So my cousin wants me to help him get a green card

[Pryde]

So I have this cousin who lives with me. I'm not really to fond of him. He came to live with me about three years ago. I used to lecture him alot about life and how he needs to learn faster to adapt to the environment in America. He thinks it's easy over here, but he's learning the hard way. He was an arrogant kid who thought he was better than everyone else, cuz he came from a well off family. He comes here and he's living in a big house already. He used to just go to school and come back home and just play video games all day long. My cousins tried to get close to him, but they don't like him now either. He worked under me for awhile and I had to fire his ass, cuz no one liked him. Now a days, things are different, he works and he goes to college. He just started. He recently asked me to sponsor him. I'm still deciding if I should or not. He only talks to me when he needs something from me. Other then that, we live in the same house and I'll see him maybe like 2 times a week, but we don't ever talk. Only when he needs something or I have to tell him to do his chores.

So what do you think I should do?

[*InVeRs3*]

isn't gay marriage legal in MA?

marry his ass.

[MechZZ]

that's rough... I consider my cousins as close to me as brothers.

If it was anybody else, I would say fuck them.
But it's your family... Try to think... If the situations were switched, what would he do for you?

[*InVeRs3*]

in all seriousness though, since your cousin is a prick and seems to not know the concept of family, you know he won't have your back when you need it from what it seems, so I wouldn't help him at all.

[Weecho]

Just call immigration on his ass. :wonder:

[Rioting Soul]

If he's making a change for the better then I would. If not then no.

I wanna take this chance to ask you this. Who is the woman in your avatar? I wanted to know this since ever but never saw a thread where asking was appropriate.

[Alzarath]

If your cousin was female, I could've offered an easy solution :tup:

But yeah, what Rioting Soul said.

[RockBogart]

If your cousin was female, I could've offered an easy solution :tup:



i was gonna say that

[Shinto]

I would send him back for a lil bit.....to see how good he has it over here....

[4Play]

As the others said don't help him.

[omni]

La Migra!!!

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[Calibur]

He's family.

I cant imagine not helping family if I had the power to do so.

Where is he emigrating from?

[poppinrice]

yes.. tell us where he is from.

[Colt Steele]

I wanna take this chance to ask you this. Who is the woman in your avatar?
Eliza Dushku. He's had that shit since like Day One.

Don't sponsor him. He sounds like the kind of person that isn't worth the air he breathes his whole life and then wins the lottery after everyone else has busted their butt to support him.

[Red-Impact]

He was an arrogant kid who thought he was better than everyone else, cuz he came from a well off family.

ok....

now a days, things are different, he works and he goes to college. He just started. He recently asked me to sponsor him.

I don't see the problem.

Sounds to me like the kid has landed on earth and left the arrogance behind. Help him.

[SNAAAAKE]

um..take advantage of the situation and make him pay like 10Gs for the green card. MAKE DAT MONEYZ !!

[Grimm_Demize]

um..take advantage of the situation and make him pay like 10Gs for the green card. MAKE DAT MONEYZ !!

Yeah, he's got a job. Make him help you in some form or fashion. Getting somebody into this country is a big deal, and he must understand that he owes you one.

[Ducky]

I would definitely help him out if I were in your shoes, but only if he paid me. You want to act like a dick and then get my help? Shit, there might not have been a price to be paid right then and there, but now you get to collect that debt with interest.

[KING]

screw him; you owe him nothing.

[go!]

ok....



I don't see the problem.

Sounds to me like the kid has landed on earth and left the arrogance behind. Help him.

yeah. y not?

[Septimus Prime]

He's family. You're more or less Asian. You have no choice.

[Pryde]

ok....



I don't see the problem.

Sounds to me like the kid has landed on earth and left the arrogance behind. Help him.



Well he may not be as arrogant as he was before, but it just seems like he only talks to people when he needs them. I tried to bring him out to meet people. He just doesn't talk to them. It's not just on one occassion either. I've broughten him out several times. He JUST turned 21 last month, I took him out to the clubs, since I thought we could try to work things out, he had fun, but he goes back to his isloating ways. My cousins don't bother calling him anymore, since he never calls anyone else out. He WANTS people to come to him to ASK him to hang out, but he never does the same, unless he needs a ride. Also he has a hard time to fucking listening to people. You tell him one thing and it goes out the other ear. That's what also pisses me off about him. Then he'll deny that I told him or he'll just feel really stupid when I prove him wrong. i.e. Though he lives with me, I don't give him access to my alarm company. Anytime the alarm goes off, everyone has to notify me right away, since my dad doesn't like dealing with the company. So my mom and dad has to call me no matter what, even if it's a false alarm. So he trips the alarm one day, doesn't call me, alarm calls me, I try calling him several times and finally he picks up and says he's busy talking to the alarm company and he hangs up on me. I DID tell him before he can't talk to them, but obviously he wasn't paying attention. Ten minutes later, he calls me back and says he wants me to talk to the police, I proceed to tell him that I should let him arrest his ass for his being ignorant, then he apologizes.

Kingdom: you are right there, I do owe him nothing, but I am close to his father. I've talked to his father several times and told him how SLOW his son is. I'm pretty blunt, but his dad didn't take it too well, but he respects my opinion. i.e. His dad wanted me to teach him to drive, I told him he's not ready, but his son is so insisting he's ready. I taught him a bit and so did my dad. He got a used car, a Toyota Avalon. As I said, I told his dad and my parents that he wasn't ready, they refused acknowledge. Then he crashes and totals the car within 3 weeks.

