Cemetery Buried My Mother in the Wrong Plot

[FlyMike]

Too stressed lately. As if nothing else could go wrong, cemetary buried my mom in the wrong spot. Previously, they had fucked up her name on the grave stone. Damn dumbasses. With how much they have to go through with the health department and shitloads of paperwork when moving, transporting bodies and such, you'd think they would be a little more careful.

Like, how the fuck do you bury a person in a completely different area? Me and my sisters picked out a beautiful spot on top of a hill. Instead of us seeing her be buried there AT the funeral, they said they had to postpone it because of the weather. Then gave us the incorrect grave stone but assured us EVERYTHING would be taken care of. Then proceeded to put her in a plot by the street. They apologized and proposed to save us spots around her for when we die and also put flowers on the grave for a year. :amazed: That isnt a decent trade off. You think I'd trust these cocks with my body after I die? Fuck that.

So we demanded she be moved to, ya know, the burial place we picked out, signed, and paid for. But not only that, some form of compensation for our pain and suffering and for them being careless fuckups. Typically, they were jerks about it and we have a meeting Tuesday, but I just thought I'd drop off the news story. It's my older sister and aunt in the vid.

http://www.wmctv.com/Global/story.asp?s=10366567



Like, are we wrong for demanding some form of compensation for this? I mean, Memorial Day is next Monday and we were told she wouldn't have even been moved by then. You want the best final resting place for your loved one, especially if it's your mother, and naturally if a specific spot had already been confirmed. I already feel, no KNOW, that they didnt do everything they could in the hospital, endured Mother's Day the very next day after the funeral, and now this. Wtf.

[KING]

you're suing them, right? that's some bullshit.

[FlyMike]

Nah we're not suing. Just having a serious meeting.

I dont know if we have grounds to sue. The actual service agreed upon will be performed. Eventually. It's just gonna take a long ass time. And that is unacceptable imo.

[Demon Dash]

Wow man, that sucks... Sorry to hear about the loss of your mother...

:sad:

[FlyMike]

Thanks man. I just know she doesn't deserve this half ass shit.


I bet they hit us with some more proposals but we're set on moving her to the "rightful" place or whatever. My question to the thread is what would be adequate compensation to demand for this fiasco? Isn't even about money. It's about two careless fuck ups and a lack of genuine concern.

[MagnetGenocide]

Sue.............
that shit is unacceptable.

[alfaphlex]

They've already been contracted to do a specific job and it has not been done as agreed to by both parties. Regardless of what they propose additionally, you have the right to refuse, but they can't just change what's already been contracted.

I'm no lawyer, but as far as I can tell, you do have grounds to sue. They broke contract by not doing what they were supposed to. Sure, they can eventually place her in the right spot, but that later date wasn't they were contracted to do. That wouldn't fly for any other service, much less should it be ok for something this serious.

It's caused your family lots of grief, meanwhile they were very negligent and are trying to brush it off by asking you to accept a new deal. They know they fucked up and are scared of the consequences, especially after that news article. Get a lawyer before you agree to ANYTHING else.

edit: my condolences bro. sorry that such a horrible situation has to cause you further grief on top of your loss

[*Onslaught*]

Go to the meeting with the Lawyer, I'm sure they will.

[Joe The Condor]

What compensation are you looking for? Tell those jerk-offs to bury her in the right spot. But seriously, the worst part about this story is them fucking up the name on the grave stone.

[RoninChaos]

God damn, Mike. You can't catch a break. Let us know if we can do anything.

And like it's been said in this thread, I'd seriously seek a consultation with a lawyer, just to see what's what. You know they will.

[Aria]

Like, are we wrong for demanding some form of compensation for this?

Absolutely not.

Messing up a grave location and even the name of the deceased? That sounds pretty incompetent of them.

Hopefully your meeting with them would work out and sorry to hear what you're going through.

[A.C]

TSo we demanded she be moved to, ya know, the burial place we picked out, signed, and paid for.

No questions asked, they should move her on their dime. Don't let them off the hook. Written contracts make it CLEAN cut simple. Any judge would side with you - and they know it.

