Single After 2.5 years - How to Adjust

[holler mcdollar]

srk, my peoples. this might be the 3rd topic i've ever started here, infact i barely post at all. but i type this tonight out of pure confusion. see, i'm now single after two and a half years, and i don't know what the fuck to do. i'm sharing this with all of you for one reason - i want to hear your input and classic srk replies. (read: 98% sarcasm, 2% genuine advice, all money)

in short, i graduated college and she's still there for another year. i work full time and with school being 3.5 hours away, it's just not convenient. weekends are not always free for both of us and we're both always doing other things socially. therefore, we are no more.

what's freaking me out is that i now go out with my crew and i'm just like "what the fuck?" i've had sex with other girls already, but it does nothing for me. sex is the easy part, believe it or not, and the rest is just awkward - being with my friends at a club while everyone is trying to dance/talk/whatever with the opposite sex, being out with my friends in relationships and now i'm not, etc. etc. my game is not the problem, it's just i keep thinking to myself "this is too weird..."

so basically i gotta figure out how to adjust. i'm NOT looking for another relationship but hookups to get my mind off it all aren't helping, either.

SRK, guide me!

P.S. no ex-girlfriend pics, beasts.

[sainthuey]

play DAT Street Fighter

[StuartHayden]

Street Fighter
Chronic almost ritualistic masturbation practices.

Repeat both steps as needed.

-SH

[GC!?]

Stay single. Learn to enjoy it.

[Gasp]

with a name like hollar mcdollar i really dont know where you're going wrong.

[Infernoman]

just fill up your time with other activities man...online gaming? arcade? maybe now you should post more here.

[Hatred Edge]

:rofl::rofl::rofl: at the thread title.
Shut up. 2.5 years is nothing. Haven't had a girlfriend throughout all of highschool cuz:
-They wanted thug fuckers for boyfriends
-Shallow bitches
-Hated them all
-PS2 was more entertaining
-Even though I would never cheat and abuse my girl that doesn't mean shit
-The bitch I liked before I now view as nothing but an insult to my existence.
-I am a vegenance seeking bastard
-EVERYONE only cares about fucking looks. Even the UGLIEST of bitches wanted a nigga to look like Chris Brown or Usher or Dwayne Wade.
-School was majority black people hence the wanna be ghetto bitches
-Bitches acting like they ghetto when they fucking shop at Publix with all the other white people and live in gated communities GTFO.
-My mom is a crazy black bitch thus FURTHER making black women even less appealing to me
-Met one white chick. Fucked all the time but never fucked with me
-Lack of asians girls
-Spanish chicks and I have NO FUCKING CONNECTION
-TOO MANY BITCHES SUCK THE TREE MADE OF MEAT
-Can't trust any girl around here cuz they might be massive whores on the side
"Hey buddy, that girl your kissing sucked my cherry popper and 10 other cherry poppers."
-Apparently I wasn't black enough
Well that's my rant.
How to adjust? Well it depends on your mindset. For instance I have a friend who says he needs to have a girl. Are you like that or are you more like "I need to get poom poom"? Or are you like me and believe that there's no good women in this world left? Another point is that does it bother you that your single? Do you really care? Where are you life?(highschool, college, work) Does having someone in your life matters at all?

[sainthuey]

-Bitches acting like they ghetto when they fucking shop at Publix with all the other white people and live in gated communities GTFO.

word, what's really hood nigga:lol:

[MrQuotes]

-street fighter
-whores
-a bit of jogging for the cardiovascular system

[D'Nyc3]

HATE!


Well since you're from FL I kinda know where you're coming from. But I was lucky cause being from NYC, they seem to like NY dudes that can dress..so it was FREE POOM POOM. :rofl:


Hollar: Aye yo just goto clubs or what not. Im sure you'll find someone to chill with. I don't have girlfriends relationship wise but I have buddies...if you know what I mean:sweat:

[Murt!]

snip

Quit complaining and step your game up. Getting high school bitches is easy, even if you're ugly. It's all about your attitude and how you approach them.

[Serpent]

You guys are misunderstanding his post. He says getting girls and sex isn't the problem, and you guys are telling him to get girls.

holler, I'm not really sure where you're going with this. I don't quite understand the problem, and I also don't think you'll get your answer on SRK. It's like your asking for the meaning of life, but nobody has been able to give an answer outside of "fuck lots of different girls" and this site isn't going to be an exception.

I can barely remember what it's like to be seriously dating anymore, or even casually. I do know that personally I strongly prefer the freedom of being single. You'll find out what your personality is soon enough and I'm sure you'll do what you need to do when that happens.

[Dhalsimowns]

join the game again. You play or lose, simple as that.

[Hatred Edge]

@ Hollar Mcdollar:
Man do what makes you happy. Don't bother stressing over being single. If you like being single stay that way. If you want a girl go and get one. As long as you are happy with how things are then you won't have any troubles. That's how you adjust. Are you okay with how things are? If you're not do something about it. Life won't make things work for you, you have to make things work for you. That's the key to adjusting.

[Lei Mana]

-PS2 was more entertaining

WOW!

I sure hope PS3 is keeping your virgin dream alive!

[spideyman]

I know u from the clothes thread. You got some sweet kicks and gear. Well anyways try to keep yourself busy. Work, make money. Go hang out with friends. Take up a new hobby or get back into an old one. Just ease your way into being single.

[pherai]

Sounds like you're going clubbing because you feel that's what's expected of you. I say if it just feels awkward right now, take a break from women for a while and concentrate on other aspects of your life (work/hobbies). In time you'll want to get back in the game naturally.

[blindspot]

Take up yoga with fat chicks and check back in 2 weeks...

[hold dat]

sounds like he just wants advice on how to adjust to single life again...

just try to enjoy yourself, dont let this break up consume your life. seems you're smart enough not to rush into another relationship..always a plus

basically in time...you will adjust to your newly single life

you're already hookin up with new women so maybe its safe to say the hard part's over?