I have so much more I can tell you guys, though he's family I feel I have no obligation to help him. I think I might just tell him to fuck off, but I still want to hear some opinions.

[valaris]

I would tell you to forget it but I have a biased opinion as I cut off all ties to all family that wasn't father/mother/brother/sister.

[ChunLi]

Aww Pryde.. long time no talk hun.. I hope to see you in Vegas.. anyways...... I will tell you some experiences since I live in like freaking Viet/Chinese capital sponsorship town!

Most immigrants (Asians in general) who have lived in the US for a long time think a lot differently then "fobs." Alot of the Viets that just barely came over to the US aka fobs have some sort of "idea" on how life in the US is like.. and it's soooooooooooooooooo far from the truth.

They are set in their ways.. and it'll take years and sometimes... he'll never change.. just because he grew up a little differently than some of us. It's kinda like the battle between immigrant parents and their kids that are born in this country. No matter how hard you try.. its hard to relate and understand one another, let alone have them change or a least want to change.

If you sponsor him and he keeps doing what he's doing.. and it makes you end up thinking "god I wish I never did that.." then don't do it.. it'll even piss you off even more in the future if he keeps doing things you don't like. GOOD LUCK!

[Adam Warlock]

How bad is life where he has to go back to if you don't sponsor him?

[Pablo_the_Mex]

A greencard is no joke, he better pay you that gwop.

[Robust]

can i get ops on irc?

[Rhio2k]

snip

Hey, may I please have one of those lemon-sugar cookies?

[ChunLi]

Hey, may I please have one of those lemon-sugar cookies?


I only made chocolate chip and I believe peanut butter for shadyk once. Ill look up the recipe and bring some to EVO... just holla at me! lol

[gemdoom]

so how hard is it to get someone a green card?

[Deuce]

can i get ops on irc?

:rofl::rofl::rofl: u my hero

[Rhio2k]

I only made chocolate chip and I believe peanut butter for shadyk once. Ill look up the recipe and bring some to EVO... just holla at me! lol

...that's a LONG way to go for a cookie. I gotta think about this.

[SNAAAAKE]

trust me..this is THE easiest 10Gs you will ever make.

[DropKick Murphy]

is he here illegally? If so i dont think there is anything you can do. He would have to leave the country then enter legally before he can get any papers.

[Pryde]

Chun-Li : I'll be in Vegas =)
You see, the problem is, my mom also asked me to sponsor him and I already said no to her today. I denied him in his face also and I know he's really mad at me now. I could care less. It's like he looks at it as an obligation for me to sponsor him. I tell him things, the simplest things and yet he can't do it. i.e. I asked him to take the trash out every tuesday and make sure you put it in the trash can or else we'll get fine by the neighborhood. Yeah, I live in a secluded area where they force you to do that, because of the Coyotes and skunks that might just come around the area and rip the trash bags apart. It's so simple, the trash can is right next to the garage and so is the garbage can. I come home today early and boom it's not done.

As for the money, I could care less about the money. I'm making good enough money as is.

Yes, he is here legally for school only. He's only allowed to work under the table jobs, like resteraunts, etc. He did work for me as I mentioned above, but he was useless there. All he could do was clean. I asked to learn a few things, but he was complaining that he had school and had to study, so I have the benefit of the doubt. I waited til was school was over and waited for a month then I mentioned why he hasn't learned to use the computer at work, he was speechless. He's one of those kids who doesn't under stand the concept of common sense nor does he have any manners either. He'll have the flu and we'll be at dinner and he'll fucking cough out open in the air. Everyone looks at him like he's a fucking retard. Trust me, he's pretty retarded.

Also he spends his money on the most retarded things. He'll go out and buy $200 jeans and gets his $165 haircuts. Yes you did read right. How do I know this? My other cousin works at a bank and he told me, so I asked him to look at his statement and he let me. I talked to him about it and he says he won't do it again, but I don't care what he spends his money on. It's the point that he's going to school and he wants MY PARENTS to pay for it. WTF. Pay for yourself man. He has an easy life over here, trust me. I'm not gonna make it any easier for him.

[sainthuey]

in all seriousness though, since your cousin is a prick and seems to not know the concept of family, you know he won't have your back when you need it from what it seems, so I wouldn't help him at all.

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[UBControl]

WTF, i wouldnt help a cousin like that, hes family blah blah yadda yadda, no one chose family, it comes along with life, if hes so retarded as u say, hes got enough already a big house to stay at, hes spending money like a theres no tomorrow, i mean 100+ hair cut, WTF! i'd just kick him in the balls and buy him a airplane ticket to his daddys place get rid of scum, thats what i do, family or not. Sorry if im too harsh, thats how i see it :arazz:

[Draeger]

How much control do you have over him? I would take away his credit/debit card/checkbook/money and make him earn the money your way.

[poppinrice]

man.. dont help him out.

hes not being responsible so he doesnt earn it you know what i mean?

if he did all his chores.. and was somewhat smarter.. ya you should help him out..

but being a stupid ass like he is.. HELL NO.