, but any suggestions I make are met with resistance. Does anyone have any experience/pointers with this kind of thing?

[akumachan]

I don't want to settle down right now, thanks for the advice.

Murt: no problem. I hope it helps you. I think that too many people try to force themselves in to monagamous relationships simply because society keeps telling them that that's what they are supposed to be doing. And then they find themselves unhappy and unable to either
1. remain faithful
or
2. remain in the relationship for longer than a month.

I think when people are ready to commit to an exclusive relationship with someone else then they will know it. IMO there will be a person that will come along that you wont want to share with anyone and you dont mind committed to only them.

Other than that i think people should date around as much as possible with many people. That way you:

1. gain confidence in the dating arena
2. you better learn what types of people are your type
3. you learn how to recognize warning signs of people who are really a BAD IDEA to date
4. and you widen your chances of finding a person who would be an ideal companion (if thats what you would like to find some day)

-AC
wishes she had dated more guys before getting engaged the first time. :sweat:

[katraqueyous]

How can you tell if a girl thats just a touchy-feel-personality type or one that likes you?

[Havoc]

Pull your dick out.

[white shadow]

SNIP!

Do you really want other guys seeing her "nice body?" That would be a personal +1 for me.:tup:

[CoMpOuNd]

your sister might as well find another way home then lol

it's funny 'cause she did, my grandpa picked her up. :rofl:

word.

[FallingEdge]

snipage

I want to see pics of your girl. I don't believe I have ever seen them.

If you don't mind >_<

[Azrael]

Do you really want other guys seeing her "nice body?" That would be a personal +1 for me.:tup:
That is a bonus, yes, but then again when she isn't in her pajamas, when I look at her all I see are potato sacks. And not even one potato sack, but several potato sacks layered atop one another.

I guess its just kind of a waste. And frustrating when I see her pick a great outfit, and then put several mediocre outfits on on top of it and THEN go out.

I want to see pics of your girl. I don't believe I have ever seen them.

If you don't mind >_<
I posted some in the TOL thread. Go look around the area where everybody was complaining about "Decepticons".

[xero15]

it's funny 'cause she did, my grandpa picked her up. :rofl:

word.

DAMN i kinda saw that coming.

and look at fallin edge already tryin to break rules lol good thing they were made to be broken. DONT BAN ME PLEASE!!!!

[FallingEdge]

DAMN i kinda saw that coming.

and look at fallin edge already tryin to break rules lol good thing they were made to be broken. DONT BAN ME PLEASE!!!!

Lol. Don't hate on me. I mean no harm.

DON'T BAN ME EITHER!

:angel:

[xero15]

i know you dont im just sayin lol

[J4YX2]

REAL TALK:tup:

snip snip

thanx for that random phone call! hahah yer hilarious on the phone :rofl:

[orochizoolander]

that laugh will be the end of me:wasted::lol:

[Naslectronical]

Other than that i think people should date around as much as possible with many people. That way you:

1. gain confidence in the dating arena
2. you better learn what types of people are your type
3. you learn how to recognize warning signs of people who are really a BAD IDEA to date
4. and you widen your chances of finding a person who would be an ideal companion (if thats what you would like to find some day)



What do you do when no chicks will date you?

[Taito]

Someone remind me.. what does it mean to 'date' somebody? I never really went out on a date (as in lunch/dinner/movie or etc.) with somebody I was not already intimate with.. except for 'group' dates that weren't really getting anywhere in terms of seriously going out.. maybe I should give that a shot? Somebody said to me that I move in too fast in the romance dept and that might be why my past few gfs have been nightmarish..

Honestly, the closest types of 'dates' I've been on with strangers were pretty awkward, and I didn't cover any more ground than I could with a phone convo, or a party/company invite..

[kimjongiLL]

What do you do when no chicks will date you?
:rofl:

I can't wait to see this response...

[Clock Jr.]

What do you do when no chicks will date you?

http://forums.shoryuken.com/showthread.php?t=128067

but seriously, I don't think its possible that no chicks want to date you. Your standards are either too high or unrealistic or you're just looking in the wrong place or not noticing stuff around you.

[JackTenrac!]

- Someone mentioned(Clock"workl Knight" Jr. ) this and it is correct. I have/had the same trouble until a lady friend of mine told me the same advice. She didn't care, or BS about it. Being too picky limits your experience, but in turn, not being picky enough opens a door to practically anything. My advice really is to shorten your requirements lists for possible dates to alot more realistic proportions. For instance: I won't go out with someone who smokes up, but I don't mind drinking. Stuff like that.