[Hatred Edge]

WOW!

I sure hope PS3 is keeping your virgin dream alive!

Hah, SRK members amuse me. I'm not a virgin. And do note I have been playing PS2 longer than relationships last in this country. Isn't that funny?

And as for me "whining" I wasn't I was just ranting that's all. Would anyone prefer I relieve my frustration with alcohol?

[Team Cable]

Asking SRK about relationship advice?

Wrong forum, my man. We are niggas who play video games and communicate with guys several hours a day on a web site. We jack it to porn.

As for not having a partner just to what everyone else does around here: stroke the meat. Believe me, there's worse things in the world to do than pulling the pud.

To pass the time I suggest playing more video games, get swoll, read books and try to put in a couple more hours at work or hang out with niggas at work more often.

[Grits'N'Gravy]

Edit: HEY GUYS I'M A FUCKING NERD!

Seriously, your sob story will get no respect or sympathy from this message board. Also, that's not what this thread is about at all. Cut out that anger and entitlement shit and you'll feel a lot better.

Good advice for OP: I know it's hard to get back to the dating scene, or even think about it at this point... but you have to get back on the horse. (Once your head is clear, I'd wait a couple months or so) Forget these guys telling you to "stay single", a life lived alone is SO unfulfilling.

Oh, and if you smoke weed... smoke more weed. If you don't smoke weed... start smoking weed.

[Shadow Ace 50]

Myspace.com

[pherai]

a life lived alone is SO unfulfilling.

I hope you are joking. If you need a girl to feel fulfilled in life, you are pathetic. You haven't accomplished jack when a relationship is the pinnacle of fulfillment in your life.

[RyuHikaru]

Asking SRK about relationship advice?

Wrong forum, my man. We are niggas who play video games and communicate with guys several hours a day on a web site. We jack it to porn.

As for not having a partner just to what everyone else does around here: stroke the meat. Believe me, there's worse things in the world to do than pulling the pud.

To pass the time I suggest playing more video games, get swoll, read books and try to put in a couple more hours at work or hang out with niggas at work more often.

Pursuasion at its best :rofl:

[Rooks4]

98% of my answer:
what'd ya do, cut off your hands?

2%:
Get all the ass you can. It might seem weird to get back into the game, but you never really lose it if you have it. Enjoy the free time, enjoy the money you save by not having to buy 'her' shit. Work on being independent and get your shit in order.. Don't be looking for a relationship to 'replace' the last one.. Have fun, and when the right woman comes around you'll know it.

[JackTenrac!]

...try 4 years.

[mastermind]

Halo 3 just came out. That'll take your mind off of nearly everything, apparently.

[Bob Poundmax]

you'll live.

[phae]

If it's awkward, just don't do it.

Like, you sound like you just don't know how to handle girls outside of sex right now. Take a break.

Focus on yourself for a bit!

I know that sounds really hard to grasp but you should give it a shot. Do something to better yourself. I took up competitive pokemon battling again, I threw myself at comic books, anime, good RPGs, I started cooking for myself again. You just have to learn what it's like to be alone, but not really lonely. You can be your own best company.. took me six months to figure that out.

Just don't look for someone to replace the girl you broke up with - comparing to your ex is never the answer - she's your ex for a reason. You don't want to date girls like your ex.

[StuartHayden]

Make money.
Forget bitches.
Play more Street Fighter.

If you wer elooking for some in-depth, meaningful borderline yes-homo chat with a fellow man.

Wrong fucking place.

Try LJ, Gaia, Xanga, post a bulletin, ANYWHERES but here if you want people to believe/help with your sob story. :sad:

-SH

[Hatred Edge]

Seriously, your sob story will get no respect or sympathy from this message board. Also, that's not what this thread is about at all. Cut out that anger and entitlement shit and you'll feel a lot better.

How am I a fucking nerd? You don't know me so don't fucking label me with your dumbass false-based labels. Who the hell said it was a sob story? It was a fucking RANT! Further why the fuck would I want sympathy from anyone? Imagine that. I hate being pitied or getting sympathy. I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me I'm fine with how my life is and I wouldn't want it any other way. Being pitied or getting sympathy from others is disgusting. How can anyone stand to have people look at you like that? Like you're weak and unable to stand on your own two feet... And do you think my statements are false? You think I was hurt that I wasn't a man-whore like those around me? You think I like those people? Using others and throwing them aside when they're done using them. It's deporable.

@the OP. Don't ever have people pity you or feel sympathy for you. You can stand on your own. You are not so weak that if some girl isn't by your side your life has no meaning. Your alive. Enjoy your life. Do what you want to do. If you don't you'll never be happy with yourself let alone anyone else.

[Mizuki]

I've always been single.

Enjoy it. Go have sex and you don't have to be worried about committing to one person. Go play some Street Fighter.

[Obkb]

I would suggest looking up some posts by a member named "Terracotta." He has a post titled "upskilling yourself." Although I personally find that he puts too much stock in pussy and money, his post is on the right track and something you might find interesting as being single allows one to "upskill" his/herself and that's, perhaps, the most important thing anyone can do.

Arguably the most honorable existence is one that is stoic (from a male perspective). I'm sure many people here will object, but first, get to know yourself and be in touch with your emotions but never show them and never allow them to overrule your judgment. Being single allows you to do all of these things. You no longer have to worry about dinners and movies, dates and anniversaries, presentation or tact.

I've personally become an emotionally detatched shell as far as females go. To me, every female owns an SUV purchased by their father which they use in conjunction with cell phones to mindlessly plow the roads. When (if - with no fatalities) they reach their destination, they take all the money they've scrounged to purchase more cell phones, clothes, knick-knacks and make-up that have no purpose or substance and everything else glamour magazines tell them to do. They have no minds or functions beyond continuing the race as we know it. It's sometimes heartbreaking to catch one with a flicker of hope being swept up in a the maelstrom of self-inflicted ignorance and fall inches short of being desirable.

That is woman. And this is wisdom gained.