I feel for ya. But stick to your guns. You guys are in the right.

[HaiDuongRiceMan]

How do they fuck something like this up?!? I hope this shit gets taken care of man, and I hope you get compensated for your troubles. People sue for all sorts of dumb shit these days, so to actually sue for something REASONABLE probably helps your cause...

Take care man, hope it works out for you...

[InexplicableXiu]

Thats outrageous, man you should contact your local newspaper about this and put that company in the public eye, then they will bow to your understandable requests.

[NY Warrior]

Sorry for your lose

As someone who is going to school for law i'd recomend that u seek counsel not neccesarily for action but to represent you.

What really made me wanna murder someone was that video where that dirtbag funeral owner tried to turn it around by telling them they werent allowed because of other funerals. ARE U HIGH????:mad: its a cementary ur their to grieve and visit ur loved ones

Once again man sorry for ur loss and i hope everything works out for u

[ckrazy]

I'm with everyone else on this one. That is totally unacceptable, they must must be pretty arrogant to still be making deals at this point. If anything they should be fixing the problem as we speak. My condolence for your mother and the horrible ordeal that your stuck in.

[FlyMike]

Thanks alot guys. Appreciate it and taking all your posts into consideration. Trying to convey all this to my sister but she's tapped out from he whole ordeal and saying she doesnt want to think about it again until the meeting and she doesnt have any money for a lawyer. I figured we should consult an attorney or lawyer because we had plenty drama while she was in the hospital that we definitely could've took legal action for imo. But decided against it so that it wouldnt put my mother in a situation of more neglect because it got very critical and we wanted all the focus on her and for them to not have any bitterness towards her when caring for her.

So yea that was a terrifying ordeal but I still think we should go after this one particular asshole doctor I was about to punch out and a few incompetent nurses that didnt do their job with a few neglectful instances that could've been fatal, and probably WAS an attribute to her passing. No one else wants to think of this but I can't let that shit go. I think some of the staff got wrote up and reported and all that petty shit but I know in my heart some grimey shit went down. I hope I NEVER end up in a hospital. Hospitals, doctors, nurses, insurance companies, they made true story movies about this type of shit. I hope none of you have to go through this with a loved one, and if you do have one in the hospital I advise you to monitor everything that goes on very closely.


Anyways on topic, again thanks and I will look to pursuing this further even if no one else wants to. Won't be taken advantage of again.





What really made me wanna murder someone was that video where that dirtbag funeral owner tried to turn it around by telling them they werent allowed because of other funerals.


Lol, fake ass stunt like he's professional. Thats the same guy who handed us the incorrect gravestone after the funeral and assured us he'd take care of it. Then walked to his car and chunked it in the backseat like it was a flyer. I should've known then we were dealing with some shady crooks. "One of the best cemeterys" my ass. Thanks tho.

[Nematoad]

If you do end up suing most jurisdictions have kept all sorts of special tort liability exceptions for the mishandling of dead bodies (negligent infliction of emotional distress). I'm not saying you should sue, but if you do, you may get punitive damages if you don't sue on the contract.

[lovepig78]

sorry bout ur lose

and this bs is straight up bs. hope you get compensated.

[majeh]

if it gets handled in such a way where they seem like they could give two shits, i'd sue. if theyre deeply sorry, cover all costs (again..), and then compensate you, i think you should leave it at that.

its kinda messed up that they added insult to injury like that.

[Akuma Grif]

Bunch of fucking pricks, you can't compensate for this. There is no way I could ever forgive them if they were to do this to me. Hope they feel guilty for the rest of their lives, but based on your experiences I doubt they're going to give any sympathy.

[FlyMike]

If you do end up suing most jurisdictions have kept all sorts of special tort liability exceptions for the mishandling of dead bodies (negligent infliction of emotional distress). I'm not saying you should sue, but if you do, you may get punitive damages if you don't sue on the contract.

Thanks. Yes I am going to look into this. Right now, suing isnt an option (according to my sister) but if I were handling things I would at least have done my homework so I can be able to adequately intimidate these jerk offs.



