Hello, new here. This is the only place i could think of to come for help.
Ok, I play smash 4, but hopefully that won't be a problem...I got a few problems.
First, I get disappointed too easily. I very recently learned that I should constantly think about what me and my opponent are doing. Look for habits(his and mine), choose my moves with purpose, etc. But even now, i'm upset by my inabilities. Even though I know there's no need to be, and that i will fail a lot anyway, and that i'm just trying to improve. I still get severely disappointed, for losing, or not doing specific things right. It's not super uncommon for me to shut down and/or want to cry (it's ridiculous)
Do I get like that during tournaments? Well I used to, but not anymore because I can't attend them. This is my second problem. In my current situation it is impossible to make it to tournaments or even meet up with other competitive players, i'm too far away from everything. So what can I do by myself aside from playing online?
So I know how I should think when playing, there are no cheap moves/characters, don't auto-pilot, look for habits, use strategies, adapt, spacing, zoning, mindgames, all that. But I Can Not do it. I easily fall for people standing and spamming an attack in place, I spam grab if I miss a grab(don't even understand why), I constantly do unsafe moves on shield/block, and neutral is and has always been a mystery to me. There are many more and I know I have these problems but I have so much trouble changing them, it just doesn't happen. Even when I tried sf4 and persona 4 I'm sure i had these problems. I even played against someone in sf4 who didn't play at all while I had been practicing combos and learning about all this meta stuff and I lost. I gave up on the game after that, just like I gave up Smash a while back because I was losing badly to someone who had been playing for a month while I had been playing for half a year or so. Why can't I stop myself from doing the things I know I shouldn't do? How do I do the things I should? and how do I learn something as perplexing as the neutral? I have Learned about all these things but that doesn't seem to matter. I can't adapt, can't change, can't improve. What do i do
extra background. i started playing competitively first in 2013 with melee. I have been to quite a few tournaments for melee and smash 4. i stopped playing in 2015 because of the above story and doing poorly/not doing better at tournaments but am becoming interested again. so i am not new to competitive level play by any means. i have read the domination justin wong playing to win(will re-read them, was a long time ago), seen all kinds of videos and learned other things as well. but still have these problems. I know it's a lot but I would really appreciate any help i can get. thanks