Could someone teach me the proper etiquette for fighting games?


#1

Now, before you start…no, I’m not a douche or an asshat :rofl:

I just have some problems accepting compliments from other players and I’d like to know how to solve this issue so players don’t get upset at me, thinking I’m just being an ass for not accepting their compliment. Alright, so…story time!

For as long as I can remember, when someone tells me I have a good insert character name here, my usual response is, “I guess” or something similar to that. In other words, it’s just a dodgy answer to not accept the compliment because I feel I’m not deserving of such praise. It just kind of puts me in an awkward position when I fight someone that I believe is better than myself calls me a, “good” player.

It’s like, “Wow. This guy is totally out of my league. How can he just call me, “good” ? Is he being sarcastic or something?”. I can’t really think of a time where someone has called me, “good” in a sarcastic manner though. So they tend to get a little frustrated when I reply with, “If you say so, lol” or something like that.

I guess my honesty also gets me in trouble with some people sometimes as well. For example, if I run across someone who is obviously playing like he’s brand new to the game and I beat him with little to no effort, then I get a mail saying, “Wow! You’re really good!”, I’ll usually just send something back like, “No, not really. I’m just better than you. That doesn’t mean I’m, “really good” though”. So they take offense to that and think I’m being an ass.

I don’t really just try to go out of my way to piss people off, but that’s how my answers are comprehended sometimes, I guess. Anyway, this generally leads to me just quitting the game altogether at some point. My goal is to get better at the game and maybe aspire to be like a particular player that’s crazy good with my main.

The further I progress and the better I become, the more compliments I start to get. Now, I’m sure a lot of you are scratching your head thinking, “But isn’t that a good thing?”, lol. I guess to some, but I’m not too comfortable with compliments, really.

After you have quite a few people telling you how great of a player you are, it’s like they put pressure on you without even considering your feelings. You’re setting an example for them and they look up to you. I never asked for anything like that. I just wanted to mind my own business and get good at the game, I didn’t want the spotlight shone on me and I sure didn’t want a reputation I thought I didn’t deserve.

It just really makes me wonder though. How can these people constantly compliment me and call me, “good” if I, myself, don’t think I have reached the status of, “good” yet? I mean, I’ve had players better than myself call me, “good” and I’m just like, “Wtf? Ummm…how?”, lol. Why would someone I think is better than me call me, “good” when he’s already, “good” ?

I sure know I’m not on that guy’s level yet since I couldn’t even put up a fight, so it’s pretty confusing when a better player tells you something like that. Maybe it’s because I don’t understand how the scene works or something? I’ve never participated in an offline session or tournament before, so maybe this kind of behavior is pretty common and I’m just unaware of it.

I was talking with someone earlier on AIM about, “hype” at tournaments and such, and I’m just like, “Man…I don’t see how you deal with all that. I want to concentrate on the match. I’d just be getting frustrated if some dude was in the background going, “OHHHHHHHHHHH!!!” after every combo I landed” and he tried to convince me that, “No, that’s the kind of reaction you want from them” and whatnot.

I just don’t really think they should be cheering for me before the battle is even over. It feels like a premature celebration if you ask me. Plus, I just want to concentrate on the match.

Anyway, I’m a pretty long way from reaching my goal in Super, but when I do and I start receiving more compliments, and more people start wanting to challenge me cause of my, “reputation” or whatever, I don’t want to just quit playing like I’ve done with all the other fighting games up to this point. Could someone please tell me how to learn to accept a compliment you don’t feel you’re deserving of? I know it seems like a simple problem, but when these people I don’t even know start putting me higher and higher on this pedestal, it just makes me feel worse…not better.

It’s just too much pressure, honestly. Once word gets around, then someone will come along and fight you, then expect you to be good because that’s what they heard, but when you get beat easily, then it will just lead to disappointment. I just don’t want people to expect too much out of me, ya know? I hate going into fights and the player expecting me to be, “good” only to find out, I don’t play at my fullest during every fight and I still make common mistakes.

I just think some players shouldn’t be so quick to judge and claim someone is this really, “good” player when they’re not. I’ve had plenty of people tell me I just don’t give myself enough credit and I should accept the compliments as they come, but I just find it terribly hard to do this. How can I honestly believe I’m good just because someone tells me I am, even though I think I’m not?

Well, in any case…any help with this frustrating matter would be much appreciated. I’d really love to know how to accept compliments when they come and maybe this can build up my confidence or something. I don’t know if that’s what I’ve been lacking in my game, but plenty of people have told me throughout different games, the same story, “All you need is some polishing and your insert character name here could be a beast”.

I guess this is what needs polishing. Who knows. Anyway, thanks for reading :karate:


#2

Just be modest.