Thanks guys. I doubt I'll evn be able to make the meeting. I work that evening though I am inclined to take off. My sister refuses to tell me anymore details because I guess she's just really stressed out but I think they're just trying to settle with doing the original job. At most, I can see them doing it free of charge. But I dont think that is compensation enough. If she goes up there in the emotional, relatively uninformed state she's in right now they'll probably just take advantage of her.

Anyone know how much it costs to talk, or just seek counsel from a lawyer? One of my professors is a former attorney i think but I dont want to conversate with him yet because I'm not ready to take my final exam lol.

[Artayes]

Anyone know how much it costs to talk, or just seek counsel from a lawyer? One of my professors is a former attorney i think but I dont want to conversate with him yet because I'm not ready to take my final exam lol.

Hey Mike, sorry for your lose.

You can call a lawyer who handles this matter and tell him your situation. He will want to meet with you to discuss fees and what can be done. The call and the meeting will be absolutely free (Unless the lawyer says something about a fee but if that happens, see someone else).

I've been through a lot with lawyers so you should be able to get all the info you need before pursuing your case or anyone getting even a penny out of you.

I suggest calling a bunch of different lawyers and finding out every angle and opportunity you can get from this (even if having to drive to a some free meetings as some lawyers won't talk to you on phone in detail ,but in my experience most will).

Just make sure you have all the proof on everything that was done wrong and this sounds like you have really good case to pursue some money for the wrong doings on you and your family.

Sorry to hear your about loss again and I wish you the best of luck in handling something you should never had to handle in the first place. Remember that the time and distress you had to go through on this will also help your side in such a delicate matter.

[kimterran]

Wow that shit's fucked up. I'm sorry man. Hope this all gets fixed.

[FlyMike]

Hey Mike, sorry for your lose.

You can call a lawyer who handles this matter and tell him your situation. He will want to meet with you to discuss fees and what can be done. The call and the meeting will be absolutely free (Unless the lawyer says something about a fee but if that happens, see someone else).

I've been through a lot with lawyers so you should be able to get all the info you need before pursuing your case or anyone getting even a penny out of you.

I suggest calling a bunch of different lawyers and finding out every angle and opportunity you can get from this (even if having to drive to a some free meetings as some lawyers won't talk to you on phone in detail ,but in my experience most will).

Just make sure you have all the proof on everything that was done wrong and this sounds like you have really good case to pursue some money for the wrong doings on you and your family.

Sorry to hear your about loss again and I wish you the best of luck in handling something you should never had to handle in the first place. Remember that the time and distress you had to go through on this will also help your side in such a delicate matter.

Yo..... :tup:. Will do.



Preciate it kim.

[Vynce]

I dont know if we have grounds to sue.

...If they're smart, they'll offer a settlement before it even comes to that.

Good luck, in the interim. That's got to be awful to deal with.

[SIMPLY_HUGO]

Let a brotha get a discount.


Yo man sorry for your loss :( I dont know what I would do in your shoes..

[ShadowSkill]

You would think they would slap themselves silly before fuck ups like this happen. I hope you get this sorted out.

[Syxx573]

Flymike, sorry for your loss. Hopefully you can get this resolved as quickly as possible. Everyone else, call your mom today.

[FlyMike]

Thanks dudes. Yea call your moms, loved ones today. I wont be all crazy and say spend every waking moment with them, but whenever you visit/spend time with them, even if it's once a year, do it to the fullest. That way there wont be any regrets or guilt and you'll be able to sleep at night.

[FlyMike]

Ah, just a follow-up.

We went to the cemetery yesterday to sign the release papers for my mother's body to be moved. So, her body is getting moved to it's rightful spot, free of charge and with all prior fees reimbursed, plus "prepaid" spots next to her for me and my two sisters. "Prepaid" burial spots. Lol. I cant tell you how weird it feels to basically have a hole already dug for you while you're still alive and knowing where you're going to be buried. Eerie.

