For the people who believe acceptance as an end-all is a good thing, everything in the whole damn universe is a fighting game. Others are able to dilute some essential concepts, an essential framework, and give it the apt title of “fighting game”. These arguments are a constant struggle between the preceding two viewpoints. The former seems to be open-minded to the ignorant. For some semantic pushers (I don’t know if they even give a fuck about fighting games), if it’s “fighting” and it’s a “game” then that’s enough. That’s not to say there isn’t value in those other games, even competitive value. It’s not an insult to say a game isn’t a fighting game even if the OP presents it as such. It’s the nature of people to be derogatory towards things they find lesser, we should be objective enough to see past it to the essential message which is; those games are not fighting games. They involve and evoke related but different things. There is a specific framework of inviolable mechanics and system that allows a certain form of interaction (gameplay) which we call “fighting games” to exist. This is a wide framework, but it is a framework that exists.
For people for whom everything is subjective (and by extension has similar (0) value), a lot of games are fighting games. This may sound harsh or overanalytic, but I keep seeing it and it’s annoying. You’re not opening anyone’s eyes or doing anyone any favors. The other argument isn’t close-minded, but it’s an argument that is elitist in a sense. Even people who don’t really put much effort into understanding games in general, but put effort into playing fighting games, seem to get this inherently. This is why you keep seeing people say this stuff and not because of some narrow-mindedness.
Now that’s not to say these games shouldn’t be given a chance. What I’m saying is not inherently true, it may be alterable, but a certain framework does have to exist. The argument for these games should be about emphasizing their elements and bringing them into relatability with fighting games. Only if you can do that should you even make the attempt to classify a game that breaks certain rules as a fighting game. One complication is that the term encompasses two different systems or orthodoxies. 2d and 3d fighting games are different. They are so similar in spirit of competition and there is so much overlap in method and history that they are considered under the same umbrella; yet they are two separate things entirely. This argument can be made for other games that break the mold as well. The argument that cannot be made is that they’re all fighting games for a vague semantic reason.