When someone tells you “You have a great XXX” just answer something like ( but not limited too )
“I just happened to have free time to practice a lot”
“I’m used to fighting games”
“I could be so much better”
“I feel I can do better”
"I look strong to you, but there are more people stronger than me, than people weaker than me."
I think you get the idea.

Believe me, I know how you feel. ( More than you think. )

Accept it but in the meantime say something that makes the other guy think that your performance is good, but not that good and that you could do better.
And don’t put your success on talent but put it on hard work, meaning they too, can do as good as you.
Now if you think somehow you really did great ( landing combos you can’t use yet, stuffs like this ) that makes you think “Did I really pull this off ?” you can say “I outdid myself this time.”

Be modest, that’s the best advice I can give you.


#3

Just say Thank you :smiley: It covers all the bases and is still being modest


#4

Yeah, but…you shouldn’t really thank someone unless you mean it :stuck_out_tongue:

I’m not going to say, “thank you” every time someone compliments me even though I’m thinking something totally different. That just seems wrong. It’s probably the, “socially acceptable” response to give, but I don’t say something unless I mean it.

Like, it’s probably a good idea to throw some random new guy a, “Good game” message just to be a polite, despite you owning him, but I just don’t do that. I only send, “Good game” to people I really felt like I had a good game with.


#5

You’re thinking about this too much. I mean, look at the length of that first post! Dude.

Says who? :stuck_out_tongue:

Proper fighting game etiquette is pretty much common sense. Somebody says something polite, you say something polite back. They compliment you, you thank them. Doing otherwise makes you look kinda douchy, frankly. If you don’t feel like thanking them, at least make a joke out of it. Tones down the douchiness factor a bit.

Even if you think you don’t deserve it when somebody calls you “good”, maybe they noticed something about your gameplay that makes you look “smart” or better than the average Joe. You might still get owned, but you show potential of being much better, which is something that simply comes with practice. To most people, that constitutes being “good”.


#6

“help srk how do i socially interact with people in a normal way”


#7

You are an ass.
If you get a compliment say “Thank You” like a normal human fucking being


#8

i bet youre “that guy” in your scene that everyone else thinks is a total weirdo


#9

Best thread ever. I’m definitely nominating this one for an article.:tup:
Thank me!


#10

When holding the stick, make sure your pinky finger is straight.


#11

lolwut


#12

^^ Damn, snaek, that should have totally not been funny but my immature ass just fucking LOLed haha!


#13

this isn’t fighting game etiquette, it’s normal life etiquette. quit being an antisocial douchebag and accept the compliment.


#14

Good etiquette is
Enemy: You’re just a spamming scared b#@^ch, play like a man, stop turtling etc etc
You: My ears are deaf to the voices of scrubs


#15

Taunt constantly, even when losing


#16

Straight the fuck up.

OP, Quit playing fighting games and get some normal fucking human interaction for christ’s sake.


#17

wtf all the lame reply… jeez…

ALRIGHT… this is what you do when ppl tell you DAMN U GOT NICE ASS COMBOS…

u reply and say… YEAHH BITCH… HOW YOU LIKE THAT…AFTER I PWN YOUR ASS ON THIS MACHINE… IMA COMBO ON YOUR FACE!! NOW GTFO THE MACHINE:rock::rock::tup:

P.S LOL with the “i guess” reply… BUWHAHAHA


#18

the 3 of you should get together and have a nice warm cup of STFU

OP, i actually agree with some of the stuff you said. loud ass cheering before the match is even over is one of the things I always found odd. spectators and tourney players are seeing two different games though.

stuff like what you mentioned about people approaching you is just an opportunity for conversation. maybe the tension of the place is getting to you or something? you’ll get over it in time


#19

The three of them are correct.

If you don’t like compliments, then WTF do you want people you beat to say? “You beat me, but you still fukkin suck?!” Come on. Not everyone has the same threshold of what constitutes a good player, and the majority of the players online are not tourney players.

And when people compliment you, and you say “No, I’m just better than you.” Of course they’re gonna get offended. They just complimented you and you just slapped them in the face. You sound like an arrogant fukkin prick. If you don’t want to accept their compliment, then just say “Thanks but I’m still not at the level I want to be yet” or something like that

And in a tourney, that cheering and oohing and aahing just means the crowd is enjoying your performance and the match overall.


#20

their posts basically imply that this guy has no idea how to talk to people in general. they all fail to realize that it’s possible to know how to interact with people in one setting and be clueless on how to do it in another without being an “anti-social douche”. different perspectives make it even harder to relate. for instance, I wouldn’t take “No, I’m just better than you” as a slap in the face if it was true. I don’t really like compliments myself if they’re generic (ex. you have a good Chun Li)

letting him know that he’ll get used to it over time is more helpful than telling him “You’re a douche; stop being a douche”