...that went well.

[Javid]

Where do you guys draw the line with flirting with someone, when you know they have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Suppose you have respect for the indivdual's significant other and you don't want it to go far.

[Havoc]

It's hard to say. You just have to know. No touching, obviously. Keep the eyes PG-13. All innuendo has to be over-the-top so it can't be confused as being real.

You must like this girl a little bit, otherwise flirting wouldn't be too important. Keep it open, and over-the-top. You can do it in front of the dude. He shouldn't really mind.

[strider999]

i just went on a first date this past sunday. we had dinner at a nice restaurant ($60 per person) and then we had drinks at a bar. i probably spent about $70 on this girl, and honestly, i could see myself in a relationship with her. im pretty sure she had good time, but at the end of the date, i didnt even get a hug. i know she doesnt go on alot of dates and she is a bit socially awkward(much like myself). she did thank me for dinner, but wtf? no hug?

edit: i didnt know that the meals were in the $50-$70 per person range, a friend just suggested eating there a while ago. not a *huge* deal, but i do realize was kinda pricey for a first date. and we did email alot for a week before the date to.

[xero15]

if she doesnt go on a lot of dates dont worry too much about it shes probably a conservative when it comes to dating so see if she will be up for grabs on another date and then you try to get a little close but dont push the boundary. if she didnt have a little fun with you she wouldnt have said thanks.

[JaHa]

this thread is sticky lol
geez
when i ran my pimpology thread i got policed all the time
by a akumachan <--
which i see is not a admin anymore w00t!

haha
i smell racism
lol

[monbaby]

this thread is sticky lol
geez
when i ran my pimpology thread i got policed all the time
by a akumachan <--
which i see is not a admin anymore w00t!

haha
i smell racism
lol


Oh shit! :wow:...

The pimp has returned!...

[dovefresh]

cuut




LOL that was funny =)
anyways

BEFORE she puts on the 2nd layer, try and stall her by saying
hey that shirt looks really nice on you.. do u really wanna hide it under your sweater?
then she'll probably look in the mirror for a sec and put on her 50 million layers anyway.
but everytime she puts on a new shirt comment it and say you think it looks really "Cute" on her or something. That might boost her confidence and she'll eventually cut down on all those layers.
it's gonna take a while though...
but not every girl likes to wear tight clothes, i'm comfortable in my bf's sweater and sweat pants, but if we go out then obviously im gonna change lolol.

If she's just going to work maybe she doesn't think she needs to attract other people or have other people looking at her.

oh oh and take her shopping and randomly walk by and say
I think that would look really cute on you and get her to try it on

basically, if u cut all that bs down
instead of asking if she "needs all those layers, omg wth"
try "that looks nice on you already"

=)

[strider999]

cut

next time you are watching TV or a movie you could comment how an outfit on a actress would look good on her. especially take her to go see "Devil Wears Prada", all girls love that movie and hopefully it will make her think more about style and what compliments her. com'on its not 1920, about time she gets with the times.

[Javid]

It's hard to say. You just have to know. No touching, obviously. Keep the eyes PG-13. All innuendo has to be over-the-top so it can't be confused as being real.

You must like this girl a little bit, otherwise flirting wouldn't be too important. Keep it open, and over-the-top. You can do it in front of the dude. He shouldn't really mind.

What if there is touching? And WHAT IF there is contact that shouldn't be really happening, i.e bitting, playful headlocks and choking(not serious choking of course). You all would agree that something like that goes over the top, or can it be still acceptable?:confused:

[Zachman]

Where do you guys draw the line with flirting with someone, when you know they have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Suppose you have respect for the indivdual's significant other and you don't want it to go far.

Its probably best that you don't flirt at all because that just another form of cheating.

[Havoc]

What if there is touching? And WHAT IF there is contact that shouldn't be really happening, i.e bitting, playful headlocks and choking(not serious choking of course). You all would agree that something like that goes over the top, or can it be still acceptable?:confused:

Biting? Nah, homie.

You're going a little overboard with that.

Then again, I know I used to play around with my roommate's girl, but she was our neighbor, and I had been playing around with her since before she and my roommate got together, and I wasn't attracted to her anyway....

I don't know... it's best to just leave this alone, IMO. If you like this girl, and you respect your friendship with the dude, then nothing good can really come from this. You have to keep all flirting very light.

[akumachan]

What do you do when no chicks will date you?



sup nas.