Going into the meeting yesterday, there were doubts that they'd refund the original fees which was why I was so infuriated and wondered why no one was trying to seek legal action. Well, I got my answer yesterday and no one seemed to think this little tidbit of info would've been important to tell me. They claimed they forgot. The paperwork reflects that the "wrong" burial spot is the one my sister ACTUALLY signed for. :sweat: It was just a misrepresentation. They TOLD her something different and mistakenly had her sign for the incorrect spot. But God this would've been hard to prove in court, especially since the documents prove otherwise. They could've easily been real crooks and not admitted to misrepresentation but instead they did, and we got that little settlement. And had to sign a hilariously worded contract basically stating that we never bring this up again ".....in the history of the world.....", blah, blah.


But we're good. Feel my Mom got justice. I can kind of rest easy now. Thanks for all the input and support guys.

[alfaphlex]

I'm glad things got settled for you Mike. Damn those fuckers for pulling a bait and switch on your sister, but even if you couldn't prove that in court, the media would have jumped all over the story. Think about it: burying her in the wrong spot as a result of a bait and switch.

Well, seeing as how things worked out, let this be your little secret forever or...

"...in the history of the world".:wgrin:

[ruthless_nash]

sorry to hear about your loss and the grief. I know how hard it is to lose a family member... but what you just said seriously takes the piss. Hope you get the plot of land you wanted.

[ZuuLSpaceman]

Sorry about your moms man, I lost mine 3 years ago and if what is happening to yours happened to mine, I'd be PISSED. I dunno what I'd do if I were you, but good looking out on not just shrugging it off I'm sure your mom is proud of what you're doing dude.

EDIT: Oh, and that's awesome how it turned out. Good for you man!

[Aria]

Ah, just a follow-up.

We went to the cemetery yesterday to sign the release papers for my mother's body to be moved. So, her body is getting moved to it's rightful spot, free of charge and with all prior fees reimbursed, plus "prepaid" spots next to her for me and my two sisters.

Good to hear everything went smoothly and without much trouble between your family and them. :smile:

[XLCowBoy]

"In the history of the world" is sig worthy.

Good to hear everything got sorted. Nice to know that they weren't the total crooks they almost turned out to be.

[FlyMike]

Lol. Oh dude, when I get the copy of it from my sister I'll probably scan that part of the agreement. So funny. It does a good job of removing any further liability from them though. Reading it, it was like they where saying, "dont contact us ever again, for shit else, we dont owe you anything else, not in the history of the world, since before Adam and Eve, and dinosaurs roamed the land, until cars fly and the world ceases to exist."

It probably did say that actually. Something similar. It was so wacky and exaggerated. Whoever wrote that up was a character for sure. A drunk one. :rofl:

[thurst]

glad to see hear that everything turned out ok

[jae hoon]

I feel for you for that that is some bullshit. Unfortunately most Funeral Homes/burials are a huge scam as it is.

[BudaFuka]

This is why I want my family to just toss me in the ocean when I die. The amount of money/hassle people have to go through just to put someone in the ground is ridiculous.

Sorry for your loss.

[Taichi]

I wouldn't settle for anything less than a relocation, fixing the headstone, and waived expenses for anybody else in the family who passes in the next three decades.

[FlyMike]

Thanks all.


Buda, yea man I told my sisters I just want to be ashes. Sprinkle my shit ANYWHERE BUT Memphis and be done with me. This is just me though. I respect the people who want a decent burial and funeral. They deserve nothing less if that is their wishes.

Taichi, lol. Unfortunately, I'd probably be fighting that case for the next three decades.

[majeh]

Thanks all.


Buda, yea man I told my sisters I just want to be ashes. Sprinkle my shit ANYWHERE BUT Memphis and be done with me. This is just me though. I respect the people who want a decent burial and funeral. They deserve nothing less if that is their wishes.

Taichi, lol. Unfortunately, I'd probably be fighting that case for the next three decades.

Good ol' corporate america right? The company could give two shits about your case and it'll be thrown on the backburner for as long as they want.. Maybe you should get more publicity about this case, take it to the local newspaper or the local news networks or something. That'll get shit fixed quick!

[FlyMike]

This is why I want my family to just toss me in the ocean when I die. The amount of money/hassle people have to go through just to put someone in the ground is ridiculous.