Pick up a hobby:
Videogames (that would seem appropriate because we're on SRK.)
Build a workshop
Become wise in a field (Physics [quantum, astral, meta, etc..], Philosophy, Architecture)
Take up Archery or Golf
Help your friends or find one that is real
Rob a bank
Make a life by destroying the greedy and corrupt (ala boondock saints)
Create a new church and annihilate anyone who challenges your standards.

There are so many ways to adjust and CELEBRATE single life that it's limited only to your imagination. Enjoy.

[RoninChaos]

*snip*


Holler mother fuckin' McDollar, what it is!?

Man, I can only give you the advice that I've used when shit like this has gone down with me; do some shit you love to do. Anybody that's been in a relationship for a long time knows there is an amount of compromise you put into it, and you don't do all the stuff you enjoy any more. Enjoy the fact that you don't have to deal with a chick who goes nuts when she's pmsing and bitching on her period. Enjoy the fact that your crib can be as fucked up as you want it to be. Have folks over, smoke, drink, etc. if your girl wasn't down with that. Just enjoy the stuff you liked to do but didn't really get to do when you were single. I think a lot of folks miss that.

Being in a relationship is cool, but a lot of people out there don't know how to deal with themselves or do the shit they want to do without having another person involved. Of course, this may not be you and what I just said could be worthless. It all depends. Just try and figure out what makes you happy and run with it.

You guys ended well, right? Like on some "See you down the road" type stuff, or was it "Fuck you, blah blah blah" type stuff?

[RoninChaos]

How am I a fucking nerd? You don't know me so don't fucking label me with your dumbass false-based labels. Who the hell said it was a sob story? It was a fucking RANT! Further why the fuck would I want sympathy from anyone? Imagine that. I hate being pitied or getting sympathy. I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me I'm fine with how my life is and I wouldn't want it any other way. Being pitied or getting sympathy from others is disgusting. How can anyone stand to have people look at you like that? Like you're weak and unable to stand on your own two feet... And do you think my statements are false? You think I was hurt that I wasn't a man-whore like those around me? You think I like those people? Using others and throwing them aside when they're done using them. It's deporable.


Man, you REALLY need to get laid.

[Alzarath]

lulz

[ShinAkumax]

Find out what makes you happy, and do that. Do it to the fullest extent you are capable. Want to rock climb? Go do it, want to play guitar? Go do it, the surest way to score a girl is to do the things you want to do. Whatever it might be, just doing something that brings happiness and joy to you will usually bring women along with it. Happiness and joy are attractive and they culture confidence. It's that simple.



Problem is most cats don't do any of things they want to do. They lack the confidence. ( Unless it's anti-social. )

[Raz0r]

Get new single friends. If your friends who are in relationships are making you uncomfortable you're going to need to go out there and find some guys or gals who aren't tied down. That's going to solve your social problems instantly.

Take it from me, I've had to do it myself.

[b00mshakalaka]

Stay single. Learn to enjoy it.


Amen.

[Spirit Juice]

Try my remedy:

Fuckin' bitches and eatin' babies.

[ChunLi]

I've been single for 4 years now and the best way to deal is to hang out with SINGLE PEOPLE! Seriously!!

I had this supposed "BFF" (no one need to name any names now) but she always wanted to hang with her friends who were in relationships. I guess they had more to talk about.

Single friends will understand a lot of issues about being single and the opposite sex more than your friends who are in relationships. Even though most of us have all been single at one point in our lives.. when you are in a current relationshp you can never truly relate.

When I hang with my friends who have bf/gf.. I feel like I should hang myself.. but when I'm with my single friends.. we all have fun and don't even sweat the stuff about how we aren't attached.

[Autocrat1]

-My mom is a crazy black bitch thus FURTHER making black women even less appealing to me
:rofl:

Wow...


Hate sucks without pics?! Seems like to me she can roll her eyes and CRANK DAT NECK™ while sucking my dick any-fucking-time... :cool:
I've always been single.

Enjoy it. Go have sex and you don't have to be worried about committing to one person. Go play some Street Fighter.
Which reminds me, I gotta give a shoutout to my boys Sodom and Urien...

......



...that was a shitty STD joke BTW

[P. Gorath]

I'm in a similar boat. My gf of 3 years who I was living with (sshh..dont tell the rents) last week moved across the country to go to grad school. I am trying to cope in her absense

[DeathReaper47]

How am I a fucking nerd? You don't know me so don't fucking label me with your dumbass false-based labels. Who the hell said it was a sob story? It was a fucking RANT! Further why the fuck would I want sympathy from anyone? Imagine that. I hate being pitied or getting sympathy. I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me I'm fine with how my life is and I wouldn't want it any other way. Being pitied or getting sympathy from others is disgusting. How can anyone stand to have people look at you like that? Like you're weak and unable to stand on your own two feet... And do you think my statements are false? You think I was hurt that I wasn't a man-whore like those around me? You think I like those people? Using others and throwing them aside when they're done using them. It's deplorable.
.

Wow. Saying "you mad" would be too redundant here. Holy shit. Find some bitches and fuck 'em man...because you need it.

[$|-|U(V)AYeL]

I'd say best thing to do is just do the things you always wanted to do... possible hobbies? instrument, dancing, etc. Keep yourself busy, build up your lifestyle, focus on your self and do what you love.

[Ho0v-Man]

^^That's so you don't skim past my post.


Honestly, it sounds like you miss your girlfriend and you want her back. Random hookups are not always as satisfying as being w/ someone you care about.

[Hatred Edge]

Wow. Saying "you mad" would be too redundant here. Holy shit. Find some bitches and fuck 'em man...because you need it.