I think clock jr. had it right. I dont believe there is ANYONE on the planet who cant get a date. maybe you are looking in the wrong places or for the wrong types?

do you come across as confident to women? overconfident? a doormat? are you basing everything on looks? everything on personality? there could be a lot of factors involved. Are you perhaps missing signs from girls who are interested in you?

clock jr??? any relation to cl0ckw0rk??? i miss clocky :(

javidin: IMO one should definitely NOT flirt when either person's significant other is around. and keep the flirting clean. If its just talking and laughing then its good. But if there are lot of sexual innuendo going on, then you are pretty much on the road to cheating.


jaHa: I policed a lot of peeps. I only tried to enforce the rules that ink wanted me to enforce. koopy was a victim many a time (way more than you), as Im sure he will tell you :rofl: koopy and I went round and round before we became friends. you were just one of many. and I am no longer an admin because I lost interest and decided to stop. i still visit from time to time. and you can blame the racism on that man-whore ronin he hates blacks I tell you. :angel:

[Duffclown]

Hey there fellas. I appreciate all the advice you guys have given thus far.


So I'm pretty ignorant on anything involving relationships and such. There's been some situations where I've been close to a relationship, but they've ended really bad and because of that, I have been pretty aloof to get into a relationship.

Anyways, here's my situation.

I went to meet some friends for dinner at a little get together and there's a girl I've never seen before there. A little bit into it, she politely introduces herself to me. A little later, I mention how I went to South by Southwest (music festival) and she got really excited. From there, we talked about music (it was really cool cause I don't really have that friend I talk music with), and she was really excited and said how we should be concert buddies, how I should of taken her with me to the music festival (I didn't even know her then:rofl: ) but I mentioned how there was an upcoming concert and she was excited and wanted to go, so I asked for her number (it was kinda funny cause I didn't remember her name and I asked her 'There any nickname you want me to put you down for?' and she just said her name:bgrin: )

Like I said before, I'm very bad at this type of thing. (though, I wouldn't say my communication skills are terrible, they're pretty good) When do I call her back? Do I wait 2 weeks or so when the show comes up or do I call her in the next two days like someone mentioned? Do I meet up with her?

The thing that kind of made me hesitant is that she just seemed so friendly about it that she was just doing this for kicks (high school girls....). Then again, I don't want to rush to judgement.

We're both on spring break right now.

Thanks for any advice.

[Red-Impact]

Hey there fellas. I appreciate all the advice you guys have given thus far.


So I'm pretty ignorant on anything involving relationships and such. There's been some situations where I've been close to a relationship, but they've ended really bad and because of that, I have been pretty aloof to get into a relationship.

Anyways, here's my situation.

I went to meet some friends for dinner at a little get together and there's a girl I've never seen before there. A little bit into it, she politely introduces herself to me. A little later, I mention how I went to South by Southwest (music festival) and she got really excited. From there, we talked about music (it was really cool cause I don't really have that friend I talk music with), and she was really excited and said how we should be concert buddies, how I should of taken her with me to the music festival (I didn't even know her then:rofl: ) but I mentioned how there was an upcoming concert and she was excited and wanted to go, so I asked for her number (it was kinda funny cause I didn't remember her name and I asked her 'There any nickname you want me to put you down for?' and she just said her name:bgrin: )

Like I said before, I'm very bad at this type of thing. (though, I wouldn't say my communication skills are terrible, they're pretty good) When do I call her back? Do I wait 2 weeks or so when the show comes up or do I call her in the next two days like someone mentioned? Do I meet up with her?

The thing that kind of made me hesitant is that she just seemed so friendly about it that she was just doing this for kicks (high school girls....). Then again, I don't want to rush to judgement.

We're both on spring break right now.

Thanks for any advice.

Call her 2 days from now IMO.

[orochizoolander]

Call her 2 days from now IMO.


FUCK THAT i hate that waiting bullshit sure u dont wanna seem to desperate or eager or too much of an ass whatever when i get a girl's # i call her whenever the fuck i feel like it it cud b the very next day or a week from there if i'm mad busy (almost never to busy to kick it with a new girl) so the best advice on when to call this girl he obviously has chemistry with is to call whenever he feels comfortable and it would be a smart move to call and talk about something not related to the concert thing they have planned so she sees he's making an effot to connect wit her on a personal level n that will impress her.

[dovefresh]

Hey there fellas. I appreciate all the advice you guys have given thus far.


So I'm pretty ignorant on anything involving relationships and such. There's been some situations where I've been close to a relationship, but they've ended really bad and because of that, I have been pretty aloof to get into a relationship.

