Right I will give the background and what happened
A few weeks ago I asked a friend to be my best man at my wedding next july (that has fallen away but that doesnt really matter to the story)
anyway the cultural wedding would be in UK and the western one would have been in a America and he said yes he could at the western one in USA as the cultural doesn’t really have best men
anyway a few days later I rung him and he said he can’t go as he fiance is arguing with him saying he can’t go as they have 2 kids aged 1 year and even her mum agreed and 1 month BUT this is next July.
Anyway I was supposed to visit and stay with him for a few days as he lives far away, anyway I was pissed off and texted saying I can’t come. He called and asked why and I said that as his fiance doesn’t want to let him go, I probably say something stupid and get thrown out of the house and outta respect for him, I wont go.
He then told me on the phone he fiance says he can go but he doesn’t want to go as he doesn’t leave his kids for 3 days and not see them.
I said whatever and the conversation ended, this was on the 12th July and a few days ago I texted him saying sorry and he replied saying our friendship was never going to end. Now by the way we have been friends for 20 years.
So we spoke yesterday for the 1st time and all seemed cool and I told him my wedding is no more and that was that
So we spoke today and I thought everything was ok, I could tell at this moment the mood changed and then he asked me two questions
did I send him my first text a few days ago before or after I broke up and why didn’t I reply to his spouse’s text about her saying it was my friends decision not to go even though she never really liked the idea and said congratulations to me, I said before for the 1st question and I never got her text for the 2nd.
Here comes the question on the subject line
He said I should apologise to his wife as he told her why I couldn’t come over as I probably say something so bad in her house or threaten her, so I should say sorry to her.
I said why as I never did it and that is why I never came over at that time as I respect him as if he told me from the begininng that it was him not wanting to be away from his kids as opposed to his wife then this would never have happened.
Although I still think him not telling me not wanting to leave his kids version is bullshit, I don’t think I should have to say sorry as he said that he would never say anything bad to my wife/GF so I should.
I mean what annoys me if first he said he couldn’t go cause his wife said so, THEN he says he wouldn’t have gone cause of his kids and didn’t want to leave them
I mean if he stuck to the truth then this wouldn’t have happened. I really feel like posting this link to him and saying how everyone says I am right and if I do apologise it should be fake.
If he didn’t bullshit me then none of this wouldn’t have happened, apologise for something bad I probably have said
I mean his defence is that he whould never say that to my woman BUT if I had a GF who talked shit LIKE HE SAID HIS ONE DID at first, I would cuss her down myself