The reason I was "mad" as you put it, was because you straight up just labelled me as a "nerd" and yet you still continue with this "get some pussy bitch" nonsense. Man, I want riches before bitches. Also note: There is alot of underground whores around here so you expect me to go fuck chicks that give it to whoever without me being concerned over my health? AIDS nigga AIDS. Am I stupid because I care about myself? What? I'm supposed to go fuck some chick when she (being a whore) gives it whoever and I'm not supposed to be concerned if she might have HIV or a yeast infection or Crabs? Look I'm all up for sex as much as the next guy but I'm not stupid. I'm not going to end up as another black person with AIDS who has some girl pregnant on the side. It's just my priorties are in check and I want riches before bitches. You make it sound like I'm not a man because I don't spend 80% of my life chasing pussy.

[catchafire]

Beet off before you go to sleep.

[DeathReaper47]

The reason I was "mad" as you put it, was because you straight up just labelled me as a "nerd" and yet you still continue with this "get some pussy bitch" nonsense. Man, I want riches before bitches. Also note: There is alot of underground whores around here so you expect me to go fuck chicks that give it to whoever without me being concerned over my health? AIDS nigga AIDS. Am I stupid because I care about myself? What? I'm supposed to go fuck some chick when she (being a whore) gives it whoever and I'm not supposed to be concerned if she might have HIV or a yeast infection or Crabs? Look I'm all up for sex as much as the next guy but I'm not stupid. I'm not going to end up as another black person with AIDS who has some girl pregnant on the side. It's just my priorties are in check and I want riches before bitches. You make it sound like I'm not a man because I don't spend 80% of my life chasing pussy.

Let me go down the checklist:

1. Seems to believe that everyone around him is a whore/wants hood niggas/*insert more BS no-game excuse here*

2. Makes it seem like someone has to dedicate 4/5th of their life to find women, when its pretty damn simple

3. Overly protective on the internet

If it walks like a duck, and it talks like a duck...

[HeaT]

I'm in a similar boat. My gf of 3 years who I was living with (sshh..dont tell the rents) last week moved across the country to go to grad school. I am trying to cope in her absense

so did you guys break up, or you are working on a long distance relationship and it is hard because she is not there???

im outi

Roberth

[MAGUS1234]

LOL I havn't been single since I was 16(im 23) and its been about 4 months now of complete boredom and not knowing what to do....SMH*
Plus I can't party anymore so there goes any fun I'm used to having :/ but basically putting all you energy into somethign productive, in my case school, or working out...blah blah blah.

I still obsess over being with someone, even though Im trying not to do that at this point in my life. Its like quitting smoking(which im doing as well...sigh* my life is a mess). If I was in your shoes, I'd be partying it up with the boys waking up strange beds!

[LimeGreenPatato]

srk, my peoples. this might be the 3rd topic i've ever started here, infact i barely post at all. but i type this tonight out of pure confusion. see, i'm now single after two and a half years, and i don't know what the fuck to do. i'm sharing this with all of you for one reason - i want to hear your input and classic srk replies. (read: 98% sarcasm, 2% genuine advice, all money)

in short, i graduated college and she's still there for another year. i work full time and with school being 3.5 hours away, it's just not convenient. weekends are not always free for both of us and we're both always doing other things socially. therefore, we are no more.

what's freaking me out is that i now go out with my crew and i'm just like "what the fuck?" i've had sex with other girls already, but it does nothing for me. sex is the easy part, believe it or not, and the rest is just awkward - being with my friends at a club while everyone is trying to dance/talk/whatever with the opposite sex, being out with my friends in relationships and now i'm not, etc. etc. my game is not the problem, it's just i keep thinking to myself "this is too weird..."

so basically i gotta figure out how to adjust. i'm NOT looking for another relationship but hookups to get my mind off it all aren't helping, either.

SRK, guide me!

P.S. no ex-girlfriend pics, beasts.

yeah man, i'm going through the same thing right now. I still have fun at the clubs and shit...but actually trying to get somewhere with a different girl feels strange. Alot different when last time i was single and all i wanted to do was bang as many broads as possible.

I think it just takes time....or we are just getting older and think differently.

[DietSoap]

The reason I was "mad" as you put it, was because you straight up just labelled me as a "nerd" and yet you still continue with this "get some pussy bitch" nonsense. Man, I want riches before bitches. Also note: There is alot of underground whores around here so you expect me to go fuck chicks that give it to whoever without me being concerned over my health? AIDS nigga AIDS. Am I stupid because I care about myself? What? I'm supposed to go fuck some chick when she (being a whore) gives it whoever and I'm not supposed to be concerned if she might have HIV or a yeast infection or Crabs? Look I'm all up for sex as much as the next guy but I'm not stupid. I'm not going to end up as another black person with AIDS who has some girl pregnant on the side. It's just my priorties are in check and I want riches before bitches. You make it sound like I'm not a man because I don't spend 80% of my life chasing pussy. Not trying to pick on ya here... But it sounds like you were shooting too high. I'm not saying your ugly, but THOSE chicks are usually achieved with connections (atleast in high school, which is what you were talking about).

Of course, I don't really know a damn thing, this is just what it looks like.

[P. Gorath]

so did you guys break up, or you are working on a long distance relationship and it is hard because she is not there???

im outi

Roberth
Yeah we are doing the long distance thing. Im not a big fan of talking on the phone in the first place but now it's all we've got. At least I've got the studio back to myself and can keep the joysticks and video games spread out. Miss the home cookin though :sad:

[SuicidalGrandpa]

Yeah we are doing the long distance thing. Im not a big fan of talking on the phone in the first place but now it's all we've got. At least I've got the studio back to myself and can keep the joysticks and video games spread out. Miss the home cookin though :sad:

I know how you feel bout the long distance thing, dude. I may not be as old as you, but been keeping my long distance relationship going for over a year. Stick in there, dude :tup:

[Hatred Edge]

Let me go down the checklist:

1. Seems to believe that everyone around him is a whore/wants hood niggas/*insert more BS no-game excuse here*

2. Makes it seem like someone has to dedicate 4/5th of their life to find women, when its pretty damn simple

3. Overly protective on the internet

If it walks like a duck, and it talks like a duck...

