Need help comforting someone

[majeh]

let me preface:
http://www.pressconnects.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20080324/NEWS01/803240326/1006
this happens to be one of very close friends' father.

my friend and his brother went to visit their dad (parents are divorced if you cant tell from article). they walk into the house to discover a SHITLOAD of blood in their bedroom downstairs. they call the cops whereupon their dad hops in his car and flees - they soon discover the mangled body of their dad's girlfriend afterwards. he heads to a bridge where a long ass stand off occurs with state troopers where their dad almost manages to jump off a bridge to his death.

bottom line - i haven't had the balls to even call the kid but knowing his situation, i think he needs it. he's the most hilarious, bright kid i know and seeing this only makes me realize that this will probably diminish for a while to come. for now, i want to do something but i have absolutely no clue what i can do.

[AkumaTX]

show him the footage from the news or the article and just say, whatever you do, dont be like that dumbass.

[pwnagemachine]

I think accessibility is the best gift you can give him. Let him whatever he needs you're there for him, then I'd just let him be for awhile, and see what happens from there.

[majeh]

being available is probably the best thing to do at this point. i know want to be THAT GUY who says it'll be ok. because the truth is, it probably never will be

AkumaTX - i would say something like that but he was pretty close with his dad, as far as i know.

[DaDesiCanadian]

It's always the funny ones....

Not much you can do in this situation mang. It's beyond fucked up, let their closest friends/family be their backbones, if you're having doubts about whether you should be the one, you're probably not the one.

[lamewadd]

Get him a hooker.

[thurst]

act normally around him, if he brings it up then whatever but he probably just wants to move beyond it.

[Daigo Jr]

act normally around him, if he brings it up then whatever but he probably just wants to move beyond it.

Yeah, Act like that you don't even know, It could bring some sort of pressure onto him If you ask him 'What happened?' and you always say something like 'It'll be Ok'
But if he brings it up, Then don't act like you don't know.
If you do that it'll make him feel unimportant and.... stuff.... If that makes anysense.
Iv'e never been in a situation like that before, So I'm just making guesses What could happen.

[Manx]

You don't really have to do anything. Just go be there. If he's got family to help him through this, then let them be the first lines. Depending on how close you are to him, you might want to check up on him in person, though. You don't have to talk. You don't have to do anything except sit. If he wants to do something do it. If he needs something, get it. When stuff like this goes down, people sometimes crumble down to instinct level until the shock wears off, which can take a good few days, if not more. In that state, people usually don't want to do much more than the absolute necessary body functions. Don't be surprised if you have to tell him to go eat so he won't starve himself. Might have to use sleeping pills to get to sleep. Was he close to his dad's girlfriend?

[Demon Dash]

Just phone him, seriously it's not that hard. "Hi, how you doing? I heard the bad news, look man I just want you to know I'm here if you need anything. You probably don't want to talk about it but yeah, I'm here for you." Something like that. Keep it short, keep it sweet, keep it sensetive. Maybe ask him if he wants to hook up, don't tell him this but it's a good way to take his mind of it. If he wants to be by him self however just let him, you can't force it upon him. But yeah, just let him know you're there, it's not that hard, really.

[SF_PHOCUS]

ur AV IS fuckin sick ^^^^^^^^

n e way... you should of been called him and said im here for you... just tell him when hes ready to talk about holla at you