This thread has to do with what does or doesn’t define a human doormat. If you are too bored to read the whole thing, click the Back button your browser right now.
Today, as I entered one of my classes, I noticed that a female life form was sitting in my usual seat (lets just call it seat 1), and there was a bag/purse in the seat next to her (seat 2). Upon asking, she said her friend was sitting there. So I just sat at the next seat over (seat 3). Her friend comes in and, surely enough, that purse/bag in seat 2 wasn’t her friends’, it was her OWN that she was leaving there to ‘reserve’ the seat for her. Now at this point I’m thinking to myself “wtf business does she have taking my seat AND reserving one next to it??”. I would love to have picked up the purse/bag, thrown it at her, and sat in seat 2 while saying “tell your friend if she snoozes, she loses”. But of course, that could have escalated the conflict. And it probably isn’t a good idea to sit right next to a person you had a falling out with.
But, at the same time, I am painfully aware of how prone I am to being a human doormat, and always seek an opportunity to prove that I am not (when appropriate). Since the issue of seating is too trivial to fight over, I deemed it not appropriate to get confrontational.
This internal conflict between desire and pragmatism was so intense, I was feeling so many negative emotions, that I couldn’t speak or breath properly; I was so shaken up. I thought about bringing some hot coffee with me in a future class and “accidentally” spilling it on her. But after considering what happened to the old lady that spilled mcdonalds coffee on herself, I threw that idea out the window because it could backfire in the worst possible way. Now I don’t care anymore. But I do want to know: wtf do you do when people step over you, but not over something significant enough to fight about??
Added: just so you know, this is NOT the same female that has unbearable cleavage that I mentioned in another thread. It isn’t even the same class. So please, no “tittybang her!” comments.