:rofl::rofl::rofl:
Well... seems it's easier to win a fight with a Lion than trying to get you to understand anything.

1. So it's my fault for being a black man who in turn likes black girls? Geez didn't know that was wrong... I got game, I just don't trust people easily. What's wrong with wanting a woman you can trust? And what's wrong with wanting a woman who likes you for you?

2. Never had trouble meeting/talking to/getting girls. YOU make it seem like that's all that matters in life like the same ignorant dumbasses I grew up around. As if being yourself is a mistake and you should be like everybody else. A damn sheep.

3. Man you came out and straight dissed me when I didn't show you no disrespect but of course I'm the one who's the badguy here. I'm in the wrong because I actually am concerned over my well being and unlike you won't just jump into any random girls pants because we all know that's what I should be doing right? RIGHT? Of course! I shouldn't care about myself at all! I should just go out and fuck whatever has a pussy right? RIGHT??

Look at the state the world's in. I posted my rant because that is what happened. I care? No. You tell me it's easy to let your guard down? With all the shit that's going on today how can you just not care about what can happen to you when if you get hurt over 90% of the world won't care? I'm just looking out for myself. If I don't who will? What? Are the random chicks I hook up with gonna look after me? And you and (some of)SRK gonna tell me I'm wrong because I'm a bit cautious with what girl I hook up with? THAT'S WRONG?

[Autocrat1]

Stick in there, dude :tup:
Actually, he can't right now.

*rimshot*

[ckrazy]

It ok I didn't know what the fuck I was doing either when I became single again. It didn't hit me like until 3 months after being single.

[SuicidalGrandpa]

Actually, he can't right now.

*rimshot*

:lol:

[holler mcdollar]

appreciated all. i think i do need to go the "concentrate on myself/hobbies" route, and that's what i'm trying right now. working a 40 hour week, my hobbies right now really only consist of working out, working on my car (if i'm not too tired) and fucking halo 3 just came out so that gets honorable mention.

some of you misunderstood my original post - meeting women/getting pussy is not the problem, i.e. beating off doesn't matter much to me. it's just the awkward-ness of "let's do it. alright i'm done, peace out." with no relationship, like i was used to for so long.

again, like some of you said it will just take time to get used to it all, i guess.

p.s. long distance relationship guys - good luck... i seriously thought we could handle a distance relationship but it took its toll faster than i ever thought it would. lasting over a year is an achievement in itself.

keep the replies/thread crapping comedy coming, i'm interested in what you have to say.

[Serpent]

The reason I was "mad" as you put it, was because you straight up just labelled me as a "nerd" and yet you still continue with this "get some pussy bitch" nonsense. Man, I want riches before bitches. Also note: There is alot of underground whores around here so you expect me to go fuck chicks that give it to whoever without me being concerned over my health? AIDS nigga AIDS. Am I stupid because I care about myself? What? I'm supposed to go fuck some chick when she (being a whore) gives it whoever and I'm not supposed to be concerned if she might have HIV or a yeast infection or Crabs? Look I'm all up for sex as much as the next guy but I'm not stupid. I'm not going to end up as another black person with AIDS who has some girl pregnant on the side. It's just my priorties are in check and I want riches before bitches. You make it sound like I'm not a man because I don't spend 80% of my life chasing pussy.

See, this is how I can tell you're a nerd and are really in denial of how badly you want pussy. The ONLY reason anyone needs "riches" as you put it is to get pussy. If you really don't care about pussy you'd be a slacker that just barely gets by in life. You don't need much money to satisfy yourself in life, just need money for rent, food and some entertainment. Most of your entertainment you can get right off the internet too, so aside from like a new computer every 3 years, maybe a new console every 5 and a new TV every 8 years, you pretty much don't have any big expenses.

It's WOMEN that cost money. You need the money to take her out, buy expensive clothing, then if it gets really far you'll have to buy her a car and a house and all that stuff too. Even if you're not going the marriage route, and just find women to bang, you're still paying the money you need to go outside, that shit ain't cheap and really adds up.

Now I don't need the e-pimps here telling me women cost nothing because I've been there and know how it really goes. There are times that others will cover your bills, but usually there's a cover and usually you'll get a few drinks, or you'll be doing some sort of activity and you'll be footing the bill at least for yourself. Same thing with eating food outside. If you cook your own stuff it's about 1/5th of the price going out, and your food should be much healthier too.

[Darkstalker]

Enjoy not being broke~~

[Phobos]

Just hit the gym, work out those frustrations.
Don't keep yourself locked up in your apartment or house.
Remember you are alive, not sick, have a roof over your head, be grateful
for what you do have.

[Tito Mel]

in the same boat as you, i find that working out makes you feel good about yourself and gets your mind off things you dont want to think about.

Hang out with friends, im sure they would be more than willing to accomidate you.

[Digital Watches]

Street Fighter
Chronic almost ritualistic masturbation practices.

Repeat both steps as needed.

-SH

Or, you could combine the two, with some surgery, electrical work, and a lot of painkillers...

If you know what I mean.

[capcomANDsnk]

REAL TALK, strictly grown man biz:
i been there man, i was w/ a girl for 4 yrs. half of it was long distance, 6hr drive! it's a process and it's diff for everyone. for me, i didn't deal w/ it until a yr after. sounds like you're still hurting that's why meaningless sex ain't doin it for ya. it's great that you're taking care of urself by knowing what you want (even if it's vague: not fuckin around, etc).

give yourself time to heal. the saying "time heals all wounds" is BS. time alone won't help, you gotta put in work.
-alone time to reflect
-form a solid support system of friends
-like many folks have said, do what you love/enjoy

some helpful things to consider:
-No one is to blame when a relationship ends.
-The end of one relationship will always require a space before another relationship can begin healthily.
-It is normal for memories, regrets, and a recurrent sense of loss far, far to outlast the ending of a relationship.

ultimately only YOU know what's good for ya, so pick and choose what's best. hope it helps.

[_MJ_#R]

learn to be a 1 hitta quita

nahmean?

[Hatred Edge]

See, this is how I can tell you're a nerd and are really in denial of how badly you want pussy. The ONLY reason anyone needs "riches" as you put it is to get pussy. If you really don't care about pussy you'd be a slacker that just barely gets by in life.
Great.... more of you with that mindset...
You amuse me. 6 Billion people in the world and you think we all only want to be rich so we all can get pussy? Who told you that? You ever think the reason I want riches is because I want to live in a safer environment? I'm not talking being a millionaire. I don't need that much money. I always joked around saying that if I had enough money that I would have automated turrets built in my lawn so that if someone tried to break into my house they would get gunned down. That sounds like someone desperate for pussy? I would never use money to get girls for the same reason I won't use my body to get girls: because that's just sad.
I don't care for clubs since I hate being in loud crowded places, not to mention I have quite a temper and don't trust myself to be in full control after drinking. And no way in hell I would ever go for a woman who couldn't stand on her own two feet. Not interested in women who can't support themselves. And did you ever think I hate where I live? To get to someplace greater I need money. Not to mention cash for retirement if I live that long...


There are times that others will cover your bills, but usually there's a cover and usually you'll get a few drinks, or you'll be doing some sort of activity and you'll be footing the bill at least for yourself. Same thing with eating food outside. If you cook your own stuff it's about 1/5th of the price going out, and your food should be much healthier too.

Now I can tell by this you aren't some stupid weak-kneed pussy addict. You actually have a head on your shoulders and that head has a brain. Good. Shit cost too much money in life. I don't want to be poor hence why I want riches before bitches. It's because at this moment in my life I'm more concerned with where I'll end up than how much sex I should have. Am I wrong for that?

[Mycah Leonhart]

Hatred Edge.......you have a lot to learn kid - I have a friend like you back home in Cleveland.

[Hatred Edge]

I know I have alot to learn. I know that there are people with more life experience than me but damn, if you ask one question or state one issue or fact or opinion all hear is "Go get some pussy." WTF is that? Can't even get real advice. Everybody wants to jump in your face, diss you and say go get laid. Like that's the solution to everything. "Hey I'm a drug addict! What should I do to get better?" "Go get laid." "Yo, one of my friends is shot and might be dying, what should I do?' "Go get laid." That's all you fucking hear. "Go get laid, You're a nerd, you're desperate for pussy." What the fuck is SRK? A popularity contest? And that's why I don't hold sex on a golden pedestal. Because I don't want to be like those guys. But as ususal, because of that I'm desperate for sex and I'm a nerd. And I "need to get laid." It's fun when everyone tells you you're wrong because of have different views on what's important in life. Which I find amusing since members signed up on SRK to talk about videogames....
And of course, how could I forget, I'm gonna get neg-repped for this too. Fucking popularity contest...

[X-Treme]

"Yo, one of my friends is shot and might be dying, what should I do?' "Go get laid."


:rofl: Now, I'm not suggesting that this isn't entirely correct, but....:lol:

[Eminent]

If only @ times like this could we men have our own personal Mufasa to appear in the clouds and tell us what the fuck to do.

[SuicidalGrandpa]

p.s. long distance relationship guys - good luck... i seriously thought we could handle a distance relationship but it took its toll faster than i ever thought it would. lasting over a year is an achievement in itself.

It's def not easy to keep it going, shit for me has been really bad lately so I can see how it might be taking it's toll. I mean, I would love to have your long distance relationship rather than mine (4k miles, she's two hours ahead) but I know that it's hard no matter what.

I hope you find something to do that's going to make you happy, that you'll enjoy doing, and that you don't feel awkward about doing anymore :looney:

[Chozen1]

Yeah we are doing the long distance thing. Im not a big fan of talking on the phone in the first place but now it's all we've got. At least I've got the studio back to myself and can keep the joysticks and video games spread out. Miss the home cookin though :sad:

don't worry brother, You and I are the same.

She & I have been ongoing like this for the past 3 years or something rather. But I often times visit when I have the chance (luckily for me she lives in fontana & I'm in san diego, used to live where she's @ a while back as I'm from los angeles originally)
I know the feeling. to make things worse, she can't even visit me because her parents are so damn picky.:arazz:

[pherai]

If only @ times like this could we men have our own personal Mufasa to appear in the clouds and tell us what the fuck to do.

Avenge my death Simba.

[Serpent]

Great.... more of you with that mindset...
You amuse me. 6 Billion people in the world and you think we all only want to be rich so we all can get pussy? Who told you that? You ever think the reason I want riches is because I want to live in a safer environment? I'm not talking being a millionaire. I don't need that much money. I always joked around saying that if I had enough money that I would have automated turrets built in my lawn so that if someone tried to break into my house they would get gunned down. That sounds like someone desperate for pussy? I would never use money to get girls for the same reason I won't use my body to get girls: because that's just sad.
I don't care for clubs since I hate being in loud crowded places, not to mention I have quite a temper and don't trust myself to be in full control after drinking. And no way in hell I would ever go for a woman who couldn't stand on her own two feet. Not interested in women who can't support themselves. And did you ever think I hate where I live? To get to someplace greater I need money. Not to mention cash for retirement if I live that long...




Now I can tell by this you aren't some stupid weak-kneed pussy addict. You actually have a head on your shoulders and that head has a brain. Good. Shit cost too much money in life. I don't want to be poor hence why I want riches before bitches. It's because at this moment in my life I'm more concerned with where I'll end up than how much sex I should have. Am I wrong for that?

See, you don't really know anything about me and that's why so much of what you wrote is funny. Most of SRK says I'm a mysoginist. I'm the last person to tell someone to get pussy just for the hell of it, usually I tell people they are better off without it; HOWEVER, from your tone and from your life goals, I can tell you need at least the experience. I'm not trying to offend you or make fun of you, but am I wrong in guessing that you haven't had sex yet/haven't had a gf? A lot of your rantings are obsession over failing at it, so you need to get over that hurdle before you can decide your stance in regards to it. You seriously can't just go on life being bitter about it and then being in denial. I mean it's kind of obvious. If you really didn't want women like you claim, why do you keep saying "before" bitches? Why did you post in this thread? Why are your thoughts centered so much around the chasing of women, or other people's chasing of women?