Sorry for your loss.


Good ol' corporate america right? The company could give two shits about your case and it'll be thrown on the backburner for as long as they want.. Maybe you should get more publicity about this case, take it to the local newspaper or the local news networks or something. That'll get shit fixed quick!

Nah, it's already fixed given two reasons:

1.) My sister actually SIGNED for the wrong plot that they buried her in. It was misrepresentation, but had we went to court and they decided to play dirty, it would've been our word against the paperwork. And documents are one thing that hold up in court.

2.) That fucking hilarious agreement we had to sign that removes them from any further liability, stating that, in a sense, we agree that everything has been made peaches and cream and we seek no further compensation. Shit, if one of the directors is a SRK member he'd probably try to take me down for still posting in this thread. :rofl:


For what it's worth, I'd like to be believe that it was a honest, yet horribly careless mistake, which happened at a pretty fucked up point in the lives of those involved. Truthfully, there wouldnt have been any drama if we didnt have to chase them down and grab them like a 6 year old and yell, "Look at what you did! Now please clean it up." And them ignore us, wait until the shit near dries in the white carpet, then want a cookie for cleaning up their own mess.


News station wanted a followup. Dont know yet if we'll give them one. I personally dont know if that shit breaches contract or what. Agreement was basically settlement = no negative publicity. The guy even said it himself, "Sorry, we gon' tak care ohf ya. Butta unfoechanatly, diss iz still bizzness."

[DaDesiCanadian]

Glad to know everything worked out for you and your sister in the end.

It's messed up that it happened in the first place, but at least it got fixed.

[Yuna]

I would pretty much rage the fuck out if this happened to me, Mike. You're a better dude than I am.

[Taichi]

Thanks all.


Taichi, lol. Unfortunately, I'd probably be fighting that case for the next three decades.

get a lawyer, and make them present you with a contract for the other plots.

if you've got proof, they can't do shit. get as much as you can out of 'em, THEY fucked up, don't come out even, come out ahead.

[majeh]

So definitively, its all good in the neighborhood?

[Carpet Lint]

My response:

Probably not. This was a breach of contract matter, and the other party has corrected the mistake.
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Dammit, they got me good. Anyway, my apologies for going off-topic on this dead thread.

Now cue posters who only read the top post, offering their condolences to an already resolved issue.

[odin]

Too stressed lately. As if nothing else could go wrong, cemetary buried my mom in the wrong spot. Previously, they had fucked up her name on the grave stone. Damn dumbasses. With how much they have to go through with the health department and shitloads of paperwork when moving, transporting bodies and such, you'd think they would be a little more careful.

Like, how the fuck do you bury a person in a completely different area? Me and my sisters picked out a beautiful spot on top of a hill. Instead of us seeing her be buried there AT the funeral, they said they had to postpone it because of the weather. Then gave us the incorrect grave stone but assured us EVERYTHING would be taken care of. Then proceeded to put her in a plot by the street. They apologized and proposed to save us spots around her for when we die and also put flowers on the grave for a year. :amazed: That isnt a decent trade off. You think I'd trust these cocks with my body after I die? Fuck that.

So we demanded she be moved to, ya know, the burial place we picked out, signed, and paid for. But not only that, some form of compensation for our pain and suffering and for them being careless fuckups. Typically, they were jerks about it and we have a meeting Tuesday, but I just thought I'd drop off the news story. It's my older sister and aunt in the vid.

http://www.wmctv.com/Global/story.asp?s=10366567



Like, are we wrong for demanding some form of compensation for this? I mean, Memorial Day is next Monday and we were told she wouldn't have even been moved by then. You want the best final resting place for your loved one, especially if it's your mother, and naturally if a specific spot had already been confirmed. I already feel, no KNOW, that they didnt do everything they could in the hospital, endured Mother's Day the very next day after the funeral, and now this. Wtf.

sorry to hear dude... hope everything works out for you

[Will Gotti]

Now cue posters who only read the top post, offering their condolences to an already resolved issue.

You prophet you.

[FlyMike]

Yo thanks FATAL. It's all good now.


:rofl: