X360 se + mame

so after countless hours trying to get stock microsoft drivers and xbcd+ working i have come to a dead end… my computer recognizes that the stick is plugged in

yet xbcd will not recognize it or allow me to run the setup program while the stick is plugged in

microsoft drivers recognize it , but not fully and will not allow me to use it

both drivers come up in mame as :

cannot set joystick to absolute zero mode - arcade fightstick se:annoy:
then - direct draw cannot intialize device or something

yeah ive seen about 3 threads with this but nothing has worked so far - plz help if you have experienced this or got ur 360 stick working with emulators

_madcatz se fightstick
OS > XP sp2
Anger lvl > 20 out of 10