Obviously you don't know this but I have a silly roommate that created an anti-sex group called No Ass. Now I'm sort of a fringe member, but I've commented before that I can't really consider someone a member that hasn't had sex with at least 3 beautiful women, because otherwise I don't think it is a personal decision but rather more of a case of denial and bitterness. Now I personally say I'm a fringe member, and that's because while I don't chase after women, I'm not exactly going to sabotage something if the perfect women comes by and it naturally occurs. I can be calm about this stuff because I've had the experience and feel pretty confident in my past sexual history in comparison to most people. And because of that, I can kind of sense where you are at.

I'm probably older than you, and I probably know more about expenses and work than you. And I'm telling you straight up, there is no point in working yourself into an early grave. You should make fitness a priority especially when you are younger, play sports or train in combat sports, get hobbies. If you are working to the point that your mental and physical health is suffering, then what exactly are you working for? To enjoy life later? Why? Enjoy it the entire time. For a lot of people that means women. If you're part of that rare breed that doesn't, then you'll still be calmer than you are now once you find out for sure. There are things you can really only do when you're young, so do them while you still can. Ramp up the amount of work you do when you get older and can't do anything else.

Oh btw, next time someone bugs you about a girl, just tell em you already have one. Say you met her on the internet, and she lives somewhere else. Get pics if you need to, but just stall on that and most people won't bother you about it. That's actually the biggest part of being single if you really want to be. It's probably a trap at work, because women can just claim sexual harassment after basically forcing you to spend time with them, but this really lessens that. If you're single and you avoid women, women absolutely hate that, if you're already taken or appear to be taken, you instantly get more respect from them. Just keep that in mind.

[pherai]

Also, you don't need to spend money to get women, but you do need to have money. Money is the most potent aphrodisiac for getting women.

[fishjie]

-Lack of asians girls


fucking yellow fever otaku anime lover what do you think asian girls are like those soft spoken anime characters with big eyes, big boobs, and exotic submissive sex slaves?

WRONG!

real asian women are materialistic bitches and whores, are just as shallow, and have small breasts and ass. so i dont know why you would think they are different. the fact that you list all these problems with women, but then make an exception for asian women, as though they were your salvation, is just fucking sick.

die in a fucking fire you asiaphile

[fishjie]

The ONLY reason anyone needs "riches" as you put it is to get pussy.

well warren buffet and bill gates are both incredibly wealthy men. i dont really think they did it to get girls. i mean its not like had sex with lots and lots of women, at least, there aren't really any recorded incidents. whereas with other wealthy and powerful men you hear about scandals or sexual harassment suits, that's really not the case with bill or warren. also, melinda gates is hardly a supermodel. if bill really got wealthy to attract a woman, he would have married young models like donald trump.

for a lot of people, i think work is their hobby, and creating a huge software empire or becoming a renowned stock market genius is rewarding in and of itself.

[Hatred Edge]

Fishjie- WTF do you think I am? Stupid? You don't think I know that all that crap in anime is false? Really.... Girls with breasts bigger than their head yet 5'2" and slim and master martial artists and fight men 10 times their size and can cook. who the hell believes women are really like that? And I hope you get skinned alive and bathed in salt, cut open and fed to sharks.:annoy:


Serpent-My tone and what I posted stems from the feeling that I feel no one even tries to understand where I'm coming from. My posts about why I didn't have a girlfriend in highschool was a post about factors in why I didn't care/didn't see the point in putting in the effort. I just felt that getting my life together and being financially secure was more important than having sex. When I little I was picked on because I wasn't "black" by peoples standards. I didn't use ebonics, didn't call girls hos, and apparently ''sounded white." During the years of hearing that shit I grew to hate those people. I didn't want to be like them in any way. Now about me calling some girls "whores": if a girl goes around having sex with random guys and doesn't care, gives head to whoever, pretty much being loose, I called her a "whore". The "ghetto chicks" were loud, cursed alot, dressed slutty, wasted their money on fake nails and hair. Why would I want to be with someone like that? The assholes I grew up around held sex as some sort of grand prize(why I didn't hold sex as some grand prize), they would talk to girls for the sole purpose of just using them for sex. Now indeed some of these girls were whores, but some of them were genuine nice girls. But it didn't matter to those a-holes. They were monsters in my eyes and no matter what I didn't want to be anything like them. I do know nice, wonderful women that I met during highschool, those are the types I talked to, bonded with.

For clarification I do like sex, I find it enjoyable. But when people want to act like ignorant bitches and start saying "you gay" because sex isn't that important to you, I get pissed. In my senior year in highschool I knew one of these assholes. I told I hated him and I wanted him to die. I told him that if he got hit by a car and was dying and I was the only person around I would check him for money and possibly take his shoes(if I liked them) and i would leave him there like that. That's what those sex-driven addicts turned me into. A hateful, violent person. For further insight I heard a couple of these guys say"If I go with a girl and I don't get some in a month, I dumping her." Was sex that important? To just toss someone aside like that? I put "riches before bitches" because I hold being financially secured is more important than having sex/getting girls. "Riches before bitches" doesn't mean get money then use the money to get girls. It's like "bros before hos". It doesn't mean get friends then get girlfriends.

My thoughts aren't centered around chasing women. It's centered around making myself happy with my life. I said "chasing women" because a couple people posted "Go get laid" as if that's a man's purpose in life just to only have sex and everything comes after that. I posted in this thread because A) the OP wanted advice on how to adjust to being single and B) He was single for 2.5 years whereas I have been single longer.

Now I feel that I need to have to my life going in some sort of direction. I have plans that I want to see happen. I just want my life to be on track. I want to be focused then if I meet someone along the way, so be it. If I don't, I don't. I'm just saying that there's no pressure to have sex or to get a girlfriend. I'm saying there's nothing wrong with having some time to yourself to get things in perspective. I'm not ignoring women all together either. I'm not in denial about anything nor am I bitter. Most of the time I'm in a pretty good mood. I understand where you're coming from and I get the point of your post. It's just I'm a person who doesn't trust people easy and you will have a hard time convincing me to put my trust in anyone and make me let my guard down.

[fishjie]

Fishjie- WTF do you think I am? Stupid?

you tell me:

:rofl::rofl::rofl: at the thread title.
Shut up. 2.5 years is nothing. Haven't had a girlfriend throughout all of highschool cuz:
- HATE HATE HATE HATE I HATE WOMEN HATE HATE HATE HATE
-Lack of asians girls

[Serpent]

well warren buffet and bill gates are both incredibly wealthy men. i dont really think they did it to get girls. i mean its not like had sex with lots and lots of women, at least, there aren't really any recorded incidents. whereas with other wealthy and powerful men you hear about scandals or sexual harassment suits, that's really not the case with bill or warren. also, melinda gates is hardly a supermodel. if bill really got wealthy to attract a woman, he would have married young models like donald trump.

for a lot of people, i think work is their hobby, and creating a huge software empire or becoming a renowned stock market genius is rewarding in and of itself.

And how many people get to run their own software super empires? Is that what you do at work? Or do you work for someone else, and get told how to do things? You have a pretty good job compared to most people since you're working at a start up. Work isn't fun and games for 99% of people though, and the only reason you kill yourself at school and then work is because you, at least subconsciously, think the prize at the end is women. Being a doctor or lawyer really isn't worth it. Most women quit work, probably because they don't need it to get a man and so they have no reason to keep at it once they realize just how terrible work is.

Most people also do not have the talent to really make work fun. Work is only fun when you are basically doing it for yourself. If I can start my own business somewhere down the line I'd probably go for it and enjoy it too, but that's completely different. Most of the workforce just is NOT like that.

[HeaT]

Work isn't fun and games for 99% of people though, and the only reason you kill yourself at school and then work is because you, at least subconsciously, think the prize at the end is women.

maybe the reason is you need money to live? and to do things you like to do...like if you have hobbies...

i mean i agree i think most people do it for the vajj but there are a few who really dont...cause i really dont work to get vajj, i work to support myself and what i like to do...

im outi

Roberth

[Infernoman]

damn Hatred Edge - livin' up to your name I see kid...well upon reading what you said...get over it man...don't be coming in here all hating on chicks that give you nothing...in the time you spend hatin' you could chill the fuck out and just make something happen. if you want something GO FOR IT! if you want them azn bitches so back GTFO and go to japan. :rolleyes: hopefully you'll get a reality check. I'll bet in the future you'll be gay...seeing what you wrote.

[skitz]

srk, my peoples. this might be the 3rd topic i've ever started here, infact i barely post at all. but i type this tonight out of pure confusion. see, i'm now single after two and a half years, and i don't know what the fuck to do. i'm sharing this with all of you for one reason - i want to hear your input and classic srk replies. (read: 98% sarcasm, 2% genuine advice, all money)

in short, i graduated college and she's still there for another year. i work full time and with school being 3.5 hours away, it's just not convenient. weekends are not always free for both of us and we're both always doing other things socially. therefore, we are no more.

what's freaking me out is that i now go out with my crew and i'm just like "what the fuck?" i've had sex with other girls already, but it does nothing for me. sex is the easy part, believe it or not, and the rest is just awkward - being with my friends at a club while everyone is trying to dance/talk/whatever with the opposite sex, being out with my friends in relationships and now i'm not, etc. etc. my game is not the problem, it's just i keep thinking to myself "this is too weird..."

so basically i gotta figure out how to adjust. i'm NOT looking for another relationship but hookups to get my mind off it all aren't helping, either.

SRK, guide me!

P.S. no ex-girlfriend pics, beasts.

Well,I'm the guy that puts his / family 1st/ Money 2nd/ priorities 3rd which takes up the rest of my day. Thats pretty much my whole day,that's all I focus on.I don't have time going into character to impress anyone.

I'm been single for a good good while.And I learn to live with it.Enjoy life.Anyways this is how I look at it,would I rather ...

a) Spend most of my time having fun?
b) Spend my whole time trying to get into a relationship?Which involves more time to get the key to the gate.

[ShinJN]

Being single is great. The last thing you need is someone breathing down your neck and inadvertently guiding your life. Live YOUR LIFE to the fullest, then settle that shit down.

[Half-Ro]

And as for me "whining" I wasn't I was just ranting that's all. Would anyone prefer I relieve my frustration with alcohol?



Nope. kick a bitch down some stairs instead.

On camera, preferably. :wgrin:

[Ferdinandz]

ps2 + Hard drive + HDloader + blackcats

Enjoy

[OmNiExiZt]

Go outside by yourself and watch a sunset/sunrise. It'll all come to you then. Or, you could have lots of girl friends. They'll give you everything you need without all the bullshit.

*ONEZ*

[Hatred Edge]

damn Hatred Edge - livin' up to your name I see kid...well upon reading what you said...get over it man...don't be coming in here all hating on chicks that give you nothing...in the time you spend hatin' you could chill the fuck out and just make something happen. if you want something GO FOR IT! if you want them azn bitches so back GTFO and go to japan. :rolleyes: hopefully you'll get a reality check. I'll bet in the future you'll be gay...seeing what you wrote.
I'm over it. That was highschool days. That's behind me. I'm only looking foward.
And no way in hell I'll end up being gay(no offense gay SRK members) I like breasts waaaayyy too much:wgrin:. I don't hate any women. That's the truth. I don't care about whatever chicks didn't accept me for me. I met some pretty sweet girls when I was in highschool so it wasn't all bad.:tup:

-And Fishjie: man your just an asshole. But you crack me up.:rofl: