Suppose I had a rare terminal disease, which didn’t show any glaringly obvious symptoms to the casual observer. I only have 6 months left to live, but most likely will not be bed ridden during my final days of life. Most likely I will drop dead walking around.
I don’t want to spend my remaining time having people feel sorry for me.
If I were to keep my disease secret then suddenly just drop dead one day… Would you consider my decision of keeping it secret from all my loved ones to be a selfish act?
If one of your loved ones, kept their terminal disease secret from you, then just suddenly died and left the explanation in their will, would you feel hurt or betrayed?
If your beloved relative or good friend’s last will and testament explicitly expressed that their dying wish was to live their last days without people knowing about their terminal illness…
Would you feel happy they got their wish? Or would you feel betrayed or feel even the slightest degree of bitterness that they denied you the chance to spend at least some precious time with them and properly say goodbye?