Anyways, here's my situation.

I went to meet some friends for dinner at a little get together and there's a girl I've never seen before there. A little bit into it, she politely introduces herself to me. A little later, I mention how I went to South by Southwest (music festival) and she got really excited. From there, we talked about music (it was really cool cause I don't really have that friend I talk music with), and she was really excited and said how we should be concert buddies, how I should of taken her with me to the music festival (I didn't even know her then:rofl: ) but I mentioned how there was an upcoming concert and she was excited and wanted to go, so I asked for her number (it was kinda funny cause I didn't remember her name and I asked her 'There any nickname you want me to put you down for?' and she just said her name:bgrin: )

Like I said before, I'm very bad at this type of thing. (though, I wouldn't say my communication skills are terrible, they're pretty good) When do I call her back? Do I wait 2 weeks or so when the show comes up or do I call her in the next two days like someone mentioned? Do I meet up with her?

The thing that kind of made me hesitant is that she just seemed so friendly about it that she was just doing this for kicks (high school girls....). Then again, I don't want to rush to judgement.

We're both on spring break right now.

Thanks for any advice.


from reading the story she seems eager and excited for you to call her.. there is no such thing as "wait for x # of days before calling". If you want to talk to her just call.
I'm also pretty sure she's not doing some stupid highschool joke, if she was she would have said something to lead you on, not "let's hang out/go to a concert together".

=)

[TheDarkPhoenix]

a chan you filling in for koop? lol

[Koop]

a chan you filling in for koop? lol

I hired her to help cause I am very very very busy at work... she loves me enough to do it for free:lovin::lovin::lovin::lovin:

[Duffclown]

Thanks for the advice fellas

[raishinken]

Okay!


I have a belif there is just some female friends you don't fuck no matter how fine they are! My best friend is this 5'3 120 lbs Guatamalen or however you spell it with lovely DSL's! We have been through thick and thin for the last 7 years! Almost everytime im over at her place and i get a phone call from a girl, she will be in the background making noises like im fucking her " she is really good at it too "! Anyway, the last time it happened, i told her that if she keeps it up, im going to give her something to make noise about, which entices her even more! So i chase her down and throw her on the couch and proceeded to play like i was going to take her pants off expecting her to struggle and play around shit. Well the joke was on me b/c she starting wiggling her pants down in a motion to help me take them off. which was completly unexpected. I got the pants down to her thieghs by the time i realized what was going down. So i just stopped and got back on the phone like it didn't happen. Now shit is awkward. My other friends kept on tellin me that one day me and her would start fucking but i never belived it b/c i mean shit, its been 7 years, it would have happened by now if would have gone down. Besides, most women decide within 3 minutes if they wanna fuck or not.

Anyway, She has already had sex with 2 of my friends on a booty call status. Im not intrested in having her as my booty call cus well i got one of those and shit would be awkward to me. I dont want a relationship with her either b/c i think she incapable of having one! So how do i keep moving forward with our friendship without the awkward and what do i do if she were to bring up the whole thing that happened and tell her im not intrested without hitting the awkward or hurting her feelings!?!?!?

[akumachan]

I hired her to help cause I am very very very busy at work... she loves me enough to do it for free:lovin::lovin::lovin::lovin:

actually it's in my SRK post-admin contract ^_^ :lovin: :lovin:

[Azrael]

Okay! -snip-
Okay, hold on, let me get this straight....

-- You know this girl.
-- Girl is hot.
-- Girl wants to have sex with you.
-- You don't want to have sex with her.
-- "SRK, what should I do?"

Wow. In all my years on SRK, I have never seen anyone ask for advice on how not to fuck a girl.

Um...just don't put your dick in her?

[Javid]

Okay, hold on, let me get this straight....

-- You know this girl.
-- Girl is hot.
-- Girl wants to have sex with you.
-- You don't want to have sex with her.
-- "SRK, what should I do?"

Wow. In all my years on SRK, I have never seen anyone ask for advice on how not to fuck a girl.

Um...just don't put your dick in her?

I think he values his friendship with this girl. Than again, if the oppertunity is there I'd say most guys would go for it. I wouldn't if she was a really good friend.

[TheDarkPhoenix]

I think he values his friendship with this girl. Than again, if the oppertunity is there I'd say most guys would go for it. I wouldn't if she was a really good friend.


Yeah not many guys who are good friends with there female friends can hold out when that female WANTS them to sex them. Im impressed actually...

Back in the day I use too have hot hot friends that wanted to have sex with me that i turned down. But I think its because i was so much younger, now it'd be much harder for me to do that...If not impossible.

Actually I'd prob be good until the pants came down :rofl:

[JackTenrac!]

Sex can ruin a friendship, regardless of how "sexy" the individual is.

Time to ignore the second head if you value your current status with this woman. It's either that or you can risk it. Perhaps it's best to have a relationship with her to get yourself more familiarized with the new territory can help, but if that ends terribly, you may have terrible consequences to endure in the long run. You two might not be friends anymore in the end.

...that went well.

[Azrael]

Okay, okay, yeah, I know, friendships and all that.

Friends w/benefits is a tricky road. Usually because 90% of the time (made-up statistic...), one person will think "well, we get along great and we have good sex...why aren't we dating?" Meanwhile, the other person is thinking "Sweet, sex without any hassle of a relationship!" That, plus all sorts of weird jealousy feelings pop up - what if your fuck buddy starts dating someone else? Finds another sexual partner?

I can understand the sentiment. I had a couple of female friends in college that, even if the opportunity were to present itself, I don't think I could have sex with. It's not that they're not attractive, just that I've never thought of them in that way.

To the OP, I'd say to tell your friend that while you do think that she is hot, more than that you value her friendship. And even if she swore up and down that things wouldn't change, perhaps you wouldn't feel the same way. So you'd rather keep things as is, rather than cross into a level of intimacy that may forever alter the current friendship.

[Clock Jr.]

snip



True friendship has to go through tests of ups and downs ... yes ... up and downs ...

It all depends on the individual and quite honestly no matter what you/she says or do or how well you know the person there can never be a definite answer as to how someone will react. Maybe a more probable one but nothing is certain, you either test it out or you don't, either ways as long as you are doing what you think is right and what you feel the most comfortable with, I don't see why you have any reason to panic, you do what you have to do, she accepts it or she don't, live with it, you win some you lose some, life is imperfect, which makes it that more fun ...

[J4YX2]

from reading the story she seems eager and excited for you to call her.. there is no such thing as "wait for x # of days before calling". If you want to talk to her just call.
I'm also pretty sure she's not doing some stupid highschool joke, if she was she would have said something to lead you on, not "let's hang out/go to a concert together".

=)

I concur. :tup:

I've called guys the very next day to hang out before so call her whenever you feel like it. ^-^

[xero15]

man i say go ahead and hit it cuz if shes giving you the chance to hit it that means shes trusting you not to get all sensitive on her and treat her like she your woman. plus shes all trusting that even after you too are done that you two can and will talk like nothing ever happened. im not being a smart ass when i say this but "be a good friend and hit it." shes just expressing another one of her needs in a different way.

[xero15]

man i say go ahead and hit it cuz if shes giving you the chance to hit it that means shes trusting you not to get all sensitive on her and treat her like she your woman. plus shes all trusting that even after you too are done that you two can and will talk like nothing ever happened. im not being a smart ass when i say this but "be a good friend and hit it." shes just expressing another one of her needs in a different way.

[monbaby]

Unless you fucking for money...

There ain't no such thing as fucking and forgetting...

Unless you a slut...

[TheSix]

Quickly -

I got a ## from a girl who I only talked to for about 5 minutes maybe a week ago. I had lost the number, but I found it today. I want to call her, but im not sure how to go about it since the rapport we had has since died im sure. It HAS been a while and im not sure if she'd remember me.

How should I approach this?

[J4YX2]

Quickly -

I got a ## from a girl who I only talked to for about 5 minutes maybe a week ago. I had lost the number, but I found it today. I want to call her, but im not sure how to go about it since the rapport we had has since died im sure. It HAS been a while and im not sure if she'd remember me.

How should I approach this?

Just call her, do it.
Seriously just call her and be her random "just wanted to see how you were doing" call.

haha or you could always call her and get her to try and guess who you are and make her interested in you again.

[xero15]

its not really fuckin and forgettin its more like fuckin and actin normal like before you fucked. its stuff like fuckin and thinkin only bout the fuck that ruins those friendships that people are tryin to keep.

call girl up. seeing as you too only talked for five minutes she probably wouldnt have remembered to start with so just hit her up and see how she doin.

[TheSix]

....alright. I'll do it tomorrow, it's kinda late(I hope that's not an excuse).

[katraqueyous]

Quickly -

I got a ## from a girl who I only talked to for about 5 minutes maybe a week ago. I had lost the number, but I found it today. I want to call her, but im not sure how to go about it since the rapport we had has since died im sure. It HAS been a while and im not sure if she'd remember me.

How should I approach this?

Yo, if she doesn't remember you, she doesn't like you.

[kindaichi]

Yo, if she doesn't remember you, she doesn't like you.

as simple as that

[kimjongiLL]

Quickly -

I got a ## from a girl who I only talked to for about 5 minutes maybe a week ago. I had lost the number, but I found it today. I want to call her, but im not sure how to go about it since the rapport we had has since died im sure. It HAS been a while and im not sure if she'd remember me.

How should I approach this?
Don't listen to those two guys that posted above me. That's like the dudes back in the old days that gave up digging when they were only three more feet of rock away from the gold vein. People have lives and legitimate reasons to forget pursuing social connections. It's easy to get lost in work stress and a sea of phone numbers.

Do the foolproof Kim technique instead.

"Hi, this is TheSix. Who's this?"

Then work on reattracting her. "Oh, I remember you! How've you been?"

Let the other person confess that they wish you called but they weren't sure if you would. If the line's gone slack for too long, nothing can be done. Just let it go.

Whatever you do, DON'T be the first to remind her where she met you from. She's going to want to think real hard to remember you, since she hears a sexy, high status male voice on the other end. If you're in a hurry to remind her though, that's weak and approval seeking.

[Infested Jester]

To anyone.....a rather simple question that I have yet to hear a good answer to.

Ok, when sleeping behind a girl with your top arm around her, where do you put the other arm? This happens to me all the time, and the other night it happened again and I was thinking that I'd try my luck here for answers. Usually I try putting it under the pillow the side of my head is resting on, but then I wake up an hour later and it either cramps up or falls asleep. I've also tried laying it flat above the pillow but thats such an awkward position it starts hurting after a short while. So in the end I deal with it for as long as I can, then make like I have to get up to go to the bathroom or something so I can lay back down in a new position to finally get to sleep. So, what do you guys do, is there some secret to this? Or is it just a simple solution that has evaded me for years? Thanks.

[Azrael]

^I know what you mean. That's probably my favorite position to sleep, except not knowing what to do with the bottom arm.

I think my favorite tactic is to just extend it through the space between her shoulder and her head. Or, have her head down around your chest area, and then extend the bottom arm over her head. She can even use my arm as a pillow sometimes, or I'll run the arm under her pillow.

My other option is to use my own bicep as my pillow, or keeping that same shape, store it under my own pillow.

I can usually at least fall asleep in those positions, although when I wake up we're on opposite sides of the bed for whatever reason.

[Infested Jester]

^I know what you mean. That's probably my favorite position to sleep, except not knowing what to do with the bottom arm.

I think my favorite tactic is to just extend it through the space between her shoulder and her head. Or, have her head down around your chest area, and then extend the bottom arm over her head. She can even use my arm as a pillow sometimes, or I'll run the arm under her pillow.

My other option is to use my own bicep as my pillow, or keeping that same shape, store it under my own pillow.

I can usually at least fall asleep in those positions, although when I wake up we're on opposite sides of the bed for whatever reason.

Yeah I tried a few variations like that, but again my arm falls asleep from the weight of my head. Lowering her so that I have a bit more room sounds like a good idea, I'll give it a try.

Funny how you wake up on opposite sides though right? I don't think I've ever woekn up from a full nights sleep still in the same behind position, even when I suffer through the numb arm. I wish most girls understood this, it's like they get mad if you don't hug them even though you won't be attached come morning.

[Clock Jr.]

don't fuck around, fuck straight

[katraqueyous]

Don't listen to those two guys that posted above me. That's like the dudes back in the old days that gave up digging when they were only three more feet of rock away from the gold vein. People have lives and legitimate reasons to forget pursuing social connections. It's easy to get lost in work stress and a sea of phone numbers.


Well, if she really likes him, he will be on her mind, thus making her remember him.

[J4YX2]

Funny how you wake up on opposite sides though right? I don't think I've ever woken up from a full nights sleep still in the same behind position, even when I suffer through the numb arm. I wish most girls understood this, it's like they get mad if you don't hug them even though you won't be attached come morning.

Hasn't she ever tried to spoon you instead? I've had a guys sleeping behind me before and woken up with me hugging them when we woke up. Then again, I am a cuddly kinda person and automatically hug whatevers next to me when I am sleeping.

It's true though, you do more often than not wake up on opposite sides of the bed. Wanna know how to ninja this situation? if you ever wake up before her go back to the other side of the bed and hug her but make it kinda obvious so she partially wakes up. Then she will think you've been hugging her the whole time. My ex used to do this since he always woke up before me and i thought it was really sweet. I didn't find out what he was doing till one morning I woke up before him and i caught him....it was hilarious though.

[Infested Jester]

Hasn't she ever tried to spoon you instead? I've had a guys sleeping behind me before and woken up with me hugging them when we woke up. Then again, I am a cuddly kinda person and automatically hug whatevers next to me when I am sleeping.

It's true though, you do more often than not wake up on opposite sides of the bed. Wanna know how to ninja this situation? if you ever wake up before her go back to the other side of the bed and hug her but make it kinda obvious so she partially wakes up. Then she will think you've been hugging her the whole time. My ex used to do this since he always woke up before me and i thought it was really sweet. I didn't find out what he was doing till one morning I woke up before him and i caught him....it was hilarious though.

Oh yeah, thats no problem at all, I usually hug them again if I wake up before they do. The problem is getting to sleep, girls want you to hug them then, but the position is hard to actually fall asleep in. It's kinda awkward to explain this to a girl you just slept with or who automatically takes your arm and puts it around her.

[dovefresh]

Just call her, do it.
Seriously just call her and be her random "just wanted to see how you were doing" call.

haha or you could always call her and get her to try and guess who you are and make her interested in you again.

LOL i love it
girls like that
doooo it
and if she doesn't remember you, who cares. move on
:lovin:

[catchafire]

LOL i love it
and if she doesn't remember you, who cares. move on
:lovin:

Words to live by, words to live by...

[Azrael]

Oh yeah, thats no problem at all, I usually hug them again if I wake up before they do. The problem is getting to sleep, girls want you to hug them then, but the position is hard to actually fall asleep in. It's kinda awkward to explain this to a girl you just slept with or who automatically takes your arm and puts it around her.
I always just wait until she gets sleepy enough, and then excuse myself and say I'm going to the bathroom. By the time I come back, she's fast asleep anyway.

[EvilKing]

I uh, I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years for the third time.
I have been out of 'the game' for way too long, and i seriously don't have a clue how to start the 'healing process'

what do you guys suggest?

[J4YX2]

I uh, I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years for the third time.
I have been out of 'the game' for way too long, and i seriously don't have a clue how to start the 'healing process'

what do you guys suggest?

ahh yea i started the "healing process" in January.. being single is interesting isn't it?
I've just been doing what I did before I went out with my ex, Play video games, pool, going out with the krew and drinking. Just hang out with your friends I am sure they can help you feel better.

I would also suggest putting away shit that reminds you too much of her, including photos and all that other shit that came with the relationship. It will help if you don't see her face plastered around your room.

[CoMpOuNd]

what do you guys suggest?

Smoke reefer... or drink it all away.

But Don't Drink Too Much!

And Don't Get Shot!

word.

[Azrael]

I uh, I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years for the third time.
I have been out of 'the game' for way too long, and i seriously don't have a clue how to start the 'healing process'

what do you guys suggest?
Ya, do the things you want to do right now. Take advantage of all the things you can do while you're single that you can't do/become harder when you're dating.

[kindaichi]

Don't listen to those two guys that posted above me. That's like the dudes back in the old days that gave up digging when they were only three more feet of rock away from the gold vein. People have lives and legitimate reasons to forget pursuing social connections. It's easy to get lost in work stress and a sea of phone numbers.

Do the foolproof Kim technique instead.

"Hi, this is TheSix. Who's this?"

Then work on reattracting her. "Oh, I remember you! How've you been?"

Let the other person confess that they wish you called but they weren't sure if you would. If the line's gone slack for too long, nothing can be done. Just let it go.

Whatever you do, DON'T be the first to remind her where she met you from. She's going to want to think real hard to remember you, since she hears a sexy, high status male voice on the other end. If you're in a hurry to remind her though, that's weak and approval seeking.

so you would forget about a person you are attracted to, who leaves you a lasting impression? you must be really absent-minded

[Clock Jr.]

Its not denial. I'm just very selective about the reality I accept.

Like a great comedian once said

"Married and bored, or single and lonely, ain't no happiness anywhere. See, when you're married, you want to kill your spouse but when you're single you want to kill yourself"

Akumachan: nah i'm not related to clockw0rk, i've only chatted with him in the past on AIM but its been years since

[kof4life]

Like a great comedian once said

"Married and bored, or single and lonely, ain't no happiness anywhere. See, when you're married, you want to kill your spouse but when you're single you want to kill yourself"

Akumachan: nah i'm not related to clockw0rk, i've only chatted with him in the past on AIM but its been years since

That's a rather grim picture to paint......I know I can somehow relate to the latter, but I haven't been married so I'll withold my opinion on the former.

[capcomANDsnk]

"Married and bored, or single and lonely, ain't no happiness anywhere. See, when you're married, you want to kill your spouse but when you're single you want to kill yourself"
that's Chris Rock...and he's getting a divorce. what a surprise. i like Chris but he's naive when it comes to relationships. he needs to grow up and stop complaining. shit doesn't have to be that difficult. we got a choice. always. if you're aware, you can see drama from a mile a way, the signs are there from the beginning. most people choose to stick w/ it instead of leaving the situation. and then they complain why things didn't work out. :rolleyes:

[ruthless_nash]

SHORYUKEN I NEED UR HELP!!!!

so i just slept with a girl i didnt fancy. no.. not the one at the start of the thread.. someoe else... anyway it just kinda happened. and now i feel like shit. its the first time i "used" someone, even tho that was not my intention. i even told tried hinting to her im not interested... maybe she seduced me with her big ass titties and ass combo or whatever. but i feel like shit.. and now she probably thinks i like her back.. .so how do i let her down? :sad:

[Deus]

not so ruthless are you?

[ruthless_nash]

not when it comes to women no, just sf/kof

[JackTenrac!]

One way, Ruthless: the truth. Let it out and face the consequences. Tell her what it is before it gets worst.

...that went well.

[Monarc G.]

I just recently broke up: the reason; i dont let anybody, nor woman manipulates me with such a cruel tactics as woman does. So i'm pretty sure that shes the one suffering right now because of me being this kind of man. So if you let a woman do as she wish with you, you will be the one suffering on top of being straight clear. I just want to let you all know that womens are stupid, but we are way more stupid. Think! ...Shes gonna call me, you'll see. (of course, i'm not interested in her anymore)


Sorry if i'm off topic guys, but i needed to take that shit out of me.

[TheSix]

Ahhhh this is the single life I have not experienced until now. Broke up with my G/F weeks ago, and couldn't give a shit :wgrin: . Now im back in the game son!

I called that girl who I had only talked with for 5 minutes last night. I figured the only way I would get her to meet me agian would be to get her comfortable on the phone. It turned out to be very difficult.

We talked about the basic boring stuff, couple laughs here and there. Then I remembered how much a noob I was with this when we kept having awkward silences(some being up to 30 seconds) repeatedly.

The reason for this(which im telling myself) is that she had a very notable low self esteem. My G/F would always have some smart(ass) shit to say. All this girl did was talk about how she spent most of her time doing nothing, had no job, hated school, and how much she drama she had with her EX. Imagine all that being lumped up into a big 20 minutes one sided "conversation".

Had niggas on the other line looking like :confused: :confused: :wasted:

Shortly after, I quickly excused myself saying I had "homework to do". :rofl: :rofl: Funny.

She sent me a email today. Basically, she asked me out. Now, im thinking, I remember her being pretty decent looking, and since im just looking for a fuck buddy, I could give a shit about her personality. "I just wanna....fuck.....you." So im thinking about calling her up randomly tomorrow and have her run some errands with me.

Idea's?

[Havoc]

Bitch sounds like she has issues. I wouldn't get into anything with that one.

[SRKev]

Bitch sounds like she has issues. I wouldn't get into anything with that one.

QFT. Seems like she's hella lonely and wants attention. Don't let her cling onto you.

[Naslectronical]

sup nas.

I think clock jr. had it right. I dont believe there is ANYONE on the planet who cant get a date. maybe you are looking in the wrong places or for the wrong types?

do you come across as confident to women? overconfident? a doormat? are you basing everything on looks? everything on personality? there could be a lot of factors involved. Are you perhaps missing signs from girls who are interested in you?



Maybe I should be more clear.

It's not like women aren't interested in me, and it's not like I can't get laid or anything like that, but that's the problem. It seems as though it's the only thing I can do. I can approach a women ina normal, every day situation, and I'll fail miserably damn near 100% of the time, but I can get the same girl at a party or something like that, and I can fuck her a few hours later with little effort. It's like night and day. I know people are going to ask me what I'm complaining about, but while it's fun, it's not very fulfilling. Sleep